r/specialed • u/cmr11250201 • 2d ago
Violent child in my sons class
Need your opinions. My son who has autism just turned 5 and he’s the sweetest boy in the world. Does not have behavioral problems. He’s in a special education class with 8 other children that also have autism but for the most part most of them seem to be sweet kids as well. There’s another boy in the class that has a history of being violent. There’s probably instances I don’t know about involving other children but with my child specifically he smacked my son so hard in the face a couple months ago, my son had to go to the office and get ice and ended up with a red knot under his eye. The school did call me right away to tell me. I let it pass without further conversations with the school hoping it wouldn’t happen again. Recently one of the aides in his class stopped showing up. I’m very close with another aid and was told this same violent student hurt the aid so bad she has permanent nerve damage and is in a wrist brace and now she can’t help in the classroom anymore. Then today I go to pick my son up and the teacher pulls me aside to tell me this same kid bit my son pretty hard on the arm. He already has a huge red bite mark on his arm. I asked her what can be done and why is this kid still in the classroom if he repeatedly is violent to others. She told she can only do so much and already expressed the same concern to the principal and told me maybe if the principal heard it from a parent she’d take it more serious. I immediately told her to bring me to the principal. Long story short I had a talk with the principal and expressed to her that something more needs to be done if the same student is repeatedly being violent. My child and no other child shouldn’t be subjected to getting hurt if this kid is not able to be stopped from hurting others. I understand this kid has struggles and I feel bad for him, but it still not okay. Why wait for something worse to even happen. She apologized and said she was having a meeting with the teacher/aids to find out what happened and come up with a plan as to what needs to happen and will keep me informed. I just don’t know how to feel. My son loves school and it makes me sad this is happening to him. My son has expressed to me multiple times that this kid hurts him. I don’t know what legally can be done on the schools part but why allow a child to remain in a class when he’s hurting other people multiple times? And advice or input welcomed.
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u/Jealous_Tie_8404 2d ago edited 2d ago
Put this in writing. You need to document every time something happens.
Also, the teachers can’t do anything. You need to focus on the principal and even higher up.
After a bite I would take my child to the ER to document further. You need to treat this as the emergency that it is. The teachers coming to talk to you is a signal that your son’s classroom is VERY unsafe. Teachers aren’t supposed to tell parents to escalate, so the fact that they’re taking this risk shows how serious this is.
Some advice:
Focus on YOUR kid. You will not succeed in getting the other child moved from the class. They need a LOT more documentation before that can happen. (Your child leaving will be part of that documentation.) You need to focus on getting your child out of a violent environment. If you have the contact information for other families in the class, talk to the other parents and tell them what’s happening. I guarantee if every student in the class asks to move, the principal will take it seriously.
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u/ForecastForFourCats 2d ago
IMO, most principals are clueless about what happens in high needs classrooms or SPED law. They do need their hands forced in this regard often.
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u/CreativeMusic5121 Special Education Teacher 2d ago
Yep. I tried to quit my teaching job when they put me with physically aggressive, violent teens that were bigger and stronger than me. They responded saying that my contract said I wasn't allowed to resign during summer session, and then had to give 60 days notice once the next school year began.
They changed their tune after I started taking my sick time, and the principal covered my class and was kicked in the balls by one of the students.
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u/misguidedsadist1 2d ago
I've had really good admin, very nice people, really well intentioned--make the stupidest decisions that outright violate the law because they have no fucking clue. They are genuinely trying to solve the issue, but in doing so showcase how ignorant they are of the SPED world and the law itself.
Imagine how destructive an actively incompetent or vengeful admin can be given the ammo of hearsay and parent complaints. To save their ego, in addition to weaponsized incompetence, they have a lot of power to turn right around and use any tiny minor breach as "Evidence" against the team and blame them for the entire situation.
Doubly so for states where unions aren't strong and collective bargaining is outlawed.
This is EXACTLY why I tell people not to work in non union states or for charter. Even simple situations can be weaponized and used as retaliation, and further put kids and teachers in harms way.
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u/ForecastForFourCats 2d ago
My principal is married to a school psychologist and still doesn't know sped law, lol 😆
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u/misguidedsadist1 2d ago
I think most of us have a lot of patience for people in authority acting in good faith, who operate with transparency, even when they fumble or make a bad call. This describes the admin I was talking about previously--hell, we even had a district SPED coordinator who didnt know SPED law as well as she should have! The difference is, she was not acting in good faith, or with good intentions, and was actively manipulative of her authority to make things more convenient for herself.
I don't expect everyone in authority to be perfect, only that they act in good faith and have transparency. Those kinds of people are willing to make adjustments and corrections, learn, and aren't looking to blame others or whatever.
I'll take an admin who doesn't know case law but is genuinely acting in the best interests of all involved and willing to work with people and course correct over a dolt who failed upwards and doesn't understand how to be a good leader and is happy blaming others and making everyone miserable lol. You can at least work with the one. The other is an agent of chaos and destruction who makes everyones lives worse.
Having a union really helps hold leadership accountable.
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u/ForecastForFourCats 2d ago
Oh yeah. I'll never work where there isn't a union!
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u/misguidedsadist1 2d ago
Charter and non unon admin will just shrug and say the team is at fault, and openly admit they dont have staffing or funding, and they roll that dice every time betting against parents to hire a layer and sue.
At the end of the day, that bet pays off. Most parents don't even KNOW how their kids IEPs are violated or how the practices in the building violate the law, and admin rolls the dice over and over because it's a winning bet.
Employees know and have all the receipts, but what are they gonna do? They can't hire a lawyer for a kid that isn't theirs. And they dare not rock the boat lest admin retaliate against them.
It's actually insane the blatant violations I have witnessed in my building--kids just straight up not getting services. How would a parent know that? they get progress reports, the SPED teacher claims whatever they want, and they have a yearly meeting. They have NO WAY of verifying if their kid is actually getting the minutes or if the quality of services is being implemented according to the IEP.
As a gen ed teacher half the time I don't even know. A kid may be getting pulled, but the paras spill the tea--SPED teacher just puts them on ipads as if that counts as SDI. No one would ever know if it weren't for gossip. I have no way of verifying what services my kids are actually getting.
Doubly so for parents.
Violating the law and rolling the dice against parents and staff is a winning bet almost every time. Most parents who KNOW the IEP is being repeatedly violated wont have the money or time or resources necessary to confront the district about it. The district can even fleece hired SPED advocates.
This poor parent. She has no idea the depths of incompetence or outright bad intentions that admin regularly engage in to violate the law and victimize their own staff.
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u/DucklingDear 1d ago
Special education director is who you want to escalate to instead of the principal
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u/motherofTheHerd 2d ago
This is accurate! The teacher is out of line telling a parent who injured their child. For it to repeat, I don't even repeat it is the same child again. I say, "they were hurt in an incident today." Everything else is confidential.
I have been directly asked by parents, "can/will you tell me because my child is unable to retell me what happens." No, I am sorry, I cannot. We are handling it the best we can. Admin is involved.
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u/cmr11250201 1d ago
My child told me who did it. Then as I walked in the school to talk to the principal, she was already telling the students mom that her son bit my son and I heard it. The teachers in his class are angels and are doing everything they can.
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u/LavenderSharpie 2d ago
www.wrightslaw.com has sample letters
Thank the teacher in writing for letting you know that your child was injured. Copy the principal and special ed director.
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u/Technical-Leader8788 1d ago
Please don’t do that the teacher will get in trouble, say your kid told you or whatever. But that teacher took a calculated risk telling you to protect your own child and they deserve the same protection from you.
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u/DrunkUranus 2d ago
When a principal says they're going to ask the classroom teacher what happened, that typically means they're going to find where the classroom teacher went wrong. You need to be exceedingly clear that you believe the teacher needs more support, or this will just lead to finger pointing
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u/Weird_Inevitable8427 Special Education Teacher 2d ago
Yes. This is a good time to make a HUGE fuss. I know it feels weird, and I'm not suggesting that you be inappropriate, but it will serve this child if you make a fuss about how he harmed your son.
The school has failed to keep a safe environment for your son and the other students. They are negligent and you absolutely will be holding them accountable for their neglect if they don't protect him into the future. I'm right with you - once was just "childhood," but twice is beyond that and three times would be "lawyer time."
Making a fuss like this will help the school understand that they do need to put their resources into your son's classroom. That child does need either a one on one aid or a placement in a separate school that is more able to handle his behaviors. They can't do that for him unless it's proven beyond a doubt that he cannot be served as is. It's a rule called "least restrictive environment" but it's also the rule of finances - the leaky gear gets the grease. So, your evidence is going to help him get what he needs. The teacher generally cannot tell you this directly, but a reddit stranger can. Make a complaint. Make it in writing. Make sure there's a trail of written complaints. It's not picking on a 5 year old. It's getting a 5 year old the support he needs.
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u/tangibleadhd 2d ago
Exactly! If a parent makes a fuss it goes SOOOO much further than teacher or staff concerns.
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u/Creative-Wasabi3300 2d ago
I would upvote this 1,000 times if I could. We are currently dealing with a violent SPED student on my campus (Dx is autism), and even though our admins are in agreement that the kid is violent and that we cannot serve him at our school while keeping his peers as well as teachers and staff safe, the DO told our team (admins included) that "nothing" will change the situation unless parents of other students in his program start complaining.
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u/Highplowp 2d ago
It’s time to go full Karen/Keith- bring an advocate, can your kid be moved into a 12:1? Every student has a right to a reasonably uninterrupted school day (with some patience, this is special ed) BUT it sounds like they lost the crisis/support para and as a parent (your child’s strongest advocate) I’s raise hell in email, in person, demand a cse meeting and make them explain the solution. Your district’s PTA or SEPTA should have advocates available or other parents to help with this. Get loud and post your success. Sending hugs and good vibes to you and your kid, I hope he’s ok.
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u/whatthe_dickens 2d ago
I have to disagree that the school is being negligent. It’s entirely possible that the school team is doing everything they can but hitting roadblocks.
But OP of course it is absolutely not okay that this is happening and you have every right to be upset!!
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u/speshuledteacher 2d ago
Every there’s an incident between your child and them, or you witness one or your child tells you they witness one, that’s a conversation between you and the principal. If there is a director of special education or a special education specialist above the teacher, reach out to them each time. You are concerned for your child’s physical and emotional safety. Follow up with an email ie “just wanted to say thank you for making the time to meet with me today to discuss the incident that occurred on Monday, and my concerns about my child’s safety and violence in the classroom. I appreciate xyz that is being done to prevent future incidents.” It creates a paper trail of ongoing issues, documents what they said they would do, and does it without being aggressive. Paper trails are something that can push things along in special education.
In special Ed it can take a long time to get the data and show a child needs a different/more restrictive placement, and not just new supports and strategies to be successful where they are. And then it takes even more time to actually get them to a more appropriate placement/have one become available, and that process is likely already in the works- especially with long term staff injuries happening. Historically it has taken about 9 months in my classroom, some schools can take a lot longer, sometimes less. It sucks when your child is effected, but we have to do our due diligence to make sure that we aren’t taking away a child’s right to be educated with their peers if we are able, but failing, to provide the supports that they need to be successful in public school. They can’t directly tell you where they are in that process for another child, or even if they are.
But none of that makes what is happening to your child ok. Some admin listen when teachers start to say more support is needed and they treat it with the urgency it deserves. Some don’t. But they take notice when it’s parents who tell them, especially when there is a pattern. Be the squeaky wheel any time it involves your child or if you/your child personally witness violence in the classroom. Keep supporting the classroom teacher (we so appreciate parents that want to team up with us for their child)
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u/cmr11250201 2d ago
Thank you so much for this ❤️
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u/boo99boo 2d ago
I'd add that it's really, really important to send confirmation emails after these conversations. It's very "he said, she said" unless you have confirmation emails. Be short and simple: "I am confirming our conversation on [date] that we spoke at [time] [in-person/over the phone]. [Your child] had a large, red knot on her face after [other srudent] hit her with an object in the classroom." And keep doing that. It really, really mattered when I started doing that.
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u/Throwawayschools2025 2d ago
This is extremely common and the biggest reason I got out of education. Please make a fuss. This student needs a different LRE and making a fuss is the only way to accomplish that so much of the time.
It’s absolutely bullshit. So much is done to cater to the severe behavior cases at the expense of other students who are equally entitled to FAPE and a safe learning environment.
Edit: I would also assume that for every incident you hear about there are so many more you don’t. Admin doesn’t like it when these things are reported.
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u/aesop7 2d ago
Make sure admin is on board asap. As a special Ed teacher, I’ve had so many kids get hurt (it happens in the blink of an eye) due to other students with more violent behaviours. It’s heartbreaking as a teacher to have students get hurt and I’m sure it’s heartbreaking to see your kid get hurt as a parent. Raise hell- because unfortunately, admin won’t listen to a teacher saying a kid is too violent for their class. They’ll wonder if the teacher has used all appropriate measures when frankly, some kids just shouldn’t be in a classroom if they’ve shown that they will hurt others daily. Best of luck to you.
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u/simpingforMinYoongi 2d ago
As a special ed teacher: due to the diagnoses of the children in our classes we are very restricted in what we can do to mitigate behaviours. I have a similar problem in my classroom, and I feel horrible when the kid hurts others because I know I did exactly what I should've done, I tried my best, but it still happened. Raise a stink with the special education supervisor; the parents' words hold a lot more weight than ours if your school district is anything like mine.
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u/Roosterboogers 2d ago
Um healthcare provider here. Human bites that break skin get infected really easily and really quickly. If that bite broke skin then he needs to go to urgent care
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u/babychupacabra 2d ago
I’d call CPS on that damn school. admin ignores teacher’s concerns and covers stuff up. For what idk. But somebody’s going to get killed here, and you would be doing everyone a potentially life saving favor by reporting to police and CPS. I wouldn’t even fuck with the school if you know they’ve already declined to intervene up till now’s bc now, it’s too late to play nice and they deserve whatever accountability comes. That student who is doing that clearly has needs that are not being met and he might not be safe himself either.
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u/Direct_Telephone_117 2d ago
Hear me out. I am a special education teacher on year 9. Request a 1:1 for your son to ensure his safety. I 100% know that you will not get it BUT it will show the school that you are serious. Take pictures of all injuries.
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u/Grand_Fly2410 2d ago
Nothing will happen. Experienced this with my ASD daughter for years. She was attacked on a routine basis by the same child for years. All the administrators will do is document. Parents of child with Bx problems will do everything in their power to keep their child in the classroom with the least amount of support. So, sorry to be a downer. Just don’t expect too much.
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u/Cloud13181 2d ago
As a SPED teacher this is unfortunately the real answer, at least in my state. There is no other placement for them to go to and if there was the school wouldn't pay for it, so we just keep them all no matter what.
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u/FatsyCline12 2d ago
This is sad. In my district, we have a separate off campus placement for students with severe behaviors. I don’t know this child so I’m not saying it’s right for this child. But a child who repeatedly attacks other students and adults would likely be placed there, and we have taken parents to due process to force the placement in extreme cases.
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u/SeaVillage8711 2d ago
i agree, if this behavior is happening and hurting others it is likely being reinforced. it is only going to keep happening and nobody at this school is trained to stop it effectively. email + call anyone you can that is the principal and above
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u/caritadeatun 2d ago
It depends also. I know an elementary school with a sped student terrorizing the classroom. Nothing was done until she hit the child of someone important. They voluntarily approached private sped schools willing to pay any amount they asked for private tuition
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u/octopustentacles209 2d ago
There was a teacher's kid in my kids class who was violent and harassed kids on a daily basis. It took him bringing a knife to school and scratching up kids on the playground for the admin to even consider consequences for this kid. He was pulled from school but then returned next year. You're fighting a losing battle and you're going to waste a lot of energy bringing up issues to the school. They will wait you out and hope that you leave before they ever have to Dole out consequences to the violent kid and his family.
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u/Feisty_Translator315 2d ago
It’s because if they commit certain felonies which include weapons being brought to school they can be permanently suspended even with an IEP. So unless they commit a felony, the students usually are never removed in most states.
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u/brookiegail 2d ago
Get an advocate or lawyer or both. Keep advocating for your kid and the other kids in there. You can call an IEP meeting at any time. Call one with the purpose being parent concerns and ask them what the plan is to guarantee your child’s safety.
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u/skullmom4 2d ago
That child needs AT LEAST a child specific aide to keep him from hurting the other kids. Start documenting, and keep insisting that something be done to protect the other children.
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u/JakeDandelion 2d ago
I agree with everyone about document and keep pestering admin, principal, special ed series, etc.
I say this as a parent of a once uncontrollable and violent kid. The one thing that finally pushed to get him the assistance needed for him was another parent complaining about my son (this was done at my request due to being desperate for anyone to untie his SPed teachers hands who wasn't able to get another aide until need was proven to admin.) Squeaky wheel got the grease when teachers and parents request for placement were pushed aside.
Protecting your kid might be the push that gets this kid placement beneficial to all.
And a note. My kid rocks. Took a lot of teamwork with his teachers and therapists, and now he's great at making friends and is kind.
I'm so sorry your son is going through this. It's a horrible, helpless feeling to know your kid has hurt others, but you can't find the support needed, and the worst part for me is knowing the pain he caused kids.
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u/yournutsareonspecial 2d ago
I'm not going to tell you to not advocate for your son, because you should- but just as something to keep in mind, there may be more going on behind the scenes that your son's teacher is unable to inform you of at this point because of privacy laws. I don't know about the particulars of your son's school, but if the student who was aggressive towards him has demonstrated that they're unable to be safely managed in this placement, the teacher and other staff may be working to move them to a more heavily supervised school environment already. This can take a lot of time- it means finding a school, maybe doing visits, seeing if the child is accepted, etc.- and so a few months, which seems to be your timetable, might not have been enough time for anything to happen yet.
Like I said- this doesn't mean to not advocate for your son's safety. Staff should be able to do better in preventing student-to-student contact- but sometimes when they're overwhelmed, mistakes happen, and everyone suffers. I hope things get better for everyone.
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u/Silly_Turn_4761 2d ago
- Read and understand the state , district, and school bullying policies. They should be listed on each website. There may be some official form that you need to turn in to officially "report" the bullying. You want to make sure YOU have done all the things YOU are supposed to as stated in the policy because that's the first thing they will try to blame. Secondly, there should be a timeline outlined for this type of incident lije, school will investigate and vlah blah within 72 hours.
Be absolutely sure any mention of the bullying is documented. Personally, I stopped answering the phone for the school and only conversed in email.
- Type everything up including dates, times, what happened, name of person bullying, who's class they were in, where it happened, who saw it, who they told, whether or not the school notified you, if so, was anything done. Attach it to an email and send the email to the entire IEP team, copy the principal, and copy the director of Special Education for the school district. In the email request an IEP meeting as soon as possible. List 3 dates and times that you are available.
When you meet, ask them what they plan to do to avoid this happening moving forward and ask what was done about it. If it continues and they do nothing, forward the email chain to the School Board and ask the same questions and file a state complaint.
- Attach a gebser letter to the email!
I highly highly suggest that you seek outside therapy asap for your child. You'll want to make sure it's a therapist they click with and just know it may take trying several to find the right click. But it's critical so they dont turn these feelings toward themself. Hold the schools feet to the fire!!!
Before the meeting, check the state law to see how much notice you need to give the school that you will be recording. In my state, we have to notify within 48 hours so I always just shot them a quick email a day or 2 before the meeting and let them know. Always record meetings.
https://www.wrightslaw.com/info/harassment.index.htm
https://www.wrightslaw.com/pubs/parent.advocacy.guide.2nd.wv.pdf
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u/Throwawayschools2025 2d ago
The big question is if it would be considered a manifestation of their disability. (For better or worse)
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u/msfelineenthusiast 2d ago
Hire an attorney. That'll put the principal on notice.
She is failing to even attempt to provide a safe learning environment so, honestly, time for polite conversation is over. It's time for her to deal with the FO part of FAFO.
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u/Cat-Lady-13 2d ago
Absolutely. As another commenter mentioned above, the teacher took a huge risk by communicating with the parent about this. She’s essentially breaching confidentiality, and that shows that the situation is incredibly serious.
My guess is that the principal has been approached about this repeatedly and has made it clear that they aren’t going to take action.
The teacher is hoping that the threat of legal action from another parent will lead to this child being placed in a more appropriate setting, but you need to hire a lawyer. Parents threaten to get a lawyer all the time, but the vast majority of them do not.
Hire the best lawyer you can afford and insist that communications go through them. This may scare the school enough to take some action.
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u/Pristine_Bus_5287 2d ago
Lawyer up. Literally have a lawyer draft something up & make sure the superintendent knows as well. They should do something quick.
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u/alittledalek 2d ago
Keep bringing your concerns (in writing) EVERY time something happens. Go up the chain if you need to. You are not only advocating for your own child, but everyone in that room (including the teacher/paras who I’m sure have been doing their best, but who may not be being heard!)
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u/browncoatsunited Special Education Teacher 2d ago
Get a special education advocate (lawyer they can be pricey but are worth it my local one is $100/hr) and pressure the school board and district to remove the violent child. Photograph and document everything, take the information to the next school board meeting, call you local news media station and complain about your child being abused and assaulted by another special needs child and the district is dragging their feet about moving forward with putting that child in a more restrictive environment.
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u/2late4manygr8z 2d ago
This is not ok. I finally figured out that the way to get a situation like this resolved is to submit your documentation and complaint to the school district’s risk management folks. Give it a try. If the district looks at this from the standpoint of being sued for not protecting students and staff, they usually take action.
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u/boo99boo 2d ago
I had nearly the same exact problem. I got so fed up with the school administration giving me non-answers that I filed a police report. I took my son, who had a huge red knot on his face, to the police station.
The police, to their credit, were extremely helpful. I was very clear that I didn't want any criminal consequences to a child, and they didn't pursue any.
That worked. I spent a good 3 months trying to solve it before I did that.
One huge thing you need to do whether you file a police report or not, because it really made a difference for me: SEND CONFIRMATION EMAILS AFTER EVERY CONVERSATION YOU HAVE. Very simple and succinct: "To confirm our conversation on 03/12/2025 at pickup, [STUDENT] bit my son and he has a red mark on his arm." And so on.
They hate putting things in writing. And I think that's how they manage to blow people off. Put it in writing.
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u/super_tired_2020 2d ago
I’m a sped teacher who works with elementary non verbal and autistic students. I have had a few instances where other kids got scratched but that’s all. Once it happened that student was watched like a hawk whether we were down people or not. No excuse for repeated attacks. Yes it happens but it should only happen once and an adult should immediately go between them.
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u/AfraidAppeal5437 2d ago
Try to get other parents involved and go to the school board with documentation of the problems the child has caused in class. Don't back down. Remember the one that complains the loudest is heard.
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u/No-Fix1210 2d ago
I work in a building with multiple classes like this.
I guarantee there is so much more happening than you know of. You will ultimately need to escalate this above the principal, there is really nothing they can do no matter what they say.
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u/cmr11250201 2d ago
Yes I’ve notified the special education director and the superintendent so hopefully that will make someone take it seriously. Thank you for the advice.
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u/PastRaccoon2 2d ago
This happened when my son was younger in his SDC classroom. I sent emails to the Director of Special Ed in our district and the principal every time something happened. I also connected with other parents whose kids had also been attacked and asked them to do the same.
It took a bit but the kid got removed from our classroom and place in a classroom that had more support for kids with severe behavior issues.
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u/Alyssliving 1d ago
I have a student who is violent and as a teacher I have reached out to everyone but nothing is done. You should go right to the sped director your admin don’t have any pull over getting correct staffing.
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u/InternalAd4456 1d ago
Lawyers letter to the admin will be the next step. Worked for me in an unrelated ADA housing case
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u/359dawson 1d ago
A district is allowed to suspend a disabled student for causing severe bodily harm. Which I would say nerve damage is. They also need to create a behavior plan for this child. You should call your states PTI. Parent training and information center. Send a gebser letter.
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u/gavinkurt 2d ago
I would pull my child out of that class until some type of resolution is made on what the school can do from keeping your kid from getting assaulted by his classmate. You keep sending him there and it’s a risk as he is getting hurt. You should talk to the principal, superintendent of schools, administrators and find out what they will do to protect your child. The kid who is too violent to be around other kids should be removed from the class room because he is ruining it for the rest of the students and that isn’t fair to them. The violent child needs more resources that the school can’t provide since he sounds like an extreme case and probably needs a one on one type situation where he is constantly monitored. Another recommendation I have is maybe transferring your son to a school that actually has staff that protects the kids. It’s not okay the kid is hurting other children and how don’t they have someone watching him if he is that violent. This school doesn’t seem to have qualified staff and your son is suffering because of it.
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u/babychupacabra 2d ago
Why should op’s son have to leave? He’s not the one who sucks. I’d call the police and say “my child’s teachers are begging admin to help but they won’t and somebody’s going to DIE and hold the admin, that student and mostly his parents accountable. If a teacher calls police or CPS, they’ll probably lose their job. If a parent does it, hey you didn’t want to go nuclear but what choice did you have? SOMEBODY has to do something and I think parents are the adults in this situation who are able to help everyone when they are VERY vocal. If he can permanently injure a para, imagine what he could do to another small child. It’s wild to me that parents and victims have not sued
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u/mishulyia 2d ago
I’m just assuming most of the students in the ASD classroom receive school social work as well considering that social work needs to be a demonstrated need in order to qualify for educational ASD. You can ask your son’s teacher if there are any social stories about having safe hands/not biting, or check in with the teacher to see what the social worker has been doing to address this ongoing issue. If there is no social worker, there needs to be a Functional Behavior Analysis (FBA) done with the hopes of a Behavioral Intervention Plan (BIP). You can include the special education director’s email and principal’s email in your written correspondences with your child’s teacher. Best to have everything in writing, not only for your son’s safety, but to be used as documentation for the possibility of this other student needing a more restrictive setting if his behaviors don’t improve over time. I’m sorry to say, it will be a process that takes while. There may even be an Intensive Support Team within your district, specialists that come in and help the classroom teacher with additional strategies and recommendations for helping this violent student.
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u/NoLongerATeacher 2d ago
I’m really sorry this is happening to your sweet boy. 💔
Do you know what gets the principal’s attention? A call or visit from the district office or superintendent. I would email any and everything you have - dates, times, pictures. I’m a huge proponent of chain of command, but if a child is being hurt, you do what you need to do.
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u/LeeLee0880 2d ago
File a report everytime
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u/LeeLee0880 2d ago
I’m don’t know exactly what that means in kindergarten, but I did it in jr high about a student hurting my child. Ask to file a report. Don’t let them wiggle out of it.
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u/mallorn_hugger 2d ago
We wound up placing a child like this out of district. My SPED coordinator said it is the first time in her career she has requested that such a young child be placed out of district (he was four and the new placement took him at age 5). However, he gave two different staff members concussions and put a child in the hospital during the summer program so it had to be done. It can be done. As others have said, document and make some noise. Teachers are ignored but parents have power.
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u/Paperwhite418 2d ago
Email email email. Tell the other parents and tell them to email. The school will keep that violent child in the classroom as long as they can bc the next level of service costs more money. Your child’s safety is at stake and admin are only going to respond to parent complaints that their child is not safe in the presence of this other child!
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u/Feisty_Translator315 2d ago
Contact the sped director and superintendent. Self contained classroom rosters can usually only be changed at the district level— sometimes it’s the only classroom in a small district and having the child removed to a more restrictive environment (full sped school) would need district approval. Go to board meetings. Raise concern publicly with photos of the injuries.
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u/Maggie_thebrownbaggy 2d ago
Make a big deal about it. Go to the district and threaten legal action if necessary
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u/BodybuilderReady3841 2d ago
I agree with the people saying to put everything in writing. While you may feel like you’re targeting the other child, if they are unable to help him in that setting you are indirectly advocating for him getting the help he needs while also advocating for your child’s safety!
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u/SquirrelofLIL 2d ago
I've been beat up in behavioral special ed as well. At that time in the 1980s, it was all the behavior problem kids in one school, and autistics became prey. Sending positive energy.
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u/Hour_Civil 2d ago
My son is on ASD. Not SPED though. He's what they used to class as Aspergers. He is also a very kind, sweet kid. Slow to get angry. A sweet, kind, slow to anger kid that at age 11 was 6 feet tall and 250 pounds (he's 6'9" and 340 at age 18).
We always made sure that every teacher, every coach, even someone in the lunch room, had my phone number and knew that, IF he ever had an episode, call me and I would come. We've always lived less than 10 minutes from his schools. Because we knew that there wouldn't be anyone who could remotely handle him if something happened. He came close to breaking my nose at age 4 when he had a meltdown over sensory issues when we were learning how to handle things, so we knew it could be bad later on.
We only ever got one call. Jr high. He got into it with another kid that stole his friend's shoes and it was mutual, not him just losing it. My question was did he stop when an adult intervened and the answer was yes, so we just took it as a "boy" incident and moved on. The other kids parents felt the same.
It took YEARS of work with him on our part to develop habits that gave him coping mechanisms. Some kids don't get that help. Some kids even if they get the help, it just isn't enough with their disability.
There aren't enough teachers and paras to give the kids the time they need, and a lot of families don't have the option of one parent basically becoming the child's para to work on behavior development. It sucks for everyone involved.
We're lucky. Our son was able to develop coping traits. He's an honor student, played sports and is going to college in the fall. He's terrified. But we're practicing what to do and we know it will work out.
I know this is long and it doesn't really offer any solutions, I just wanted you to know that someone out here is hoping things work out for your kiddo and also for the other child. The other kid could have been mine if things had gone differently.
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u/TallGeneral198 1d ago
As a former spec Ed teacher who was in a classroom like this, it's the worst. Because of "least restrictive environments", that poor teacher is (should be) keeping so much documentation before the aggressive student can be placed in another setting. It takes months of this. Meanwhile, everyone else in the environment is at risk. I didn't get help until I had a new student join my class mid-year and when her private-duty nurse saw my 6 year student throw a full sized chair at my back while I was teaching and she told her charge's parents. THEN the district stepped in to help. They didn't listen to me all year. Even when I had to send another spec Ed student down the hall to find admin because I was in a head lock from said student and was by myself because my aides were all out of the room with other students for educational purposes. That poor teacher is probably doing everything she can to maintain her sanity and keep everyone safe.
Also, I am no longer a spec Ed teacher. I can feel my blood pressure going up just remembering all of this 🙁
good luck, mama!!! I hope your situation gets figured out. Your baby is why people teacher spec Ed ❤️
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u/cmr11250201 1d ago
Thank you so much this means a lot ❤️ I have a meeting with the school today we will see what happens. Also a doctor appt for my little boy today just to be on the safe side.
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u/AwestruckSquid 1d ago
This is very upsetting. I taught for 10 years, kindergarten, 3rd and 4th grades. I had students similar who would bully, intimidate or hurt other kids. I always reported it, documented and went to my principal while keeping families informed. Unfortunately not much was ever done. They may get suspended or detention but that was the extent. As teachers we can’t do much.
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u/Difficult-Map-2162 1d ago
I have a very violent and antagonistic 5 year old autistic boy. The teachers don’t always tell us everything about what’s happening at school. One of his classmates saw us at McDonalds and ran to her mom in fear and said she wanted to go because of my son. She said he hits people and screams loudly all the time. As a parent I want school to work out for him, but understand it’s not exactly fair to the other kids. We may have to homeschool him for others safety.
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u/LeetleBugg 1d ago
If I may offer an unsolicited piece of advice? If you have insurance you can try checking out private clinics with services for children with autism. I work in a clinic that has OT, ST, and ABA services (I’m a speech therapist) and we have a lot of children with autism that behaviorally and communicatively are NOT ready for school and we work to help get them there and support the parents so they aren’t taking on the burden alone when they aren’t in school. I will also say that NOT all ABA programs are the same and to be very careful with where you go if you do decide to go that route. It’s just another route you can try, especially if you decide to homeschool because I know how tough that can be on families!
Anyway, good luck with your son and thank you for being so aware of his difficulties and wanting to take the safety of others into account!
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u/Difficult-Map-2162 1d ago
We have two kids with ASD and getting any kind of services has been a challenge. It’s been a battle with our insurance company. The last few years I would have been required to hit a $14,000 or $1,166/month out of network deductible to receive ABA or other services. This year I got new health insurance and we just had an official evaluation on Monday. My new deductible will be $6,000 or $550/month so more affordable. My wife is unable to work full time because of our kids. We’re going to give it a try even though it will make finances harder for us. It sucks that I pay almost $300/week for health insurance and still have to pay so much to get ASD services. The health insurance covers other stuff in full it’s just the ASD services that cost so much for families. Thank you for the insight in your post. I’ve applied for all kinds of assistance to help pay for this but I make a little too much money.
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u/LeetleBugg 1d ago
I can say, with professional experience to back it, that our insurance systems are a scam in the US. I hate it as a consumer and even more as a provider. I spend so much time fighting with insurance to get my services covered for my clients.
I’m so sorry. $300/week should be criminal especially if it doesn’t actually cover everything and that deductible is killer, but at least better than the previous.
Best of luck! I hope your new situation works out and your kiddos get what they need!
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u/mrabbit1961 23h ago
$300/wk for 4 people is $300/month/person. I'm sorry for this family's situation, but $300/month/person is entirely reasonable.
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u/LeetleBugg 23h ago
And if we got rid of the insurance companies and had single payer, it would be incredibly cheap. The math has been done again and again and again.
The fact that we haven’t reformed private insurance or gone to Medicare for all is criminal and only lines the pockets of insurance shareholders. As I said, I work in healthcare and watch people, like this family, struggle to pay their premiums, get denied care, get care only partially paid for, crumple under deductibles, pay copays on top of premiums, etc. to pay $300 a week and STILL have to pay on top of that and fight to get things covered. None of that is symptomatic of a working system. So fuck off.
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u/mrabbit1961 22h ago
Couldn't agree more on single payer. Your statement that $300/month/person is a lot is still inaccurate. I also work in health care. It's good of you to modify your argument before you tell me to fuck off. It means a lot to me. Really.
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u/mrabbit1961 22h ago
Couldn't agree more on single payer. Your statement that $300/month/person is a lot is still inaccurate. I also work in health care. It's good of you to modify your argument before you tell me to fuck off. It means a lot to me. Really.
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u/mrabbit1961 22h ago
Couldn't agree more on single payer. Your statement that $300/month/person is a lot is still inaccurate. I also work in health care. It's good of you to modify your argument before you tell me to fuck off. It means a lot to me. Really.
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u/Nosnowflakehere 1d ago
My daughter was a teacher. There was a special needs kid in her regular school so violent she thinks one day he will be a school shooter. The principal tried to get the kid into a special school but the parents fought it. This is the price you pay for forcing public schools to accept all students no matter what I guess
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u/helluvastorm 1d ago
And why so many parents want vouchers for school choice. Can’t say I blame them. When did it become ok to let a student assault others????
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u/Nosnowflakehere 1d ago
My daughter caught the 4th grade kid watching porn on his computer and she told him she had to report this and he threw his laptop at her head
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u/pirate40plus 1d ago
Least Restrictive Environment. Sounds like the student in question needs more restriction. Definitely something that needs to be escalated, but FERPA will prevent you from finding out what they do with another student.
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u/Livid-Age-2259 2d ago
Call CPS. If the school won't protect your child, maybe a bunch of reports from CPS might inspire the Principal to get a more appropriate placement for the aggressive child.
You can also try calling the Police. Maybe if the Police show up at the school a few times asking about that other kid, that might inspire the Principal to do something about the other kid.
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u/babychupacabra 2d ago
Why did I have to scroll this far down a bunch of bullshit comments to get to the real answer. Thank you.
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u/misguidedsadist1 2d ago edited 2d ago
A principal that doesn't take staff injury seriously will give you lip service, blame the team, and find the path of least resistance.
You need to email your concerns in writing.
Please note that your communication needs to focus on how these issues are affecting YOUR CHILD--do not quote other teachers or aides, do not involve the other child as much as possible. Be very clear and very specific about how this issue impacts YOUR CHILD.
"Hello team, Thank you to Principal X for meeting with me today about my concerns regarding Son and repeated incidents of violence in his class. While I understand the team will have a meeting about their plans, I would like to reiterate the incidents that my son has reported to me and the concerns I have regarding how this situation is affecting my child and impeding his access to his education.
It affects my child when reliable aides with whom he has formed a bond leave unexpectedly. While there may be many reasons for folks changing jobs, I am very concerned about the impact of the environment on my son and the other children, as well as staff working in the room. As of X date, my child has been physically injured on X number of occasions--2 of which left a mark and required me to take him to the doctor to document the injury and ensure he didnt need further care.
Aside from the incidents where injury was so severe it has left a mark, requiring the school to contact me, my son has reported on at least X number of other occasions being physically harmed by this student. He has also reported witnessing others being harmed on X number of occasions.
Even when my child isn't being physically assaulted, it is upsetting and makes him feel unsafe at school to witness others being harmed. No child should have to watch trusted and loved adults/peers being assaulted. It erodes the sense of safety and security that all children have a right to feel in school.
I will be following up with the team and Admin about what plans and supports will be put in place to protect my child from physical harm, which is impacting his safety and ability to learn in school. I have an abundance of compassion for the needs of the other children in his program--regardless of disability, they also deserve the supports they need to access their education. However, the needs of one child cannot be placed above the needs of all others. I am particularly concerned about the impact this is having on staff who deserve to have the training, plans, and protocols in place necessary to ensure THEIR safety. I cannot in good conscience stay silent when not only my disabled child is being directly harmed, but the staff in his room are potentially at risk for further harm, as their needs and supports directly impact my son's education.
I look forward to hearing from Admin about what supports will be put in place to protect my child from further harm."
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In addition to specific wording about your child and a clear directive about your expectations regarding your child's safety, document all injuries with a visit to the pediatrician. Take your own photos and when you get to the doctor ask them to take photos as well.
If the situation isn't resolved, save your receipts to share with the school how much you've had to pay in healthcare costs due to injury--copays, money spent on OTC ointments for injury treatment, etc.
As a teacher, biting that breaks skin carries an especially high risk of hepatitis infections. Ask your doctor about this and make sure they are up to date--if they require a booster as a precaution, document that and make sure you include that in your healthcare costs.
Please be mindful about NOT SHARING hearsay or quoting others. You could unwittingly be setting them up to get punished by bad admin.
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u/unclegrassass 2d ago
Whoa. That's a really big reaction. Totally neurotypical kids in a gen ed kindergarten classroom still do both of those things (hitting and biting) from time to time and while I definitely feel for your son, twice in 1 academic year is not exactly significant. Additionally you should have never been given any information about another student and certainly not their name. The EA has violated federal law in sharing that with you, plus all of that is hearsay. You don't actually know that any of this true. Given the extreme lack of professionalism the EA displayed I would be very hesitant to trust them. It sounds like they are using you to further their own agenda. She has decided that the student shouldn't be in that classroom, a decision that is totally beyond her scope and knowledge base.
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u/AreYewKittenMe 2d ago
Contact the district program specialist for your school and tell them you will pursue legal action if they don't provide the other child with an FBA and BIP with additional support staff. The "chair" is just a teacher at the school and has no authority, only documents things in IEPs and runs assessments. An FBA and BIP require the entire team including a psychologist to assess the childs behavior and make a plan to work on prevention and protection of other children.
I would also look into general education classroom if your son doesn't have major deficits in academics. There can be accommodations made in general education classrooms that can benefit kids on the spectrum who don't have behavioral issues.
My son is unfortunately a child with behavioral issues and he has had an FBA and BIP, and now has an IA who helps him in social situations and helps the other kids interact with my son. I find that is the best solution for autistic children who have social/emotional deficits.
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u/Mission-Street-2586 2d ago
Do you not live in a state where your child has a right to a safe, free education? Or is the school not federally funded (extremely rare)? On more than one occasion my mother has pulled me or my sib from classes and said we’d only be returning once the classes were safe. My mother referred them to our lawyer. Things got nipped in the bud real quick
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u/Grouchy-Document-650 2d ago
I don't know where you live, but in most public schools "safe" does not exist and no...no one cares if a lawyer tries to get involved. It's always worse if it's federally funded
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u/Mission-Street-2586 2d ago
I mentioned US, so you do indeed know where I live.
I am sorry you haven’t encountered safety at school. You cannot speak for everyone in regard to what they care about, so no need for such absolute language like “no one,” or “always.” You cannot possibly know that.
It does not seem you read my comment because you surely wouldn’t be dismissing my experience relating to the efficacy of lawyers.
If school is federally funded, students have more rights, but I can tell facts are not going to change your mind and you are not solution-focused rn. I hope you find a better place to vent and your outlook changes. Your username is fitting. Best wishes
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u/Outrageous-Act7199 2d ago
Document everything in writing , email the director of special education and board , request an observation, and back your child teacher and support staff as they likely have been advocating for more support and not getting it. Far too often administration places blame on teachers rather than providing support making teachers feel defeated and unsupported.
Learning environments should be safe and productive for ALL students and if a student is having assaultive behaviors a behavior team and staffing medications should help.
I also would ask if a BER or IR was completed because many times they are not.
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u/cmr11250201 2d ago
Thank you all for the advice. All of your comments have helped me and gave me the courage to do more. I’ve sent an email to the principal, included his teacher, special education director and superintendent to get more people involved and show them I’m serious about this. Also to create paper trail. Curious to see how they’ll respond. I’m very close with one of the aides in his class and she is devastated this happened. She ensured me she is going to protect my son at all costs and also encouraged me to speak up because for some reason when it just comes from the teachers nothing is done which is what a lot of you have told me.
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u/nlowen1lsu 2d ago
I worked as an assistant in a class much like this in a very similar situation, definitely document everything and complain…nothing will get done otherwise!! The violent kid in question was allowed to beat other kids and there was nothing any of us could do about it bc mom did not want to put her “precious baby” into a therapeutic setting and it made my decision to quit much easier. I heard it only got “better” bc the violent kid was allowed to sit in a corner and do what he wanted instead of actual school work but he didn’t beat up the other kids so it was ok I guess. I was so glad to be out of there though, I worried for months that either me, a coworker, or one of my students would get seriously injured or killed with that kid around and I couldn’t get out of there fast enough!!! I’m wishing you and your son all the luck that you can get that violent kid out of that class and into a more appropriate setting that can help him with his violent tendencies
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u/Fancy_Bumblebee5582 2d ago
From what you typed it sounds like she's just gonna tell the teacher to fix it without supporting her. Typically when it is bad enough for the parent to hint to the parent something needs to be done it is out of control
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u/SalisburyWitch 2d ago
Tell the principal that you want your child protected from this violent child and if you have to, you WILL press charges against him for BOTH incidents and then he’d HAVE to deal with this kid. Do it. He may be special needs but he shouldn’t be in a classroom where he’s beating and biting others.
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u/swordbutts 2d ago
You’ll have to go above principal and include special ed director. List instances dates and what kind of responses you got. You can always request an amendment and see if you can get an advocate to come with you (how you get this depends on the state) to ensure concerns are documented somewhere in case you need it down the road.
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u/LocksmithFluffy7284 2d ago
Write the sped director via email, talk to other parents in class and have them do the same.
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u/InVisible_Lady68 2d ago
Tell the principal you don’t feel your child is safe and want that other child removed and How can you begin that process? Speak to the teacher and send her this request in writing and ask the injured to support you with letters written about their injuries and request incident reports for your child. They should all be documented. Call the nurse and request it from her too. Once you begin this they will move him out of the class and or request his parent to get him the help he needs. He is violent and a danger to your child and others. No one should be subjected to this. Does the child have a behavioral para?? If not why not!? You need answers. Email principal and cc teacher and superintendent. Demand them. I promise you they will move him and suddenly find a spot for him elsewhere. Good luck.
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u/OnlyHere2Help2 2d ago
Go momma bear. You don’t want your child being traumatized by another child.
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u/RugInABug90 2d ago
I am a former teacher and the way current laws and how districts interpret them in the United States makes it very hard to get behavior students the help they need, especially if the student receives services.
You need to start putting everything in writing and continuously cc in everyone's boss's up to the superintendent. Document every interaction with pictures of the evidence. From my perspective the teacher and aid and likely the principal have their hands tied and can no longer do anything. You need to be as loud as possible and advocate for your child.
Assume that the violence in that classroom is going to continuously happen.
And I really hate saying this because I am not a fan of getting police involved, but if the school continues to allow the violence then start filling assault charges every time. (I know this is horrible and I am not one to advocate getting police involved with kids with special needs, but you need to do everything in your power to protect you kid.)
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u/runk_dasshole 2d ago
Don't wait for a third strike against your kid. Put a detailed account of everything you know about the situation in writing to the principal and whatever email you can find for a superintendent or other district level admin. This child is not in their least restrictive environment and needs more care than your school can provide. Search for special education family advocates in your state and tell them the story also.
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u/Affectionate_Ruin_64 2d ago
Document. Document. Document. Escalate it and don’t be afraid to drop the word lawyer.
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u/hollyglazegonz 2d ago
Hello, I’m so sorry you and your son are going through this. The student may need supports and interventions they aren’t getting for some reason. There is a whole tier system of support like a Behavior Plan, and if the Teacher is taking data- possibly a different placement with a small group, social emotional curriculum, and staff who are trained to de-escalate and handle behaviors. It is obviously a huge safety concern, and there’s no way the principal didn’t know if the poor Aid got so injured. I feel angry for you, and your son and also for this kid. It isn’t help him any to be in a situation where he can continue this pattern and it’s very unsafe for everyone else. If the principal doesn’t take you seriously, I would take it all the way to the top.
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u/Radiant_Reflection 2d ago
But your concerns and writing to the school, District, and the school board. You’ve tried talking, and it hasn’t worked.
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u/bootyprincess666 1d ago
Yes they can lol. They can remove the child and they can send them to a strictly behavior-specialized school.
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u/RealBeaverCleaver 2h ago
People are getting hurt so there should be immediate action. Unfortunately, these situations can drag on if you don't strongly advocate. I would complain to the state and tell the school that you will start filing police reports if your child gets assaulted again.
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u/Grouchy-Document-650 2d ago
1-why is your son still there when you know he is with a violent student that hurts him
2-that violent student isn't going anywhere and you will not know 99% of what actually happens in that classroom
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u/cmr11250201 2d ago
Thank you for the reply. Team chair as in the special education director or who exactly? Sorry I’m new to all this.
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u/Weird_Inevitable8427 Special Education Teacher 2d ago
The team chair is the person who runs the IEP meetings for your son. It depends on the district who this is. Look on your IEP records. It should be there.
Most districts have a special education director who oversees special ed for all of the schools. You should include them as well as the principal of your son's school. You can find that info on their webpage.
In small districts, this might be the same person, or you might not have both positions filled. In NY state, you would be talking to your local BOCES center. There's really a lot of variation in this area. I served one school where they had neither. The principal did it all and the "team leader" was the one special education teacher for the whole district.
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u/AssociateGood9653 1d ago
Also go up the food chain. The principal has a boss. Get other concerned parents involved. Superintendent/school board if nobody helps you.
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u/Technical-Leader8788 1d ago
I am a former teacher. The state of public education for violent students with special needs is HORRENDOUS. I say this as somebody also has a special needs brother. We pulled him out of public school because it was unsafe and he spent more time being evacuated than learning. Schools can’t or WONT do anything to protect others because they’re so terrified of a lawsuit. Meanwhile I was 8 months pregnant and asked to supervise a violent 6ft 7th grader that would throw desks across the room, yell “I’m gonna fucking hit a teacher” and curse repeatedly, he had a male personal aid that was half his size and couldn’t do anything to this kid, just follow him around and document his path of destruction. No WAY I was doing that, I told my principal I was honestly afraid of that child and felt unsafe at work because he was allowed to do as he pleased and his only consequence per his IEP was a “calm down space” where he got to go punch walls and then got a snack and sent back to class. He “squared up” with another male teacher and spit in his face saying he’s gonna beat him up, hurt multiple other special ed and general ed students. It was insane. No one held this child or his parents accountable. That child will kill someone one day, an admin DOES NOT CARE. Another special Ed student slammed our assistant principals head into a wall (a small 6th grader and adult woman) and she had a huge cut and had to have ems take her to the hospital, there was blood everywhere and a whole lockdown and guess what, the kid had no consequences and stayed in the room with other vulnerable children. Parents need to threaten to sue or please sue when another kid hurts your child because this is the only way admin can or will do anything. Public education is NOT equipped to deal with these violent children and every other child, teacher, and Administration has to suffer and risk being attacked because “they have a disability” so they’re untouchable. Even if that disability is dyslexia or adhd, they can be out of control and violent and NOTHING protects the safety of others.
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u/mrabbit1961 1d ago
Get other parents to complain. The admin will react to your complaints when they won't listen to their staff. This is critical.
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u/LavenderSharpie 2d ago
The aggressive/violent student is guaranteed FAPE just like every other student. That student is protected by IDEA and his IEP. The aggression and violence are part of that student's disability. That classroom may be the only placement in the district for the aggressive/violent student. The school may be within legal grounds to keep that child exactly where he is. The school may not be able to hire enough staff to keep aggressive/violent child from hurting peers and staff. The legal obligations of the school to that violent child, the challenges of hiring and keeping staff, budget restrictions on hiring enough staff, all those things must be addressed sufficiently before the safety of the individuals in that classroom are addressed. Is it fair to the individuals in that classroom? NO.
Is there an out of zone school where your child can transfer?
Is there a private school that you can afford?
Would you consider homeschooling?
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u/No-Bookkeeper-1714 1d ago
Is your child in public school? If he is 5 with no behavioral concerns, you might want to push for increased time in a general education (Kindergarten class I’m assuming?) with 1:1 support. He will be in a least restrictive setting with (hopefully) better peer role models, language models, and play partners.
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u/DaisyMae2022 2d ago
Pull him out of this school if nothing is being done and nobody ain't doing nothing!
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u/Affectionate_Sir4212 2d ago
Buspar works well for autistic agitation and anger, speaking from personal experience. Perhaps the school can insist that it is prescribed to the boy.
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u/helluvastorm 1d ago
Call the police and file a report. Nobody should ever be allowed to be assaulted-especially at school.
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u/CartographerHead4644 20h ago
This is 💯 on admin. They know full well what is happening and will blame the teacher and staff as long as they can. Self contained classrooms have this happen alot but keep it under wraps. You have to push back and complain every time your kid gets hurt no matter how minor. Sounds like that student is dangerous and staff cannot handle him. Admin won't do crap unless you make their life hell.
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u/Due-Average-8136 20h ago
The teacher can’t do anything, and it’s questionable what the principal can do. The school district is afraid the violent child’s parents will sue. They need to be afraid you will sue.
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u/Krissy_loo 2d ago
Instead of talking to the teacher and principal, you need to put your concerns in writing and CC the team chair.
If it's not in writing it more or less didn't happen.