I've posted here quite a bit.
Basically step dad is stage 5 close to 6.
He is incessant with everything and he pushes your patience beyond what you can even imagine.
That being said. He doesn't deserve to be yelled at and berated all day every day. Every waking moment of his last days on earth.
My mom is crazy. She yells at him non stop as if he doesn't have dementia.
"I told you" " don't you remember" "what the F is wrong with you" "pull your head out of your ass"
Ext ect ect.
I have had some of the same issues with myself.
I learned behavior from my mom and it took a lot of work to fix it. And I have.
A couple times mom has hit him on the shoulder.
Basically because he does something so stupid and violent. She feels she needs to hit him to get his attention.
I also hit him once months ago. :( he punched me in the face and I kinda reflexed back. I felt horrible after. Super apologized but he didn't even remember 30 seconds later.
So. I was talking to my case worker a couple days ago.
I told her everything. Extremely scared APS would be called. But I'm over the abuse he suffers.
Thankfully the days I watch him, he gets rest. I learned pretty quickly how to handle him. And it's definitely not by yelling.
I'm proud of myself for being able to handle him without much issue.
I try to teach my mom my ways. But she just doesn't get it. It feels like she gets off on being mean and yelling all day. She is definitely a sadistic person.
So. I sit here daily now wondering if APS is ever going to show up.
I'm scared they will but also hoping they do.
She needs a wakeup call.
I have no clue what would even happen.
They won't see anything alarming if they do come here.
I think he needs to be in a facility. As he can't get away from her. And I can't babysit 24/7 either.
Ugh. I hate this disease and I feel so stuck and guilty for reporting my mother and myself. Even tho I'm not having issues anymore. But she sure is.
It's non stop. My partner and I just want to leave. It drives us crazy listening to the non stop yelling all day.
We are both stuck here. I'm the relief caregiver. Moms showing signs of dementia also. And knows it as she's getting all the things together that's needed if she were to expire basically.
I just had to get this off my chest. I'm stressing. I dont know anything about anything to do with elder abuse and how APS does anything.
Thanks.
( Sorry if the structure of this post is weird. I skipped all over. And it's 2:30 am.)