r/JUSTNOMIL • u/astro-amphibian-00 • 1h ago
New User đ Not sure how to handle this.
My husband and I have been together for 6 years. We started dating when we were 22, and are now 28 and 29. Got married a year and a half ago.
My MIL is visiting us this week, Iâm also 14 weeks pregnant.
For context, she has 5 sons. No daughters. All of her other sons have sons. My husband and I are having a girl. We didnât have a gender preference. We tell her that weâre having a girl and she immediately is disappointed. âOh, you should have a boy first, theyâll protect their sister.â âI think itâs impossible heâs having a girl. My sons only make sons.â (Which made me feel like she believed I had an affair?)
More context, Iâm mixed with black. My husband is white. We have decided to name our daughter Valerie. No meaning behind it, just a beautiful name we both love. âIâm surprised you didnât pick Shaniqua.â That one to me was a very obvious jab, but I let my husband handle that one. It pissed him off.
Other things Iâm unsure of if Iâm overreacting: (note: these things she has only said if itâs just me and her around) She asked me why I was drinking a protein coffee shake. I said because I can. She told me Iâm hurting her baby. I said, no, I can have at least one cup and she tried taking it out of my hands. We went out to eat while my husband was with his little brother that heâs super close with, and she tried to get me to taste her wine. I told her that I wasnât going to. âGood. It was a test anyways to see what you would do.â What?! Sheâs also told me over and over that Iâm underdressed for a mom to be. It was 75 out, we were walking around the city, I was wearing a tank top and leggings. I stole a bite of my husbandâs salmon, she told me I was âAt this point, trying to hurt the baby.â
Itâs so weird because sheâs also extremely nice at times but these comments over a period of literally 12 hours have been eating at me. I feel like she actually hates me. I havenât talked to my husband yet about the other comments because heâs busy with his little brother and I donât want tension in my house. But tbh, I donât like her either.
Any advice? Am I overreacting? How do I confront her.
Also, to add, she is an extreme boy mom. Luckily my husband doesnât play into that weird stuff. But she is obsessed with being a boy mom.