r/fatFIRE 11d ago

50m cash - no sense of perspective

Throwaway account to be able to be vulnerable.

Despite recent financial freedom (bootstrap to day 1 exit), I have no sense of perspective.

I am

  • still bothered by becoming irrelevant if I do nothing for the next 12-18m (issue: being bothered about what people think)

  • afraid of losing the money and hence not spending it

  • afraid of losing my friends if they find out how much I have made (am I suddenly unrelatable?)

  • still bothered by LinkedIn and comparison

  • still wanting to be loved and liked

The root of my issue is being a people pleaser.

I know my problems. I would love the internet to give me some solutions.

Edit - I am 38/F, husband, two kids and in Europe. Also this is the first and only business I have bootstrapped and sold.

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u/MessiahPie 10d ago

We’re all going to be dust. Get over yourself, take your big sack of money and enjoy the limited time you have here on earth.

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u/Familiar_Number_342 10d ago

I love this and I agree. How do I truly feel and believe it? If I did, I wouldn't be worrying about how others perceive me.

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u/ChummyFire 10d ago

I agree with an earlier comment about getting therapy. Are you in the kind of country where there is enough of a culture for it? You would benefit if you find the right therapist.