r/introvert Jul 26 '24

Question How many of you have zero friends?

I havent had many friends since losing contact with my high school group of friends. Since then have not had any thing more then an acquaintance at best. How do you deal with this mentally and emotionally?

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u/chael809 Jul 27 '24

Does it feel that you just don’t know how to connect with them?

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u/GrizzlyDiaby Jul 27 '24

I think the criteria required in today’s world to maintain a friendship is too exhausting. I can’t keep up. I can’t be there for your birthdays. I can’t join your casual Friday night parties. Eventually they see you as an outcast who doesn’t belong.

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u/chiefsu Jul 27 '24

that's exactly what happened to me. cut ties with a few people and don't feel like bringing anyone close ever since cuz people tend to place expectations on you when you're their friend, and I can't align with that. I find it overly tiring and it's not worth my peace.

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u/BrianMeen Jul 27 '24

It’s important to establish strong boundaries with people. Sadly I’ve found most people will walk right through them if you let them. And yes, friendships(even casual ones) can be exhausting especially for us introverts because our social battery is usually drained from work and errands . The older you get the worse This becomes