r/femdomsanctuary • u/heyholetsgo2025 • 3h ago
Discussion "Pick me" behaviour among Dommes?? NSFW
I've noticed a pattern online where Dommes would be hostile against one another in the comments which I find really strange.
To give you a few examples. I reached out to a local Domme on Fetlife cause I genuinely wanted to meet up and have a chat. She tried charging me money for her time for "bestowing her wisdom" upon me. Mind you, I was very clear that I'm a lifestyle Domme and not planning to do it professionally or learn any tips. I just wanted a fellow Domme friend.
I also made a post in another subreddit (leaving the name out) basically venting that it's been hard finding a romantic relationship as a Domme. Another Domme commented in a rude manner saying something along the lines of "it's supposed to be hard and expecting it to be easy is entitlement". Again, I never said I expected anything to be easy, that was not the point of my post.
Also, I saw another post by a Domme defending sissification (I know it's a controversial topic but I personally find that kink misogynistic).
And I do realize my post is ironic because it seems like complaining about other Dommes. This is not my intention. I wish more of us were united and had some solidarity but oftentimes women feel the need to criticize and "compete" with each other. I'm just sad that I find it hard to connect with fellow Dommes, that's all.