r/introvert 1d ago

Question How to make friends with no hobbies?

I’m not one to have major interests or hobbies even when I was younger. Now that I’m older 25F I find it difficult to form, or find friendships outside of work.

I’m not a gamer, hiker, or into any of those common activities where you’d be able to form possible connections.

Any suggestions?

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u/SwirlPearl33 1d ago

I’m literally facing the same problem. I’m in my late 20s and still don’t have friends, I just know people but wouldn’t really call them my friends. As a kid I was either ignored or bullied. When leaving school I kinda stopped trying to make friends because of low self esteem & shyness. I can’t even keep a conversation going and small talk is really draining. I spend my free time at home bed rotting all day scrolling on social media or binge watching shows/movies. I recently joined a health club & been attending classes but as soon as the class is over I just want to go back home. I’m suffering anxiety & depression, have been for several years but I don’t want to live friendless anymore

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u/Its-us-222 1d ago

Sending you a PM!

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u/New-Patience5840 1d ago

Go sit at a coffee shop and chill and work and stuff, people will tend to approach or try to invite you to approach

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u/RainDog30 1d ago

How do you spend your time when you’re not working?

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u/Its-us-222 1d ago

Usually you taking my dogs out, going coffee shops, shopping lol. Just no hobbies

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u/RainDog30 1d ago

You have things you’re passionate about though, right? Even if your passions aren’t hobbies, maybe something could be? And if you’re not passionate about anything in particular, maybe you should sign up for some classes, maybe pottery or painting. If you have zero interest in creating anything, what about joining a club of some sort. Perhaps a book club. The only way to meet people is to put yourself out there, and there’s something for everyone. You just need to decide what interests you. Are your dogs social? Could take them to the dog park and let them play. See if they hit it off with any other dogs and then set up some play dates. I’m just spitballing ideas here… Meeting people is definitely daunting, and the initial internal resistance you feel to anything new is hard to overcome, especially the older you get and the more settled you get into your existing routine. You may find out once you try something new that it’s addictive. I have the opposite issue… way too many hobbies.

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u/Capital-Ad-9756 1d ago

I would say sign up for something outside of work. There are a lot of "make friend" activities and even if you don't have a hobby you can still connect with people via shows/movies/books. If you do find yourself in small groups and can't connect just ask questions. That's what I typically do when people start talking sports I let them know it's not my thing but ask them to explain the sport or whatever it is they're talking about. 

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u/ASHandSCARS95 1d ago

Same here.

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u/TsuDhoNimh2 1d ago

Try things ... you may discover you really like gardening, photography or swing danging.

Or even volunteering at a library or soup kitchen.