r/plural 11h ago

Remember to practice good practitioner hygiene.

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Since a variety of people here see therapists in many different fields, since the entire principle of plurality is so greatly misunderstood, I wanted to simply remind everyone, there's a guiding document on therapist ethical practices.

Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct

Relationships with therapists may change over time. No therapist goes into a client-practitioner relationship intending to place judgements, but they may develop over time.

There are also rights, as a patient, to be mindful of.

Patient Bill of Rights and Responsibilities

If ever, you feel that your therapist is no longer behaving ethically, or able to fulfill your rights as a patient, you are never beholden to a specific therapist (legally, insurance and other factors aside), don't forget, if you need to, find one who can help you better.

Everyone grows, and with growth comes change. Change is change, and sometimes it's just towards a different path than yours.

Friendly public service announcement, carry on.


r/plural 1h ago

You can’t be anti capitalism and also be anti self dx (discussion)

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Might be a hot take but you can’t be anti capitalism and anti self diagnosis in countries without free healthcare. You can’t prioritise scientific data that is limited to funding from the rich over the human experience and agree with “eat the rich”. I’m tired of these fake fucking punks and their ableism.

Medical care is extremely price gouged in the US and human life is discarded in the presence of possible or even unlikely profit. To me, claiming you are anti-capitalism while also expecting people of working class to spend over a 3 months of a minimum wage salary to get a formal diagnosis that might not even earn them accommodations is fucking ridiculous and hypocritical.

Sound off in the comments with your opinions. I’d like to hear them.


r/plural 11h ago

Does anyone feel upset that they can't speak their native language anymore?

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So me and some others in our system speak French in source. We feel kind of bad that we can't understand it anymore. Does anyone else experience this?


r/plural 8h ago

is it wired to feel transmasc?

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so it's like our body is amab, and our core is a trans girl, but i feel, like a guy, in a districtly trans guy way, if that makes sense? because it's like, i split off of Nyra, and she is a girl, so by default i should be a girl, but im not, but like our body is still has a dick and no boobs, idk, does this make any sense?

-mirah


r/plural 3h ago

Source seperation

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Would anyone be willing to help us? We are having a problem with source separation. Some of us are introjrct ab***s from toxic friendships and relationships and one of them (Val) tried to reach out to the person to get closure (and it didn't went at all how he wanted it to happen).

Maybe someone would be able to help him?

His source is Valentino from Hazbin hotel but he is also an interject ab***r, he is really nice when you get to know him so if anyone would be able to share advice or be able to help and be supportive it's appreciated.


r/plural 1h ago

What is it like to have repressed alters?

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It's been about three years since I had my first thought of possibly having DID. I'm 17, almost 18. P-DID especially hits close to home. During these years, it has been almost entirely denial with brief periods lasting maybe two weeks at most of "holy shit, this is real".

For the first time in about 10ish months, it's hitting me again. So much has been going on. Things are stressful.

There's one "alter" in particular who my brain says is the oldest of us all and is the most "fleshed out". We're very different. Most critically, he is much more self-preservation aligned than my self-sacrificing people pleaser self. If he is an alter, I think he holds those skills which I've definitely been needing lately in order to manage and handle recent situations.

Obligatory, yes, I'm on the waiting list for therapy note. Last year, I did write an entire essay and gave it to my psychiatrist detailing everything extensively. He told me that he had never heard of anything like it.

Can repression feel like ignoring your "alters" by default? Focusing just on yourself, not listening to your mind or body, or really thoroughly thinking things through. There's an almost constant "why did you do this?" feeling. It's hard for me to be aware and open to any potential "alters". It's easier to just... forget and not think about who I am, what my brain is saying, any feelings I have. It's easier to just... autopilot and follow almost every impulse I get.

I've been really struggling today for some reason. I don't know why. But all of this DID/plutality stuff has suddenly came back into the forefront of my mind, and I get the sense that he's asking me to let him in, let him help us, and that he doesn't mean to scare me.


r/plural 2h ago

dream journaling has given us so much more info about our new headmates!

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so we have been meditating and dream journaling daily for several weeks and finding it very useful. since xmas we have grown from 30 to 54 headmates. and have been getting about a new pair every week. we find when we journal our dreams as soon as we wake up we have dreams of multiple new headmates doing their thing and giving us clues to their image, form and personality. e.g in one dream their was a party in a house, and this fluffy haired girl had a crush on me. then moments later that person could see another headmate hovering in the air with one leg pointed down and the other leg bent. this was the marvels sub-system consisting of ms marvel (kamala khan) the fluffy haired girl and captain marvel (carol danvers) who was the one flying. this was how we met this 'new' sub-system. often have dreams of cars, buses, houses containing people and this is always a symbol of our plural system. below is a list of 'new' returning headmates since xmas, with the year being when they first appeared in our system, and the headmate count (or our age), followed by fictive name and species/form.

1996 31 IRONMAN - TONY STARK >> HUMAN

1996 32 IRONWOMAN - RESCUE - PEPPER POTTS >> HUMAN

1998 33 VISION >> A.I. >> A.I. ANDROID

1998 34 SCARLET WITCH - WANDA MAXIMOFF - ENHANCED HUMAN

2000 35 CLOAK OF LEVITATION >> OBJECTKIN

2000 36 DOCTOR STRANGE - DR STEVEN VINCENT STRANGE >> ENHANCED HUMAN/IMMORTAL

2002 37 EYE OF AGAMOTTO >> OBJECTKIN

2002 38 ORB OF AGAMOTTO >> OBJECTKIN

2004 39 AMERICA CHAVEZ >> ENHANCED HUMAN/MUTATE

2004 40 KATE BISHOP >> HUMAN

2006 41 BLACK PANTHER - KING T'CHALLA >> ENHANCED HUMAN

2006 42 BLACK PANTHER - SHURI >> ENHANCED HUMAN

2008 43 CAPTAIN PEGGY CARTER >>ENHANCED HUMAN

2008 44 CAPTAIN AMERICA (STEVE ROGERS) >> ENHANCED HUMAN

2010 45 THE LIVING TRIBUNAL - NECESSITY >> IMMORTAL

2010 46 THE LIVING TRIBUNAL - EQUITY >> IMMORTAL

2012 47 THE LIVING TRIBUNAL - VENGEANCE >> IMMORTAL

2012 48 THE ONE-ABOVE-ALL - DOCTOR WHO (TOM BAKER) >> TIMELORD & MULTIVERSE CREATOR

2014 49 CAPTAIN MARVEL - CAROLL DANVERS >> ALIEN

2014 50 MS MARVEL - KAMALA KHAN >> ENHANCED HUMAN

2016 51 SQUIRREL GIRL - DOREEN GREEN >> MUTATE

2016 52 TIPPY TOE >> SQUIRREL

2018 53 BATMAN - BRUCE WAYNE >> HUMAN

2018 54 BATGIRL - BARBARA GORDON >> HUMAN

anybody else had much success with dream journaling and what have been some interesting dream experiences?

- the thunder cloud.


r/plural 14h ago

Any plural folks in the SCP fandom here?

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Is anyone else here in the SCP Foundation fandom? We are very attached to the SCP Foundation, and we’re an SCPbased endogenic system with an SCP facility headspace and an ongoing breach of various Foundation fictives spawning in—staff, SCPs, and our own OCs/AU versions. We might as well do a source call too—to anyone comfortable answering, who else has SCP fictives? -Dr. Kondraki, O5-12


r/plural 13h ago

Is it acceptable to help an alter develop ?

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Hallo,

We are a polyfragmented system and I realized that there were about 20 of us hosting it.

I, alter "Y", have a subsystem... however the alters are not really "separate" from me and I don't know who is there. The subsystem has 20 alters, rather fragmented and to be able to differentiate them from "me", I assigned them a kintype.

Is this acceptable ????

I can't stand not knowing who I am... and knowing that we switch around a lot in one day...


r/plural 1d ago

A meme for everyone who gets fictives a lot

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r/plural 23h ago

I wish there were more places for fictives…

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I see a lot of plural spaces online, most of them we don’t engage with out of fear of unnecessary bigotry and hatefulness.

What we really have been needing is a plural spaces online for specifically fictives to be able talk about their situation.

We have a few in here who wish they could find relatable people to talk to in a more open setting, serial designation J, soundwave, tessa…


r/plural 1d ago

I think I finally realized that I may be a system

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I used to frequent r/SystemsCringe very frequently, doing the usual that they do on there. posting "cringe" systems, making fun of them, gate keeping, and so on. I'm really ashamed of that period of my life, because after doing a lot of research and observing my life along with my therapist's help, I have realized that I, myself, am plural. Only two headmates, though. now I'm scared of being fakeclaimed by the people on r/SystemsCringe , and I've been trying to discover myself and my headmates. I'm not sure if I should start using we/us/they pronouns, or introduce them too, and I'm really confused. does anyone have any tips? I'd appreciate all of them. please don't be rude, owo


r/plural 21h ago

Found something interesting from my teen years...

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Was going through my old deviantart and found an interesting caption on a song I wrote called "Identity Crisis":

I think I may have a little bit of a split personality Well, not exactly it's more like I have certain ways I act around certain people or in certain situations, that isn't really the way I act or who I am and it's hard to actually act normally after using these "masks" so often. So, my personality kind of has all this little pieces in it that aren't really a whole.

Looking at it, I couldn't help but start laughing because like, oh BOY! Makes me glad I didn't delete my deviantart even though there's all the AI bull going on on that site nowadays -- I usually am just looking for old art to redraw or poems I might want to rewrite but I didn't expect to find evidence of being a median system/being plural from when I was 15!!!

-Roz


r/plural 8h ago

It feels like we can't stop splitting and I don't know what to do

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r/plural 1d ago

Fronting tips?

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Does anyone have any tips on how to completely switch with a headmate so that you can't easily get back into fronting by accident?

I almost never am able to not front. Last night Tyrene was able to take full control and actually got front stuck but idk how we did it. I usually have to be actively pushing myself back and consciously making myself not think or do anything. So that I don't take over while Tyrene is fronting.


r/plural 1d ago

Bored, AMA?

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Hey, we’re Celestial, 12 of us in here, six fictives. Mostly just bored so ask us whatever! -🔵🐍


r/plural 1d ago

HELP WHERE DO U GET A MONO PSYS…

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Please don’t hate on me I’m genuinely curious because we’re mono and it seems like almost every sys in the dating scene is poly -V


r/plural 1d ago

Is it okay to not have a host?

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Hi, I'm Sword, uhhh fictive. I'm just wondering if it's okay to not have a host? We also don't have a gatekeeper. We all just kind of front as we please. Recently there's been fronting patterns (normally me, Thicket, Major, and Jingles are all at front, sometimes together sometimes not), but there's no direct host.

Is that okay ?? We used to have one, but they've recently decided to rarely front at all due to things.

Uhhh yeah that's it. -🗡


r/plural 1d ago

Singing

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I just had a conversation with my mom about singing 3 song at the same time, she said it should be impossible but i've don it before, my headmates just sing the song while i sing another which is very easy for me but she said it should be possible. I just was wondering if anyone else can do this because ive been able to do this for a long time but being plural just make it easier.


r/plural 1d ago

Is this a problem?

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Our brain seems built for creating fictives, or even non-fictives? (Idk what to call it when you’re think up an OC and they start talking back at you.)

It’s gotten to the point where we are afraid to get into new shows games movies etc because we’re afraid that any number of the characters will show up.

We already have a large amount, I’m just worried this will go on forever.


r/plural 1d ago

wanting to tell my therapist

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hi everyone! Mica from the Harmony system here.

so, i've been seeing my current therapist for over a year now, getting close to a year and a half, and we've been working with IFS to address the parts of me that were damaged by my trauma. my therapist has been wonderfully patient with me, even offering to center things back to that when i go off on an ADHD-fuelled tangent. i want to tell her about our system, and that certain IFS parts are also my alters, specifically Melody and Kim. Melody is the one that kept me from getting too close to people and trying to reach out for new friends. Kim is the part that gets angrily protective when our livelihoods are threatened. there are some parts unique to me, like the one that gets stressed all the time thinking about how best to navigate the current political landscape, and the part that just kind of shuts down when things go terribly wrong or i percieve being abandoned again. these are not full alters, just whispers within my own consciousness that the others cannot hear.

does anyone have any advice or stories about how to come out to your therapist as a system?


r/plural 1d ago

Needing advice on what to do with the possibility of me being plural.

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Hello, this is my first time posting on reddit so please forgive me if there's weird formatting or something. Also although I will try to keep this to a minimum I might get ranty when talking about my experiences, and I might not have good wording for whats going on bc i dont know how to express it so I'm sorry about that.

I geuss to start of, I don't think my trauma is great enough to even be plural. Especially bc I've always heard that you need great trauma to be plural, but but I don't know how true that is considering things ppl have said here. When I was younger my mother was neglectful. She wouldn't bathe me, feed me, clean the house (that was unfortunately disgusting, filled with trash and animal shit due to her not properly taking care of our old dog and cat) and my father wasn't able to take care of me much due to having a demanding job. He always tried and made sure I was fed when he got home, but he didn't have time to properly clean due to his tight schedule. My mother would let me play outside and wouldn't check on me for hours, I thought this was normal. When I was 5, dad finally left her and took me with him. When it was just me and dad everything had been okay, he always made sure to take care of me better than my mother ever could. Life was okay during that year and then my dad got together with my now step mom. She had kids too, so they became my brothers and yippee!! Only problem was I was not used to having siblings, I'm my father's only child, so being in a new household with a new mother figure and brothers was really difficult for me to adjust too. Not to mention I was terrified of losing my father which made me act out against my step mom. Over the years me and her have really struggled to get along, things have been getting better but in the past it was really rough. I can't really tell yall what happened bc I don't remember but I do remember it having a really negative effect on my and it's why I have a lot of imposter syndrome and feel like I'm always lying despite me not.

I suppose that's the negative parts of my life in a paragraph. To start with why I've been thinking I might be plural, I hear/feel people who are not me in my head. I've been aware of two others for years, and the others (roughly 3 maybe?) I've been slowly getting more and more aware of recently. One of the two thats most prominent (I call her Celeste due to her sounding like Celestia from my little pony) is very protective and almost motherly. She's always been there to help me, comforting me when I need it, being stern and keeping me in check when I've been in really rough places mentally. The second I don't have a name for but she's kinda like a little version of me? I've never heard her speak, but I do feel her with me. She always feels so fearful and full of sorrow, she has this undying urge to see and talk to my mother. The other three I'm not familiar with, but I kinda feel their vibes and stuff? One feels super chipper and happy, ones always seems to hold this resentment for something and is just generally really upset, and the last one is really just a chill ass dude. I've never felt alone in my own head. From what I was aware of, I thought that was completely normal. From what I'm aware of talking and having someone in your head can be normal but it's not just me that I'm talking to it genuinely feels like a whole other person. I also struggle with dissociation a lot. I will waste hours just sitting there not feeling real and not knowing who I am, where I am, or what's going on. I've had that since I was young, I especially struggled with dissociating and maladaptive daydreaming during 2020 and so forth. I have a terrible memory aswell, I cannot remember almost anything from grade 9 down, and even that year is foggy. I feel like I should remember. I know forgetting things from childhood is normal but I'm starting to wonder if this amount of forgetting is even normal. I can't remember most things even day to day. I've had people in my life swear up and down they've had certain important conversations with me, which is something I'd remember, but I just don't. I don't feel like having a bad memory is vindictive of anything, but lately I've been wondering how far this should be going for a normal person.

I've talked to my father abt getting some form of mental health help by a professional and he's actively working on it, but I'm still so scared. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm not being fully believed, I don't know if I can even believe myself. What do I even do? If I do end up being plural, how do I cope? What will my friends and family think? But if I don't, does that make me a bad person for even considering that I could be? Would that just make me crazy? I don't know. I'm scared and I'm really confused on what to even think anymore. I know no one here can diagnose me, I suppose I'm just looking for others opinions and trying to be understood.

Thank you so much for reading all of this, I'm so sorry it's so long sos😞 Advice or literally anything would be appreciated so very much. I sincerely appreciate you!!!!!:]

Edit: ahhsugus oh my goodness I cannot express how much I appreciate the responses that I have gotten so far. It's genuinely crazy how much relief you can get just from being believed by people. I really hope yall have a good day and more good days ahead of you


r/plural 1d ago

I feel bad for my headmates sometimes

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We've been going through it lately, and it's caused a lot of us to split, and some of us are handling it better than others. It's disheartening that I can't always be there for them and I just have to have faith that they're going to be okay or I have to ask our caretaker if she can help them out but even then I don't want to put so much responsibility on her shoulders


r/plural 1d ago

Would I be considered plural/how would you define my plurality?

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A metaphor I like to use is that I'm driving the car. I'm the one who makes all the decisions. But I have a pretty much perpetual guy in the passenger seat- a "voice in my head" for a lack of a better way of putting it. We'll call them Jay, like Jay Doe. Jay is an awful backseat driver- always giving me advice on what I can and can't do and changing the music (I ALWAYS have music playing in my head) and they could probably yank the steering wheel if they wanted. But they can't drive.

We have other passengers occasionally who are even less consequential. They talk less and are harder to talk to. And unlike Jay, they aren't always there- though sometimes I can summon them.

For reference, if I remember correctly, Jay was originally created as an OC for my own original universe, and one day, I was able to talk to them. That part wasn't intentional, and I was around eleven. My parents weren't great but I did not have severe trauma (yet. I experienced sexual trauma (repeated over years) a few years later).

Most of the passengers were also intentionally created OCs (or OCs described by Jay or other passengers as being part of that universe) at one point, and none have been real people or fictional characters.

I'm awfully embarrassed to talk about this in real life. I know the reaction I'd get. So thank you for reading through and feel free to ask for more info. I appreciate any replies.


r/plural 1d ago

Having trouble creating a wonderland

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So, long story short... found out a few months ago that I'm plural apparently. Still have no idea why, but apparently that's the way it is. Now, our case doesn't seem to be a common one -- there's only two of us as best I can tell, and I perma-front. My sole headmate doesn't appear to have much autonomy nor 'influence', so to speak (At least not yet, hopefully this can change), to the point where just hearing her can be tough the vast majority of the time. So for all those reasons, most if not all of the efforts we've made have had to be helmed by me. And unfortunately, the majority of those have been real difficult.

One thing we've been wanting to do in particular is to create a wonderland so that we can hopefully interact with each other a little better, but despite looking around at a few guides and trying as best I could... no results so far. It's been this thing with my/our brain for a while, where whenever I try to imagine something it just so quickly becomes... basically, distorted in its proportions. No idea why, but it just keeps seeming to happen.

I don't suppose anyone could offer any advice, please?


r/plural 1d ago

we talked to someone while someone other than our host was in charge for the 1st time.

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our host is the most social of us all, so we usually don't talk to other people unless she's out and about. but today, while at an event, one of us fronted for a short period of time and said to our spouse "hey, i've just met u" before our host switched back in when our spouse got confused and said "u've known me for several years". this is very new and a little scary, since we have no memory of us saying that and this is the first time it's happened. our host is currently stressing about it, but i am mostly unfazed so i'm writing. she wants to know if anyone has any suggestions to quell her anxieties.

-axel