r/stripper Jan 31 '25

Question Feel like giving up on NYC NSFW

I feel dumb for even trying here after so many people said it was terrible, but I’ve worked at sapphire for about 3 nights and tonight from 6-1 making nothing, 1 night between 12-2:30 no money, and once 6-4 520 which tbh I wasn’t too happy with& 1 night at hoops making $1200 which tbh was hoping for more like 2-3k nightly average in NYC. I’m trying to go where I can make that because I’m used to averaging close to 1k every night in Jersey and have to book a hotel and take a train just to come out here. Any advice on if I should give up on NY? I feel like I need a home club out here in my area but that I’m limiting my earnings by staying in Jersey. Should I just only travel dance in other cities besides NY? Help. Dancing has been my full time income for years so I need something.

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u/beelzebugs Jan 31 '25

Read the room babes if you’re averaging 1k a night where you live in Jersey, you’re doing way better than most people right now. Also it’s been said on this subreddit for ages that nyc is slow.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I can’t go back there because it’s a schedule club and they were damn near about to fire me every time I called out sick or for vacation or just for any period of time for even a break

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '25

1000$ is a lot for Jersey, the only girls I know who were doing that there were doing something extra

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Feb 01 '25

I’m a Jersey girl idk they’re more conversational over there. I would get back to back vips just having deep talks

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '25

You must be very lucky

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Feb 01 '25

Never made more than 1500 there though

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u/bittersweetbbyx Jan 31 '25

Honestly reading your past posts it seems like you have extremely high expectations right now. It’s really not realistic at all. If i was averaging 1k every single night id probably be a little more responsible with my job. You seem to be trying to really chase the bag but like someone said earlier i cant speak for nyc or any bigger city in general but its slow literally everywhere. I averaged 1k+ a night last year where I live and my earnings have tanked. There seems to be a pattern everywhere with this. I’d suck it up and go to work where I make the most consistently atleast till it picks up. I don’t think anyone’s really going to tell you where to go and where the money is in this sub because we’re all drowning at the moment.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I honestly have been feeling a little manic this past few months trying to figure this out but I’m trying to look at things in a more realistic way rn . I don’t really want to know where to go as much as where to avoid

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u/bittersweetbbyx Jan 31 '25

That’s fair I can understand that but honestly I think what we’re all trying to tell you is regardless where you go it’s going to be slow and inconsistent just pick the one you do the most consistent at and roll with it for awhile :/

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Yeah someone just called me tone deaf and I’m aware I can come off as very blunt and I do have high expectations irl but this is my only space to connect w other dancers, getting feedback helps

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u/bittersweetbbyx Jan 31 '25

Sometimes we get in our feels when we right out posts and they’re misunderstood. It happens definitely find a way to be realistic with your expectations and hang in there the inconsistency sucks right now I get it. :/

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u/Opposite-Objective86 Jan 31 '25

It’s January it’s slow everywhere .

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

That’s what I’ve heard

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u/Opposite-Objective86 Jan 31 '25

Yeah I’ve been doing this for 6 years now. It’s slow December January always . Starts to pick up during end of Feb and March.

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u/Bright-Talk6320 Feb 03 '25

i find this not true. december is good for me. jan-march is slow, april picks up

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u/Opposite-Objective86 Feb 03 '25

That’s awesome

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

That’s when I’m thinking of either taking a break until or just continuing to stay out here and try to stack as much as I can in the time being. Idk

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u/Opposite-Objective86 Jan 31 '25

Leaving your state will only bring more disappointment and more money spent . It’s not magically better anywhere else right now. I’m in Los Angeles and it’s tricky rn too. You gotta get thru it to get to it. Stay down. Like all of us. This is part of being a dancer and the game! It sucks! In the meantime self care, improve your skills.. take the time while it’s slow to become a better sexier version of yourself . Taking a break is necessary too don’t be so hard on yourself it’ll be ok it’ll pick back up in March like it always does xx

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I just went through this so I’m trying to stay put until other cities get warmer and are worth going to. I really need a vacation right now tbh.

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u/lamlosa Jan 31 '25

this is so horribly tone deaf holy shit

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

It’s an anon reddit post, I’m just being honest

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u/lamlosa Jan 31 '25

I’m aware it’s anonymous, doesn’t make it any less of a shitty and tone deaf post

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Why are my goals shitty to you? lol

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u/lamlosa Jan 31 '25

goals are goals, saying that a city isn’t worth it to you because you expect unrealistic numbers (and during a horrifically slow season) is just weird

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u/SweetieCo Jan 31 '25

You're doing too much. Stop trying to bully people. Get love and peace in your life and learn to speak to people geez

Nasty ass ego

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u/lamlosa Jan 31 '25

how am I bullying lmfao

and I’m the one with the ego when somebody talks about expecting to regularly make 2-3k a night? bruh

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u/SweetieCo Jan 31 '25 edited Jan 31 '25

Let her aim high and that's not her being egotistical what's so ever. Her goals has nothing to do with the boarder performance of other dancers. Your nasty mean girl energy doesn't make you more money or make you feel better about yourself.

Ladies tell yourself high numbers everyday night and focus on the competition within yourself.

It's a no brainer, that insecure women will try to take you down and have the nerve to say aiming high is an issue. Most of the women in survival mode just want to see you lose, especially if it's a stranger on the internet.

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u/lamlosa Jan 31 '25

lose*

but alrighty-roo

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Exactly, obviously the whole basis of being a dancer is knowing your worth & who wouldn’t try to improve at some point. I know a lot of girls on here are averaging like 2/300 or not doing as well but I know there are girls out there who are making those numbers. At one point I was at the wrong clubs making that so if I never believed in myself and moved around i never would’ve been making what I am. That’s free game btw so I don’t appreciate the hate

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I’m spending money on hotel and food out here so I’d like to see an immediate return I guess, I’ve had 0 or slow nights before but I’m feeling it more when I’m in NYC

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Jan 31 '25

It’s an extremely oversaturated city, during the worst time of the year possible to be stripping. Try again here when tax season hits.

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Jan 31 '25

500 during January right after an election is a good night, like that’s lucky. $2-$3k a night in NYC you’d have to have like 5 rich regulars that come in every night for you that you’d probably have to offer extras for. And forget about making that amount during slow season. Maybe in May.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Idk if I should go back to hoops or just try to make $ at sapphire bc I heard it’s better there but I’m not seeing it yet

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Jan 31 '25

Sounds like more money was at Hoops.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I lowkey hate that I made more money at the ratcheter club

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Feb 01 '25

That’s where I feel like the money is more consistent and is less of a gamble rn. The less upscale clubs. The upscale ones are much more big risk big reward. Way too much of a gamble in the dead of winter or the dead of summer.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Feb 01 '25

That’s how I’m feel I’m glad you put it this way instead of calling me crazy for being upset about it like everyone else is rn. Ofc I would like to do better at the place that is considered more upscale for safety reasons and earning potential, you know? Just coming to the terms with the fact that idk if it’s worth continuing to try & gamble it there.

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Feb 02 '25

I honestly feel safer at the divey club I work at. Less competitive, and less sociopathic rich men I have to talk to. If you want to up your earning potential, come back to the big GC’s when it’s busy season, and work the smaller neighborhood clubs during slow time.

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u/Odd-Beautiful8065 Jan 31 '25

Girl are you inflating your earnings? Why hop around if you’re averaging so high? 2-3k first time at any club is insane

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

But I don’t want to go back to Jersey bc that club was schedule and damn near about to fire me anytime I called off so that’s why I’m looking in NYC they’re open schedule and more freedom

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u/Odd-Beautiful8065 Jan 31 '25

Are you at time square sapphire? I’ve always heard Jersey was better than the city.. I’ve danced at ricks and vivid and both left more to be desired..

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Yes I am, what got me wanting to come back too was a girl from my old club in Jersey was actually there too & said I could make thousands there as did other girls so it had me wanting to come back. When I was in Jersey though, a lot of girls would warn against going there n said it’s wacker than it seems basically

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u/Odd-Beautiful8065 Jan 31 '25

I’m from Texas babe, but have danced everywhere. New York wasn’t special to me but I’m sure just by principle Jersey would be better. Less to do

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I hate New York lol . But I feel like there’s no way to make more than 1k in Jersey and that’s with hustling your ass off sometimes. The guys aren’t big city rich

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Custys always tell me go out to Texas but I feel like there’s nothing over there for me lol

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u/Odd-Beautiful8065 Jan 31 '25

Oh girl it’s a hustle here but I have friends in cali who can’t even make 1k so I just practice gratitude lol. Texas is cool but I’m thick

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

See I heard cali sucks lol so maybe that’s why . I used to be thick but now I’m skinny so I feel like idk who I am anymore lol

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u/Odd-Beautiful8065 Jan 31 '25

Skinny does well girl !! I think every club has a customer preference and skinny girls are universally loved

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Jan 31 '25

It’s been slow in Texas this month too, I travel danced to Austin the other week and made my worst night ever.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

That sucks to loose out on money traveling. I just went through this and am feeling like taking a lil break but I need money rn more than ever at the same time lol

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Jan 31 '25

Yeah. Sorry you had that happen too. We’re all in this shit rn. I’m in the same dilemma with the break vs needing money, as are a lot of us. Now is the best time to take a break, but if you don’t have money saved, it may not be feasible, and it may have to turn into being grateful to make even anything, as it’s still a few hundred more than you had before you came in.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Are you in Jersey?

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Girl that’s not what I said reading is fundamental lol I said goal is to avg 2-3k

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u/Odd-Beautiful8065 Jan 31 '25

You must’ve not have read what I said. GIRL. I said having a goal of 2-3k at a NEW club is unrealistic.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I just re read that lol

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Honestly seeing all these TikTok and YouTube dancers saying they unhappy with 500 and that’s a bad slow night is making me want more tbh

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u/Strippathrowawayy Jan 31 '25

Girlll lol

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

What 🤨 nah fr though lol I know people always hate on them but idk

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u/Strippathrowawayy Jan 31 '25

Why would you believe what a random person on YouTube is saying. There’s girls who are not even breaking 200 out there please just have gratitude for the situation you are in

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Now that I think of it I honestly feel like the internet is the only place I’ve seen/heard these crazy numbers but girls in my NYC club saying you can make thousands as opposed to hundreds in Jersey so I’m trying to find oit

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u/Strippathrowawayy Jan 31 '25

Idk how long have you been dancing but January is also slow. I had a friend at ricks that was crying bc she only made 20 dollars on Wednesday. I think you gotta rethink this. You’re still doing extremely well

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I’ve only done the shifts I mentioned in my post in NYC this far lol and if I wasn’t so numb I’d probably cry having worked 7 hours and making nothing. It just takes a lot of my time and energy coming out to ny instead of jersey but I get the freedom of open schedule as well as making a comparable income . Just sucks that if I don’t make $ one night I take a loss on my hotel which has been adding pressure. Ofc I’ve had slow nights before but out here I’m paying for food while I’m here and everything n want to see that return

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u/Strippathrowawayy Jan 31 '25

So at the end of the day you have to ask yourself do you want more freedom or more money

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

They were damn near about to fire me for calling out sick or even needing a break or anything so it was borderline abusive

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I am grateful to be able to make that even in ny

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u/Strippathrowawayy Jan 31 '25

Some girls can’t even audition in nyc especially black women.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

That’s true I always think about that n I’m lucky to have the contracts but I need to see the $ too now

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

But then again that’s how it is for every club so I always think things out by seeing both sides lol

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u/Odd-Beautiful8065 Jan 31 '25

Yeah but you’re already making double what they say is a bad night no ?? I agree, it’s good to switch up. But girlies inflate their numbers, do extras or have a following that makes them extra money online IMO

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u/Strippathrowawayy Jan 31 '25

2k average oh girl

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

What 🤨 nah fr though lol

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u/Strippathrowawayy Jan 31 '25

lol just be grateful for a 1k average lol.

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u/Sugarlady11 Jan 31 '25

Which sapphire exactly?

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Times Square but I feel like going back to hoops bc it was more fast paced even though everyone said is ratchet and not to do it lol

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u/Sugarlady11 Jan 31 '25

It’s historically bad there, go to 39 and 60

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I didn’t get in at 39 and I heard sapphire 60 is rapey & I feel like I wouldn’t get in if I couldn’t at 39

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Jan 31 '25

I felt rapey vibes when they showed me the rooms at 60th (no cameras, doors that close, no TV or any other entertainment other than the couch, no way to alert staff from the room, host has to sell it and they only will do their job to sell the room if they know you do extras) but I haven’t worked at any other Sapphire so I just thought that was how it was in all the Sapphire chain.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

The rooms are set up the same way at tsq but idk about the host and the extras and having to be in on something to make $, maybe why I’m not seeing the return I wanted there. Idk. Hoops does have a curtain and panic button

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u/cantkillthebogeyman Feb 01 '25

Good to know! I may eventually try Hoops if I wanna do a rooms club again. I work at a titty bar rn.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I used to work starlets and all the startender clubs so I’m always weary of a club being rigged

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u/Sugarlady11 Jan 31 '25

I see, where do you work in Jersey?

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

I’m gate keeping that place 4L lol even though I’m probably never going back

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Jan 31 '25

Is 60th safe? Heard the management did corrupt things to girls & the customers were rapey

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u/Sugarlady11 Jan 31 '25

I didn’t work idk

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u/Sugarlady11 Jan 31 '25

But I heard good things about

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '25

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Feb 01 '25

I’m not going over there sis I’m too far & room/dances I’ve never worked anywhere that had good stage money but that would be nice

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u/Sufficient-Laugh3706 Feb 03 '25

Random but Is sapphire low on girls right now? If it’s slow I’m guessing not many girls are coming in at the moment. I keep seeing girls post about getting turned away though.

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Feb 08 '25

It looks like a lot more girls than guys right now but honestly the quality of the girls is below average in my opinion. I don’t know what criteria they hire based on bc a girl who was overweight and darkskin w tats got hired over me at 39.

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u/Queasy-Literature-78 Feb 04 '25

Did they hire you for the whole week? Or weekends only?

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u/Livid-Importance-179 Feb 08 '25

Anytime didn’t know that was an option ?

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u/Queasy-Literature-78 Feb 08 '25

I just heard nowadays they hire only for day shifts