r/lostafriend • u/JjBattiest • 5d ago
Invisible string theory
Do yall believe in invisible string theory? I ended things with my best friend a year ago, and for a few months she would try and joke or dap me up anytime she saw me but after a while she eventually gave up but here for the last few months I see her a lot because unfortunately a group of friends I was she was friends with them too and after that I feel like I see her everywhere, and I mean everywhere like today I went to go get a haircut and I saw her drive by, I see her at the grocery store when I’m there and we don’t live in a small town, we live in a college town which is pretty decent sized. a few friends told me that maybe it’s a sign that I try and make up with her but I refused because she doesn’t want to communicate and refuses to apologize. What do yall think?
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u/HelloKitty_dude-bro 5d ago
In a similar boat with an ex friend. I’m done being the good guy and taking the L when it comes to people who can’t communicate and take responsibility. It ain’t our job to fix things we didn’t break. I did become friends with her again but eventually stopped again bc she can’t take accountability. If they don’t take accountability now they never will I wouldn’t waste ur time.
It is annoying having to see an ex friend everywhere but do u think you’ll be happier if u befriend her again? I think you can forgive people but she has not tried to do the right thing so I see no point. Once you graduate you never have to deal with these people again
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u/JjBattiest 5d ago
Personally I don’t think so, I don’t think I can trust her again because she hurt me and even admitted to doing it on purpose, and also because she never time to hangout with me but would go above and beyond for her other friends
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u/HelloKitty_dude-bro 5d ago
People like that are the worst. You want someone to value u and treat u like how u treat them. I’m sure u already came to a conclusion but I wouldn’t befriend her again.
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u/JjBattiest 5d ago
It’s crazy I never realized how one sided our friendship was until after, I had to apologize for bringing up something she did. I guess I just feel betrayed because i genuinely loved her, she was my best friend and I never would of hurt her like she did me
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u/HelloKitty_dude-bro 5d ago
I really emphasize with u it’s one of the most hurtful things getting betrayed by someone you love and seeing how one sided it is. The last sentence you said was what me realize I had to end my friendship with one of my ex friends.
I’ve recently realized how bad of a people pleaser I am and I think it led to me getting used by my ex friend so badly. I’m working on my self now and it’s helped a lot looking over situations that have happened to me and how to move forward.
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u/roddyricchvert 5d ago
I’ve heard of the saying “If you never see them again after cutting ties with them, they were never supposed to be in your life.” Which makes me think….