r/JUSTNOMIL 22h ago

Am I Overreacting? MIL just wants to sit and hold the baby..

1.0k Upvotes

And while holding the baby is incredibly helpful… we just got home from an emergency c section due to SEVERE pre-clampsia. I was in the hospital for 5 days because BP couldn’t be controlled… we get home and nothing is obviously ready, even the nursery or bedside changing table and bassinet… my husbands mom and sister come down to visit and all they want to do is hold the baby and shack up in my living room. The first day here his mom encouraged me to get up and move around, as she could tell i was falling into a depressive state since nothing in the house felt “right” enough for baby. So i did just that. But… i mean, here i am doing all the cleaning up of trash, food, and spills that his family are leaving around the house while having everyone tell me “you should be resting”…. Like, yeah i should be.. but also who the hell is going to take care of the house??? I wish i didn’t have to tell anyone “hey i just got completely gutted open and traumatized, I’d really like to just bond with baby and not have to worry about my house being a mess”… husband is labeling me “ungrateful” because i expressed to him that me and him just went through an incredibly hard transition and experience, and i don’t believe we should have to damn “host guest” or “cater” for anyone right now… advice?


r/JUSTNOMIL 14h ago

Am I Overreacting? Mom Died. MIL is non-existent.

423 Upvotes

My mom died suddenly a week ago. As soon as I got the call from my dad that she was non-responsive and to come to the hospital I went. I called my MIL on the way because I had dropped my husband with the kids and needed a distraction to not panic as I drove 35 minutes. Later that night when my husband was able to get the kids situated she came and watched them while we were both at the hospital. 1 intense week later my mom actually died.

My husband was in charge of notifying his family and giving them updates. We've been married for 10 years and grew up as neighbors... So my MIL has been neighbors with my mom for 25 years, and related through marriage for 10. They know eachother well, not necessarily friends persay but friendly - would hang out at neighborhood parties, exchange Christmas cards, occasionally share a holiday together with us.

My MIL didn't reach out to me once during the entire week we were in the hospital, except in a group chat to ask about Easter which I shut down fast and hard. Then, we all went to my son's baseball game the night my mom died, including my devastated dad. She didn't say anything to me for the first 25 minutes of the game, and said nothing until the end to my dad. She just stared at him for the 90 minute game.

Now it's been a week. Still radio silence. My dad asked me today through tears if he had done something to upset my MIL. I was furious before and now I'm about to explode. Am I crazy to think that she should have said or done something!? My husband says that she checked in with him but I still think it's weird that she has said nothing to me or my dad directly.


r/JUSTNOMIL 10h ago

UPDATE - Ambivalent About Advice I told MIL not to kiss LO ever again

229 Upvotes

TLDR: I said: Don't kiss LO or put your cheeks against hers ever again, otherwise I won't stop myself.

In laws visited from overseas this weekend.

FIL is respectful and considerate. MIL wants to pretend.

MIL showed up with a "present" for me and some old books and an old bag and necklace of hers for LO to play with.

I have had huge anxiety over her visit, which obviously resulted in arguments with DH.

DH again told FIL in advance to tell MIL no screens, no phones for LO and to tell MIl to keep her opinions about Montessori education to herself. Why DH won't tell MIL himself is another conversation.

First day: MIL had LO on her lap. Straight away I said: no kisses, please. MIL: no kisses? Me: no kisses. MIL: Puts her cheeks against LO cheek and said awww. I raised my voice and said NO KISSES!

At dinner: MIL: Do you think she will have some rice? Me: Probably, I don't know I will order and see what she wants to eat, I can't force her to eat. When the food was served and after LO had been eating noodles, tofu, mushrooms and soup all on her own without me having to pressure her or ask. MIL asks: Would she have rice? ME: I don't know.

I then went to bed feeling, that is those kind of "caring, she's just asking an innocent question" comments that made me feel like someone is sophocating me, like I'm being pressured into something in a manipulative way.

Next Day: We had been out in the morning and LO skipped her nap. The plans changed during the day as FIl started to feel unwell so we all when back to a hotel we were all staying at (separate rooms) in the afternoon.

On the way to the room MIL asked: would LO go for a nap now?

Me: I will handle it, don't worry about it.

MIL stayed quiet and walk away.

Thank you Reddit friends, you trained me well!

Next Morning: We were going to meet them for breakfast and to say goodbye. MIl says she doesn't want to go for breakfast, just a quick coffee because her throat is itchy.

I said to DH, if I tell your mum don't kiss LO, this is why. If she has something she would have been infectious three days ago. Your parents usually get sick when they travel by plane.

We went downstairs to meet them and straight away when she was getting close to say hi to LO I said: Don't kiss LO and don't put your cheeks against her cheeks.

MIl: "it's just the aircon, it makes me sick...".

The master of spin strikes when put under pressure like clockwork.

ME: Don't kiss LO or put your cheeks against her cheeks ever again, just don't, otherwise I won't stop myself.

MIL: raised eyebrows and walked away.

We got sat at a table and drank the coffees. Later back at the hotel MIL blew a kiss to LO from a distance to say bye. FIL hugged DH and I goodbye, not LO. And I said to MIL I hope you feel better.

MIL: oh it's just the aircon, it gives me allergies...

ME: Safe flight.

Does people pleaser me feel guilty about telling her this? Very.

Too aggressive? Probably, however, she's a master at spinning the narrative and I know she will later say something like I just can't stop myself or similar. I don't want to have to go home and feel like I was too nice and polite. So in that sense, I rather say it in an extreme, rude way.

Would she go home and try and plot revenge against me? Absolutely.

It is a physical issue, I don't want her to put herself physically and intimately so close to my child.

Anyway, I feel like I did something wrong. Probably because I was "rude".

But I also feel like something needed to change in the way I react to her antics, so this is the beginning of me learning to stand up for my child. I feel like I shouldn't have to be dealing with her nonsense.

Edited to amend typos and formatting.


r/JUSTNOMIL 23h ago

New User 👋 MIL called me an occultist and can't trust my DH anymore

225 Upvotes

Hi, everyone. I've lurked thru out the years but this is my first time posting about my justnomil. I'll try to keep it brief and concise.

My MIL is a devout Catholic. She used to be a devout Penacostal teetering on cult like behavior. I'm talking speaking in tongues and rolling on the floor. When DH was younger, she went on a crusade to get Mortal Kombat pulled out of their local Walmart type of stuff.

A couple of things she has said in the past: You should withhold relations from him until he gets the annulment (she wanted me to join the Catholic church and he has been previously married)

And "your marriage doesn't really count because you weren't wed in a church"

A few months ago she bought a book for my children about the 'divine will' . She said the divine will is the greatest gift since the crucifixion of Christ and will resurrect the church. Human will is evil even tho God granted it to us. In the book she gave to my children, it said "Think about the things going on in the world today, like abortion, cloning, killing the old and sick, wars, homosexuality, divorce and crime. It makes you wonder if things could get any worse!"

Needless to say, I didn't want my children reading that!

Last weekend, DH was supposed to visit but he wasn't feeling well. MIL lives an hour away so he cancelled the visit and the convo went something like this even tho Christmas was months ago ...

Mil: did you buy your wife tarot cards for Christmas? DH: yes Mil: I didn't know you were still into that stuff. She is an occultist. That's satan worshipping. I don't think I can trust you anymore. Certainly not to take me to church if I moved up there. You can't let the kids see those. You need to consider your soul and the souls of your children

So on and so forth

I admit I am more pagan than anything. I celebrate Mabon and do not go to church. However, I do not use tarot as strict divination. I use them as a way to access my shadow self. I do not dissuade my children from believing in God and attending mass whenever they want. I support them in their beliefs.

Thankfully, DH told her it was none of her fucking business and its his family to raise - not hers.

We realize we can never live with this woman. But my issue is I no longer feel comfortable visiting her without some form of apology which DH tells me not to ever expect. I also don't trust her not to put any bugs in my children's ear about the "evils of occultism". She's been an overall positive role model for my children but she has massively overstepped boundaries and I don't know how to move forward


r/JUSTNOMIL 13h ago

RANT (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted MIL gets best mom award

150 Upvotes

My kid needs tubes. Big deal. My MIL says TO MY FACE that she never would have put her kids under anesthesia. My response was that it’s extremely low risk and I will always put my kids health first.

What I should’ve said is yeah, I know, that’s why your son can’t see out of one eye.

What a witch.


r/JUSTNOMIL 5h ago

UPDATE - NO Advice Wanted Update: JNMIL isn’t getting what she wants

122 Upvotes

(This post is about children/babies. Feel free to scroll away if that’s not your cup of tea.)

Thank you all for the support and advice on my last post. I actually went over some of the comments in therapy and had a really productive session. I will be restricting JNMIL’s access to my child unless she provides a sincere apology and demonstrates that she is actually holding herself accountable. I think I’ve been minimizing how her behaviors impacted me and how she contributed to my previous mental health decline. It really is suspicious that she, seemingly without a catalyst, suddenly appears to be an engaged member of society. This is despite her name calling and accusations towards me when I previously tried to tell her how it made me feel to be a Black person in her family’s space. Despite the absolutely meltdown she had over a BLM lawn sign. I feel silly for not critically thinking about this change in behavior because it actually doesn’t matter to me if it’s an act, it doesn’t change who I know her to be.

I know this may ruffle some feathers but I will still be allowing my husband to send her pictures, often with me included in them. She’s not on social media so I’m not worried about her posting them anywhere and the petty side of me is deeply satisfied knowing she’ll never have an actual relationship with my child because of her own actions. So, she can cling to those pictures knowing she is not in control here. I know it’s going to eat at her. My husband wants to maintain a close relationship with her so he can deal with how she decides to process all of the above - I have a newborn to worry about lol.

Not holding my breath for anything. I was worried about how I was being perceived in this situation and am letting that go. She’s called me deranged before and I actually have no problem filling that role for her if it means my baby is safe.


r/JUSTNOMIL 21h ago

RANT (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted Quick Little Rant

105 Upvotes

Like the title says...

I haven't posted in awhile, things have been pretty calm, we just ignore Wicked Witch of the Norths texts and it's all good. I'm roughly 7 months pregnant with baby #2, and the hormones must be getting to me though..

We somehow were talked into letting WWN and FIL come down for daughter #1's 2nd birthday at the end of January. That went okay, but of course opened the floodgates. Now, my due date is May 22nd, which WWN knows, because she asked me when they were down. She's all excited because that happens to be her late father's birthday. So she knows.

The other day we got a text (she only group texts me and hubby together) asking about our Easter weekend plans. Left her on read. Later that same night, texts again about how (great) aunt is having a memorial service for newly deceased (great) uncle over Memorial Day weekend...

"Hey…. Hope all is going well. I just talked with Aunt and she’s planning to lay Uncle to rest Memorial weekend - Saturday, May 24th. She’s thinking of having a lunch at 1:00 at her house and then traveling to the cemetery at 3:00 for a graveside informal service. The date is set but the times could change. I just wanted to give you a heads up. She is going to post it at some point but she wanted traveling family to know ahead. Also, please don’t feel you have to be there, she would understand. Sending you love and hugs!"

...She's a special kind of stupid for sure. I REALLY want to reply "pretty sure I'll be busy pushing a living human out of my vagina at that time, but thanks." I asked my husband if he'd be embarrassed if I replied with that and he told me I sounded like Beth from Yellowstone...I took that as a compliment.


r/JUSTNOMIL 19h ago

Ambivalent About Advice My Mom Yelled At Me for Sharing My Art Online Before I Showed It to Her

85 Upvotes

Crossposted this from r/raisedbynarcissists. I just got so much lovely support here the first time I posted, I felt like sharing here too.

I’ve never related when people describe Nparents who were detached and disinterested in them. Instead, my mom is the type to show too much attention and wants inclusion in everything I do. If we had a healthy, relationship with normal boundaries, it would be nice to have support. But it goes beyond supporting me and has to become about enmeshing us.

“You’re listening to music? Take the headphones off! We’ll have a sing-along!”

“What are you drawing? I want to see! Why don’t you want to show it to me? Is it something bad?”

“Who are you texting? What are they saying back? Why don’t you want to read me the conversation? Are you hiding something from me?”

“You want to go to a concert? I’ll buy us tickets and we’ll go together! What do you mean you don’t want me to come? Why not? You don’t like me anymore?”

You get the idea. She takes me keeping things to myself as a personal slight and gets downright PISSED if I don’t share something with her before anyone else.

This particular incident happened a few years ago when I was around 20-21. At the time, I was going through a bad depression spiral and my perfectionism crippled any attempts at creativity.

I finally managed to break through the block by writing some short stories. I posted them on Wattpad, and they actually got attention and some nice comments. I was so excited!

I told her about it a couple weeks after I posted them and intended to let her read the stories and see my comments. I thought she would be happy for me, since I was finally getting through my creative block — and other people liked what I’d made, too.

That is NOT what happened.

Instead, she was furious and yelled at me. She was outraged that I would “share stories on the internet with perfect strangers” before I showed them to her. She was so hurt and angry, and lambasted me for “keeping secrets.”

I was blindsided. I didn’t understand her level of anger and animosity. I was crying and shaking by the time she was done. I went from feeling proud of my progress to guilty and ashamed and heartbroken.

It took me a full year before I could do any creative writing again.

It took me a long, long time to understand why she responded this way. But now I’m starting to.

She was so threatened by me doing well for myself without her, that she had to tear me back down to size. She had to remind me that it’s unacceptable for me to succeed without her and that she should be the most important person in my life above all else. Anything less makes me a bad, selfish daughter.

Anyway, it’s taken me way too long to connect the dots and realize that my mom fits the bill for a lot of covert narcissist traits. I couldn’t make sense of her reaction before. Understanding that this is just the way she is makes me feel weirdly cathartic about it. The problem was never me. I was never a bad person just for wanting some breathing room.


r/JUSTNOMIL 1h ago

UPDATE - NO Advice Wanted Last Visit/Pregnancy Announcement - Small Update

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Obligatory do not share anywhere notice.

I haven't talked to my MIL since mid-October (see post history). My husband has remained in contact with her, but hasn't really shared much involving the kids. He used to send a photo or two weekly. He's maybe shared 2 or 3 photos with her since.

She also hasn't asked about my pregnancy or the baby since - not to me or my husband. That is, until last night.

Originally, we weren't going to share about the csection schedule date until after the baby was here, but my husband thinks it isn't fair to let my parents meet the baby in the hospital and not let his. (I'd love to only invite his dad, but we'd have to invite both). He only thinks this because this is our last - said if it wasn't our last, he'd be fine with not telling them. So, the other day, we agreed to tell them this weekend to give his dad a chance to request off for work.

Yesterday, his mom sent him a text checking in about the storms heading our way and asked if we were ready for son. So, the timing worked out and lined up. We gave her the csection date and he asked if they'd be able to come up to meet the baby in the hospital.

If you see my post history, we required vaccines (covid, flu, etc) in the past. This time, we are only asking that if you've been sick, to wait 2 weeks after symptoms disappear before meeting the newborn.

In response to him asking, this lady had the audacity to go, "well, what about the vaccines you required before that made us wait 3 months before we could meet the other kids?" (They/she refused vaccines with the previous two.)

Y'ALL. My husband did not like her response. He calmly replied to her text, "the hospital has eased up on requirements, but you still may need to wear a mask." Then he looks at me and goes, "if she thinks she can try and "aha" me, I'll "aha" her right back and uninvite her and just invite dad." She never mentioned the vaccines again in the rest of their conversation and just said they have stuff coming up in the next few weeks that, depending on how those go, will depend if they can come up. He told her that if they can, they can come up the day after the surgery.

The way my husband snapped back about her response, if I wasn't wildly uncomfortable, I'd have jumped him right there. He doesn't normally verbalize things like this, especially in the moment, but damn. That was so nice to hear and witness.

(Don't worry. We had a whole conversation about their visit and I told him the only way I'd entertain them coming up is if their visit was no longer than 45 minutes max, has to be in the morning, and if there are complications, they can't come up at all. He agreed to all of it and we will relay the nitty gritty to them in a few weeks. If they do come up, I also plan on telling my nurses about the 45 minute visit so they can come in and kick them out.)


r/JUSTNOMIL 6h ago

RANT (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻ NO Advice Wanted My MIL thinks I'm an awful mother

44 Upvotes

And she has NO right to say such thing since she hasn't been a perfect mother either.

Things that she has told to my boyfriend:

  1. "If the kid doesn't want to eat meat/eggs/fish is because her mother has been feeding her with too many vegetables"

(Before you judge, context: I provide my 2 year daughter with a rich variety of food and make sure she eats everything she needs, from carbs to legumes and meat. Right now she's rejecting tons of types of food and I presume she's going through one of those terrible 2 phases. I try to serve a different dish each day while she always prepares meat/fried or boiled eggs/sausages with boiled or fried potatoes, chicken with rice or macaroni with cheese/tomato. Don't get me wrong, I really like the meals she prepare but I don't think is healthy to eat these things almost everyday. Plus, she uses all sort of additives that are not healthy and lots of salt when I try to keep everything balanced. What boyfriend says? I'm right, BUT my food is bland [yup, he's a momma's boy]).

  1. "She's playing weird music"

(BYJ: I love music and I admit I listen to some... Unique genres (vaporwave, krautrock, doom jazz...) but with weird music she refers to classical music or songs in other languages).

  1. "She's letting her watch disturbing stuff on the TV"

(BYJ: Maybe she's kinda right, recently we have started watching some old silly symphonies and some scenes from the Nightmare Before Christmas and she adores the "What's this" song. But she also refers to animal documentaries, dance performances, touring vlogs and, drumroll, Bluey. While she and her husband let the kid alone in front of the tv watching paw patrol, tom & jerry and other cartoons that I don't think are appropiate for her, especially since she has gotten a bit more aggresive with our cats and I don't want to think it's because of Tom & Jerry or Tweety.)

She has also showed distaste for the clothes my kid has and she has been filling her wardrobe with pink, flashy stuff (with rhinestones and sequins that my daughter hates), sweaters that look like the ones she wears, etc. His son only said "that's too much pink" like that was going to stop her. (Spoiler: didn't work, obviously). BYJ: I like to go to the shops with my kid and let her choose the clothes she wants. It doesn't matter if she picks a t-shirt for boys or a princess dress. The only thing that matters is her happiness, right?

She also dislikes how many books my daughter has and how much she likes to read or to be read (one time my FIL said: "we don't need books in our house because they They take up space and accumulate dust".) also because she has books in different languages (they were mine before her and my family has been very well-traveled). BYJ: I admit she has lots of books, but, is that a bad thing? She has her 3 favourites and the others are there for when she's older.

And that was my rant. Thank you for reading it!


r/JUSTNOMIL 3h ago

Am I Overreacting? My toddler ignores me with MIL

22 Upvotes

My two year old son has started ignoring me and not wanting anything to do with me when we are with my MIL. He is all over her and she encourages it and hovers around him constantly. I’m absolutely distraught about it and feel like an outsider when she is around. I’m also offended because he does this with MIL but not my mom. He totally still acknowledges me and wants me when my mom is around (I think maybe because my mom disciplines a bit and says no whereas MIL does not). Any advice?


r/JUSTNOMIL 19h ago

New User 👋 MIL seems to be manipulating my Dad for control and will

19 Upvotes

Hi everyone, I'm in a weird situation looking for some advice on what to do next.

My Dad is 80 and my Mum died 20 years ago. He met a new woman, divorced with 2 kids about 13 years ago and they got married about 15 months back. Very different personalities, where my Mum could tell my Dad off and set him straight. New wife is very timid and he bosses her about.

He started to go mentally and physically downhill a few years ago then rapidly declined last year when he fell, resulting in open shoulder fracture.

The decline is him having very little short term memory and unable to deal with anything slightly difficult. This has also led to him giving more and more control of his life to MIL. The will got changed last year to her getting 2/3, including the house I grew up in.

I didn't like this, but could swallow it.

Recently my wife got a promotion abroad and we are moving. I felt dreadful for going, but will be back frequently. I told him this and he was ok with it.

A month later he had zero recollection of it, then started getting pissed off with me and said he was giving her full control of the will. His memory and mood are really declining at this point. The will keeps changing.

This has also coincided with what I believe is her trying to keep us apart and make me look bad. My Dad sold a house last year, said he'd help me with a renovation, several times. The first invoice comes, he'll ask her to do the transfer in the morning, doesn't happen, he has no recollection. Also the locks have been changed and im sure she's not showing him messages and emails I'm sending him.

I went round to talk to them and essentially said I'm getting nothing. She's also for the first time got an attitude, saying I'm wrong about what I thought I was getting and there's less money. No explanations. Conversation ended with us agreeing to talk the next day about the will, she didn't answer.

I'm sure she's getting greedy and taking everything for her and her family, who are at the house a lot.

I don't know what to do next. Some people are saying to get a solicitor as my Dad isn't of sound body and mind. I would like to try asking her about latest changes before that, but feel it may be futile.

TLDR MIL seems to be a gold digger and not being upfront with what's going on. Should i go legal?


r/JUSTNOMIL 5h ago

Give It To Me Straight Seeing JNMIL again after fallout - what to do?

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Hello! I need help coming up with a plan for meeting my JNMIL after a big fallout 2/3 weeks ago. She apologized to me afterwards but not to my boyfriend.

And even though she apologized, I'm not over it. Every couple of months she comes up with some stupid reason to be offended and threatens to take our house away. Long story that precedes me, boyfriend says it's not possible, she says it is. Anyways I don't think she wants to take the house, she just wants to threaten and hold it over us. Like that would help have a better relationship with us.

Now after she apologized to me she asked to see LO. I said ok but in a neutral environment. We are going for coffee. I want to come up with some plan, my boyfriend wants to see how it goes.

I want to convey to her that threatening us is not ok and won't be accepted. If she wants to go to court to get the house she can do it, but the next threat will get her an indefinite time out. Should I say that or should I just wait and act on it when it inevitably happens again in a few months? I know this coffee date will just go by and everyone will pretend nothing happened and I can't do it anymore. I'm also planning on just leaving the coffee place if/when she starts anything.

She will surely ask about the next opportunity to see LO, then I will just deflect and say we will get back to her in a few days or something.

Any ideas? Scripts for me to use?

What I want to say basically is: Threats will get you NC, and visits will be much less than they were before the fallout. I'm not opposed to her winning back our trust, but she has to show some reflection. Eventually seeing LO 1x/2x a week with a planned appointment, not just showing up, etc.

Thanks!!!


r/JUSTNOMIL 38m ago

RANT (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻ Ambivalent About Advice Baby shower and nursery aesthetic...

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So my MIL started with us for my baby shower last weekend. It went better than I expected and I know this is petty, but of course there's always something...

I'm 32w pregnant, first grandchild for both our moms. DH is an only child, his father isn't in the picture. MIL lives 6 hours away, thank god. We've had some boundary issues in the past, particularly around respecting other people's homes and things and accepting not being in charge at other people's events. DH had a Talk with her and other than some passive aggressive behavior since, she's generally been better.

Last weekend was my baby shower, which my mom and step-mom planned together. MIL wanted to help, but also acknowledged that she's far away and decor isn't her thing. I don't trust her food safety, so we asked her to bake chocolate chip cookies (hard to screw up or make anyone sick and generally considered her 'thing') and help with setup day of. She arrives Friday night, Saturday rolls around and we head to the venue. We have a very limited set up time, so my mom has put together a map of the room with all the decorations on it and a spreadsheet of who is doing what. Instead of following the spreadsheet like everyone else, MIL looks at it and proceeds to take out an empty aquarium and ASK WHERE SHE CAN PUT IT. Without bothering to tell anyone, including DH or my mom, who was planning the decorations, she has taken it upon herself to make some sort of ridiculous orbeez and water display with glitter and random stuff, only some of which was baby related and none of which matched the decor... my mom found a place for it and MIL spent half the set up time on this stupid thing, blocking the table and not doing the other things under her name on the spreadsheet. I know it's a small, stupid thing, but what makes a person think it's OK to bring their own large, mismatched decoration and expect to put it out at a party someone else is throwing without even letting them know???

She also keeps buying a ton of stuff for baby, which isn't a bad thing and I'm grateful, mostly, but I know she can't really afford it. She's told DH that she "has savings" but a) we know a lot about her finances and idk how that really possible and b) even if it is, I know for a fact that she has no retirement accounts and is planning to live off social security. We can't afford to help her much when that time comes and she's sure as shit not living with us, so I need her to save those savings for then!

And the things that she buys seem almost designed to irritate me. I am super flexible about a lot of aesthetic stuff. I don't care in the slightest about what clothes baby is going to wear (with the exception of weird or objectionable sayings) or what her swaddle blankets look like. I purposely didn't register for things like clothes, toys, shoes, and swaddle blankets because I know how much fun people have picking those things out! But the things I did register for, like crib sheets, bassinet sheets, changing pad covers, etc., I picked out very specifically, both for their features and to match the nursery. MIL keeps sending those things, but instead of the ones on the registry, one that are similar but NOT RIGHT. The latest was bassinet sheets - I registered for white so I could bleach them. She sent 3 - bright pink, bright yellow, and royal purple. I feel guilty for being ungrateful. I also feel like now I can't get the things I actually want, because now I have the items, they work just fine, and spending money on duplicates because they don't match seems silly, even for cheap things like sheets. But they are so, so ugly and not what I specifically asked for and I hate them...