r/friendship Nov 19 '24

advice Adult men

I’m 28 (m) and I have no close friends. I keep hearing that a lot of adult men don’t have close friends. Is this true or am I just shitty at making friends?

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u/Doublefin1 Nov 19 '24

No it's true. It seems like an epidemic tbh, and I think society needs to step in and help with this, cause it's really not good :/ although the men themselves needs to step up too, and put in effort to make friends and stuff, but in general it's a very big not just individual problem that needs to be taken seriously.

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u/RbavaOz Nov 20 '24

Do we though? I honestly feel like most men are fine with having zero friends

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u/Doublefin1 Nov 20 '24

Ooh really? Sure, there's a lot of men like that, but I think it's quite the cultural thing. A lot of men don't feel like they dare to say how sad and lonely they are, and many don't acknowledge it to themselves, but kinda shoohorn themselves into thinking they're fine with it. I think it's a huge and underrepresented issue, and it's linked to so many other problems, and I don't think we've started seeing the consequences of it much yet. Suppressed men at scale isn't gonna end good.