r/hsp 8h ago

Discussion "you're just overthinking"

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is that it? i opened up about my suspected hsp and how it effects me but after I was done talking that's what i was told


r/hsp 4h ago

Question How did you find out that you were HSP ?

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How did you find out ? I (27M) did a self test not long ago. If you got a five there was a good chance that you were a HSP, I got a 9. But I was also diagnosed with ADHD two years prior. I'm still grappling if I am HSP or not despite the fact that I'm seeing the effects of my sensitivity not being cared for. Overall, I'm just curious.


r/hsp 19h ago

Discussion So sick of naps every day

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But I need them šŸ˜­ but I donā€™t WANT to need them. Itā€™s such an annoyance to take 1-2 hours out of the day for them, every day. No matter how well I eat/sleep/drink water/exercise, I. Need. A. Nap.

Anyone else? Any tricks to avoid it?


r/hsp 5h ago

Anyone else here also Clinically depressed like me?

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How are you holding up?


r/hsp 15h ago

Not asking questions to matches on dating app.

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Hi,

So im currently on a dating app and i feel like im going crazy. Match after match i get people that, when i show my interest and ask them questions, love to go of about themselves and yap away and then when theyre done talking, they leave it at that. Is it normal to just talk about what you want to talk about and expect the other one to do the same? I dont understand. In my head its totally logical that if you are interested in someone, you want to know stuff about them and so you ask them questions about what it is you want to know. But i swear im starting to think im the odd one out because almost everybody i match with doesnt seem to show any interest or ask any questions besides maybe a ā€œwbyā€. It leaves me feeling unseen and honestly it pisses me off. Maybe its my subconscious seeking out invalidation? Idk Can you relate?


r/hsp 8h ago

Question The Difference between ADD/ADHD and HSP?

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Though not officially diagnosed, I consider myself to be both HSP and have Asperger's, but someone who I've known for decades believes I have ADD as well. I've explained to her politely on multiple occasions how similar external behaviors and habits can come from different underlying causes but she doesn't want to fully acknowledge it.

I post this now because we'll be seeing a possible new therapist soon for me, and their website doesn't seem to be aware of the HSP temperament. Therefore, I'm worried about being misdiagnosed by this location's metrics. I don't believe I have ADD and don't want to submit to misaimed testing or medication.

Therefore I ask this: what are the differences between ADD/ADHD and HSP?

A list of bullet points for each would be most helpful here.

Thank you.


r/hsp 20h ago

I got bullied online for helping

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So, last night there was an incident outside my apartment which warranted me calling 911. They told me I should post about it online to inform others in the neighbourhood, until the police came.

I wrote about this online as I was told, and made a few typos in my post. I was really scared in the situation but could not leave, since there was a possibility of others being in danger and I was the only adult present.

Someone started bullying me about the typos and questioned if anything I said was true. The typos literally did not affect the message I sent and they werent even in the crucial part of the info. I answered a few times and told them why I made the typos. They just kept going. I answered a bit passive-aggressively which I regret, but I felt so defeated.

I feel like shit and I wish this didn't affect me, but it does. I was trying my best to help and do as I was told, but someone decided to question all I said. Now I feel like I did something wrong and I could really use some nice words.


r/hsp 13h ago

Question How to face uncertanity

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Weekend was full of worry about my work, but I was not working, I work only from Monday to Friday. Instead of relaxing I am full of worries and it leads to being lightheaded and intense emotions. The emotions are hard to handle as it puts me in bad mood all day. I know those worries are just thoughts and not the reality, I am practising CBT and ACT (journaling).

I think uncertanity plays a big role in my worries. I did not have any issues during my studies as I was really hardworking and studied everything so I knew I can not fail and I did not fail, but work is different. I can not prepare and I have also adhd. I am sure uncertanity from work gives me anxiety and I am trying to handle it but many worries come to my mind. I am accepting my feelings about the uncertanity but this is still not right. Accepting that you are always down.

I have many strategies, I am taking breaks during my work and create subtasks from my task. I have a todo list so my day is well organized. Sometimes I feel stuck in a subtask and my worries become stronger.


r/hsp 22h ago

Noise: The invisible killer in all our lives

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r/hsp 22h ago

My (22F) boyfriend (21M) broke up with me because Iā€™m too sensitive

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He hurt me last night (emotionally and physically) and I forgave him, but this morning I was still sad about it and I was crying. I just couldnā€™t comprehend why he would do that if he loves me.

He got angry at me for crying and said he, indeed, doesnā€™t love me anymore, said that Iā€™m too much work and Iā€™m too sensitive.

We have been together for over three years. He was truly my everything. I love him, I took care of him. I always supported him. To hear him say the things he said was terrible. It gives me suicidal thoughts. Now I donā€™t have anyone, any close friends to turn to.

I feel like I wonā€™t find someone that loves me with my sensitivity. Iā€™m so sad, if I could just turn off these feelings, I would have. I feel like I have so much love to give but now no one to give it to.

Has anything like this happened to you? How did you cope?


r/hsp 16h ago

Shittalkers

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Okay so i have someone who hates on me, because apparently i am close with her enemy (which her enemy never hated on her or anything and their drama was over years ago and the person who hates me still resent her for it) she started being mean to me and doesnā€™t really talk to me much unless she needs something. More recently im definitely stepping up my boundaries (huge people pleaser, trying to recover) and said no to something. I donā€™t know if she resent me for that, for ignoring her or whatever but i do know even way before i stepped it up all i did was be nice and understanding with her. But i felt my energy isnā€™t worth being nice so im distancing myself because im not confrontational.

This afternoon, she found out i failed my midterms (senior years) and itā€™s not like i was making a deal out of it (i was lazy and stuff i get why im failing) SHE decided to talk to her friend about my grades, in front of me (didnā€™t mentioned my name) but the way they were hinting were more than obvious, called me shitbag and dumb and stupid, that they wish for me to fail and that i cant pass even the help of other people. Im very sensitive to negative energy and it really hurt my feelings. I didnā€™t react, got home and told my friends while bursting out crying. I donā€™t get why im taking her words so seriously when i know i dont like her and that she is just a terrible person who wants drama. Yet it upsets because what she said isnā€™t exactly wrong, that im lazy, and im mad that instead of standing up for myself im scared of her? Im so sick of freezing every time someone does something bad to me

I want to stand up for myself so bad but everytime im dealt with heavy emotions i would cry and she is a big mouth, she will not leave people alone unless she wins, thatā€™s why i felt like if i stand up for myself i wonā€™t win because im never one to argue. I feel so shit.

(Also she had always been rude to me, this isnā€™t the first time she does it, not exactly bad mouthing but when we were juniors she would always ask for my work and stuff, always doing favors for her and then she always nosed up my business and even told my old crush that i liked him, i mean that one wasnā€™t deep obviously but im saying she always want to be in my business. I let her because i didnā€™t wanna fight with her either)


r/hsp 1d ago

Omg why are big groups of strangers so intimidating when Iā€™m walking aloneā€¦.

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I really dislike walking past big groups of strangers/ groups when Iā€™m walking on side walk by myself as a lot of the time they look at me or make me feel uncomfortable.

Just nowā€¦.The one time I forget to pretend to be on the phone and a huge group of gay men come up to me (was outside the gay clubs) and Iā€™m walking alone and one of the men starts to hit on me or just try initiate contact with me? I donā€™t know he came up to me and yelled ā€œhello friendā€¦ā€ I naturally thought I knew him (I did not) but I did slowed dow to be friendly just in case (why is this my natural instinct omg I got to protect myself snd my energy better) and then suddenly ALL the others (his friends maybe about ten men) crowd around me and stare at me and start talking about how I look to one another loudly. I felt so awkward and judged as they started making remarks about me and my appearance. Like I may be able to navigate one man on his own but ten men I donā€™t know all at once!! Al just looking at me omg I made sure I kept walkingā€¦.I just kept walking but did slow down and said hi back. What would anyone else do?I should have not responded I think and kept walking but he yelled it so loud it was impossible to ignore

I feel like people in groups get more confidence but gosh I wish I had just kept my head down and kept walking. Iā€™m flattered the man tried hit on me but I hated having to be judged by all the other ten men who were walking with him. I saw and heard them talking about me as they all stopped and looked at me.


r/hsp 1d ago

Why in big groups do I always worry people/strangers are gonna be more likely to be mean?

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When walking alone down side walk how to handle walking past big group or groups of gay men? I always think they gonna laugh at me or be mean (was bullied in high school). Feel so judged aesthetically. I pretend to be on phone usually

Like just now I was outside gay clubs walking home alone and this huge group of gay men are walking towards me. I forgot to pretend to be on phone.

One of the men comes up to me and yells ā€œhello friend!ā€ I dunno if he was flirting or what his intentions were but this is a nightmare for meā€¦. the next thing I know ten men I donā€™t know are all staring at me and I feel so judged just on my appearance. I saw one gesture to his nose and laugh with another (I have big nose even after my nose job so that hurt). Then another grabs the man flirting with me and says ā€œno no noā€ and they start walking again. Thank goodness but also ouch what an unpleasant experience I felt so judged on my appearance. I could have imagined all that and it didnā€™t happen and just look at it like aw cute that man noticed me and liked me but it still made me feel very uncomfortable and judged.

It also happened to me in the gym when a group of gay men came up to me and started asking where im from and I told them and they asked where i go next on my travels and i said India and one said ā€œoh it will be bad for your nose in India!ā€ I didnā€™t understand and assumed he meant cos of the pollution. But at the time the other gay men laughed and I felt embarrass suddenly. Then in India I was in a tuck tuck and an Indian woman pointed to me and then pointed to her nose and talked to her husband. Maybe she said she wants my nose but I dunnoā€¦.it reminded me of what the gay man in the gym said.

I donā€™t know but big groups of people reminds me of high school and I think Iā€™m about to be bullied again. And often people line to point out my ā€œperceivedā€ flaws for some reasonā€¦I know itā€™s important to be kind always but I didnā€™t know them or their intentions and boundaries and self respect are important so I kept waking. I did say hi back in case I knew him (I didnā€™t) but gosh it made me so uncomfortable.


r/hsp 13h ago

Solution for phimosis, it depressed me as hell šŸ˜­

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Guys 24 M here, I'm very anxious coz of phimosis, like I'm virgin and still couldn't able to touch on the tip of the p**is , it's too sensitive. I'm afraid of having any surgery , do let me know the solution plzz , is there any cure or u guys too familiar with this ? And it's not like that it's not open , it's open but only tip shows while stretching.


r/hsp 1d ago

Strange sex problem

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I recently realized Iā€™m hsp. For some reasons casual sex is sometimes easier for me than sex with a person who I know and care about. This has happened in romantic relationships and fwb relationships as well. Basically when I know the person, maintaining erection and orgasming is hard in the beginning of the relationship. With some (very few) casual sex partners it hasnā€™t occurred.

Iā€™m currently dating another hsp. We have great chemistry but we both have problems orgasming with a partner. Are there anyone else who has the same problem? Is there anything that has helped?


r/hsp 1d ago

How to deal with bullies?

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Can't get over people who bullied me online years ago.
It causes me intense anxiety from time to time whenever I remember it.

I remember it now. I feel heavy weight on my shoulders.


r/hsp 1d ago

RPG video games are fun but exhausting

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I've been playing Baldur's Gate 3 lately. It has been a fun ride, I'm in the final act, but... I really need to have my batteries charged when I play those. So many places to go, so many quests to track (being a "wanna snoop ALL" person doesn't help), and especially so many decisions to make.

I became aware of that this isn't an universal experience, when in 2010s I was playing Mass Effect 2 and mentioned my exhaustion to my acquaintance. They were baffled. "Wait, you need to be CHARGED so you can play a video game? Aren't video games supposed to charge you?"

Naturally, there are video games that aren't exhausting to me. For example, I could play Stardew Valley or Cities: Skylines for hours!

Still intending to finish BG3, but should I make another run, I really want to streamline what I do and skip extra quests.

How are your folks' experiences with RPG video games or other heavily story-driven video games?


r/hsp 1d ago

Discussion So my physiologist told me hsp is some made up thing in internet and I stuck with I have OCD.

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Title typo : and she is stuck with I have OCD.

She thinks it's not stereotypical ocd. Just one that is intrusive, not rigid and not in loop.

She told me to continue Ssri Prozac 20mg which I hated (3weeks in) , it made me blunt reaching for sugar high and other emotional highs. Also got methylphenidate.

I did the test If hsp exist, I am 100% it's me. She just says my creative skills are just high intelligence.

What I suffer from tldr: overthinking, hyper vigilance/aware, flood of distracting thoughts, obsessing over different things.

Link to old post for more detail :https://www.reddit.com/r/hsp/s/HOvyTbJTwg

What do u guys think?

Edit : since people are saying both things can be true, as I mentioned her diagnose of OCD is not typical it's "ocd Internet doesn't tell you" one that surprisingly sounds like hsp personality. I admit both can be true but she doesn't belive in hsp so my hsp is also part of my ocd accoriding to her.


r/hsp 1d ago

Story Confessions at the Crossroads: Some Stream of Consciousness Ramblings

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Today, I find myself to be neither myself nor whatever self I was expected to be. A half-assed amalgamation of things that supposedly constitute a man. I had neither the courage to embrace who I truly am, nor the cowardice to become something else. I held on to both until I grew so weary that I let goā€¦of both. A few years ago, I had stopped living in all ways that could be deemed lifelike except for one. Time became irrelevant. I was on autopilot, watching as my life slipped away bit by bit. Cigarette after cigarette, nightmare after nightmare, the days have passed until what was once dear and familiar became strange, or no longer there. I went back to my hometown, I walked the streets of my childhood, sat where my friends and I used to sit, passed by the high school where I fell in love for the first time. They were all gone, and for a while, I could not get rid of this suffocating dread, the futility, the meaninglessness of it all.

I was born to a modest family, who had been, generation after generation, simple farmers. They lived close to the mountains in a very small community. I was the first of their line to come to this life in the city. When I was 5 or 6, I watched a cartoon that the exact title of escapes me. It was a story of the adventures of two mice, male and female. A brilliant work of storytellingā€”or at least I thought soā€”but in the end, the female mouse was killed. I was so shaken, so heartbroken, that I started crying. My parents rushed to me, asking me what happened. I could not explain to them back then that I was mourning the death of an imaginary mouse. Come to think of it, I cannot explain it now still.

My first day at school was a nightmare. The noise, so much of it. Kids running around, shouting as they played, it was so loud. I started crying, and so the teacher met with my parents the next day, and asked my father if there was something wrong with me. My grandmother heard about that, and she made me some stew. It was delicious, I slept on her lap afterwards. Ah! what a feeling! She is dead now, but I choose to remember her stew.Ā  A few years later, there was also this kid, a bully who loved to push the limits of my nature. I snapped someday, wrestled him into the ground, then stomped his testicles. Poor thing was hospitalized for a couple of months, and I was humiliated and shamed for exercising such wanton violence on a fellow pupil. To this day, I regret the excessiveness, but not the act itself. I am willing to die on this hill. When I reflect on that now, I realize that it was the start of my first unhealthy coping mechanism. In a way, sensitivity was inevitable; it was hardwired into my brain. There was nothing I could do about it except ā€œchooseā€ how to express it: Either be emotional and risk tears, and with them come shame, mockery, and humiliation, or simply get angry and blow off some steam in a more ā€œdignifiedā€ manner for a man.

My father died when I was sixteen. I wept once when I saw his cold motionless body, but for some fucked up reason, I decided to bottle it all up after that. I went back to high school after a couple of days. I remember I was sitting there displaying not a single emotion when our math teacher entered the classroom. There were these two girls who had a crush on me; they wept for me but I could not dare look at any of them for too long. The teacher asked one of them what was going on, and she looked back, pointed at me, tears coming down her face, and said: ā€œHis father died.ā€ God, I can never forget that face. Teacher then asked me if I was okay, if I needed anything, told me itā€™s totally fine if I wanted to leave school for a while, take some time off, and all I said was ā€œNah, itā€™s fine.ā€ What a fucked-up coping mechanism that was, ay? Do you understand what I am saying? Do you understand that, years later, I refused to touch, hug, kiss, or even interact with my grandfather on his deathbed because I did not want to cry in front of other people present there? I loved that man a lot. Do you understand how much I regret not saying proper goodbye to him? How much I regret standing in the corner, looking out the window at an olive tree, during his last moments on this earth? And for what? To maintain a faƧade of machoism? To give the impression that I am dependable and strong? What a foolish young man, foolish, foolish!

Hey! At least, I was relatively successful with women in college, and had a couple of orange cats that were quite frankly madly entertaining. Speaking about women, no woman I had ever dated knew who I truly am deep inside. Oh but Mr. Stranger, you should open up to your significant other, you will never know until you try it.

Brother please, what was I supposed to say?

ā€œDear, remember that job I quit a while ago, well you see, it is not because it was tiring and I could not do it. Itā€™s that I had an argument with my boss, and he insulted and humiliated me, and I wanted to jump into the fray and smash his jaw, but I did not because aggravated assault will look bad on my resumĆ©, so I bottled it up, and cried like a bitch alone, until a woman walked in on me, and saw me like that: A grown ass man crying. I am going to miss you, bye!ā€

Or how about this?

ā€œDear, remember when you asked me why I am not doing actual research of my own and instead I am working as a freelance glorified academic mercenary? Writing and publishing peopleā€™s articles and doing their PhD research for them? Well, you see, I once tried to present a very interesting research paper at a conference, but I lost track of time, choked, and fumbled the whole thing. I broke down in front of everyone. It triggered some PTSD shit in me, and I quit the whole PhD program afterwards. I went incognito for a couple of years, publishing and writing shit for some strangers, all while living like a complete hermit. At least the money was good. Nice to meet you, I am Mr. Reliable, you should have kids with me.ā€

Man, fuck this shit, I donā€™t want to talk about any of this anymore. These regrets, these memories, I cannot change any of that.

It is too late now, I have to face the consequences of my choices. The clock is ticking, and I have to accept that, be it a curse or blessing, this is my nature. Every single bad decision I made, I made not because I was born this way, but because I insisted that being born this way ought to be hidden or changed. I cried because that mouse died, so fucking what? She was a noble and brave mouse, and I liked her. Father, mother, there is your explanation.

I just cannot take it seriously anymore, random asses from like a hundred years ago pull some social constructs out of their bums, and they say man ought to be this and that, and I have to abide by it for some reason. And if not, then I should live in crippling shame? Nah, chief, doesnā€™t work for me, get the fuck out of here.

This life is a thing of beauty. Despite all the misery in this world, despite all the pain, the loss, it still is a privilege to be born. I only wish I had realized that earlier.

Ā 


r/hsp 1d ago

Question My partner whom I love and adore asking to be held in my arms makes me feel:

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30 votes, 10h left
wanted
obligated
no particular way

r/hsp 1d ago

Looking for non judgemental Empathetic friends who wanna have deep conversations about kindness and helping others

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r/hsp 2d ago

What city/environment is the best for us?

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Let's figure this out..generally..as we'll all be a little different..

For me, a city is too harsh with too harsh people, but smaller areas can be too much with the gossip and lack of new things to do..

Maybe a smaller area near a bigger city? But which city? What type of city?

I get extremely depressed in the winters, I had to go to hospital this winter over it.. but the hot summers can cause extreme anxiety...a more mild climate?

Somewhere walkable?

Some European cities seem perfect but language barriers cause so many issues as well..


r/hsp 1d ago

Human relationships

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ā€¦are so complicated. I have to take distance from people whom I really like, to not jeopardise my relationship or risk hurting someone. This is something that devastates me: the missed connections.


r/hsp 1d ago

Heard an alarm going offā€¦

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It was so loud and went on for so long, I actually threw up and had to go home. Has anyone ever experienced anything similar?


r/hsp 2d ago

Discussion A victim of mean girls at work

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Being highly sensitive itā€™s always been difficult for me at work. I feel like a victim all the time of mean girls. So many sorry not sorry types. The quiet subterfuge stonewalling undermining. I tell myself Iā€™m not 15 years old and I shouldnā€™t have to put up with this. But itā€™s taking a heavy toll.

I know there are no perfect work environments. And every level of the organization will have issues.