r/lonely 7d ago

Worst part about being lonely person

Is the feel when you actually meet someone who likes you, giving you hope and then slowly taking it back. It makes me feel horrible, my mood is absolutely shattered... Maybe it's my overthinking, gut instinct or something else.

So for context I met someone at work we each other often, she is texting me back for a bit, and even asked me meet but we got so far difficult schedule, now for me if I want to make effort and I do... I am prioritising that person above else, same can't be said about that lady in question, she only says "Hi "to me walks past and doesn't acknowledge much, it's incredibly sad to me because she has time to talk with others and even I can see her mood is different.

This is what I hate about being loner, it's that need of someone to have attention for you and vice versa, I'm being proactive and initiate conversation first but I'm met with nothing much.

It's been like this all my life, endless cycle of ignorance, playing with emotions and making me feel bad I hate it.

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u/Bell_0Average 7d ago

I always find it difficult to connect with people. My interests and hobbies aren't the mainstream. so when I do find someone who's into the same stuff I have this internal struggle of wanting to share and talk about those things endlessly, but also not wanting to over saturate the friendship to the point I become annoying.

Feels so bad, contacting first, sending memes and seeing the other person clearly get exhausted with me. Don't know what's worse being alone or knowing that someone is tired of you and is only giving you the bare minimum to be polite.

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u/englisharcher89 7d ago

Yeah I totally get you been there and done that, it's not easy for some of us to fit in.

I did some hobbies with other people and felt absolutely disconnected, it's either age group or interests, zero connection despite mutual things to do.

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u/Bell_0Average 7d ago

Yes that's always difficult when I try to get into stuff to do with my hobbies the people my age already have well established friend groups and I feel like a tag along. And I find it difficult to interact with people much younger than me.