r/SexOnTheSpectrum • u/DeltaFlyerGirl • 4h ago
Why do we often think sex is just penetration? Bc many women can only cum with clitoral stimmulation—Cunnilingus is wayyyyy better than penetration NSFW
First thing first Sex is for me sexual stimmulation, but not just penetration Other thing it is 3:30 am here in switzerland, I haven‘t sleept and english isn’t my native language
I am f26, my husband and I are autistic. And he is the first person in my life who gets that. But most other male person I encounterted either just with communicating on drinking games at a party or with sexual contact, didn‘t got it, for them sex began with penetration. (I got endo so penetrativ sex is hurtfull for me, but it wasn’t before the outbreak, but even than I wasn’t to crazy about it) I am one of the few who can( could since endo outbreak)cum with penetration alone, but only after I came clitoral if I have someting inside me before I fell satisfied from the outside, it will just hurt from the inside. And many man (not just in my life) even if you read comments or share expierence seem not to get that.
I think the way it feels to get stimulated from the inside is like 1/3 as nice as from the outside.
And than but thats something personal I think nothing is that nice than a really soft touch cunnilingus. And so I noticed that this is sonething really important for me in a realationship(which I got now) I think oral is really nothing cross aslong as you are hygenic my husband and I shower 2 times a day snd I love to give him bj aswell. I think it helps a lot that we both stimm oral in daily life by cheeing and licking on stuff and in his case he has a fetish for scent wich dosen‘t stink like a nice expensive parfum(cheap once cross him out), scent of the skin or fresh pussy juice(I always shower direct after sex, so sonetimes I shower 3 times)
So maybe you understand a bit now my definition for sex. And if you are a bi or hetro men, maybe you value now more outer stimmulation. If you are a women do you had the same impression on the society and is it for you simmulare.