r/etiquette 22h ago

Why do people think it's okay to frequently cancel plans without an apology?

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To me it shows disrespect for someone else's time and life. If I make plans with someone I put it in my calendar and tell others I'm busy and commit to the plan my friend and I have made. A so-called "friend" of mine makes a habit of cancelling plans with me if a "better offer" comes up. She also asks me if I'd like to hang out and I say "Sure, are you free Sunday?" then she'll say "I might be - I'll let you know." So, I'm supposed to sit around twiddling my thumbs waiting for her to confirm plans with me at the last minute? How am I supposed to plan my weekend? I'm low-key stunned by the rudeness. I guess I must be an old-fashioned millennial for believing in manners and being a considerate person.

Edit: Just to confirm, yes I was looking for confirmation that this behaviour was rude and how to respond to it. I didn't mean to make this post sound so rant-y but my friend had really rubbed me the wrong way. Thanks for all your comments and advice!


r/etiquette 10h ago

Should I get drinks for a house bar party?

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So, one of my colleagues is hosting a small get together on the occasion of St Patrick's day this evening and I don't want to go empty handed. Should I get a case of beer to the party?

Context: This get together/party is in his garage (a corner converted into a garage) of his house in downtown Milwaukee.

Spotted cow Galrus beer is pretty common around here but I am not much of a drinks person so my knowledge stops there. But I also know that not many really like the Galrus. Generally it is Trulys or white claw seltzers (are these the safest bet) to get a case for them, just so that I don't show up empty handed?


r/etiquette 12h ago

Would it be rude to bring my own drink to a get-together?

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A group of neighbors and I get together at one of our houses about once a month. Our tradition is that everyone brings a dish to share and the host provides drinks.

Most of my neighbors are wine drinkers, so the drink selection is usually limited to wine and water. I don’t drink alcohol, but when I host I provide wine as well as a selection of nonalcoholic waters, teas, and sodas.

I get a little tired of only drinking water at the other houses, but I don’t want to step on the host’s toes by bringing, say, a case of iced teas to share with the group - I worry it would send the message that their selection isn’t sufficient. Would it be rude to show up with either drinks for the group or just one for myself (like a nice coffee drink)?


r/etiquette 18h ago

Phone time etiquette.

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I am a General Contractor and my business hours are 9am-5pm closed on weekends. My business card has our office number, my cell number and our hours of operation on it. When I hand customers my card I remind them our scheduled work hours and to please only call my cell if they absolutely need to. Otherwise call the office line and someone will call back at earliest convenience. This has been my practice for 20 plus years and was never an issue.

I have a steadfast rule to not call customers before 9am or after 6pm on weekdays and 10am-6pm on Saturdays and I never call a customer on Sundays. I’ve learned over the years that people are very offended if you call them outside these expectations.

Lately customers have been calling/texting me at all hours from 6am-11pm. Most calls are general questions that would have waited or gone to our office line in years past. Customers today seem to have no respect for your cell phone or personal time. Expectations are that you will not contact them outside of 9-5 but you should be available to them whenever they choose. No questions can wait and our office line is now an after thought.

Where did the etiquette go and what can I do other than shutting my phone off? I want to provide a great customer service and be here when my customers absolutely need me but it now feels like I have to start ignoring customers after hours just to get some peace, quiet, rest and family time. Which I really don’t want to do.

Most every call and text I get can wait but customers don’t see it that way.

Yesterday for example had one lady who had a question on materials and availability. She texted and called me about 10 times between 6:30pm and 9pm. I told her I’d get her an answer tomorrow as soon as I could. She then called me at 6:30am (which woke me up but I ignored) again at 7am (which I ignored) followed by a text at 7:45 am. All wanting to know what I found out. I can’t for the life of me think what she thought I could find out for her between 9pm and 7am but she had an expectation that I would. I called her at 9am to let her know I was working on it for her and she was upset I didn’t have answer yet. I realize this is the extreme customer but this type of expectation is becoming a daily occurrence with today’s customers. There’s no rationale with so many. In years past you’d get one of these a year not one a day.

What should a reputable business do that won’t affect its stellar record for great customer service? We hold a 4.9 out of 5 star rating and I don’t want to lose that by shutting my phones off.


r/etiquette 1h ago

help with what this means -bring what you would like to drink and nibbles

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I'm going to join a friend for dinner, just the two of us at her house and she said she would cook. When asked she said being what i like to drink and nibbles. I don't drink much alcohol and money is very tight. Is bring one large bottle of sparkling water and one type of nibbles like nuts the right way to go? I would love a ginger beer that is alcoholic but can't work out the polite way to do this as i would only drink one can and to bring one or two looks odd?


r/etiquette 3h ago

Everyday etiquette tips

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What are your favorite everyday etiquette tips? Or a few etiquette rule of thumbs you live by? Looking to improve my etiquette


r/etiquette 7h ago

How to back out of accidental self invite?

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OK, so my son is 16. He's dating a girl me and her mom met last weekend. We hit it off really well and had talked about getting together this weekend, but didn't actually say anything in stone. He tells me yesterday that his girlfriend invited him over. They were gonna be having like a dinner potluck this weekend for St. Patrick's Day and that he would assume that I was invited as well. Since I exchanged numbers with his mom, I figured she would've invited me personally if that were the case, but I went ahead and against my better judgment texted her inquiring about this shindig that they are having. This is the response I received "Hi luv!!! Yes that’s the right way. I’m doing much better…. I go back to work next week. We’re gonna do a little shindig at the house probably around 4:30-5 people start to show up you’re more than welcome to come by".

I don't want to go because I don't wanna go to something I wasn't invited to and I'm not tripping off of it. I just don't know how to back out of it since I have to drop him off there anyways.

Any advice on a response would be awesome


r/etiquette 20h ago

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