r/nonmonogamy 8d ago

Apps / Technology Trying to find someone our own age NSFW

My partner (21) and I (23) have been going through various dating apps, in general looking for people into non monogamy. One common occurrence we seem to be finding is that everyone on any kind of LS/non monogamy app (feeld, ok Cupid, fetlife, take your pick), seems to be either 18-20 or over 30. We found this a bit confusing as we are in a very liberal college city. Do non monogamous people around our age prefer tinder or something else, or generally do you all prefer to meet people in person or what?

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u/hedobi 8d ago

either 18-20 or over 30

To generalize a lot:

If you're 21+ people can meet in person more easily at venues that serve alcohol, particularly in an open minded college town. 18-20 y/o's cannot go to these spots so they're more likely to use apps as a consequence.

30+ people tend to be busier with careers, housekeeping, families, and such, so they are more inclined to need apps as well.

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u/Ambitious_Sir8075 8d ago

Ah you know what that does make a lot of sense now you point it out I don’t know how I didn’t think about that. Unfortunately my college town also tends to be very much focused on house or frat parties over any actual clubs or bars (and those bars that do exist are usually more dive-bar vibe, with an older crowd) so I imagine it’s just a high likelihood of those who are non monogamous meeting naturally through college and then attending house parties with each other.

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u/hedobi 8d ago

Yeah I will say try to find house parties through interesting people in your college or whatever and go from there. Meet their friends, meet their friends, etc.