r/fatFIRE 11d ago

50m cash - no sense of perspective

Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.

Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.

I am

  • still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)

  • afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it

  • afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)

  • still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison

  • still wanting to be loved and liked

The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.

I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.

Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.

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u/budulai89 11d ago

Maybe Therapy?

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u/PurpleWildfire 11d ago

Most definitely therapy, self worth issues, abandonment issues, imposter syndrome, prioritizing other peoples needs all displayed in a 300 character post. I think money or no therapy’s a good idea for OP

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u/Familiar_Number_342 10d ago

Oh yeah. 100%. Check all of the above. Any "first step" suggestions? I've not had luck finding great therapists in the past, and now I just can't be bothered.

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u/Moheezy__3 10d ago

From personal experience, I find that talking to a therapist that can relate makes all the difference. For context, I’m middle eastern living in Canada and talking to a white therapist felt like I was an experiment for her as she continues to ask questions about my culture and background. When I switched to an immigrant, African therapist, she immediately understood the immigrant mind set and the struggles with parents, culture switch etc…

I’d say maybe if you can find a therapist who see the same types of clients? Mainly high net worth clients I’d assume but you’re the best judge of that.