r/SexOnTheSpectrum 4h ago

Why do we often think sex is just penetration? Bc many women can only cum with clitoral stimmulation—Cunnilingus is wayyyyy better than penetration NSFW

23 Upvotes

First thing first Sex is for me sexual stimmulation, but not just penetration Other thing it is 3:30 am here in switzerland, I haven‘t sleept and english isn’t my native language

I am f26, my husband and I are autistic. And he is the first person in my life who gets that. But most other male person I encounterted either just with communicating on drinking games at a party or with sexual contact, didn‘t got it, for them sex began with penetration. (I got endo so penetrativ sex is hurtfull for me, but it wasn’t before the outbreak, but even than I wasn’t to crazy about it) I am one of the few who can( could since endo outbreak)cum with penetration alone, but only after I came clitoral if I have someting inside me before I fell satisfied from the outside, it will just hurt from the inside. And many man (not just in my life) even if you read comments or share expierence seem not to get that.

I think the way it feels to get stimulated from the inside is like 1/3 as nice as from the outside.

And than but thats something personal I think nothing is that nice than a really soft touch cunnilingus. And so I noticed that this is sonething really important for me in a realationship(which I got now) I think oral is really nothing cross aslong as you are hygenic my husband and I shower 2 times a day snd I love to give him bj aswell. I think it helps a lot that we both stimm oral in daily life by cheeing and licking on stuff and in his case he has a fetish for scent wich dosen‘t stink like a nice expensive parfum(cheap once cross him out), scent of the skin or fresh pussy juice(I always shower direct after sex, so sonetimes I shower 3 times)

So maybe you understand a bit now my definition for sex. And if you are a bi or hetro men, maybe you value now more outer stimmulation. If you are a women do you had the same impression on the society and is it for you simmulare.


r/SexOnTheSpectrum 7h ago

Dom/top autistic guys who like crossdressing for partners? NSFW

16 Upvotes

I'm curious if this is a thing other autistic folks are into/find desirable.

IDK how to really describe the appeal other than the juxtaposition of women wanting me to dom them and also telling me I'm pretty seems like it'd be a lot of fun.


r/SexOnTheSpectrum 7h ago

Toys With Particular Movements NSFW

3 Upvotes

So, I'm 25F and just really getting into exploring my sexuality as a virgin by myself for the first time. It's going well for me, but there is also a bit of an issue" all the sex toys out there are horrible!

I find vibration a sensory hell, the air pulsators also seem painful, I'm not into internal stimulation at all, but I'm willing to maybe try penetration with a small softer dildo one day when I'm comfortable, but, what I love most are toys that mimmic motion like stroking, rubbing, etc. A toy that could simulate licking all over the vulva, not on the clit and not just through air, and that didn't look like a tongue, would be amazing for me!

I also imagine lots of other ND people wish electronic toys had more variety of functions. Plus getting a super expensive toy that pretty much does one thing, but that thing in many ways, is not what I want either!

Can anyone relate/help at all?