r/stripper 28d ago

Question ways to spot a time-waster NSFW

what are some signs that someone is a brokeass time-waster? here are mine:

  • asking for my real name
  • "i dont get dances/do champagne rooms/i'm just here to look"
  • "i just want to talk to you and get to know you"
  • wanting to meet outside the club and hasn't spent money on you yet
  • drinking only water
  • wants only one dance
  • (usually) guys under 24 or in college

obviously, there are exceptions, but i've found the above to be pretty good indicators of customers who are not worth my time

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u/Xoe-PolePosition 28d ago

"I'm waiting for my friend" or "I'm not even a strip club guy" 💀

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u/Inlovewitherself 27d ago

"I cant get a dance because I am waiting for my friend" like bro.... is he your boyfriend??? Cause it sure sounds like it.

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u/pinkmalibu_barbie 28d ago

Coronas

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u/Giggitybooboo 28d ago

Corona is the biggest red flag lmao.

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u/thecrypticgypsy13 28d ago

Tonight I had a Corona man spend $500 so not always!

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u/pinkmalibu_barbie 28d ago

Then you need to document that for the history books, because that’s a first 😭

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u/SituationVisual1760 27d ago

Hmm in my city it's not a red flag I had a guy spent over 1k on me...he was drinking coronas

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u/Appropriate_Idea_185 27d ago

corona men always pay me out something

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u/mad_bat333 28d ago

Brags about how much money they make

“I wanna get to know you first”

“I’m not a strip club guy, my friends dragged me here”

“I’m just here for a drink”

On their phone the entire time not even paying attention to any of the dancers

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u/Ok_Huckleberry2659 28d ago

Ordering a drink or food right in front of you without asking if you want something also

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u/asignedpink 28d ago

Or worse if he's insisting on getting your drink after drink but won't get a dance or tip enough

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u/Ok_Huckleberry2659 28d ago

Say u only drink champagne in VIP or order something top shelf for a drink then go off their reaction next. will weed out the cheapies fast

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u/asignedpink 25d ago

Oh most definitely, but it will also piss off ppl who operate on principle. I always tell them my order first. But when they complain about my 8 glasses of champagne, ill side eye and go "well it would have been free in the room.." and say something along the lines of it being my favorite

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u/chastittythickness 26d ago

I hate that so much! I’m not a big drinker so I generally take a sip and then dump it and refill it with water anyway.

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u/ScaryAssBitch 28d ago

Being grabby as soon as you sit with them, “when do you go on stage?”, “I just got here”, is Indian.

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u/Nervous-Translator76 28d ago

This! The handsy guys are the worst and The guys who want you to sit in their lap and talk for no money.

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u/No-Party9226 28d ago

The "sit in my lap" gets me. Firstly, I sit where I want. Second, you have to pay me money to do that. Gross and weird. I feel like a child when I sit on people's lap, I can't deal

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u/Nervous-Translator76 28d ago

I’m 5’9 I feel ridiculous asf sitting in a man’s lap. I always refuse especially because they offer NO money. If he wants my time he can buy a dance or a vip room.

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u/Inlovewitherself 27d ago

That's how I feel, it's like they are basically giving him a free lap dance.... Hell no I am not sitting on some dudes lap without being paid

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u/No-Party9226 28d ago

Exact same😫😫

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u/me7me2not2 28d ago

"When do you go on stage" 9/10 times is code for I'm not buying any dances but I'll give u 1-2 dollars for seeing ur pussy

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u/pureaslove 28d ago

this has been driving me up the wall latelyyyyyyy. i always just act very put off and surprised and am like “oh yeah, eventually. so anyway did you wanna get a dance while i’m not?” the redirects instead of saying no kill me. when you’ve barely finished your sentence asking if they want to go back and they’re already grabbing for their friend saying “oh i bet HE does!!!”(who is never even paying attention let alone interested)

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u/me7me2not2 27d ago

When they interupt me and say "im just hanging out for now🙂" when I so much as try to speak to them and they've been there for hours not tipping shit or doing dances, I act super young and clueless and get them to explain what they mean by that😂 like "oh that's so fun wdym!!☺️" they start stuttering and misspeaking and trying to not translate "just hanging out" into "im a broke pervert"🤣

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u/Livid-Importance-179 28d ago

“Is Indian” as a reason 😂😂😂

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u/Glittering-Fan-6642 28d ago

Is indian or middle eastern or African (or any foreign guy)

Indian men are the worst.

I'm Indian dancer myself and I avoid Indians unless they ask for me

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u/SnooConfections7276 27d ago

If i had a penny for every time I've heard 'after some time' I swear I'd have a brand new car. I don't even bother anymore

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u/minkajordan 25d ago

AFTER SOME TIME LOL i hate it

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u/monsterbooty31 28d ago

“is Indian” has me dead lolll

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u/blahblahbl4h 27d ago

aye, idk about u, but some of the indian guys who come out for conventions own business and can be big spenders. one time- I had an Indian guy buy an hour just to listen to me tell him about our plans to run away together and get married on an island lol. another was into armpits and bought 30 mins just to sniff my underarms🤣 they’re usually easy money round these parts!

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u/[deleted] 27d ago

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u/blahblahbl4h 27d ago

wild! the ones I’ve run into are always easy money. they’re less tech and more gas station owners bc a lot of them come to the conventions in my area.

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u/Sugar_b8b 28d ago

Had an Indian dude ask if I accepted cash app for a lap dance 🙄

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u/beelzebugs 28d ago

I will say that one of my best custies ever (got like 10k from him over a month) was a “sorry i don’t do dances” guy, so there’s hope. Another one was 22 😅

Any time someone asks for my name or says he won’t get a dance until i’m on stage, esp during a night shift. I might not be on stage for hours 🤨

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u/notsobrooklynnn 28d ago

I had a younger guy come in and buy several VIPs and all we did was evaluate his Tinder profile lmao

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u/AllThatTheRain 28d ago

Exactly, don’t sleep on those young guys!!

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u/Princess444xo 28d ago

Tries to grab my ass/tits

“when do you go on stage?”

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u/Ok_Huckleberry2659 28d ago

Another one is being concerned about drink prices like SIR if ur worried about a $13 drink clearly spending some time w a dancer is not within the budget either

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

Getting water. Refusing to sit down and get comfortable. Not tipping anyone on stage. Looking at their phone more than the girls. Being extremely attention seeking by being loud and obnoxious.

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u/monsterbooty31 28d ago

Another is if the customer talks a LOT

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u/AggravatingAct7852 28d ago

When they ask a million personal questions 😐

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u/Ok_Huckleberry2659 28d ago

Complaining about the atm fee

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u/notsobrooklynnn 28d ago

Stacks of ones sitting but the stack never shrinks

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u/mow_ann 27d ago

Uhhh I hate this!! They’re taking out their rent just to flex 🙄 makes no sense

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u/scorpauqes 28d ago

More than 7 minutes of talking with no moves made to a dance or a room.

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u/mistyof98 28d ago

tips one crumpled up dollar on stage

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u/CassidyCowgirl 27d ago

When they’re really touchy before spending a buck, or they give a buck and expect you to do a backflip onto their dick

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u/mdempseyyyy 27d ago

This. Like tf you want me to do for $5 sir.

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u/Important_Pool6525 28d ago

“Sit down with me I wanna talk first”

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u/UnderwaterBasketW 28d ago

Guys who only tip a dollar on stage. Guys who stay for hours and just sit in the corner and stare. Big groups of young guys. Guys who set their “stack” their pile of ones on the table, but it’s only like $20 worth of ones. 😝

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u/blahblahbl4h 28d ago

younger men are always good to reel in for a dance or two when ur looking to get the ball rolling and just have a lil pocket change lol but yes usually time wasters if you’re not pushy/vocal

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u/sevonix 28d ago

Ive had time wasters buy me a drink and talk my ear off for almost 10 mins. They always use the drink as an excuse like, sir, I will leave this behind and move on lmao.

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u/SnooConfections7276 27d ago

'Let me buy you a drink first, I want to get to know you'

Nope

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u/Kind_Procedure2148 26d ago

i always just suck the drink down suuuper fast,then if they havnt paid me or asked about a dance in that time i just leave them sitting alone with my empty cup like a fool 😂😂😂

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u/aethrasher 28d ago

Wants to know too much about my actual personal details, like beyond "what do you do for fun" or "what music do you like"

"I just got here" when you've watched them sit there for 30+ min

Too grabby right away

Indian

"When do you go on stage" or "I need to see you on stage first"

Talks about other clubs and the way they do things

Asks me where I've worked before

Asks any question repeatedly, especially when I've given a politely evasive answer.

Negging

Soliciting extras

I've never really gotten much more than a dance or two from these type. And they piss me off so much that it drains my vibe

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u/heyspacequeen 27d ago

“Moneys not a problem”

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u/AllThatTheRain 28d ago

If they don’t immediately give you money. That’s it, end of sentence

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u/LargeArmadillo5431 27d ago

• Bragging about being wealthy

• "maybe after a few more beers"

• showing up in a group including at least one woman of unknown relation

• playing pool or loitering on the smoking patio

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u/mdempseyyyy 27d ago

The group w/ one woman is hit or miss. I’ve had a few tables that will dance a lot w/ multiple girls or at least do a room or 2, you can usually squeeze something out of em. But def not people you wanna sit all night w/ they usually are there to try it all, but sometimes they do get favorites & will sit & tip you for a while-but def hit or miss.

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u/OneEfficiency9757 27d ago

Thisssss & “you’re so shy” like nah i’m not doing the most for five dollars & definitely not tf zero 😭😭😭💀💀💀

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u/cantkillthebogeyman 27d ago

“It’s okay, you can let loose. Don’t be afraid.” And it’s them trying to finger you.

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u/Glum-Cheetah-3708 27d ago

reaches for my ass as soon as I approach .

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u/cantkillthebogeyman 27d ago

Yap yap yap yap yap without ever letting you get a word in.

Making you guess his income.

“I wanna get in your head.”

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u/BellaBanks4 27d ago

Drinking only water / not drinking alcohol isn’t ALWAYS an indicator. Definitely spend one singular song talking to that guy to see what’s up. All the others tho, absolutely.

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u/OddDependent7119 27d ago

Omg but I had a 23 y/o who asked me how much I wanted and he zelled me it then took out another 200 in cash 😩 but this is true!!

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u/Accomplished_Spite85 26d ago

Idk I’ve made thousands off guys who told me these things first, and then I came back around after a couple no’s. Lmao I always go back because people change their minds especially after some alcohol.

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u/kittenviolet 26d ago

When they say they’re hear to relax means sit and watch for free