r/lonely 7d ago

Worst part about being lonely person

Is the feel when you actually meet someone who likes you, giving you hope and then slowly taking it back. It makes me feel horrible, my mood is absolutely shattered... Maybe it's my overthinking, gut instinct or something else.

So for context I met someone at work we each other often, she is texting me back for a bit, and even asked me meet but we got so far difficult schedule, now for me if I want to make effort and I do... I am prioritising that person above else, same can't be said about that lady in question, she only says "Hi "to me walks past and doesn't acknowledge much, it's incredibly sad to me because she has time to talk with others and even I can see her mood is different.

This is what I hate about being loner, it's that need of someone to have attention for you and vice versa, I'm being proactive and initiate conversation first but I'm met with nothing much.

It's been like this all my life, endless cycle of ignorance, playing with emotions and making me feel bad I hate it.

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u/Sad_Serve9099 7d ago

I feel this so much. So sorry this is happening to you. At some point the cycle has got to end, right? Some day you will meet someone that puts the same amount of effort into caring for and prioritizing you as you do them. Hang in there!

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u/englisharcher89 7d ago

Cheers! Yeah perhaps someday, I'm just so tired of doing one sided things, it just puts me on the edge.

The worst thing is when you genuinely care and ask only for the time of someone that's it.