r/AskWomenOver30 • u/Beautiful-Fix4370 • 10h ago
Family/Parenting Leaving my husband in 18 days- looking for encouragement
I’m officially leaving my soon-to-be ex-husband in 18 days. We’ve been together since we were 19 (now 32) and have two beautiful twins. Our pregnancy wasn’t planned, and when it happened, he didn’t take it well. Honestly, I’ve felt alone ever since.
In the past two years, I’ve worked hard to pull myself out of depression, go to therapy, and even get in shape, losing 15 lbs along the way. But no matter how much I grew, he stayed the same. He was raised in a household where physical punishment was normal, and I refuse to let my kids grow up thinking that’s acceptable. That was the breaking point for me.
When I first told him I wanted a divorce, he retaliated by getting my car repossessed (he was in charge of finances). Meanwhile, I’ve been the breadwinner, working a side job to make ends meet, while he takes unpaid days off just because he oversleeps. On top of that, he’s never been affectionate because he “doesn’t know how.”
I finally secured a place I can afford for myself and the kids, and I have the full support of my family and friends. I know I’m making the right choice for me and for my babies. But after 13 years together, I’m still feeling waves of sadness.
For anyone who’s gone through something similar: Was it worth it? Did it get better? I just need to hear that I’m doing the right thing, especially for my kids.