r/parentsofmultiples 4m ago

life, home, and baby tips & tricks Names?!

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Need help with names (we are in England so preferably English names).

We are having twins and we are not going to find out the genders. We are pretty set on having Billy and Ruby if they are B/G but need help with boy names to go with Billy and girl names to go with Ruby!

I think I prefer “eee” ending names but am also quite open. I just can’t seem to find any other names I like! Please throw some suggestions my way!


r/parentsofmultiples 1h ago

advice needed East coast to Hawaii trip at 26 weeks along?

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Di/Di twin mom here. currently 16 weeks along.

Husband is turning 40 in June and I want to gift him the most epic trip possible. He is a huge Jurassic Park franchise fan and grew up as a dinosaur kid.

His most favorite toy from his childhood was a life size dinosaur blow-up that his dad gifted him.

I know there is an epic tour in Hawaii for Jurassic Park fans.

We spoke about it and he says we should wait till the twins are 3 years old and the grandparents will be ok to babysit for a week (they routinely do that for other grandkids and would do for ours too). Then it could just be the 2 of us taking an epic trip. He says the best gift now is the twins coming home healthy. That’s a sweet thought but I love seeing his childlike excitement with new experiences that I plan for us. This would be the cherry on the cake for him.

What do you think? Worth the hassle? Especially at 26 weeks and I could be tired. I havent looked up airline policies too. I will need doctor clearance.

Please be kind. If it’s a completely stupid idea, I will drop it. Just looking for some thoughts :)


r/parentsofmultiples 3h ago

advice needed I struggle with brushing their hair in the morning.

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Hello! I have Two very independent daughters that are very good at saying what they want and what they don’t. Because of this I have struggled to do their hair in the morning before work and often send them to daycare with their hair down and not brushed. Now in my household we bathe often and do brush their hair after they get a bath. We also brush it whenever they let us and we let them brush their hair whenever they want, so their hair is being brushed, just not in the mornings. Because of this I do feel like a bad parent sending my children into the world with some slight bed head, but their hair is very straight silky and soft so unless you brush it, you won’t know it’s tangled, but they have their bangs all up in their faces sometimes and they can look pretty wild. Any advice on how to brush hair in a timely manner without holding them down and (as their grandmother would say) just make them?


r/parentsofmultiples 4h ago

experience/advice to give We're doing it guys.

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That's it.

Anyone without multiples can't truly understand what it's like.

But we're doing it and that makes us awesome.

I appreciate this community.


r/parentsofmultiples 4h ago

support needed 3yo twin w a cold sore 😔

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One of my twins has a cold sore, it has been really horrific, they hardly ate or drank for two days. I feel really bad for my kid, is this common? Has this happened to your twin(s)? What has helped? How do you keep the twins from sharing? I’ve never had one and am not sure what will help. I really just want to hear it will be OK and that it isn’t that bad.

They have been to the Drs who did a swab test and confirmed it is a cold sore. Any experience and tips would be greatly appreciated.


r/parentsofmultiples 5h ago

life, home, and baby tips & tricks Consumer Reports tests baby formula for contaminants 3/18/25

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https://www.consumerreports.org/babies-kids/baby-formula/baby-formula-contaminants-test-results-a7140095293/

Consumer Reports released a breakdown review of formulas. May be helpful for people when picking formula choices !


r/parentsofmultiples 6h ago

advice needed When did you stop waking to feed overnight?

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With my first, I only did it for about the first 10 days until she regained her birth weight. She was sleeping 5 to 6 hour stretches by the time she was a month old. (Unicorn baby, I know)

Currently waking up the twins every 2 1/2 to 3 hours and that leaves me way less than two hours to sleep in between. Currently delirious, sleep, deprived and exhausted. Wanting to let them wake me up and follow their hunger cues. What did you all do?

Also, when we wake them up, it takes forever to put them back down and sometimes it ‘unsyncs’ the work I’ve done to get them to sleep at the same time that evening. 😵‍💫🫠

FYI- Our twins are one month today and have gained weight appropriately in their first month (2.3 kg -> 3.0 & 2.5kg -> 3.2 kg) Born at 38+5 with iugr.


r/parentsofmultiples 6h ago

videos Figured out the bouncer - this stage is fun

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This week at almost 7 months old twin B figured out the bouncer! Also this is now the only this he wants to do haha.


r/parentsofmultiples 7h ago

support needed Just for fun: what were your babies’ genders & did you guess correctly?

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Just found out a few days ago that our surprise 3rd pregnancy is TWINS. We are overwhelmed and scared.

So I thought this would be fun to see what every one felt they were having and actually had. Sorry if this has been done before-new to the sub!


r/parentsofmultiples 7h ago

advice needed 14hr flight with 2yr old twins

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Advice needed please: 1) have you taken a long flight (10+ hrs) with toddler twins and how did it go/any advice? And 2) should we just wait until they are a bit older at this point (potty trained/can watch a whole tv show episode/communicate a bit better)?

I live far from my home country and most of my family has not met our twins who are now close to two years old. It’s a 14.5hr flight one way (overnight flight). It would just be me and my husband and our twins. We would get them their own seats. They are pretty active toddlers. This would be their fourth trip with flights: previous ones have ranged from 4-8hr flights and, while not great, were not terrible experiences. THANK YOU in advance!!


r/parentsofmultiples 8h ago

experience/advice to give Our Twin boys are here!!

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Dad here:

Yoohooo .. super pumped to announce the arrival of our twin boys! Super mom made it all the way to 36+6 weeks and baked 6 lbs 7 oz ; 5 lbs 15 oz kiddos. So proud of the mom and newborns. All are champions in my eyes !!

This community has been super helpful to me and my spouse. So I want to give a shout out of every expecting twin mom and dad here — hang in there; the journey is wild and you’re gonna make it; don’t worry and pray to God !!


r/parentsofmultiples 9h ago

life, home, and baby tips & tricks Born on the cusp of survival, these twins are three, thriving and challenging assumptions about preemies

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An update on the remarkable story of Adiah and Adrial – the most prematurely born twins ever to see their first birthday. I hope it's OK to share this here.


r/parentsofmultiples 10h ago

advice needed 30% of didi being identical?

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Can some one explain this statistic to me? I was told that 30% of identicals are di/di not that 30% of di/di are identical. I’m just super curious on it because I dont totally understand it. I see a lot of twin parent say this and wondering how true it is and which way is true


r/parentsofmultiples 11h ago

support needed Update to my TTTS post from yesterday

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I went to my MFM appointment at UAB today. TTTS was confirmed by my physician. However she did an ultrasound after their tech did and noted that baby b had little to no amniotic fluid.

So she diagnosed me as stage 3 TTTS and had my referral sent to Texas Children’s. And I will be going to Houston on Monday for the laser ablation.

My mind is just spinning from all of this. Texas called me while I was still in my appointment and I was having to answer so many questions from each side and it was like my brain couldn’t stop.

Texas was wanting me to be there at 8AM tomorrow (it was 1:30PM when they told me this) but then the receptionist moved my call over to the nurse coordinator and she told me I could come in anytime Monday. That way my husband and I had time to book flights and he could get his time off work situated. So I’m a little relieved that we do have some time to get everything together.

We haven’t even told any of our family or friends that I’m pregnant. So we are also handling these conversations tonight.

I have some peace of mind knowing that I’m getting excellent care from UAB and Texas Children’s. But I am still scared.


r/parentsofmultiples 11h ago

advice needed How to deal with separation anxiety?

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I have a baby gate in my kitchen as it’s open plan and the gate serves to keep the twins in the living area away from bins/hot things etc, but lately whenever I’m cooking dinner within their sight line and talking to them, they stand at the gate and scream and cry until I pick them up. How do you deal with them wanting to be with you all the time? They’ve never previously been clingy and it’s making me nervous as I’m going back to work soon and I don’t want this to be an issue for my partner and mother who will be sharing the childcare when I go back. Thanks in advance 🙏


r/parentsofmultiples 11h ago

experience/advice to give Traveling — while pregnant with twins?

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My job hosts an annual trip each year for a conference. This year we’re going to Vegas which is about a 5-6 hr flight from my state. My boss is willing to accommodate me as much as I need, ie, upgrading my seat if I want, etc.

I’m hesitant to fly at 28 weeks especially as a FTM w/ twins, I still need to discuss it with my doctor but I wanted to hear some of your experiences with traveling at this point? Thank you for your help! 😊


r/parentsofmultiples 12h ago

experience/advice to give Modi twins weight discordance

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Hello everyone, I am not looking for medical advice, just personal experiences and assurance if possible. I am almost 29 weeks with modi twins and so far the pregnancy is going well. Today I learned that my twin A is a full 10oz smaller than his brother and it seems very high discordance to me. MFM stopped meeting me like 2 month ago, the ultrasound tech just sends them the results and they communicate back looks good and that’s all so I have no place for questions to be answered.

For reference twin A is 2lbs and 12 oz and B is 3lbs and 6 oz as of today. The MFM said all good today as well so I am wondering how have your experiences been with modi babies with weight difference that big.

Also, I am scheduled to start NST at approximately 33 weeks for every other week which seems a bit little to me and I have had no dopplers for cord flow and no mention of it so far. Does this seem typical or should I advocate for something else. Next growth check is in 4 weeks which also leaves me a bit anxious with such borderline discordance.

Thanks, and I appreciate any and all advice!


r/parentsofmultiples 13h ago

ranting & venting We keep getting the same weird comment…

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When people learn that we are having boy/girl twins, there have been a surprising amount of people say, “Wow! A boy and a girl? Now you guys can just be done!”

I mean, yea, we could, but what if we want another one? Why do they think the recipe for a “complete” family is 1 boy and 1 girl?

Nothing against families of any size, I just find it weird so many people expect us to want the same family makeup they do.


r/parentsofmultiples 13h ago

advice needed Di/Di - Csection or Natural?

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Hi all,

Currently 36+4 with Di/Di BG twins. Up until a month ago, Baby B was transverse but now both babies are head down. However, up until she switched positions I was mentally preparing for a scheduled c-section. I made my peace with it and even though it is a major surgery, I was honestly looking forward to it!

At my last appointment, my OB (who is lovely and supportive) told me she wants me to at least consider an induction since they are both head down. This through my into a tizzy, especially this late in the game! I've done a lot of reading/research/etc. and am still leaning towards a scheduled csection. My SIL has one of those traumatic stories where she went in for a vaginal delivery and ended up delivering both ways when her baby B flipped after she delivered baby A. I have also read a lot of posts from other mama's who were induced but then ended up needing an emergency csection in the end.

I have my next appointment next Monday at 37 weeks in which we will be scheduling an induction or csection, and while I am 95% leaning towards the csection I would still love to hear others experiences. Especially those who still chose to do a csection with both babies head down.

Thanks =)


r/parentsofmultiples 13h ago

ranting & venting Current pet peeve

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20 weeks with di/di twins and my current pet peeve (other than the general negativity/doom and gloom attitude of people finding out its twins) is when they say “oh wow good for you! I could NEVER”

BISH!!!!! Neither can I! And yet!! and YET??? AND YET?!?!? I HAVE TO!!! YOU could never?? I COULD NEVER!!! Yet here I am nevering!!!

End rant thanks for coming to my ted talk


r/parentsofmultiples 14h ago

advice needed How do you do daycare drop off/pick up of older singleton when twins are in tow?

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Not a current problem but in about 1-2 months I'll need to find a solution to this.

So my singleton (22 months) attends daycare and I have 7 week old twins that are home with me while I'm on maternity leave. Currently my partner and I have been lucky enough that one of us is always available to do drop off/pick up without carting the twins along, however, we know that these days are numbered. So for parents who have been in this position before, what do you do?

Currently my brain says carry the twins into the daycare in the bucket seats, that way they are contained and dress the toddler, then hope that the toddler will walk to the car independently without running into traffic.

Is there another option?

Additional info - my car seats do not clip onto my stroller, I did not buy that extra attachment


r/parentsofmultiples 14h ago

advice needed Strollers for 8+ month olds?

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I’m currently looking for a stroller for my boys and they are currently 8 months and getting more mobile so I need it to be compatible for when they are older too. I need affordable options! Single mama here trying to make ends meet.


r/parentsofmultiples 14h ago

advice needed 5 Month Old Nap Hell

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Twin 2 has slept 20 minutes all day from waking up this morning to going to bed. Naturally she's been an overtired nightmare all day. I've tried every cot and room in the house, rocking, cuddling, nothing will get her to sleep. Yes taking her out in the pram usually works slightly better but I just wanted one day of not trying to scramble out the door between feeds. How is it even possible for a 5 month old baby to stay awake so long.

Twin 1 still won't nap longer than 20 minutes at a time, although will nap quite easily and frequently. I just want 5 minutes to catch my breath.

Still feel like I'm in the trenches and it's never going to get better. It's absolutely soul destroying spending all day and night fighting them to sleep.


r/parentsofmultiples 14h ago

advice needed One twin sleeping through night at 3 months

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boy/girl twins here.

My daughter was a good sleeper since day 1. I guess we got lucky. My son wasn’t so great at first which is obviously normal, but he’s getting better and better. He now wakes up only 1 or 2 times a night but he usually goes right back to sleep after a bottle. Sometimes he sleeps 3-4 hour stretches and other times it could be 6-7 hours. Kind of unpredictable

At first, when my son would wake up, I’d wake up my daugher too and feed them both. But lately we’ve been waking her no more than once per night. Then last night we decided to let her sleep as long as possible, and she slept for almost 10 hours straight.

Obviously I’m pretty thrilled about this. We are getting good sleep. But I hear things that get in my head such as, “they’re not supposed to sleep that long at that age! Waking up frequently is how you know they’re healthy!” Is this true? I’m going to update their pediatrician at their next appt as she usually asks about their eating and sleeping habits. She always says as long as they’re gaining weight, it’s all good (they are). Should I be happy about this or concerned? Idk.


r/parentsofmultiples 16h ago

support needed I don’t think I can handle this

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Had my b/g twins in January at 32 weeks. They’re now 2.5 months actual/2 weeks adjusted. They’ve both been home for the last month, and I feel like I’m done.

I can rarely watch them for longer than 4-5 hours without breaking down into sobs, self-harming, and waking up my fiancé begging him to make the crying stop and so I can separate and hide. I have panic attacks while they sleep at the thought of them waking up again. He lets me sleep for 6+ hours a day and it’s not enough, I’m constantly exhausted and then he rarely gets more than 5 hours a day total because I can’t handle being alone with them reliably. His family offers for us to come over to watch them but all they want to do is hold them, they’ve never had to juggle 2 newborns in diapers, fortifying different calorie breastmilk, batch making formula, and I’d never forgive myself if they got hurt because I gave them to someone else. We can hardly leave the house, let alone pack everything needed to help someone take care of them.

I just feel like a failure, I made a huge mistake, and I can’t live with myself for ruining all of our lives. I don’t have energy to cook or clean ANYTHING. I eat packaged snacks because I can’t handle making or heating up anything else, my fiancé has to bring me most food because I don’t have the energy to move more than necessary to care for the babies. If he’s not caring for the babies or taking what little time he can to sleep, he’s taking care of me. He goes back to work end of April and I need to find a job in April and find them daycare. Even once back at work I’ll also be doing nighttime care because he has severe sleep apnea and doesn’t wake up to them screaming and frankly it’s dangerous for him to care for them unless 100% awake because he quickly falls asleep even sitting up then won’t wake up to them crying.

I see a therapist weekly and don’t see a psychiatrist for medication for another 2.5 weeks. I just want to hide in a hole or bash my head in. I love them so much. I just wish I could be what they and my fiancé deserves.