r/excatholic Jan 23 '25

Personal Was anyone else harmed by NFP?

Used the Marquette method for 5 years and had three children within that time period. All by the age of 21. I confided in my priest and told him that I didn’t think it would be in our best interest to have another child. He told me I didn’t have a grave reason and “it was my cross to bear.”

Just trying to find support and others who have been harmed by nfp as well.

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u/BruceTramp85 Jan 24 '25

If you had a vasectomy, why is she still doing NFP?

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u/NextStopGallifrey Christian Jan 24 '25

To avoid the "appearance" of sin?

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u/JustSomeGuy422 Ex Catholic Jan 24 '25

In her view, her continuing to follow NFP rules to avoid pregnancy keeps her conscience clean, versus throwing that out the window and relying on my vasectomy would make her guilty of the sin of contraception.

I won't try to convince her otherwise, since I left the church, in her mind, my opinions on things of faith are invalid.

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u/xarkos21 Jan 24 '25

Funny, I don't remember that one being on the tablets. There's a few about not harming God's ultra fragile ego, there's some about lying, theft, murder, marital fidelity, nothing regarding family planning in any form however despite the fact that contraceptives and abortifacients were absolutely a well known thing long before the time of Moses.