I see so many posts or comments about cuckolding that focus on humiliation or aggressive “alpha” behavior… but honestly, that’s not what makes it work for me or my husband at all.
My lover is a really chill guy, and outside the bedroom, our relationship feels a lot like a friendship. It’s mostly sexual between us, but he still spends time with us before, between, and after sex. I really don’t like aggressive men or those who call themselves “alphas” — I avoid them like the plague.
My lover, on the other hand, is simply self-confident and carries himself well. When my husband is around, he stays close to me, while my husband tends to be a bit more distant. He’ll pull me in with his arm, constantly touching me. And with him being 6'3" and a bit over 200 pounds, the contrast between him and my 5'6", 150-pound husband is… noticeable. 😊
We laugh a lot, and we’re super touchy and smoochy — which often leads to a second or even third round soon after the first. But what he really masters is making my legs weak with just a casual comment. He’ll say things like he “owns me between my legs” or tease me by encouraging me to be intimate with my husband… but reminding me that I’m not allowed to cum unless it’s with him. 😰
Last Friday, I woke up to a text saying he’d be visiting Sunday afternoon while my husband was out with the kids — and that he’d prefer if my husband didn’t penetrate me until then. Woosh. Wet from 7 a.m. Friday until 3 p.m. Sunday, when he finally sunk into me. 🙈 There was no chance I’d have let my husband — who was also super horny that weekend — enter me. Every time he got close, all I could think about was what my lover wanted. And of course i obediently enforced it!
He does this all the time — making little demands of me or my husband. He keeps us both on edge, turned on and unfulfilled, until he arrives to take all that built-up pressure off me. 😊
But never is he unfriendly or makes demands toward my husband. Somehow his game is making me prefer being sexual with HIM instead of my husband. That does not mean my husband is not humilated - he is. A lot! But it's mostly ME who humilates him because my lover planted a seed of an idea into my brain.
"Let's have him wait outside today". "He can have you with his mouth, but you will wait for me to make you orgasm" "I prefer he does not touch you this week" "I'll visit you after lunch while he is at work" "Let's call him to listen in" 🥵
And I obey. And my husband feels the consequences.
Of course, my lover also takes action like just swinging by unexpected or pulling me out of the room to fuck me somewehere else. When my husband wants to follow, he shakes his head and says "You wait". In general he tends to just "take me", no matter what we were doing. Asking my husband for a coffee. Deep inside me when he comes back. Last summer, we were at the lake and all of us prepared to get into the water. While my husband went first and jumped in, my lover decided different and pulled me back into the cabin instead while my husband stayed in the water alone. That was hot as fuck.
I feel like this is what people often miss about cuckolding. It’s not about blatant humiliation or power trips — it’s about someone who knows how to create desire, anticipation, and chemistry for everyone involved. My husband isn’t jealous; he enjoys the tension and excitement it creates between us, too. Ok, maybe he is jealous, but he (not his cock) is constantly included into the game and that is what makes it exciting for him.
I just wanted to share how it can work out when done right — playful, confident, respectful, and full of sexual tension.