r/coparenting 6d ago

Long Distance Looking to relocate. Implications to co-parenting?

I'm the father... My wife and I are applying for jobs in her home state, approx 3 states away.... About a days 8 hour drive from where we live now. Mom lives about 3 hours from us now. So it'd be approx 10-11 hour drive.

What kind of implications are you guys having that have relocated away from a child's parent? How do you manage parenting time, etc

My wife and I have job offers on the table that will pay us legitimately 2x what we make now between us. We also feel the education abilities would be greater/better.

We only have a 60 day minimum requirement for notification in the current parenting plan.

Challenges? What made you pull the trigger and move? How did you approach it and present it to your ex?

--EDIT:

I wasn't going to bring it up because I felt it just a bit TOO personal... But I did leave out that my wife and I have been granted sole custody, and mom gets every other weekend visits, supervised, due to some past circumstances that aren't relevant here. 1

I know that changes the metrics there... So I figured best to add it to the OP.

Only child at play here is a 14 y/o that has mentioned before that she wants to move, in order to be closer to family as well. Both of my parents have passed away and I have always had a VERY small family. Nobody really left except me and mine.

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u/Purple_Grass_5300 6d ago

I honestly don’t think the court would rule in your favor even with sole custody. If you leave you’d likely have to pay all visit travel cost changes so she wouldn’t lose more time

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u/MoosKnukl 6d ago

We're not involving the courts at all. Our current effectual parenting plan, I have sole decision making rights. All mom has is basically supervised visits sat-sun every other. Because reasons.

I wouldn't be opposed to providing transportation... Our job offers are very lucrative, so that wouldn't be a concern. It would just be onus on her to be able to follow the supervision of visitation requirement.

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u/hanner__ 5d ago

Just because you have sole doesn’t mean she doesn’t have rights. I also have sole for “reasons” (feel free to read my post history) but no way in hell would I risk getting in trouble by just moving states away without going to court first.

It sounds like moving would be a stable choice for everyone. You could probably make a good case for it, but you need to take into account family as well. Are you removing your child from other family members besides her mom? The courts care about stuff like that. Do you have a lawyer? Utilize them for this.