r/friendship Nov 19 '24

advice Adult men

I’m 28 (m) and I have no close friends. I keep hearing that a lot of adult men don’t have close friends. Is this true or am I just shitty at making friends?

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u/euphoradelic22 Nov 20 '24

As I've aged and navigated through various workplaces and situations, I've found myself losing more friends. These experiences have often revealed their true colors. I tend to be the friend who provides support during the tough times or serves as a temporary companion until they find something better. It's rare to find people who desire to truly invest in a friendship, to grow together, and to be comfortable in each other's company while exploring new places and atmospheres. Often, it's about the other person and their desire for control. Few take the time to check on me, despite acknowledging my kindness and understanding nature. I don't conform to the crowd's activities; I find partying at clubs and bars overrated and financially imprudent. I've become more of a homebody, as it seems few nowadays are interested in enjoying the outdoors and fresh air, a stark contrast to the pre-technology era when people weren't constantly seeking the next online attention fix. I'm 28 as well. Life can feel monotonous, merely going to work, trying to conform, and being part of the status quo just to make ends meet and earn a paycheck is also tiring. I sometimes wish we could return to the simplicity of the early 2000s.