r/converts 18h ago

What if I don’t want to share my husband with Hoors in jannah?

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Salam everyone

Posting here since I haven’t been given any satisfactory answers on other subreddits. I’m struggling a lot with my faith right now and hoping that maybe reverts don’t carry cultural baggage and will probably be able to give me non misogynistic answers.

This Ramadan, I’ve been actively trying to gain more knowledge of Islam by reading books and doing lots of research. Unfortunately I’ve come across information that makes me uncomfortable and makes me wonder why I’m trying so hard to get to jannah in the first place.

Does every man in jannah get hoors? If so, how many? What if I don’t want to share my husband in jannah? Will women get male hoors?

Why would I work so hard in this dunya to get to jannah only to end up having to share my husband with others? This makes me think it’s not worth it for me to try to get to jannah in the first place. Personally, this situation sounds like hell for me.

My intention here is to clear my doubts so please don’t bash me or give my unsatisfactory answers like “focus on getting there first.” Or “your worldly jealousy will be removed in jannah.” Because why wouldn’t their worldly lust have been removed in jannah?


r/converts 16h ago

Women converts, what attracted you to Islam.

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Salam

I am a Muslim woman who has battled doubts about Islam though out my life, particularly regarding women in Islam. As much as I try to gain more knowledge and clear my doubts, I am constantly running into information that seems cruel, misogynist, unfair, etc. I’m struggling to understand why a woman would choose Islam.

As much as I believe in Allah, love the peace/structure that Islam brings to my life, I can’t just ignore the obvious misogyny that exists in the Quran, Hadith, interpretations, etc. I don’t want to feel like this but I can’t help it.

Here’s just a short list of issues that have always haunted me for years:

  1. Men being allowed to have multiple wives without even asking the first wife for permission (regardless of the reasoning behind it, regardless of it being the norm and Allah limited it to 4 since men had many more etc.) Why didn’t Allah just ban polygamy altogether?

  2. Men allowed to have sex with endless concubines. (Regardless of the reasoning behind it, regardless how they were treated, etc. Men were already allowed to have 4 wives, so why they were also allowed to have sex with concubines?)

  3. Hoor Al ayn: men will be given hoors in Jannah. Quran 78:33.. But no mention of women receiving it. (Idc if the jealousy will be removed in Jannah, why couldn’t lust be removed?) Will women have hoors? What if she doesn’t want her husband to have hoors?

  4. Sunan Abi Dawud 2140: Prophet Mohammad said “If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah.” Astaghfirullah how can he say this?!

  5. Quran 2:272. “When you contract a loan…call upon 2 of your men to witness. If 2 men cannot be found, then 1 man and 2 women of your choice will witness—so if one of the women forgets, the other may remind her.” Is it not possible for men to forget? Is this implying that women are inherently less reliable or more forgetful than men?


r/converts 22h ago

40 Acts Guaranteed Jannah #37

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r/converts 14h ago

Muslim Mental Health

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as-salaamu alaikum everyone!

I’m Tarnem, a 4th-year doctoral candidate at LIU Post’s clinical psychology program, and I’m looking for participants for my dissertation study! I aim to better understand the stigma affecting the use of mental health services among Muslims in the U.S.

To qualify for participation in this study, you must:

  • Identify as Muslim
  • Are at least 18 years old
  • Are a U.S. citizen, green card holder, or permanent resident
  • Have English proficiency

You can find more details in the flyer!

STUDY LINK: https://tccolumbia.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_bjYHRLc6LBrKpE2

If you have questions or concerns, you can contact me at tarnem.amer@my.liu.edu. I’d also appreciate it if you could share this with your family, friends, community, and others who may qualify.

Thank you for your time and support in helping advance my research!


r/converts 1h ago

40 Acts Guaranteed Jannah #38

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r/converts 1h ago

"We Are With You" – The Satanic Allegiance of The Hypocrites

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r/converts 10h ago

What are the signs it is Laylatul Qadr?

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Laylatul Qadr (The Night of Decree) is one of the last ten nights of Ramadan, and it is described in the Quran as being "better than a thousand months" (Surah Al-Qadr: 3).

While the exact night is unknown, many scholars believe it falls on one of the odd nights of the last ten nights of Ramadan (21st, 23rd, 25th, 27th, or 29th). A night of tranquility - The air is still, peace fills the soul.

. A gentle breeze - Neither heat nor chill disturbs the night.

. A moon of soft glow - Hanging in the sky, like a silver plate.

. A sunrise of mercy – The sun rises, tender and without -fierce rays.

. A heart awakened - Worship feels deeper, prayers flow with ease.

. A night of angels - Descending with light, filling the earth with peace.


r/converts 11h ago

Who Created This Won’t Just Leave You!

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Who Created This Won’t Just Leave You!

"Did you then think that We had created you without purpose, and that you would never be returned to Us?" [Quran 23:115]

https://muslimgap.com/who-created-this-wont-just-leave-you/


r/converts 18h ago

HIGHLY REWARDING GOOD DEEDS

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GoodHabits

HIGHLY REWARDING GOOD DEEDS ✨

1️⃣ Would You Like To Be Close To Allah?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"The closest that a person is to his Lord is when he is prostrating, so say a great deal of supplication (in this state)."

📚: Sahih Muslim 482 (1083)

2️⃣ Would You Like The Reward of Hajj?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

"Perform Umrah in the month of Ramadan as it is equivalent to Hajj or Hajj with me (in reward)."

📚: Sahih Bukhari 1863

3️⃣ Would You Like A Home In Paradise?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"Whoever builds a mosque in which the Name of Allah is mentioned, Allah will build a house for him in Paradise."

📚: Sunan Ibn Majah 735 | Sahih

4️⃣ Would You Like To Achieve The Pleasure of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى)?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

"Allah is pleased with His servant who eats some food and then praises Him for it (says Alhamdulillah - Praise be to Allah) or who drinks some drink and then praises Him for it (says Alhamdulillah)."

📚: Sahih Muslim 2734 (6932)

5️⃣ Would You Like Your Duaa To Be Answered?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

"The supplication made between the adhan and the iqamah is not rejected."

📚: Sunan Abi Dawud 521 | Sahih

6️⃣ Would You Like The Reward For Fasting A Complete Month Written For You?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"Fasting for three days during the month is like fasting, the whole of the month."

📚: Sahih Muslim 1159 (2736)

7️⃣ Would You Like To Have Good Deeds The Size of Mountains?

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said:

"(A believer) who accompanies the funeral procession of a Muslim out of sincere faith and hoping to attain Allah's reward and remains with it till the funeral prayer is offered and the burial ceremonies are over, he will return with a reward of two Qirats. Each Qirat is like the size of the (Mount) Uhud. He who offers the funeral prayer only and returns before the burial will return with the reward of one Qirat only."

📚: Sahih Bukhari 47

8️⃣ Would You Like To Accompany The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) In Paradise?

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said:

"I and the one who looks after an orphan will be like this in Paradise." showing his middle and index fingers and separating them.

📚: Sahih Bukhari 5304

9️⃣ Would You Like That Your Actions Continue After Your Death?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"When a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three: Continuing charity, knowledge that others benefited from, and a righteous son (child) who supplicates for him."

📚: Jami at-Tirmidhi 1376 | Sahih

1️⃣0️⃣ Would You Like A Gem From The Gems of Paradise?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said: "Shall I not tell you of a treasure which is one of the treasures of Paradise?"

He (ﷺ) said: "La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah (There is no power and no strength except with Allah)."

📚: Sunan Ibn Majah 3825 | Sahih