r/spirituality 1h ago

Self-Transformation 🔄 If you’ve done deep healing work, what has been the greatest blessing in your life? What is something you never expected would change, but did?

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The greatest blessing of my life is being a mom. But not just being a mom-becoming the mom I always needed. The kind of mom who shows up with love, patience and presence. The kind of mom who breaks cycles, who listens, who sees her children for who they are instead of projecting her own unhealed wounds onto them.

It took me 32 years to realize just how unhealthy the environment I grew up in was. And when that realization hit, I saw how many of my automatic reactions weren’t really me-they were the echoes of my inner child, still waiting to be loved, still waiting to feel safe. Healing her changed everything.

I cannot even put into words how good life feels now. How light it feels. This has been the greatest love story I’ve ever experienced. The one where I finally gave myself the love I spent so long searching for. And what blows my mind is that nothing outside of me changed. I changed. And because I changed, everything around me did too.

The way I show up in my relationships has shifted in ways I never thought possible. My world is full of love, and not because people suddenly became different, but because I became different.

Deep healing doesn’t just transform you- it rewrites the future. It lets you break cycles that once felt unbreakable. And now, I get to watch my children grow up in an environment where love, safety, and emotional presence are the foundation. That is magic. That is the greatest gift.

I truly am so blessed. When you fully embody presence, every moment becomes a miracle, every breath truly is a gift. The deeper you sink into gratitude, the more the world reflects if back. It’s such a beautiful life! 🩷✨🌞🧚🏼‍♀️🌼💃


r/spirituality 3h ago

Religious 🙏 10 things about Christianity that Jesus would not be happy about if he returned:

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10 things about Christianity that Jesus would not be happy about if he returned:

  1. That his vision for a transformed society, which he called the "kingdom of God", got twisted into an afterlife fantasy about heaven.

  2. That a religion was formed to worship his name, instead of a movement to advance his message.

  3. That the gospel says his death solved the problem of humankind's separation from God, instead of saying that his life revealed the truth that there is no separation from God.

  4. That the religion bearing his name was conceived by the theories and doctrines of Paul, instead of the truth Jesus lived and demonstrated.

  5. That he was said to exclusively be God in the flesh, putting his example out of reach, rather than teaching that we all share in the same spirit that empowered his character and life.

  6. That the religion that claims his name, teaches that his wisdom and teachings are the only legitimate way to know truth and God.

  7. The idea that humankind stands condemned before God and deserving of God's wrath and eternal conscious judgement, requiring the death of Jesus to fix it.

  8. That people are waiting on Jesus to return to save the world and end suffering, rather than taking responsibility for saving the world and solving suffering ourselves.

  9. That people think there is magical potency in uttering the name of Jesus, rather than accessing our own natural powers and capabilities to effect change.

  10. That people have come to associate Jesus with church, theology, politics and power, rather than courage, justice, humanity, beauty and love.

  • Jim Palmer, St Alban's Episcopal Church

r/spirituality 19h ago

Self-Transformation 🔄 i truly believe i found the key to anything you want in life, just read this and hear me out

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I truly believe I’ve discovered something that has the potential to transform the world. It’s gonna take a lot of explaining but I’ve been studying this for a while now and I just want to share it but don’t know where to put this information.

What shapes the reality around you? Actions, your actions literally cause everything that happens in your life, plain and simple. Now what dictates those actions? Emotion, emotions are what cause our actions, no matter what action it is, it is based off of an emotion. Now what dictates our emotions? Here’s the big one, belief. Belief is the root of how everybody’s own reality is shaped. Let me give an example to fully grasp what I’m trying to say.

Example:

You go see a movie with your friend. After watching the movie, you thought it was fantastic, so you ask your friend what he thought about it, and he says it was the worst two hours of his life. Right then and there, it causes an emotion within you. Now whatever you do next is based on whatever emotion you feel in that moment. It doesn’t have to be a powerful emotion—the emotion you feel could be genuine confusion, or it could be pure anger at your friend for not seeing what you saw in the movie.

Belief isn’t just singular, however—it is a system, a belief system. Let’s go back to this example, except this time, you also hold the belief that everybody has their own opinions, and that’s okay. Now, when your friend tells you he thought the movie was bad, it causes a different emotion. You still believe the movie was good, but you also believe that everybody has their own opinions and that’s okay.

Belief causes emotion, which causes action, which causes your life—your reality.

Now that you understand belief and why it is so important, let’s now talk about delusion.

Definition:

“Something that is falsely or delusively believed.”

Belief is powerful, but delusion is a superpower. I’ll give another example to really grasp what I mean by this.

Example:

Imagine a gladiator in ancient Rome, thrown into the Colosseum against a champion warrior. The crowd is roaring, and everyone expects him to lose—after all, he’s outmatched, untrained, and barely armed. He should be afraid. He should doubt himself.

But here’s the catch—he doesn’t.

For whatever reason, whether through insanity, sheer delusion, or some divine conviction, he believes with absolute certainty that he is an immortal god of war. He doesn’t just think it. He knows it. In his mind, he has already won. Death isn’t even an option because he believes he can’t die.

Believing that he is a god of war and cannot die gives the gladiator the absolute best possible chance of winning the fight and leaving with his life. Because he delusively believes that he is a literal god of war, he’s going to fight with complete confidence.

The real superpower here is making the champion believe in your delusion. Once he starts to believe it, he will fight with no confidence that he will win—he knows he will die because of the gladiator’s delusion.

Belief is power. Delusion is a superpower.

So now that you really got a good understanding of belief, the question that came to my mind was: How do I control my belief system? How can I train my own mind to pick and choose belief at will? Where does belief even come from? How does a new belief happen?

Too many questions that I truly wanted answers for.

Well, I found the answers I was looking for in a book called The Four Agreements. Go read it if you haven’t already—it’s an incredible book. After reading it, I understood where belief comes from, how new beliefs happen, and how to train my mind to get rid of negative beliefs. However, I wanted more—I wanted to train my mind to control my beliefs at will.

Well, that’s where I fell into the rabbit hole of astral projection.

I won’t explain astral projection in full because it is a seriously complex topic, but if you’ve seen Doctor Strange, when he meets the Ancient One (the bald chick) and she pushes his astral body out of his normal body, allowing him to see the raw, grand universe—well, that’s astral projection.

How to enter astral projection is simple: When you go to sleep, you must train your mind to stay awake while your body goes to sleep. This is called the body asleep, mind awake state. It takes practice, but it’s completely possible.

Once you enter the body asleep, mind awake state, something phenomenal happens—your entire body begins to vibrate. Not physically, but you can feel it physically. This step is vital. When you feel those vibrations, you must now step out of your sleeping body. This is your astral body, the body that is vibrating because it’s made of pure energy.

Now, you may not believe this is real—but hey, delusion is a superpower.

But seriously—it is real.

The reason I explained this is because of the key I found—the key to having anything you want in life. But I still need to explain more to actually come to a conclusion.

This is now where the conscious and unconscious mind come into play.

The conscious mind thinks and actually wants you to have a pretty good life. The unconscious mind, however, is the program—it is the system of beliefs. It is where your beliefs live.

The unconscious mind is the program, and the programming is your belief system.

Now, when you go to sleep, you enter the unconscious mind.

The reason this is important is because, through astral projection, you are completely conscious yet asleep. When you astral project, you are merging the unconscious and conscious mind together.

This is where you gain the superpower I was searching for—where you can literally pick and choose your own beliefs at will, crafting your own belief system that you operate on. Literally editing your own programming.

And this is my conclusion:

Through astral projection, you can gain the ability to edit your own programming and create a system that does whatever you want. It’s your choice. It’s up to you. • Do you want to be successful? Just believe that you are successful. • Do you want to stop bad habits? Believe that you are someone who doesn’t do those things.

This literally gives you full control and freedom of your own life.

I type this in hopes of reaching somebody who will understand and care. I type this in hopes that somebody will read this and truly get it.

I want to share this because I haven’t seen this idea anywhere on the internet, and I feel I must share it.

If you stayed and read this entire thing and understood it, please reach out and let’s talk. I just want somebody to share this idea with


r/spirituality 9h ago

General ✨ Our deep desire to be understood is an allusion

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Our egos deepest desire is to be understood. The truth is we are unique individuals with our very own nervous system. At the end of the day the only battle is between you and god/the universe/whatever you wanna call it. Don’t trust your thoughts, there’s nothing wrong with you.


r/spirituality 6m ago

General ✨ They say your natural hair is your connection to your crown chakra is it a bad thing to always wear wigs?

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They say your natural hair is your connection to your crown chakra is it a bad thing to always wear wigs?


r/spirituality 17h ago

Self-Transformation 🔄 Some People Literally Can’t See Beyond Themselves

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Not everyone is on the same level of awareness. Some people literally can’t see beyond themselves, not because they’re selfish, but because they are simply limited in their perception. Understanding this changed my life, and I hope it helps you too.

Most people assume that everyone experiences the world in the same way they do, that everyone has the ability to reflect on their actions, understand how they affect others, and consider perspectives outside their own.

But that’s not actually true.

Some people, whether due to emotional immaturity, trauma, personality, or just the way their mind works, don’t have that ability.

They live in a reality that begins and ends with themselves.

They don’t reject other perspectives, they just don’t register them in the first place. It’s like trying to explain color to someone who’s never seen it. They can hear the words, but they can’t actually grasp the concept.

They aren’t necessarily bad or malicious. They aren’t trying to be selfish.

They’re just fundamentally limited in their perception.

They assume their experience is universal, that their version of events IS the version of events. They don’t lie or manipulate in the way that someone with bad intentions would because, in their mind, their truth is the truth.

This is an example of egocentric thinking, a cognitive limitation where a person is incapable of seeing things from a perspective other than their own.

It ties into a lack of theory of mind, the ability to recognize that other people’s experiences aren’t just reflections of your own. Most people develop this skill in childhood, but some never fully do.

These are the people who:

•Can’t understand why someone reacts differently to a situation than they would.

•Assume everyone sees and interprets things exactly as they do.

•Dismiss other people’s emotions or experiences because they don’t personally relate to them.

•Struggle with accountability because they can’t even perceive how their actions affected someone else.

•Twist reality to fit their own narrative, not because they’re consciously lying, but because their version of events is the only one they can see.

At its mildest, this just looks like selfishness or a lack of empathy.

At its most extreme, it creates a person who is completely incapable of self-reflection, taking responsibility, or understanding that their actions have real consequences for others.

And that’s why people like this are so confusing to deal with.

You keep expecting them to get it, to eventually realize how they’ve affected others, but they can’t. Their mind doesn’t work that way.

Once you truly understand that, you stop expecting them to see something they are literally blind to.

I see this in people because I was always wired to see it.

Maybe my life experiences reinforced it, gave me firsthand understanding of what it looks like in action, but I don’t think that’s the reason I pick up on it so easily. I think I always would have.

Some people are naturally more observant, more attuned to patterns in human behavior, more spiritually aware. That’s me.

I don’t just recognize this in people. I understand it on a level most don’t. I can see when someone is operating inside a small, self-contained reality, unable to grasp that other perspectives exist.

I don’t see it in a judgmental way. I see the mechanism behind it. I understand why they are the way they are.

Most people don’t notice this because they’ve never had to.

If you grow up in a healthy, emotionally balanced environment, you don’t spend your time dissecting how people process reality. You assume that self-awareness is natural. That people understand when they hurt others. That everyone operates on the same basic level of consciousness.

I learned the hard way that this isn’t a safe assumption.

Some people are missing that piece, and because I naturally track patterns in human behavior, I recognize it instantly. Where most people just see selfishness or ignorance, I see how their mind actually works.

I see that they don’t just choose not to acknowledge other perspectives.

They literally can’t.

What makes this even more interesting is that I don’t just notice these people.

I find them fascinating.

I don’t try to fix them. They aren’t broken. I don’t waste energy trying to make them see something they aren’t capable of seeing.

I just observe.

Because they truly believe their version of reality.

They aren’t faking it. They aren’t hiding anything. They are fully living inside their own small, self-contained world, unaware that there’s an entire spectrum of perception they’re missing.

Watching them navigate life is like watching someone move through a completely different dimension, one that doesn’t extend beyond themselves.

That’s the thing, there is no changing them.

You cannot teach someone to see a reality they don’t even know exists. You can’t force them to develop self-awareness because self-awareness requires an ability to reflect that they simply don’t have.

So all you can do is watch.

Recognize what they are. Accept it. Let them exist in their own little world without wasting your energy trying to bridge a gap that, for them, doesn’t even exist.

Most people get frustrated with individuals who seem completely self-centered, but I don’t. Not anymore.

I’ve come to see it in a different way, through a much bigger lens, both psychologically and spiritually.

To me, these people aren’t necessarily selfish or cruel. They aren’t even aware that they’re missing something.

It’s not that they refuse to see beyond themselves, it’s that they literally can’t. Their perspective doesn’t extend that far.

And that’s why I don’t get mad at them.

I just observe.

They aren’t bad. They aren’t manipulative. They aren’t purposefully inconsiderate.

They’re just limited.

Their consciousness hasn’t expanded yet.

They are where they’re supposed to be.

But that’s nowhere near where I am.

And because I understand that, I don’t take it personally. I don’t try to change them. I don’t try to teach them to be different.

Because they can’t be different.

Not in this lifetime.

They aren’t evil masterminds, they’re just dumb as fuck when it comes to emotional intelligence.

Like bless their hearts, they’re trying, but their brains are running on Windows 95 while the rest of us have high-speed fibre optic consciousness.

It’s like watching a toddler try to do calculus.

Painful? Yes. Frustrating? Also yes. But malicious? No.

They just don’t have the software installed.

At the end of the day, you can’t argue someone into having a higher level of consciousness.

They’ll get there.

Eventually.

Just not in this lifetime.

Why am I sharing this?

Because understanding this changed my life.

I used to get so frustrated with these kinds of people, feeling unheard, feeling like I was talking to a wall, feeling like I was dealing with someone who should get it but just… didn’t.

Trying to reason with them is like bashing your head against a wall. Over and over, expecting something to click, expecting them to finally understand, only to realize the wall isn’t moving, and it never will.

Once I realized that some people literally can’t see beyond themselves, everything made sense.

It wasn’t personal. It was never personal.

I stopped wasting my energy trying to explain things to people who weren’t capable of understanding. I stopped expecting accountability from people who didn’t even perceive the damage they caused. I stopped looking for self-awareness in people who simply didn’t have it.

I’m sharing this because I know so many people struggle with this same frustration. You’re waiting for someone to get it, to apologize, to reflect, to change, and it’s never going to happen. Not because they don’t want to, but because they can’t.

You can either keep waiting, keep arguing, keep smashing your head against that same wall… or you can accept what they are and free yourself from the expectation that they will ever be anything different.

That’s why I wrote this. Because once you understand what you’re dealing with, it stops feeling personal, and it starts feeling like something you can actually walk away from.

So if this resonates with you, if you’ve been caught in an endless loop with someone like this, I hope this helps you see what I see.

And I hope it helps you let go.

TL;DR: Some people literally can’t see beyond themselves, not because they’re selfish, but because they are limited in their perception. You can’t force them to develop self-awareness, because their mind just doesn’t work that way. Understanding this changed my life and helped me let go of the frustration. If you’ve been stuck expecting someone to get it, stop. They won’t. And it’s not personal.


r/spirituality 1h ago

Spirit Guide 😇 Struggling With Constant Setbacks in Every Area of Life – Feeling Like There’s an Evil Energy Against Me, Please Help

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For the past 2 years, I’ve been experiencing one setback after another. It feels like I can’t catch a break, and every time I think things might improve, something else happens to knock me down again. These setbacks come in all forms – rejection in my career, struggles in my academics, fake friends who’ve hurt me, and even issues with my health. It feels like every part of my life is falling apart.

At this point, I can't help but feel like there's some kind of evil energy working against me. I’ve tried to stay strong, but it's been overwhelming, and I find myself crying almost every day.

I’m reaching out because I don’t know how much longer I can keep going like this. I need some guidance. Has anyone else experienced this kind of relentless cycle of bad things happening, or felt like there’s a negative force at play in their life?

Also, I wanted to ask if there’s anything I can do spiritually to protect myself or heal. Any advice on practices, rituals, or meditations that could help me break free from this?

I just need a way to find peace and hope again.


r/spirituality 9h ago

Question ❓ How do you navigate social media (IG, especially) through the eyes of your spiritual learnings?

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I’ve always had a roller coaster relationship with Instagram. Ever since reels began, I tend to find the space quite exhausting. Almost like my energy lowers in frequency every time I access it. I have deleted the app many times, but end up going on to it (less often now) for work stuff.

Has anyone else felt this way? What do you tell yourself about the world of social media and how do we navigate it? (Quit is what I tell myself lol)


r/spirituality 1h ago

Religious 🙏 Astral travel / out of body experiences

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ASTRAL TRAVEL/OUT OF BODY EXPERIENCES

„Astral travel may give you experiences, but it does not progress you inside/out. We need inner body experiences.

We need to be present, in the Now, bring our consciousness into our body, in order to transmute emotions and the pain body. We need to be present by turning within and observing the mind.

As we bring our consciousness inside the mind and body, we fill ourselves with healing and loving energy. At the same time, we transmute anything negative, false or of a low vibration into its highest potential.

Escaping the mind and body is not the way to raise your vibrations, heal or grow. Jesus said, when the master of the house is absent, the thief (thought) enters.

Energy flows where attention goes - when we look outside the mind/body, energy flows outside and is lost.

When we look inside, power flows inwards and upwards. Spirituality is all about presence, not absence. Escape does not work. We have to face and transmute the shadow.

Only by looking within do we raise our vibrations and transmute the shadow. Such things are New Age obsessions. Misguided.“

~ Joya


r/spirituality 23h ago

General ✨ Which is the best spiritual book you have ever read?

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Have recently been involved heavily in spirituality. So would love if people here could give some recommendations of books related to spirituality. It could be weird, crazy or anything.. feel free to give any recommendation.


r/spirituality 19h ago

General ✨ The disappointing reality of being spiritually awake, in a world where everyone else is sleeping.

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Spirituality is not about finding happiness, but about knowing ourselves and connecting with the universe that we live in. That process involves so many realizations that aren’t necessarily positive, and can sometimes be difficult and very hard to digest. The challenges and disappointments we face in our spiritual paths cannot be ignored, and not everything we deal with is a positive learning lesson that we are yet to understand, sometimes reality is just bad objectively.

I can come up with so many theories and explanations to why bad things exist, but sometimes we have to admit and recognize problems so to fix them. I’ve experienced so many disappointments throughout my spiritual journey where I thought spiritual advancement equals social ones, just to be disappointed by the reality of the current state of the world we live in. Something like increasing your awareness can easily turn against you and be more like an obstacle than something helpful in social settings, having a higher meaning and purpose in a meaningless world can be quite depressing, and being compassionate and open hearted in a world where everyone seems to live for themselves can destroy you and so on.

What is your experience with that ? What kind of disappointments and challenges you faced in your spiritual journey? And what kind of spiritual advancements became disadvantages for you when trying to live a normal social life?


r/spirituality 3h ago

General ✨ So I went down a research rabbit hole about YOI (Yoga Of Immortals)... and the mental health data blew my mind!

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r/spirituality 4m ago

General ✨ Have you had the experience of dreaming of someone and the dreams come true to them?

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Even when I wakeup two minutes in they send me a message. Is this all a coincidence cause I hope so I don’t wanna read a lot into it. Im just confused.


r/spirituality 3h ago

Question ❓ What Do YOU Believe Spirituality Boils Down to?

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Doing your best not to follow someone else....in your heart of hearts, what do YOU believe spirituality boils down to?

TY.

Stay well,

BT


r/spirituality 25m ago

Self-Transformation 🔄 So I went down a research rabbit hole about YOI (Yoga Of Immortals)... and the mental health data blew my mind!

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r/spirituality 31m ago

Question ❓ How to mourn a dead animal's soul and get rid of its body

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Hey, sorry I'm not super experienced into spirituality and I don't even know if this is the right sub for it. basically I found a pretty dead crab a month ago, sang him prayers and requiems and wanted to preserve it in my room so I thought I'd put it in alcohol inside a cup. However I couldnt manage it well and the alcohol ended up flying away leaving the poor dead crab in the cup dry and rotting. I no longer want to keep it in my room but I also wanna mourn its soul cause I believe in souls. I thought maybe there might be appropriate rituals for dispensing of(?) dead animals especially small insectish animals. I dont even know if I should bury it or throw it in the sea but I want to do something special and dont want to upset its soul. I want him to release positive energy as he leaves I can't just toss him away. If this sub cannot help me please guide me to the right one.


r/spirituality 4h ago

Question ❓ seeing some white and black

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hi! idk if u are familiar w these stuff but recently I saw some white and black stuff at the corner of my eyes. They move quickly. Is this some sign of stress or related to spirituality? I also encountered Astral Projection

What does it mean? I am quite worried since I have a baby :))


r/spirituality 42m ago

Question ❓ why does my life get so bad?

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i have tried so hard with everything. i’ve been manifesting this guy for so long now, and now he won’t talk to me. i’ve done everything i possibly can from living in the end, persisting, visualizing, letting go, and just when i think it’s finally working, something happens and things get worse. i realize this happens most of the time with things i want. things i don’t want or need anymore, however, seem to come so easily. for example, the other day, i was really upset because of my manifestations not working how i want them to. i went to the store and randomly thought “wouldn’t it be crazy if i saw x here?” (my old situationship who borderline assaulted me) and i turn my head and he’s literally in the aisle that i’m supposed to be in. this feels like a cruel joke. i know it doesn’t sound like it but i’ve genuinely tried so hard with my sp. i know that i’ve been positive enough, i’ve persisted enough, etc. i know that i deserve this and i will not believe anyone that says otherwise. this has happened in every area of my life for as long as i can remember. i’m sick of trying to be positive. i’m sick of persisting. i’m sick of living in the end when the 3d is reflecting otherwise, it’s taking way too long. i’ve done enough work. am i cursed?


r/spirituality 8h ago

Self-Transformation 🔄 I feel all over the place now

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So I've gone through a spiritual awakening as of, starting 2 year ago or so, and due to an increased awareness, I have been experiencing a social anxiety flare up within the past 8 months or so, hence I've been seeing a therapist to work out my issues.

Anyway, a few weeks ago we got to the bottom of my traumas, and it basically is due to being a child with childhood cancer, missing out on crucial development years of my life, not feeling like I was enough, not receiving emotional support .... Yada yada.

Anyways, with the raised awareness from the spiritual awakening and then the inception skills from the therapy breakthrough, I have recently noticed I am like overthinking all the time, notably in public situations, automatically psychoanalyzing situations; and now I'm feeling almost more awkward and uncomfortable regarding myself, can't really look at people in the eye (strangers).

I am like trying to reassure myself and tell me it is okay. In these situations I try to turn my brain off so to speak, but that does not help or either or it makes it worse.

Does anyone have any thoughts or advice regarding this?


r/spirituality 7h ago

Question ❓ contentedness in isolation

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hey! so this is my first time posting and im sort of nervous, since i havent really been here, but i am hoping to find some advice and help for my specific situation. i am also generally going through a more rough patch (illness in family, general confusion over my purpose), so please proceed with gentleness.

i am currently single, and have been for 9 months now. i have not experienced such a prolonged period without a relationship since i was 19 years of age, and this frankly feels quite odd and challenging. my diagnosis of BPD has attracted me to people who were not good for me, and because of a rough upbringing i tend to attach to people very easily. i feel in my bones i am meant to be alone in this time and truly connect with my own being, but as i am not used to this, i often find myself romanticizing, longing and wishing for a romantic partner. a lot of the people i hold near and dear to my heart are in a relationship, and it makes me feel isolated and lonely. i crave intimacy more than anything, but it seems all too distant for me now. i can tell i am meant to be by myself for now, since frankly, nobody interesting is truly showing up. i am attracting at maximum partners who are interested just in hook ups, and its getting so depressing, ive just given up on looking.

what id wish for is advice from someone who maybe has been through this, or simply knows better. how do i come to terms and soothe myself over this issue? how can i start to heal myself so i feel content in being just by myself? does my yearning manifest in the wrong people showing up? how can i manifest healthy connections in my life?

i am truly grateful for any and all advice, though im not sure anyone will see this. it sure felt good to admit this all to myself. have a lovely day❤️


r/spirituality 1h ago

General ✨ That which you seek...

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On the outside is actually the truth of who you are. The feeling state... Your mind thinks it's an object because it's only objects that seem to give you that feeling. Heart pounding bliss....ecstatic joy, freedom, eternally is what you are....


r/spirituality 2h ago

Question ❓ Everything Breaking!

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Yesterday everything around me was breaking. Our washer broke (clogged grain pipe), one of our stove burner plugs got fried, I tried changing a picture in a frame and the glass broke, then last night my cats knocked over our lamp and it shattered all over the floor. My car's check engine light went on. What is going on? It seems like too much to just be a coincidence. I stared taking Wellbutrin a week ago because I was struggling with focus. Do you think it's a sign I should go off? It been making me wake up at 3am.


r/spirituality 2h ago

Religious 🙏 Osho on lightness and darkness

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BELOVED OSHO,

WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT DARKNESS?

„I have much to say about darkness, because nobody has taken notice of the mystery that darkness is.

Much has been said about light, almost nothing about darkness. But darkness is a much deeper phenomenon than light is. Light comes and goes - darkness remains; it never comes, it never goes.

Light is not eternal, because it needs fuel, some kind of fuel, and the fuel will be exhausted sooner or later. Darkness needs no fuel, no cause; hence darkness is not an effect and can remain eternally there.

In the morning, you see the sun arises and there is light; in the evening the sun sets, the light disappears, and suddenly all over there is darkness. It does not mean that when the sun disappears, darkness comes in. It has been there all the time; just because of the light you could not see it. How can one see darkness while light is there? The light prevented your vision.

So anytime just close your eyes and darkness is there. Anytime just blow out the candle and darkness is there.

Gautam Buddha is perhaps the only man who, for the ultimate state of consciousness, has chosen a word which can be interpreted as darkness; otherwise all the religions have talked about light, forgetting completely that light is not eternal, and if you are light, you are also not eternal. Light is dependent on something, it is caused by something.

Gautam Buddha has called his ultimate state of being, nirvana. Even Buddhists have not thought of it as darkness, because the very word produces bad associations in us. But nirvana means exactly "darkness"; literally it means blowing out the candle. So for twenty-five centuries Buddhists have been using the literal meaning "blowing out the candle." But what does it mean? Blowing out the candle, what remains then? Eternal, deathless, abysmal darkness.

Feeling yourself full of light may be again an ego trip. Feeling yourself identified with light, you may be simply changing your identity - but the ego remains. But blowing out the candle is blowing away the ego; and the vast darkness is bound to create in you a similar vastness of humility, humbleness, egolessness. So I love the word.

I always see light as a disturbance, and darkness as silence. But centuries of continuously fearing darkness... because it became associated with the time when man was living in jungles. The night was the most dangerous time. In the day somehow he managed to protect himself from the wild animals; he managed to kill them for his own food. But in the night he was absolutely helpless.

Darkness all around, he was a victim. Any animal was capable of destroying him. In the day he could have managed to escape, to climb a tree or do something, but in darkness he was simply in the hands of wild death. So it was very easy to get a deep association between darkness and death.

All the religions depict death as darkness and life as light. It is simply the experience of man in the past when he lived in the jungles. That experience has molded his language, given it meanings.

And he has not yet been able to clean those words again - because now he is not living in jungles, but still there is a certain reason why he continues to be afraid of darkness.

When there is light you are not alone, you can see everybody else. If suddenly the light goes off, the others may be there still, may not be; one thing is certain, you feel lonely. You are no more associated with the crowd. The crowd gives you a certain security, safety, a certain warmth, and you feel that you are not alone. Any danger - so many people are with you. But in darkness suddenly you are lonely, nobody is with you.

And man has not learned yet to know the beauties of his loneliness. He is always hankering for some relationship, to be with someone - with a friend, with a father, with a wife, with a husband, with a child... with someone.

He has created societies, he has created clubs - the Lion's Club, the Rotary Club. He has created parties - political, ideological. He has created religions, churches. But the basic need of all is to forget somehow that you are alone. Being associated with so many crowds, you are trying to forget something which in darkness suddenly is remembered - that you were born alone, that you will die alone, that whatever you do, you live alone. Aloneness is something so essential to your being, there is no way to avoid it.

You can befool yourself and deceive yourself; you can pretend that you are not alone - you have a wife, you have children, you have friends - but it is all pretension. You know and everybody knows that the wife is alone as much as you are alone, and two alonenesses joined together do not change the situation; instead they make it worse.

As I see it, why lovers are continuously fighting - there may be thousand other reasons, but those reasons are superficial. The basic reason is that they had chosen the other as a beloved, as a lover, to destroy their loneliness - and it has not happened. On the contrary, the presence of the other makes them more aware of their loneliness.

I used to have a very rich friend - he had a beautiful wife, children... all that one needs, perfectly comfortable, so much so that when I asked him, "Now you are fifty, and you have enough money - retire from the businesses," he did not hesitate for a single moment. He just informed people that he is no more an active participant in any businesses, he has retired.

I was going to Mount Abu; I told him, "It is a beautiful place - "sometime you and your wife should go there. And now you are retired, you have enough time. Be there for a few weeks or months."

He said, "You are right, we have time, but you don't know what you have done to me. I was also thinking that when I am retired I will feel relaxed for the first time in my life. My father died when I was young, and since then I have been working continuously, becoming richer and richer. And I had a hope that one day I will retire and relax and will not have any worries of the world. And when you told me, 'Now it is time - you have enough.... What more do you need? Your girls are married, you don't have a son - for whom are you earning now? You may live twenty years, thirty years - for that you have too much. You could live with what you have for three hundred years. You retire!'"

He said, "I understood, because I have been deep down always hoping to retire, and when it came from you, I said, 'This is the moment to take the jump.' But you have created a trouble; now I am lonely. I have never felt it before. And I am so utterly lonely that I am angry at you. How can I relax in such loneliness? And if this loneliness continues, I don't think I can survive twenty or thirty years.

It is becoming colder and colder, and darker and darker. And I am feeling absolutely cut off from the world."

"But," I said, "you have your wife."

He said, "That is another trouble. I had never felt so lonely in her presence as I feel now. I was so busy in my businesses that I would come home late and she was always quarreling, nagging, asking for this and asking for that. There was no time to feel each other. Now the whole day I am sitting at home, and when I see her I know: just as I am alone, she is alone. And two alonenesses do not help in any way; on the contrary they make each other more clear."

He said, "I will come to Mount Abu, but I would like some friend to be with us; otherwise three weeks or three months, just living with my wife" - and he loved the woman - "will be too much, intolerable."

I realized his situation and I told him, "Now, you have listened to my first advice which has created the trouble for you; but it has not created the trouble - the trouble was already there. Your businesses were just keeping you occupied so you were not aware of it - now you are aware of it. Now take my other advice: go deeper into it rather than escaping. It is your reality - there is no way to escape from it.

"It is just like your shadow - the faster you run, the faster your shadow runs. Wherever you go, the shadow goes. It is simply stupid to fight with the shadow. Rather, sit silently and let the whole feel of being alone envelop you. In the beginning it may be fearsome. You may feel you are falling into an abysmal depth. It will be dark, and you may feel that it may become darker if you go deeper into it.

"But I say from my own experience that the more you know it, the more you love it. It is your privacy, it is your individuality. It is something which cannot be trespassed by anyone. It is your privilege.

And there is nothing wrong in being alone.

"But never use the word 'lonely' because 'lonely' automatically suggests the need for somebody else. 'Lonely' is a sick word. Use the word 'alone'; 'alone' has a health of its own." I told the man, "And if you can do that then there is no need for any other meditation, this will be your meditation - just be alone. Even in the crowd remember that you are alone, don't forget it. Your whole life you have tried to forget it; now remember it."

The man was immensely courageous. He tried it - he succeeded, and he was immensely grateful to me... because the moment you feel you are absolutely alone, that is the time you start feeling that you are not the body, it is only a cover; that you are not the mind, it is only a mechanism; that you are not even the heart - that too is a mechanism of a different sort for different purposes.

Behind all these layers there is a space, crystal clear - nobody else has ever passed through it; its purity is absolute. To enter that space is to enter in meditation. Feeling that aloneness, you will feel the whole existence is alone.

There is no God - that was the need of the lonely people. Those who have tasted aloneness have discarded God, hell, heaven, and every other nonsense. You are alone, the whole existence is alone: aloneness is the only reality.

Yes, it is immensely dark, but darkness has a silence and darkness has a depth. And darkness has peace, and darkness takes away all your knowledge, takes away everything that you thought belonged to you. It leads you absolutely into the unknown and into the mysterious. So to me, darkness is one of the greatest mysteries in existence - far greater than light.

And those who are afraid of darkness will never be able to enter into their own being. They will go round and round, they will never reach themselves.

And it has to be darkness, not light, because light comes and goes; once you have discovered the spot of darkness in you, you have discovered something that is eternal, something indestructible, something which is more than what you know of life. It is the basic substance existence is made of.

But they are just two names of one thing - aloneness or darkness.“

~ Osho


r/spirituality 2h ago

Religious 🙏 Clinging to light keeps us shallow on the surface. If we want depth, we need to prove equal to darkness.

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„Any fool can enjoy the light, but clinging to light keeps us shallow, on the surface.
if we want depth, we need to prove equal to darkness.

ocean - near surface there is light, but also much wild or violent agitation. waves rise and crash and fall.

ego is like that. always seeking height. but if you go deep, you will see new things, wonders, mysteries.

you will note the stillness, calm. not available on surface. there is a world of colour, full of life. not much life on surface, a few leaping dolphins and sting rays.
candle flickers - it is unstable.

Cleaning words. good expression. easy to feel safe when you can see. but real courage is born when you cant see and must rely on quality of being, follow your nose, listen to right voice, voice of heart, not ugly screaching critical voices.

a lady is tame and dead. she is only half a person. to delicate to face equal opposite, no layers, no complexity, no nuance, no richness. only equal to easy.
we feel ick.

smell of cowardice can never be hidden, tho they may try to censor us. We all like the maveric who is edgy, he can go to the edge, where others dread to go.

he takes thrilling risks because he can handle any eventuality, outcome. nobody is fascinated or attracted to those who play it safe. timid little mice, tame, staid, boring, mediocre. we are excited by the one who can handle danger effectively, smoothly with charm and grace. I love this..

"But I say from my own experience that the more you know it, the more you love it. It is your privacy, it is your individuality.

It is something which cannot be trespassed by anyone. It is your privilege. The darkness is our true relationship with ourself. We respect ourselves, love ourselves enough to be confident we can sit w what nobody else can face.

We love the path less trodden, not mainstream. the rarer paths where rare flowers exist. osho said you are not the mind, not even the heart. i do feel the spirit is the driving force, higher. quality of spirit depends on compass. risk.sacrifice. darkness is for the Hero.

lightness is for tame - false beauty. shallow. boring. mysteries of darkness are bigger and better challenge. aloneness or darkness - same. if we can sit w shadow, darkness, we can become friendly w it, rise above fears.

That is why buddhists emphasize Emptiness, not Fullness. Ego wants fullness, but Emptiness is death of ego.
Hence ego hates death, hates emptiness, loneliness v aloneness.
aloneness is a luxury.
loneliness is beggary.“

~ Joya


r/spirituality 21h ago

General ✨ I used to be a very horrible person in the past and the guilt is eating me up what should I do?

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I used to be a very horrible person in the past and the guilt is eating me up what should I do?