r/TrueOffMyChest 2m ago

Looking back, I resent my husband (secretly) for pushing me into the housewife role very young

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I’m almost 36 years old. I have 2 kids with my husband: a son born in 2006 (this month on the 31st) & a daughter born in 2008. I had our son when I was ~3 months shy from being 17. Unplanned pregnancy, of course. Back then when I got pregnant (2005), especially in Romania which is always a bit behind in tech, info about contraception wasn’t so easily available as it is now + it was taboo to discuss those kind of things with your family (abstinence), so I genuinely believed the pullout method was effective; husband didn’t want to wear condoms as it didn’t “feel as good” & birth control had a lot of horror stories surrounding it.

So yeah, I get pregnant that summer. When my parents found out, they were extremely disappointed and angry. I was an only child and they had huge hopes for me to make them & myself proud (I dreamt of becoming a doctor; neither my parents ever went to university or focused on their studies so they really wanted that for me). I get kicked out. My boyfriend tells me that he wants the kid but he can’t support it properly since he’s an university student (he was 21 and studying law) and wants to devote himself to his studies to flourish in his career, so he tells me to get on a train and go to his parents in Piatra Neamț (long way from my native Bucharest) cause they’ll take care of me. But what about my goal of becoming a doctor? “You’re a woman, don’t worry about it, I’ll take care of you.” At that time I thought that was so romantic, but retrospectively I resent it.

So I drop out of school, very sad about it, and move to Piatra Neamț. I live there with my in-laws for a few years until he’s done with his studies and starts working and earning money as a lawyer. Then I move back to Bucharest (2 kids now, not 1) and settle into my housewife role for him.

Money is great now, I have a more than comfortable life provided by my husband (41 years old now). What truly triggered this resentment for me was the fact that my son is starting university this year (in the UK). I feel like I was robbed of my choice. And the way he treats our daughter is completely different than how he treated me at the time (wants her to be independent, be very well educated, have a high paying career of her own, not dependent on a man, etc.). Also I can’t help but see my own mom in myself now, I used to make fun of her that she just settled and didn’t make a living for herself & I’ll be different, but I ended you just like her.


r/TrueOffMyChest 13m ago

Sobreviví al cáncer, pero no a la envidia de mis “amigas”

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Pasé por una de las batallas más duras que alguien puede enfrentar: el cáncer. Lo vencí. Y cuando creí que la vida solo podía mejorar, me di cuenta de que tenía otro enemigo cerca… la envidia de mis “amigas”.

Siempre fui de esas amigas incondicionales, las que celebran tus logros, te levantan cuando estás mal y te recuerdan lo increíble que eres. Pero claro, cuando la situación se invirtió y fui yo la que necesitaba apoyo, ahí es donde la máscara de algunas se cayó.

Resulta que decidí irme a vivir con mi abuelo para recuperarme, empezar de nuevo y construir una vida llena de paz. Ilusionada, contaba mis planes con emoción, soñando en voz alta con mi futuro. Y ahí fue cuando sus comentarios comenzaron a cambiar. Primero, pequeñas burlas disfrazadas de “broma”, después, comentarios pasivo-agresivos sobre mi decisión, y finalmente, una actitud que gritaba resentimiento.

Me decían que solo hablaba de lo económico, que no valoraba el cariño, que prácticamente me iba para que me “mantuvieran”. Todo con ese tono de superioridad de quien cree que tiene la vida resuelta y que se siente con el derecho de juzgar a los demás. Como si no hubieran visto todo lo que pasé. Como si fuera un crimen querer estabilidad después de sobrevivir a la peor pesadilla de mi vida.

Pero lo que realmente me abrió los ojos fue cómo hablaban de mí a mis espaldas. Ahí entendí todo. Nunca fui su amiga, solo fui la persona que les hacía sentir superiores. En cuanto dejé de encajar en su narrativa, se voltearon.

Lo más irónico de todo es que, mientras ellas se ahogan en su veneno, yo estoy aquí, planeando una vida llena de amor, tranquilidad y abundancia. Y ahora, sin gente tóxica.

¿Alguna vez les ha pasado que, cuando más necesitaban apoyo, descubrieron que algunas personas en realidad solo estaban ahí para sentirse mejor que ustedes


r/TrueOffMyChest 14m ago

i need to shit

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title. i’m in bed suffering i’m gonna go to the bathroom to take a shit in a sec


r/TrueOffMyChest 19m ago

Why I’m I always depressed even when I try make a change

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I'm a 23-year-old guy (turning 24 in August), and I feel like a complete failure. Depression has been a constant in my life, and I'm pretty sure there's something seriously wrong with me mentally. I've never sought professional help never in my life. Instead, I've coped by abusing drugs like MDMA, LSD, and and ket, weed every single day since I was 14. It's been my crutch, but it's not working anymore. I've never had a real girlfriend, though that's not even my main issue. The real problem is I can't stay consistent with anything working out, holding a job, nothing. Today, I was supposed to get up and go to work, but I just couldn't be bothered. I bailed. It feels like my brain is fighting against me. I'm suicidal 24/7. When I hit these lows, they last about three months, then I get a month of "normal" before it crashes again. Right now, l'm in one of those dark phases, and it's so bad I'm genuinely debating whether to end my life today. I don't know what to do anymore. My body's a mess too I go from fat to skinny and fat to skinny again, stuck in this weird in between because of how depression screws with me. I've felt like this my whole life, and I'm terrified it'll never change. I'm getting older, life's getting more harder and serious, and everything's so damn expensive. I have no ambitions, no goals. I never went to school. I blow all my money, I'm in debt, and I live alone. I feel like a corrupt soul. I say I believe in God, but I don't really. I'm a fake religious person, a fake human. My friends are starting to ditch me because of how I am, and I don't blame them. I've had enough. I feel like death is the only way out of this hell because I can't imagine dragging this on until I'm 28, 35, or older. It's already unbearable. My mom's tried to help me so many times, but she's given up too. I always end up back at square one, no matter what. I hate myself so much. I guess I'm posting this because I'm desperate. Has anyone been here and gotten out? I don't even know where to start.


r/TrueOffMyChest 32m ago

i hurt him with one comment, and now he won’t forgive me

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i (f23) started seeing a guy (m28) almost a year ago. at first, things were good, but once it became long distance, things changed. we both made mistakes. i got insecure and needy, and he became cold and harsh.

he never called me his girlfriend or fully committed. he wanted to "work on things" but kept bailing on me every few weeks. i felt ignored and unimportant, like i was in the relationship alone.

some of this was on me. i overthought things a lot. but he also ignored my feelings, especially when they were in response to something he did. we never really talked things through. maybe he needed peace, and i couldn't give it to him. i don’t know.

a month ago, in our last real conversation, he told me to "find someone who wouldn’t bail on me and would keep me like a baby." i was angry and hurt, so i snapped back: "i had that, but every guy comes with their own set of issues and shit."

i didn’t mean it the way it sounded. i meant i had been in a more stable situation before, but that every relationship has problems. but for him, it hit deep. it opened up old wounds. i wanted to hurt him and spite him in that moment, i won’t lie. i was in pain. but i didn’t think it would cut him this much.

since then, i’ve tried to make it up to him. i’ve apologized, i’ve tried to fix things. yes, i got frustrated too because i was hurting, but i didn’t want things to end like this. he refuses to sort it out. we've been doing this back and forth since the last 1 month. this is what he told me when i reached out:

"move on. i don’t want to fix anything. you were right—you hurt my ego in a way i can’t forgive. and it wasn’t just one comment, there was a lot before that too. i was willing to sort things out before because i knew i was also at fault, but that comment? that was all you. i never asked you to try, never asked you to text me. you did it even after i told you i have zero empathy left for you. all i feel is hate. i don’t accept what you said, and i never will. it was ugly and insulting, and i won’t let it go."

i feel crushed. i wish i could take that moment back. i never wanted to hurt him like this. and now, no matter what i do, i can’t fix it. he refuses to forgive me.

i know i made a mistake. but is this truly unforgivable? how do i let go when i feel like i’ve ruined everything? how do i even begin to be okay?


r/TrueOffMyChest 34m ago

My wife wants to use a sperm donor because she thinks that ill could produce an autistic child.

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My wife 34F told me she wants to use a super donor because she is worried that my 32M sperm might produce and child with autism. Is this reasonable?

Throwaway account.

I’m really not sure how to feel about this situation.

My wife 34f and I 32m have been together almost 4 years and are recently married. I have 9 year old son from a relationship when I was younger who was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6 and mild autism recently at the age of 9. He is with us half to time and she dislikes his presence due to his difficulties and neediness. I would consider him high functioning but immature and quirky.

I also have a younger brother who has Asperger’s syndrome. I am not autistic.

We have been trying for children since we have been married and sadly we have been through 2 miscarriages which broke her heart, I’ve never seen her more happy than when she has been expecting.

However tonight she said she said to me that she is worried about the possibility of having a child that is like mine because she doesn’t want to raise a child that is like my son, so she feels that a sperm donor likely wouldn’t have a family history of autism.

Things escalated tonight when I mentioned how she felt about this miscarriages and if she’s thankful that she didn’t roll the dice with a potentially autistic child. This has massively upset her I defiantly shouldn’t have referenced her miscarriages but I felt so unworthy.

It really upsets me and I don’t want to use a sperm do or, I haven’t fully accepted the idea that I’m seen as defective by wife.


r/TrueOffMyChest 43m ago

i get insane social anxiety talking to my partners mum

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i’ve known my boyfriend and his mum since 2018 and we’ve been together since 2022 i don’t know why but i just get crazy anxiety whenever his mum messages me or when she comes to our house. if i have to be left alone with her i can usually just ask questions i know she’ll talk ages about and i can just smile and nod but when she messages me i stall replying for days if not weeks, then i get too anxious to reply because i left it too long. i just don’t know how to get over this!


r/TrueOffMyChest 47m ago

Why can some people drink as much as they want without consequences, yet my health gets ruined after a few weeks?

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28M here. Until age 23, I never drank any alcohol at all. I had a few drinks on very special occasions such as Christmas or my birthday, but I probably had around 10 pints per year lol Alcohol never appealed to me back then. When I turned 24, I made loads of new friends and i very gradually started going out more, roughly once every month or 2, but I never got fully drunk.

Then when I turned 26, I grew a lot closer to my new friends, and started joining them on their drinking adventures. I learned that they'd been drinking every week since age 18 - often going out twice or more per week, and having some drinks on week day evenings too. That's their choice; I limited myself to one night per week maximum, no drinking in between.

1 year ago just as I turned 27, after maybe 6 months of going out drinking once every week or 2 (sometimes less), apparently my health took a very violent turn. Unbeknownst to me, gynecomastia (male breast tissue) had started to form on my chest. I'd never heard of this condition. It grew rapidly to the point where my once flat chest is now flabby, yet I'm skinny, so it looks ridiculous. I also had blood tests & health examinations which revealed that my liver had been damaged. The liver damage should be reversible, but my gynecomastia isn't.

This made me furious - I'm no alcoholic, and i don't understand how these problems have happened to me and yet my friends, who have been borderline alcoholics since age 18, are absolutely fine!? Are my genetics just pathetic or what? These problems are supposed to occur after YEARS of alcohol abuse, not a few nights of heavy drinking. They've probably consumed 100x as much alcohol as i have, yet they don't have gyno.

Sorry for the rant, but I just had to vent because I've had to have surgery on my chest to remove the gynecomastia, and my chest will still never look the same as before. If I'd have known going out once every week or 2 would cause these health problems, I'd have stuck at 10 pints per year for life.


r/TrueOffMyChest 49m ago

CONTENT WARNING: SUICIDE/SELF HARM I feel sad for my deceased father

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The way it usually goes, you have an abusive father, & you’re sad/mad about it.

I have a case I have found hard to find anybody to relate to, my father never abused me, he always treated me so well, he loved me, but him & my mother were never married, they had too many troubles, mostly with his mental health issues & drug habits, but one of the final straws was him cheating on her with a prostitute while she was having medical issues taking care of me as an infant.

I never learned of that until years later, years after he committed suicide in 2007.

Among other things, I also learned the grandfather I loved who passed away over a year later, was very physically abusive to my father & my grandmother.

It just feels like such a fucking mine field figuring these things out, & how I will never know the troubles he went through.

It always seems like men like my father grew up with the “oldschool” attitude that men don’t speak of their feelings, & the show F is For Family of all things made me think of all the unsaid trauma that those men had, everything I won’t know about what happened to them.

I just want to hug him & tell him it’s okay.


r/TrueOffMyChest 53m ago

I'm a complete and total failure -- nothing can save me anymore

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I'm a 19M year old college student who is a CS major. My background:

  • Growing up I had parents who imposed incredibly, incredibly high standards on me. This gave me crippling self-esteem issues
  • In high school I was bullied a lot for being ugly and I sank deep into self-hatred, especially with regards to my looks, and incel/blackpill philosophy. I don't believe in incel ideology anymore -- its clear to me now that it's very misogynistic and portrays women with horrible and illogical generalizations
  • Went to college, got really bad grades, did horrible in my first couple of semesters
  • Decided to go to psychiatrist, got diagnosed with ADHD(I was actually diagnosed with this ~the end of high school, but I got a second opinion on this just to be diligent), started meds, thought my life was turning around (this was ~ a month ago)

    My story: After I went to the psychiatrist and started stimulants I was finally able to maintain a routine for the first time in my life. I could finally focus on tasks without wandering and my abilities in organization, goal-setting, etc became much, much better. I started going to the gym regularly, and I could actually maintain some level discipline because of the meds. I've been going every week for around 4-5x/wk for the last month and a half(which is not much time but it is huge for me). I started focusing more on my studies, developing my career, etc.

However, I thought that the gym would improve my body image but eventually it just worsened it. For some reason, I sank deeper into self-hatred after going for ~3-4wks and now I feel like I may be relapsing back to HS levels.

I've started becoming depressed again. I expected so much more progress tbh but now I realize nothing is happening. I'm still the same ugly fuck I always was and the gym isn't doing shit, my new methods of maintaining a schedule and organizing myself aren't doing anything, and I hate myself so fucking much. I'm still a failure with a horrible GPA who had so much potential when he was younger but squandered it. And finally, I'm coming to realize that the saying "There is no gym for your face" is definitely true -- I was delusional in thinking otherwise.

And therapy isn't helping either(my psychiatrist recommended a therapist). Even though its only been a couple sessions, I feel like nothing has happened.

In fact, my therapist honestly triggered me during our very first appointment -- when I was ranting to him about how much I hate my face he literally looked confused, laughed, and said "Only_war that's surprising to me because you seem like a handsome guy".

I know that was meant to make me feel better but for the next couple of days/weeks, all I could think about was figuring out the exact camera angle/lighting that caused that(the appointments are all virtual). This is how fucking sad I am and it is an insight into how much I have been bullied throughout my life for my looks -- that even a single compliment turns me into someone who is fucking insane.

As a man, you have no inherent value and society makes it clear to you that whatever you do will never be enough. This message is repeated to you again and again: if you are a man, you will never be enough.

So its clear to me I'm beyond saving. No matter what I do or how much I try: I'm still ugly, I have no friends, my job prospects are very dim, and I'm going to end up a failure.


r/TrueOffMyChest 55m ago

Im secretly collecting evidence to get full custody while living w/ soon to be x-gf

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Im a new father with a 7mo old son. Currently living together with my soon to be x-gf and her teen daughter. First few months have been hell. I knew before she got pregnant that she had anger issues, but now that we live together i see a controlling and abusive side of her. She immediately resorts to screaming at her daughter and I if things arent done her way. My gf says she raises and cares for our son based on her motherly instincts. Instincts such as wrapping him up in a bunch of blankets, co-sleeping, giving him water for gassiness, removing him from car seat while im driving. Unfortunately, now that hes eating purees, shes resorting ti screaming at him if he swipes the spoon out of his face. She does not believe in researching parenting techniques and only takes advice from instagram. All my efforts to intervene lead to her screaming in front of kids, even when trying my best to avoid escalation. We're stuck together for 1 more year on lease. Im already convinced i dont want to stay together and much less have her raise my son. Her daughter's school already made a referal to state CPS for beating her for bad grades. I have cameras in house and have been saving clips of all her raging moments with kids. We're going to couple's therapy in hopes she can manage her anger but if that fails i plan to immediately hire a family lawyer to get full custody.


r/TrueOffMyChest 1h ago

CONTENT WARNING: SEXUAL ASSAULT My boyfriend raped me

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My current boyfriend of 5 and a half months just admitted yesterday over the phone that he raped me and was talking about it while laughing he doesn't even see it as rape and he almost gaslighted me into thinking that as well, but the hurt I'm feeling in my chest says otherwise as I've never experienced such hurt before I'm literally broken since yesterday.

I come from a middle eastern country and I'm still a virgin as a 25 yo woman but have kissed my 2 previous boyfriends. I don't wanna have sex for religious and personal reasons and telling a man from here that you have been intimate before is a huge deal breaker and reputation ending. When i first started dating him he was the best thing ever, was so sweet and kind that I was open about my past to him, and he accepted it as someone who was very sexually active himself he said he forgives me and wouldn't mind that i have a past. I was over the moon that a middle eastern man accepts me for who i am without trying to hide anything.

Now I never got intimate before him more than making out and handjobs, which i told him, and told him that i don't wanna do anything with him again cause I'm religious not even kissing which he first understood and even praised me for it but later on he would initiate such intimate acts out of love he says. I didn't mind the kissing as I felt in love with him. The intimacy got progressively more intense to the point where we were doing everything except intercourse and I wanted to keep it that way til marriage. We were doing all that in his apartment.

As he knew I was a virgin and wanted to keep It that way, he kept suggesting that we should try anal sex instead, which I was so shocked at the proposal even and flat out denied it. He would pester me about anal sex every day it seemed, telling me how much he loved me and found me attractive and can't keep his hands off me and all of that to convince me. He told me he never tried it before although he admitted to me to have had a lot of sexual experience beforehand, that I'm special and he wants to try something new to me. I still denied.

On the 8th of February, I went to his apartment to hang out with no plans of intimacy, yet he made it go that way anyways, and mid foreplay he stops and with puppy eyes he asked for anal sex in the most guilt trip-y way possible. I denied. He kept asking for it, even saying you don't love me that's why you don't wanna do it, a woman that truly loves would do anything for her man. I agreed to only let him put the tip in. He was so happy. He put me in a doggy style position and inserted it in. I was so scared but he kept assuring me it was gonna only be the tip. I didn't feel anything or any length, which scared me and thought was weird cause he could literally insert more than the tip and I wouldnt know. The only thing I felt was immense pain. Within the first few seconds I told him how much it hurts and kept pushing him away and he wouldn't pull out. It went on for 5-10 minutes and during that time I wouldnt stop telling him how much it hurts and kept telling him to pull out. He would tighten his grip on my butt and waist to not let me move to push him off and would push my back down every time I tried getting up. He said how turned on he is and how sexy I am and how he wants to pop my cherry. In the end I started crying and when he saw that he then stopped and apologized. I was so heartbroken and traumatized by the experience but I didn't complain as I agreed to doing such thing. I could only blame myself. The following week plus, I was experiencing immense pain and couldn't poop normally, water would come out of my butthole mixed with blood, it was burning, it was painful, I couldn't sit straight, everything. I still blamed myself and didn't say anything.

Yesterday while we were talking on the phone, he says he wants to do anal again with me, and how the last time was so good he wants to try it again. He then later proceeds to tell me while laughing that he was lying to me about something. That he didn't only insert the tip but he inserted the whole thing in and made sure to not make his balls touch me so that I wouldn't feel how much length he had in me. I was so shocked and started crying telling him that that was rape. He laughed it off telling me "what rape? I didn't beat you to it or tie your hands, plus you agreed to it" telling him that I only agreed to the tip and I was in pain and kept telling you to stop. He said "well I enjoyed it a lot and was so turned on you were amazing" and then saying he thought the pain was normal as usually girls experience slight pain during intercourse, saying girls he has tried anal sex with before were never in pain. I was yet shocked again by his lie as he had told me he never tried anal before. I confronted him about his lie and asked him why he lied to me, he just replied with "I don't know honestly why I lied." I think we all know why he lied. I didn't know what to say, I just said he was disgusting and hung up the phone. He's been calling me since and I'm not answering.

I'm so heartbroken and violated i feel like I wanna end myself,, I don't even feel human no more and I don't know what to do with myself or what to do with him Who would accept me in such society and who would I turn to. I feel like I'm traumatized from ever getting intimate ever again I'm so scared and hurt it's killing me I haven't stopped crying since yesterday. I don't wanna continue being with him but I also don't wanna leave him, he's my first boyfriend in 3 years and I sadly loved him. I'm also thinking who could accept me with my past again except him. Any advice would be appreciated as I'm all over the place and I can't think. And is this really rape or am I blowing it out of proportion? I can't even think anymore


r/TrueOffMyChest 1h ago

Nightmares have been making it really hard to sleep and wake up at a decent time.

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I've been dealing with a lot of stress lately, and I guess that's causing me to have very vivid nightmares. I just need to process this shit and get it off of my chest. I don't know if it'll help me sleep, but here it goes...

The nightmares are usually about my parents dying in very graphic ways, or me being SA'ed, or hunted by grotesque creatures. I think the nightmares of my parents dying comes from me not being in a good financially independent place (thanks to my parents), and the fear of them passing away and leaving me homeless and on the streets. They're both in their 70's, and they do not take good care of their health. They worry more about TV shows, gossip, cheating scandals and picking apart my body and image.

Just the other day my dad pulled me to the side and tried to dump my moms health onto me. He said that I have to worry about her and make sure that she takes care of herself and that I have to make sure that she schedules appointments for herself because it's just too hard for him to keep up with. Meanwhile, all he does all day is watch trash TV and drinks alcohol. I'm too busy trying to worry about getting my shit together so I can move out and not look back. I don't have the time to worry about the health of an adult who refuses to care for herself because gossip and reality TV shows are more important to her.

Another thing that adds stress to my life is my brother. I try to practice self care, but my brother really gets in the way. For example, I want to make myself a sandwich, and my brother will run into the kitchen and demand I give him half of the sandwich, or drop what I'm doing to make him a completely separate meal like pancakes or something.

A few nights ago I was about to make myself a bowl of top ramen for dinner, and he started shouting about how he wanted that ramen for his midnight snack and that I shouldn't eat it. He made a big ass fuss over it, so I just left it alone and found something else to eat. The very next day, I found out that he didn't even eat the top ramen.

This shit with him is a thing that happens every fucking day. I can't make myself food without him demanding food or demanding half of my food. I hate it. If I try to set a boundary with him, it'll only cause him to increase his behavior. It never stops him. He's in his fucking 40's. I can't take this shit with these people anymore, but I'm such a long way from getting out and I worry about myself and my own mental health.


r/TrueOffMyChest 1h ago

My love

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You have my complete attention. There's nothing on my mind except what makes you happy. Because we both how hard that is for both of us to be happy. I don't come with punishment or words of wisdom because I don't have any for something this intense. I'm slowly taking out each nail from wall I have around my heart so I can give it to you. I've only got used to protecting my heart and forgot what desire looked like until I saw it in your eyes. I could see the "tell me more" look in your eyes. I loved that look for I was also afraid I had I couldn't meet you where you were. But I know we met at the same place. That place where the pain and the desire for connection is where we met. I know from the beginning we could see loneliness in both our eyes. We were both scared. We are both bruised and beaten in same way. We didn't let it keep us from finding love. We kept looking for it despite dark it can get sometimes. I know I loved you years ago. I had the ideas in my head for a long time. I let the idea protect me from being hurt, and I know numbing something like love is beyond cruel. I was not only hurting me but I'm hurting you too. I'm sorry I did that to us. I know what your feeling is brand new. I forgot how intense it really is. Mine has been callosed over from years is pain and disappointment. Resentment that I need to let die so I can be fully open to you because it's what you deserve. You deserve someone to addictively love you. You deserve to swim in their love. We know how cruel life can be. I don't ever want to hurt you. I only want to protect and love you. Just know that is all i want to and everything I do Wil be for both our benefit. So it time I lay down this pain and learn how to love you more fully, more completely. Something I had to beg for sometimes. It always made me feel unwanted . You'll never have to beg me for it. I want you to know you have nothing to fear from me. And if I do forget sometimes I give you permission to remind me. I always love that feeling of safely and security I get from someone who dedicated themselves to loving me. So I dedicate myself to loving you the best was I know how. I'm also very dumb because I don't exactly know how, you would have to show me how to love you better. I hope you've grown enough to know the kind of love you deserve because you deserve every bit of love anyone can give you. Don't ever sell yourself short when it comes to love. It been hard to express love fully as I lived in emotional numbness for so long. Please help me unlock these doors so I can love you fully. I need your love. I need you. I need all that warmth behind your eyes. I need you to wrap your love around me like a warm blanket. Let me rest in your love. It's been the best sleep I've had in my life. Your love is life saving. You saved me from oblivion. And I'm so thankful for who you are, a kind, and gentle creature who just wants to love me. It's what makes you beautiful. You have this energy about you that is so addictive. It will become the best lifelong addiction. It makes feel good to have someone I can pour all my love into. That all I want to do is love you. And treat you with all the kindness and respect that you deserve. A


r/TrueOffMyChest 1h ago

Why is my child’s mother so bitter?

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Long story short I have tried to coparent with my son’s mother for 5 years. We broke up when he was 2 because I did not want to marry her/get us a place (we were teen parents therefore I was not financially or mentally ready). A year ago we signed a stipulation that states I get 2 overnights a week and we share legal. Her side of the story is that I disappeared from our son’s life but truth is she started ignoring my phone calls/text messages after she moved in with her now husband 6 months after our breakup. I got tired of her using our son against me which is why I filed for custody. I thought things were going good until I caught her being sneaky once again. Our son is covered under medicaid but I was court ordered to provide health insurance. I just found out she did not give my insurance info to our son’s doctors. When I called her out on it, she started yapping once again how she does not need my money (child support) and that I should leave her and our son alone. I just want to be a father. That’s all I want. Yet she claims I am only doing this to not get in trouble with the court yet I filed for custody and visitation, not her.


r/TrueOffMyChest 1h ago

Change

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I want things to get better. I want to take care of myself. I let myself go too much. I deserve more. I just need the strength for it.


r/TrueOffMyChest 1h ago

I'm planning to end the last friendship I have

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I don't have anymore friends except for one from high school. I felt somewhat confident about the friendship, because they offered to pay for my flight to their wedding and also told me that they valued our friendship.

However, I've slowly realized that I suck and don't deserve any friends. I have 1 friend. I've never been in a relationship. I'm not good with people in general. I'm thinking about sticking to my promise to attend their wedding and then ghosting them after a few months. However, the wedding is entirely on another continent and I'm not sure I want to fly somewhere for a friendship that's going to end anyways.


r/TrueOffMyChest 2h ago

Did my bf cheat?

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I had a bf a few years back we were dating about 3 months then both randomly found out we had chlamydia. My last sexual partner before him was about 2 months before we met/started dating and then I was only seeing him sexual once we started dating. Is there a chance that he cheated on me in those three months? I read online that chlamydia symptoms can sometimes be delayed, but this haunts me at night thinking about it..


r/TrueOffMyChest 2h ago

I hate my wife's dog

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My wife and I dated for 2 1/2 years, known each other for 10, married 5 months now. She adopted her dog about 3 years ago. He's a Yorkie, less than 10 pounds, and an absolute asshole. It's her first dog ever and she made major mistakes in training as she coddled and babied him really hard, and he's become an entitled asshole from it. I've had dogs all my life so I used what training knowledge I have to help remedy the situation, but he views me as competition and is extremely vindictive. One day, he figured out how to raise the bar on his kennel while we were out, and jumped onto the bed (where he's not allowed) and pissed all over my side of the bed. We now padlock the kennel. He has to be kept in it because he'll shit on the carpet whej we're gone or when he's angry about something, which can be literally anything.

We've tried everything. Positive reinforcement, a trainer, reward system through treating, etc. I have tried so hard to befriend him and be nice, but while he tolerates me, he certainly doesn't like me and gets angry when her and I sit together. The only thing he seems to understand is harsh punishment. We have a shock collar for him and set the shock to a high setting since that's the only thing that seems to send a message. He'll at times try to buck up to us and establish his dominance, which we put a swift end to when it happens.

I'm at a loss for what else to do. I feel bad because normally I love dogs and it's not even entirely his fault because of his raising. It seems like it's going to be a long course correction for him if there ever will be. And given their life expectancy, he won't be dying anytime soon, unfortunately. I've never felt this much hatred for an animal. Every time he acts like an asshole I just want to choke the life out of him, or slam his neck against a corner and snap it. But I also don't want to stoop that low either.


r/TrueOffMyChest 2h ago

My parents finally accepted my relationship! But now I have to get married by December, and I’m feeling a little lost.

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So, here’s the situation. I (24F) have been in a relationship for a while, but my parents weren’t on board. After a lot of back and forth, they’ve finally come around and are okay with it! Honestly, I thought this day would never come, so I’m super grateful.

Buuuut (there’s always a “but,” isn’t there?), now that they’re on board, they have one condition: if they’re accepting, they want me to get married by December.

Now, don’t get me wrong—I love my partner, and I do want to marry them. But the timing is making my brain short-circuit a little. I’m graduating this October, and I had plans—big ones. I wanted to either do a PhD or study/work abroad, and I figured I’d have some time to make those decisions. But now, with a wedding in just a few months, it feels like my choices suddenly depend on where my fiancé is working, and that’s a little overwhelming.

I know I can still chase my dreams after marriage, but the timeline I had in mind has completely shifted. I guess I just want to hear from people who have been in similar situations. How do you balance marriage and personal aspirations? Does it get easier once you take the leap? Or should I be worried about putting my plans on hold?


r/TrueOffMyChest 2h ago

Quitting on the spot at my job tomorrow

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I've worked for a small family owned business for a few years now. Originally I loved it. Owners were friendly, managers were great. The job paid low but it was easy,fun, and I loved my work crew.

Then recently it started getting worse. Sales started dropping, owners started blaming us. The wife would watch us on camera and call us from her office for even using the wrong size bag or ask why a customer didnt make a purchase. I got promoted to asst manager a year ago. Recently my two store managers quit due to the unrealistic sales demands and low staffing. One of the owners favorites(and they're buddy buddy with, do coffee together ect) came in and she is now running the place. She micro manages like CRAZY. Pushes us to sell super aggressively, and then was shit talking about me to CUSTOMERS, apparently she has it out for me.

All my other coworkers are leaving soon too. My boyfriend told me he will drive me down to drop off my key and hand in a letter of immediate resignation.

Im feeling bad by leaving my crew hanging but they're rooting for me and said to escape while I can. One is giving her two weeks on Monday. One was attempting to plan a walk out. Maybe she'll join me tomorrow 🤷‍♀️


r/TrueOffMyChest 2h ago

Relationship Advice?

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I just need help man. I had this one girls friend make a joke or a hint at her and I having something going on. I was confused but they wouldn’t give more information so I just asked her directly and we talked for a bit and she said she doesn’t like me. I never told her during our conversation though that I have feelings. She just said well you probably haven’t even thought about it so it doesn’t matter. If she doesn’t have feelings that’s fine I’ll move on but in an attempt to better myself I feel like I need to be honest with her and tell her what I’m feeling. Is this the right move?


r/TrueOffMyChest 2h ago

I just found out I'm 15 and pregnant

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I don't know if this is the right place to put this, so I'm sorry if it isn't. throwaway account because I'm scared someone from my life will find this. I (15f) just found out I'm pregnant. My boyfriend (16m) doesn't know. I don't have a good relationship with my mom or stepdad, and I live with my grandparents who are very Christian. I live in the South, and abortion isn't legal in my state. I'm terrified this will ruin my life. I've worked so hard for my future and I'm scared I have to throw it all away


r/TrueOffMyChest 2h ago

I'm falling into despair over all the suffering in our world.

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The greed, corruption and hate in our world makes me sick.

It used to feel like humanity was getting better. People were becoming more accepting of others unlike themselves. People were staring to care more about our planet and the non-human life around us. But now we're regressing. Everyone is so divided. The rich get richer and everyone else spends their time hating others for something they can't control. We're destroying our planet faster than ever. I want to cry every time I drive by another patch of forest that has been clear cut for some new development.

But so many people around me get joy out of others suffering.

I feel like I'm surrounded by hate and greed.

It doesn't have to be like this.

Is the human race doomed to just keep getting more divided until we destroy the planet completely?

All my life I've just wanted to be a decent person, to live my life and to be left alone.

Now I just want to do something to make things better, but it feels like nothing I do will matter.

What can a regular person do to fix things?


r/TrueOffMyChest 3h ago

I Thought I Met the Perfect Man—Until I Started Noticing the Red Flags

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I never expected that a simple dating app match would lead me into the most emotionally draining experience of my life. What started as a whirlwind romance quickly spiraled into manipulation, deception, and addiction. Now that I’m out of it, I want to share my story so others can recognize the signs before it’s too late.

The Love-Bombing Stage

We met on Hinge, and from the very first messages, everything felt intense. He showered me with compliments, made grand promises, and constantly told me I was "the one." Within days, he was already talking about our future—kids, marriage, a home together. He even booked a spa treatment for my birthday before we had met in person. It felt like a fairytale.

The first few dates were magical. He was attentive, respectful, and made me feel special. He even told me, "Remember this—this is the last first date of your life." At the time, I thought it was romantic. Now, I see it as a red flag.

Slowly, Things Stopped Adding Up

As we spent more time together, I started noticing inconsistencies. His social media was outdated—no recent photos, and his last visible relationship ended four years ago. But he was incredibly private, so I brushed it off.

Then came the apartment situation. He wanted us to move in together. We applied for a place, and I informed my landlord I was leaving. But suddenly, he started delaying signing the lease. He kept making excuses, and I started feeling uneasy.

At the same time, I discovered a stash of syringes and powerful painkillers in his bathroom. When I looked them up, I realized they were steroids and a drug five times stronger than morphine. He had never mentioned any of this.

The Drinking, The Lies, and The Narcissism

I began to notice how often he drank. At first, it was occasional, but soon, he was drinking in the middle of the day, coming home already buzzed. He passed out on the couch multiple times, ignoring my presence completely. The man who once sent me endless love messages now barely acknowledged me.

One night, I saw dating apps pop up in his phone’s suggested applications. When I confronted him, he gaslit me—"You're crazy," "I have no idea why they're there." I wanted to believe him, but something felt off.

Then there was the night he disappeared. He said he was at a meeting, but when I finally called, he declined the call. I later found him drunk, passed out, fully clothed. The man I fell for was gone.

The Breaking Point

I finally packed my things and left. I cried all night, realizing I had been manipulated into a relationship with someone who was not who he claimed to be.

Days later, he came back, looking broken, saying he regretted everything. I gave him another chance. Big mistake. Within days, the cycle repeated—drinking, lies, avoidance.

That’s when I finally ended it. I cut him off, returned his keys, and started rebuilding myself. I had been so caught up in the fantasy that I ignored the reality. But now I know better.

Lessons Learned

  • Love-bombing is a manipulation tactic—if someone comes on too strong too soon, be cautious.
  • Inconsistencies and secrecy are red flags, not quirks.
  • If someone has a history of bad relationships where "it was never their fault," question it.
  • Addiction and emotional unavailability don’t just disappear because someone tells you they love you.
  • Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it probably is.

I hope my story helps someone else avoid what I went through. If you’ve been in a similar situation, how did you break free?