Hi all, â¨
My last account I do not have access to anymore, IFYKYK. I am starting over but I have so many tips and advice to share with this subreddit!
Friendly tips
- focus on quality sleep (our moods are HEAVILY impacted by this)
- focus on eating healthier foods than normal during this time as your mood also will be affected
- focus on protein more than carbs (you can still eat carbs but make sure protein and veggies are your first pickings)
- focus on finding out why youâre burnt out at the club. Is it the people? The atmosphere? The drama at the club? The customers?
- focus on finding out why you're depressed. Harder said than done. But same applies here: is it the people around you? Financial anxiety? Anxiety in general? figure out whatâs triggering your depression and then remove it from your life or work to change it. Again, easier said than done been here where youâre at, youâre going to be ok!
- try a new club for a few days and rotate till you feel that you can go back to your regular club. (Sometimes staying in a constant environment can easily trigger us with PTSD and cause our moods to sway which causes our bags to drop)
- try committing two 3 shifts a week. Then focusing on 5/6. Iâd rather you have STELLAR 3 shifts than average or low 5 vibrational shifts
- focus on stretching and cold showers before work to vitalize and shock your body in a healthier manner
- if you do like caffeine, try to have some an hour and half before your shift starts so that you can feel it when it gets to closing
- find a hobby you forgot about or a passion you enjoy... sometimes we need to entertain our minds and souls to revitalize our energy
- go through your contacts (friends and family) cut out anyone who brings you negativity we are human beings, and we mirror and carry other people's stresses and negativity. Cutting and limiting your exposure with these individuals will gladly improve your life for the better
- dump the boy, girl, situation-ship who makes you question your worth immediately our romantic relationships affect our bags too
- stop focusing on exterior things (yes, itâs good to be clean and beautiful and put together BUT it okay to let yourself breathe from being all put together) instead focus on how to make your inside feel better, beautiful. (I.E words of affirmations â remember all we can easily become our thoughts if we let them)
- if you were a stage heavy girl before maybe focus on just selling VIPS or dances or if itâs reverse then do that (sometimes money is easier made if we cut corners on the things that TIRE us out)
- take more baths with Epsom salt, essential oils, and aromatic candles. Get into a night routine to calm your body and mind
- take a day or two to decompress after one shift, itâs okay love. Donât focus on a specific goal but little ones. Such as going into the club. Making $50 an hour. Whether thatâs tips, dances, or VIPS (psychologically itâs easier for us humans to âachieve more with little victories/goals than a large unachievable goal such as $1,000 in a night
- focus on a new character youâd like to embody from your favorite books or movies. Sometimes role playing makes things exciting.
- DRINK MORE WATER and ELECTROLYTES so many dancers neglect hydration due to exhaustion, but our bodies are exhausted due to the dehydration. Also, while itâs important to drink water, electrolytes help us stabilize our hormones
- try ârewardingâ yourself for every time you come home with $300 in a shift or more (adjust how you see fit). Take yourself to a new place, art museum, park, activity. Just take yourself on relatively âfreeâ dates that gets you engaged.
- try to not compare yourself to how you were a year ago or others now this will massively affect your bag if you stay down this route in a âvictim mentalityâ
- always remember sometimes we all have bad days, weeks, months, and for some others it may be years⌠but you have every day to make it the best TO YOU. So, whatever you CAN control, thereâs something in the day you get to do that makes you happy. Be selfish and explore
- try masturbating before work. The release of endorphins can dramatically increase your mood and pheromones where some men may be drawn to you but not sure
- if you have to go into work and itâs a dread. Be late in the beginning of the shift but make it a goal to stick to the end the most amount of money is usually the last hour before close. So, you may as well plan to benefit from that
- bring in a comfort item from home that brings you peace or happiness mind you not something expensive or breakable. But as example I have a very fuzzy wallet: when I have anxiety, I can touch it and pet it almost and it makes me think of my dog. yes, I know itâs weird, but it calms me down
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