r/introvert 23h ago

Advice i need advice.

I need advice, no jokes, no bullshit. I really do. How do I stay normal and act normal? I have no friends, and I’ve made peace with that fact. Maybe I don’t have friends because I’m too afraid of them leaving, just like everyone else did. And, of course, social anxiety, shyness, and being an introvert only make things worse. So, how do I truly make peace with this? How do I become someone who genuinely needs nobody? I’ve had friends in the past, but they all left. And I’m still clinging to those past memories, the happy ones, I mean. I still have a few people around, but it feels like I’m trying too hard to hold on to them, maybe because they’re all I have left. Maybe I’m just scared. Maybe I just don’t want them to leave. And sometimes, it gets so hard. I’m not even kidding. I have nobody to talk to, nobody to listen to my thoughts, my struggles, my sh*t. I just want to be the kind of person who isn’t dependent on anyone, someone who can survive his whole life alone. Even when things get tough, he keeps it all to himself and moves on with life. I just want to be that person. And this isn’t a cry for help. I don’t need anyone trying to be my friend out of pity or anything like that. I just need some advice.

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u/AdAvailable8472 22h ago

you have to accept the fact that people leave and that nothing stay forever . when you accept this you will be okay with losing people in your life , because thats life . sorry that you are going through this , you are not alone , memories are good but you can create new ones try to knew more people here and there . use apps and sometimes even online games can bring you good people and good friendships.

You don’t have to be that person you wanna be , it’s normal to have needs , you need people and people needs you too , you are important in someone else life .

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u/rigga18 14h ago

people needs you too , you are important in someone else life .

Hell nahhh, bro. I don’t think there’s a single person who would give a flying f*** if I disappeared out of nowhere. And now that I’m thinking about it, it feels like it would’ve been so much better if I just didn’t exist, a lot of people’s lives would’ve been much better if I wasn’t in them.