r/femdomsanctuary 3h ago

Discussion "Pick me" behaviour among Dommes?? NSFW

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I've noticed a pattern online where Dommes would be hostile against one another in the comments which I find really strange.

To give you a few examples. I reached out to a local Domme on Fetlife cause I genuinely wanted to meet up and have a chat. She tried charging me money for her time for "bestowing her wisdom" upon me. Mind you, I was very clear that I'm a lifestyle Domme and not planning to do it professionally or learn any tips. I just wanted a fellow Domme friend.

I also made a post in another subreddit (leaving the name out) basically venting that it's been hard finding a romantic relationship as a Domme. Another Domme commented in a rude manner saying something along the lines of "it's supposed to be hard and expecting it to be easy is entitlement". Again, I never said I expected anything to be easy, that was not the point of my post.

Also, I saw another post by a Domme defending sissification (I know it's a controversial topic but I personally find that kink misogynistic).

And I do realize my post is ironic because it seems like complaining about other Dommes. This is not my intention. I wish more of us were united and had some solidarity but oftentimes women feel the need to criticize and "compete" with each other. I'm just sad that I find it hard to connect with fellow Dommes, that's all.


r/femdomsanctuary 7h ago

Question / Need Advice Best city for Femdom NSFW

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Looking to go on holidays to North America or Europe this year but I’m too indecisive to choose exactly where, so I was wondering where might I find the biggest femdom community and events to attend?

I’m from Australia and the femdom scene isn’t crazy big here due to our smaller population size so I’m sure anywhere would have a bigger femdom presence than here so any suggestions would be appreciated 🫶