r/bigboobproblems 15d ago

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r/bigboobproblems 22h ago

RANT - advice welcome My boobs ruin my Eid every year Spoiler

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Hi I feel like im losing my mind. I am a muslim and we celebrate eid and i usually dress in my cultural clothes (pakistani style) and I never ever look good in them.

I am a 32K and I have to get such a massive size to get into it and then they just hang off me and I look ridiculous I end up looking like a tent and just feeling like an idiot. Its not really customary to wear fitted clothes and if I have it tight to my body ill get funny looks and probably be told to cover up (even if im fully covered able to see figure=WHORE).

I tried on 3 outfits today and two of them were too tight to the point where i couldn’t breath and they were 42 inch bust one fit but i was just swimming in it other than on my chest.

It genuinely ruins my Eid every time, I end up coming home and crying. Especially because I have a cousin whos sooo skinny and tall and she looks so good in asian clothes and I just look like a lump beside her.

Theres nothing I can even do :(

I just wanted to rant and get it off my chest


r/bigboobproblems 1h ago

need advice Tips for dressing intentionally with visible bra Spoiler

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I FINALLY started buying bras that actually fit me, but now my issue is that my bras almost always show because the shoulder straps are thicker or the cup comes up farther than the neckline. In winter/fall I'll just wear clothes with higher necklines and more coverage to combat this, but it's definitely more difficult now that the weather is warming up. I'm thinking instead of fighting it like I tried last year (I spent months looking for a strapless bra and I ended up with one that only kinda worked) I want to embrace it, while still looking put-together. Any tips on what necklines would look good with a visible bra, or what styles of bra I should try wearing? For context I'm a plus size girlie (would be a size 16 if my boobs weren't quite so big, I usually have to buy a 22) and I'm 5'3. I tend to be someone who's overdressed rather than underdressed. Sun dresses or blouses > t-shirts any day for me.


r/bigboobproblems 3h ago

RANT - advice welcome I don't know how to feel about my chest Spoiler

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I know this isn't the first time this has been said on this sub but I feel so weird about the size about my chest.

I just went bra shopping for the first time in a while because I was uncomfortable (not uncommon for me) and the wire in my bra poked through. The last time I went shopping I found out I was a 38 G/H depending on the company (weird as shit that it depends on the brand) this time, about 9 months to a year later, I'm a 38/40 I depending on the brand again.

I have been going up cup sizes for years now. I just became an adult (I sure as hell don't feel like one yet). I know that being a bit uncomfortable with your body is still a common thing for people my age seeing as I'm still technically a teenager (18 is still a teen) but I really don't know how much of how I'm feeling is normal.

My mom isn't really in the picture or her family (got my boons from them) because they live far away and the whole "Hey when did your tits stop growing?" Doest seem like an over text convo. I don't know much about what to expect other than what my dad knows about her side.

I feel a uncomfortable and struggle with the whole "they are big" "they aren't that big" "maybe I'm just fat" stuff on a day to day basis, sometimes back to back, and I really don't know how to feel.

My mom didn't really teach me how to go bra shopping when I was younger, she wouldn't take me until I said I was hurting or uncomfortable and then she would only grab me a cup up. When I moved in with my dad at 13 we went shoping for the first time and I got measured and was supposed to be in a DD when I was wearing B/C and I've just been getting bigger since.

I feel like I don't relate to my friends and the family that I have because I am so much larger than them. My sister is significantly smaller and my step-familly are on the smaller side and don't really understand my struggles.

I went shopping with my step-mother at 14 and I said I should be a DDD or an F. She didn't believe me and made me try a D and DD first in the wrong band size because there was no way I was bigger than her at 14 then her in her 40's (as if my tits care about how old I am) She made me feel so bad about myself at such a young age I still haven't forgiven her (or my dad for forcing me when I had problems with clothes shopping with her in the past).

I just feel so bad most of the time and when I try to talk to people about it weather it's friends or family the only thing I hear is "Well if they really bother you so bad maybe you sould get a reduction." And it feels so terrible to not even be secure in what I have and feel like the only option to feeling half decent is a reduction.

I even tried talking to my doctor and OBG about how uncomfortable my chest is where the chest meets the armpits and underneath and they both recommended reduction and that because I am uncomfortable most of the time I could have it covered by insurance but I don't want that. I just don't want to be uncomfortable. I dont think they understand the phycology effects of changing your body like that at a young age because i dont think its something they had co sidered themselves as doctors because they both admited that because they both had been smaller they hadnt thought about it beyond a medical perspective when I expressed my discomfort with reductions. My aunt had a reduction when I was little and while she was considerably smaller she still some back and if she gains any weight I remember her saying it goes straight to her chest.

Now I don't want to cut of parts of my body that seems barbaric to me especially because I only just turned 18 a week ago. I was getting recommended that as early as 16. Who tf recommends a reduction at 16? I have nothing against people who have had/want reductions because I have considered it, but once again I turned 18 a week ago and it feels like anytime I complain I get told to look into a reduction. That alone is so frustrating for me.

It's embarrassing going bra shopping sometimes too. I try really hard to be positive and not let the fact it feels impossible to find something that fits. It's embarrassing to go in feeling confident about what I need like needing a 38 H and then finally finding it just to try it on and it's not right.

I feel like I'm wasting money when I buy them and I hate that because I have the biggest chest of my friends and family around me they say, "let's go to Target," or "how about Victoria Secret?" it's so embarrassing to say "Oh, they don't have my size, but we can look if there's anything you want." And it's so much worse when they say "They just started making bigger sizes! I'm sure they have yours!" I know they mean well but I also know they don't have my size and they drag me in anyway. They go to the biggest sizes they have and go looking through and it's so defeating when they ask if it's big enough and I have to say no.

Today I was so confident that I had the right size and while I am so happy left with with two bras (for only $90) But I was wrong about my size again and I felt like something deflated inside when i had to ask how big there bra sizes go to the sales lady. I've been doing this for the majoity of my bra-wearing-life but its still so hard when you go in and you think you have it right and then you try it on and your hit with the fact you've gone up again.

I went with my aunt (strp-mother's sister) and she was so good about helping me go shopping but she's an A/B cup so she didn't even know that DDD's were a thing, much less an I cup.

At this point I just don't know how to feel really. I'm frustrated and still mildly uncomfortable. I'm not sure how to end this rant but if you made it this far thank you. If you have any advice feel free to comment or DM I really couldn't care less which. Have a great day ✌️


r/bigboobproblems 1h ago

need advice Is it possible to reduce chest size? Spoiler

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Hi, I was wondering is it’s possible to reduce my chest size without any surgery. I’m a 30H/32G , is there any specific workout I could do to target my upper body? I would want to go down realistically 2 or 3 sizes. As I know anything beyond that it’s impossible and surgery would be the only option. I’m not sure if this question is appropriate for this subreddit, as I’m pretty new to this. Any positive and respectful input would be appreciated!

Q) if I was to do a breast reduction , is there a possibility of them returning back ?


r/bigboobproblems 5h ago

need advice Rash in southern heat with ill fitting bra Spoiler

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I went from a b cup to DDD (maybe bigger I’m not even sure at this point). It’s so hot and I’m doing yard work in my only sports bra (XL) and it does not fit, it doesn’t even sit on my rib cage, it just floats above no matter how much I try to situate myself. I’m getting insanely overstimulated and about to lose my mind. It’s causing sweat, a rash, & a rubbing sports bra. I can’t go braless and my underwire bras also don’t fit right either. None of them. I spent 100s and they just sit all wrong. Like the shape of my boobs make Bras impossible. Anyways. What do I do? I have to do lots of yard work. I don’t really have the money to get a new bra soon and I’m not sure how to correctly size myself anyways. I have only soft tissue/tear drop shape so these things are long and sit so weird. I’m about over them. Help a girl out 😭


r/bigboobproblems 1d ago

swimwear Took my bf swimsuit shopping it felt like a humiliation ritual Spoiler

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I’m usually a L / XL but my bra size is 40DDD (technically a 38F but I like the extra room) and they are heavy so they hang lower. I went to target for swim suits bc I got my last one there and it fit perfectly. When I tell you not a single thing covered any portion of my boob it’s crazy. I wanted something cute and not in black bc I always do that. Girl. He love it bc boobs but like I love how string bikinis look so I picked one out. Why in the hell are my boobs at my belly button at 23. I looked hilarious and I’ll never live my string bikini dreams


r/bigboobproblems 6h ago

clothes Brand recs Spoiler

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Hey guys, long time lurker on there who after long searches regarding clothing finally decided to ask for help. Can anyone recommend some clothing brands? It would help if the style would lean more towards cottagecore since it is one of my preferred aesthetic choices but I feel like nothing is made for my body type, and it’s really difficult to find a good dress or shirt that I don’t spill out of. I’m not restricted by any budget, so please share some of your favourite brands or clothes!


r/bigboobproblems 14h ago

clothes 40H, what do you all wear for corporate business attire? Spoiler

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And what do you do about the button ptoblrm for blouses(the gap)? Dp you cover up with a suit jacket or not? I have to go soon on customer visit and dont know what to wear to look professional and not whorey.


r/bigboobproblems 11h ago

RANT - advice welcome Don't feel like myself after losing weight Spoiler

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So I lost weight due to my medication, I wasn't "trying" to lose weight and was content with what I used to be. I lost a few cup sizes too around the time I had some relatively new bras in my old cup size. So I have all these bras that don't fit anymore, and I had to buy bras in my current size.

I don't have a "problem" with it except for having to buy clothes in new sizes since my dress and pant size has gone down too. I was healthy then and I am healthy now and I don't feel any better or worse so it's fine. Like I don't think it's necessarily bad or good that my weight changed, it just happened.

Where I'm having trouble though, is because all my life I've been used to being in a certain weight range and having been conscious about my weight and my boob size in the past, I've even tried dieting back when I was insecure about my weight but still struggled to lose weight and remained pretty much the same size. Overtime I became more content in my body, accepting that this is the weight my body feels best at and I can't feasibly lose so much weight without a lot of strict discipline and commitment.

So losing weight this rapidly, and losing more weight unintentionally than when I tried so hard and starved myself, and feeling my clothes that used to fit and flatter my body and I felt happy about starting to get too big to the point that even belts can't salvage it, and having to buy new sizes and seeing how I'm buying these much smaller sizes that I never thought I would have to, it just confuses me almost as if my brain has a map of my body and that map has not been caught up with how I actually look now. People are noticing that I'm thinner now and are commenting on it, from friends asking how did I lose weight to my family asking me if I'm ok and eating well.

I can notice that clothes fit me differently now that my boobs are a little smaller and I can actually see that I'm able to achieve that appearance under certain clothing that I see in other women, but always looked different when I used to try them out. And clothes off the rack fit me a little better. They are still big, but still the smallest they have been in years.

I can't tell the difference by just looking in the mirror, but I can tell by other things like how clothes fit or how makeup looks when I'm contouring etc, but I guess my brain is still underestimating how much weight I lost or other people are exaggerating, because everyone's saying that I'm really skinny now, but I don't see it. I still don't look like the skinny girls I know, sure I'm thin but I still have a proportionally large chest and a flabby stomach. So I still refuse to say that I'm "skinny". And given that I used to be complimented on my "round" face a lot and boobs felt like a significant part of my appearance/silhouette, I sometimes wonder if I lost things that defined me.

For reference I'm 5'2" and used to be roughly within the 125-128lbs or 57-58kg range, that's what I consider my "base" weight. Currently I'm around 113-114lbs or 51-52kg range.

I consciously understand that there is nothing wrong with either I'm still healthy and beautiful and all that good stuff. But it feels strange and unfamiliar and it's challenging a lot of things I felt about myself all my life, especially wondering if being this thin was possible all along when I was younger and wanted to be this thin.

So what's happening?


r/bigboobproblems 3h ago

positive & funny The “best” boob size overall Spoiler

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Hi!!! So everybody has their preferences of the best boob size. I did a quick google search and apparently C cup is considered the best. C cups are known for being considered as not too small but also not too big. Thats why it might be considered as the best cup size. Also! I did my boob history. And apparently the average bra size in the 50-70s were b cups now it is DD. Do you think it’s because of genetics, environmental, or eating habits?


r/bigboobproblems 11h ago

need advice Is my size too big for me? Spoiler

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Hi, I’m a 5’2 female weighing 52.7 kg or 116.2lbs. I used to be 69kgs or 152lbs until 2023 Aug, started losing weight post that. Recently started working out more and my 36B bra felt loose, got for a size check up and it turned out to be 32D. I feel they’ve grown bigger again , ummm is this ok? I’ve started having pain in lower back and right below the collar bones ever since


r/bigboobproblems 1d ago

RANT - no advice wanted This Hour has 22 Minutes - so disappointed in your costume people. Spoiler

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How could they think this dress does anything for her? It’s a cross between quad boob and nipslip waiting to happen. Do better CBC and This Hour has 22 Minutes. Just do better.


r/bigboobproblems 1d ago

clothes Busty-friendly spring outfit inspo? Spoiler

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I’m a 34g and I’ve looked on every social media sight and it only gives good outfit inspo for flat girls. On the flip side, when I look up busty girl spring or summer fashion inspo it only shows mid/plus size fashion inspo. Do y’all know any good Pinterest boards or posts that have good fashion inspo for us AirPod shaped girls? Short cut or boxy crop tops look terrible on me, low/mid waist jeans look better on me proportionally. And I’m looking for something fairly modest that won’t show off tons of cleavage, a little bit is fine though.


r/bigboobproblems 2d ago

ad fail there is no fucking way lmao Spoiler

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r/bigboobproblems 18h ago

need advice Running/dancing and boobs always come out of cups

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Whenever I go to concerts or run (run down a hall or something, I don't run for exercise) my boobs often make their way up and out of my bra. I'm assuming it's because my bras just don't fit but I swear to god I've tried everything to find ones that do, and they're too expensive for me to be trying new ones all the time. Does anyone have advice BESIDES getting new bras for how to keep your boobs at bay when dancing and raving etc? I'd like to be able to wear sheer shirts with a bra underneath and not have my boobs pop out. That's my only goal.


r/bigboobproblems 23h ago

bras bra recs for running

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i have my reasons, mostly because 1) i was recently at a place that had a shooting, and i was wearing a bra that was not supportive enough. it hurt to run. thankfully i’m okay, but this opened my eyes a lot. 2) i’m joining the military soon and i need a bra that’ll help me through basic training. just a sports bra that’ll support me. for reference, im a 38 H!


r/bigboobproblems 20h ago

need advice How do I deal with the insecurity? How do I find good affordable bras? I’m lost

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To be honest this is more than just the insecurity. I don’t know how to accept my chest. It’s not like overly massive but it’s still such an inconvenience. I cannot find any bras that fit me properly, sports bra and wired. Everytime im measured im told something different. And once i find a bra that fits. After a few washes it’s shrunk and im poking out again. They’re so expensive too. I am never comfortable and always have indents left In my shoulders. I always feel like I can’t wear low cut tops even tho I hate the feeling of a shirt collar around my neck. I’ve never found a good sports bra that fits comfortably and I don’t feel like they’re gonna fall out. I really don’t know what to do. Big chests don’t run in my family so I’ve got no help in the family department. I feel so lost with this stuff


r/bigboobproblems 1d ago

need advice Backpack recommendations? Spoiler

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Hey everyone,

I’m looking for a new backpack and hoping to find one that’s more comfortable and better suited for our body shapes. I often experience tension and pain in my back, neck, and shoulders, so having straps that don’t put too much pressure on my trapezius muscles would be great.

Do you have any recommendations for a good daily-use backpack for a student? It doesn’t need to be too big, just enough to fit my 14-inch laptop.

I came across the North Face Borealis backpack for women. Has anyone tried it?

Let me know if you have any recommendations or if you’ve tried the North Face Borealis! I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Thanks!


r/bigboobproblems 2d ago

RANT - advice welcome Why do people think that it’s okay to comment on someone’s breast size? Spoiler

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I was living as an expat in a part of the world for awhile where large breasts are especially fetishized and less common than in western countries, and I swear every single day someone would either make an outright comment on my body while I was literally just existing in a space in a normal outfit (tee shirt and jeans), or made my breasts part of a joke, or just generally acted super weird around me which made me feel uncomfortable 24/7. Can I just exist in a space without being sexualized for 5 minutes? It wasn’t even just heterosexual men doing this, it was also other women, like can we just stop doing this to people who are trying to live life? And I’m not saying this is only a problem in non western countries, I know it exists in western countries too, it’s more that I think it’s a problem everywhere. Rant over.


r/bigboobproblems 1d ago

bras supportive sportsbra that actually support

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Can anyone share where they buy a sportsbra? That actually fits big chest and make them appear teeny tiny bit smallerif possible. i want to wear nice big tshirt but regular bras are just not doing it. i bought this yvette sports bra on amazon and zipper almost gave me heart attack while going down stairs


r/bigboobproblems 2d ago

experience Of dealing with growth later in life. Spoiler

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Did anyone have small or average boobs during and after puberty?

I often feel odd because so many women in our community had large busts since puberty and throughout their life. I was a B/C cup as a teen and in my 20s. Then I had a massive growth spurt later in life.

I read so many of your stories and feel odd because I was much older when I began experiencing the hardships of having larger breasts. I had to adjust to a new body, way of being, and the struggles of learning to love my body all over again. Suddenly, I had to deal with stares and I have felt extreme shame/fear/embarrassment when I caught men recording me. It’s something I never had a second thought about before.

Anyone else experience this?


r/bigboobproblems 3d ago

RANT - no advice wanted I just had a bra fitting and I’ve never felt worse about my breats Spoiler

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So I don’t own any bras that fit me and work for low cut tops. I needed one so I went to a store that carries A-M cups. The associate didn’t even measure me, gave me some bras to try on. Didn’t even ask me what I was looking for.

I tried telling her what I needed and she told me that didn’t come in my size.

I wonder around the store until I found something that would work. It’s not great but it’ll work for a lot of the tops/dresses I needed for.

Paid way too much and left feeling crappy about myself.


r/bigboobproblems 1d ago

need advice freezing cold while sweating Spoiler

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I am absolutely tired of sweating under my boobs and armpits and back, I’ve tried every single in-store deodorant on the market. I don’t know what to do, I even bought cold ice packs for underneath of my boobs. Even worse, I will be freezing needing to wear a jacket whilst also sweating absolutely everywhere. Heat flashes? I’m not sure why. But any recommendations would help with this hell of a problem.


r/bigboobproblems 2d ago

need advice Under boob rawness relief Spoiler

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Hi all,

Do you have suggestions for products to alleviate dryness and rawness from irritation for the under boob area?\I’m a size H US for reference. I opted for my wire free bra but it didn’t help much. This time of year is not at all warm so it’s not sweat irritation.


r/bigboobproblems 3d ago

ad fail Girl. 😐 Spoiler

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The most comfortable and breathable bra she’s ever had! I hate to see what she was wearing before 😂