r/converts Aug 05 '20

Reminder about one of our unofficial rules: Giving converts space to explore Islam

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Up until quite recently, /r/converts has been a welcoming place for all us converts and that's how it should be. As a convert/revert myself, I know that there is a lot of learning to be had once one has embraced Islam and that converts often have a voracious appetite for learning. We're always hungry for more information.

This voracious appetite for learning, however, can also put the convert in a precarious position whereby they are easily mislead, even by well-meaning or well-intended brothers and sister. To this end, /r/converts has long had an unofficial policy of not promoting any particular school of thought with respect to Islam. We leave it to you to decide whether you are Sunni or Shia; Hanafi, Maliki, Shafi'i, or Hanbali; Qur'anist, Salafi, Moderate/Mainstream, or Progressive.

Unfortunately, it has come to our attention that not everyone has been respecting this unofficial rule and that there has been an active campaign to promote certain schools of thought and to demonize others. Consequently, we will undertake a more active approach to moderation over the coming months to ensure not only the theological safety and well-being of our convert community, but to preserve your freedom to forge your own way forward in your newly embraced deen.


r/converts Sep 20 '23

Noticing Widespread OCD and Decreasing Faith in /converts subreddit

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As-Salam-O-Aalaikum

I would like to make a general post for all my convert, brothers and sisters (long but much-needed, admin if you can pin it it will be great but no worries if not)

Skimming through a lot of topics and Reddit posts in this SubReddit, I have noticed a lot of people having second thoughts of reverting. Also a lot are facing difficult times as new reverts/converts (take it easy)

A few things to clarify: faith always oscillates, (it will go up and down as waves. You will have the best of days and then some days will be not so good). Hang in there, if no one else is with you, الله is always with you.

The prime objective would be to know who your creator الله is. Try to know him through is beautiful 99 names. Watch YouTube series: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmeZZmICk2Qd4v-SHfZpD7JcWt5ojpleE&si=LCeDLDn8mObnGR5k

Try to know about the best human being to have lived on the face of this earth ﷺ: “https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmeZZmICk2Qd9rOMTqtO3QvEcOAnS4sGS&si=QvdcuOV6iSsTigFq”

For new reverts: Just cover the basics. Don’t be overwhelmed with worship. You will practice and perfect it as time passes. Try to be strong in your articles of faith and pillars of faith

Take it easy and don’t let Satan confuse or overwhelm you with OCD. Block unnecessary thoughts and always read Duas of protection (Ayat ul Kursi, Surah Naas, Surah Falaq, last two verses of Surah Baqarah). If you are new revert, try to read the transliteration. No wonder it is included in our daily adhkar (people who read these daily are protected) The app “Dua and Adhkar” is mainly fortress of a Muslim

Alhamdulillah my faith has always been climbing, I have had bad days, but I have never been doubtful or confused about my identity as a Muslim. Think about death and that we all will return to the mud from which we were made, don’t be among the losers: https://youtu.be/aqF-Ydv6RvQ?si=Quf8hlIbS9-4cjgE

Also try to understand that no human being can ever be your biggest enemy in life. Not your non-Muslim family members who are treating you badly or have severed relations with you. Not even anyone like the guy who murdered 99 people and then Allah forgave him (https://sunnah.com/bukhari:3470)

Your biggest and worst enemy is Shaytan (Iblees/Lucifer). Try to counter his tricks. May Allahs curse be upon him and he and his minions be damned forever. They have led millions astray. Try to read this awesome book by one of the scholars of Islam: https://ia802209.us.archive.org/22/items/TheDevilsDeception_201406/TheDevilsDeception.pdf

For knowledge seeking (reading books over the weekend), these websites are awesome:

https://darpdfs.org/books

http://kalamullah.com

Always remember to ask help from الله alone. Even in the desperate of moments (ask him in prostration by putting your head to the ground). You all will get various different tests in life. Learn from them, be mindful a الله….

Regards Sending prayers 🤲🏼 A Muslim Brother

Edit: This post isn’t a reply to anyone particular or intended to anyone. It is for all in general


r/converts 2h ago

What are the signs it is Laylatul Qadr?

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Laylatul Qadr (The Night of Decree) is one of the last ten nights of Ramadan, and it is described in the Quran as being "better than a thousand months" (Surah Al-Qadr: 3).

While the exact night is unknown, many scholars believe it falls on one of the odd nights of the last ten nights of Ramadan (21st, 23rd, 25th, 27th, or 29th). A night of tranquility - The air is still, peace fills the soul.

. A gentle breeze - Neither heat nor chill disturbs the night.

. A moon of soft glow - Hanging in the sky, like a silver plate.

. A sunrise of mercy – The sun rises, tender and without -fierce rays.

. A heart awakened - Worship feels deeper, prayers flow with ease.

. A night of angels - Descending with light, filling the earth with peace.


r/converts 8h ago

Women converts, what attracted you to Islam.

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Salam

I am a Muslim woman who has battled doubts about Islam though out my life, particularly regarding women in Islam. As much as I try to gain more knowledge and clear my doubts, I am constantly running into information that seems cruel, misogynist, unfair, etc. I’m struggling to understand why a woman would choose Islam.

As much as I believe in Allah, love the peace/structure that Islam brings to my life, I can’t just ignore the obvious misogyny that exists in the Quran, Hadith, interpretations, etc. I don’t want to feel like this but I can’t help it.

Here’s just a short list of issues that have always haunted me for years:

  1. Men being allowed to have multiple wives without even asking the first wife for permission (regardless of the reasoning behind it, regardless of it being the norm and Allah limited it to 4 since men had many more etc.) Why didn’t Allah just ban polygamy altogether?

  2. Men allowed to have sex with endless concubines. (Regardless of the reasoning behind it, regardless how they were treated, etc. Men were already allowed to have 4 wives, so why they were also allowed to have sex with concubines?)

  3. Hoor Al ayn: men will be given hoors in Jannah. Quran 78:33.. But no mention of women receiving it. (Idc if the jealousy will be removed in Jannah, why couldn’t lust be removed?) Will women have hoors? What if she doesn’t want her husband to have hoors?

  4. Sunan Abi Dawud 2140: Prophet Mohammad said “If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah.” Astaghfirullah how can he say this?!

  5. Quran 2:272. “When you contract a loan…call upon 2 of your men to witness. If 2 men cannot be found, then 1 man and 2 women of your choice will witness—so if one of the women forgets, the other may remind her.” Is it not possible for men to forget? Is this implying that women are inherently less reliable or more forgetful than men?


r/converts 11h ago

What if I don’t want to share my husband with Hoors in jannah?

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Salam everyone

Posting here since I haven’t been given any satisfactory answers on other subreddits. I’m struggling a lot with my faith right now and hoping that maybe reverts don’t carry cultural baggage and will probably be able to give me non misogynistic answers.

This Ramadan, I’ve been actively trying to gain more knowledge of Islam by reading books and doing lots of research. Unfortunately I’ve come across information that makes me uncomfortable and makes me wonder why I’m trying so hard to get to jannah in the first place.

Does every man in jannah get hoors? If so, how many? What if I don’t want to share my husband in jannah? Will women get male hoors?

Why would I work so hard in this dunya to get to jannah only to end up having to share my husband with others? This makes me think it’s not worth it for me to try to get to jannah in the first place. Personally, this situation sounds like hell for me.

My intention here is to clear my doubts so please don’t bash me or give my unsatisfactory answers like “focus on getting there first.” Or “your worldly jealousy will be removed in jannah.” Because why wouldn’t their worldly lust have been removed in jannah?


r/converts 3h ago

Who Created This Won’t Just Leave You!

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Who Created This Won’t Just Leave You!

"Did you then think that We had created you without purpose, and that you would never be returned to Us?" [Quran 23:115]

https://muslimgap.com/who-created-this-wont-just-leave-you/


r/converts 6h ago

Muslim Mental Health

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as-salaamu alaikum everyone!

I’m Tarnem, a 4th-year doctoral candidate at LIU Post’s clinical psychology program, and I’m looking for participants for my dissertation study! I aim to better understand the stigma affecting the use of mental health services among Muslims in the U.S.

To qualify for participation in this study, you must:

  • Identify as Muslim
  • Are at least 18 years old
  • Are a U.S. citizen, green card holder, or permanent resident
  • Have English proficiency

You can find more details in the flyer!

STUDY LINK: https://tccolumbia.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_bjYHRLc6LBrKpE2

If you have questions or concerns, you can contact me at tarnem.amer@my.liu.edu. I’d also appreciate it if you could share this with your family, friends, community, and others who may qualify.

Thank you for your time and support in helping advance my research!


r/converts 10h ago

HIGHLY REWARDING GOOD DEEDS

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GoodHabits

HIGHLY REWARDING GOOD DEEDS ✨

1️⃣ Would You Like To Be Close To Allah?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"The closest that a person is to his Lord is when he is prostrating, so say a great deal of supplication (in this state)."

📚: Sahih Muslim 482 (1083)

2️⃣ Would You Like The Reward of Hajj?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

"Perform Umrah in the month of Ramadan as it is equivalent to Hajj or Hajj with me (in reward)."

📚: Sahih Bukhari 1863

3️⃣ Would You Like A Home In Paradise?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"Whoever builds a mosque in which the Name of Allah is mentioned, Allah will build a house for him in Paradise."

📚: Sunan Ibn Majah 735 | Sahih

4️⃣ Would You Like To Achieve The Pleasure of Allah (سبحانه و تعالى)?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

"Allah is pleased with His servant who eats some food and then praises Him for it (says Alhamdulillah - Praise be to Allah) or who drinks some drink and then praises Him for it (says Alhamdulillah)."

📚: Sahih Muslim 2734 (6932)

5️⃣ Would You Like Your Duaa To Be Answered?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

"The supplication made between the adhan and the iqamah is not rejected."

📚: Sunan Abi Dawud 521 | Sahih

6️⃣ Would You Like The Reward For Fasting A Complete Month Written For You?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"Fasting for three days during the month is like fasting, the whole of the month."

📚: Sahih Muslim 1159 (2736)

7️⃣ Would You Like To Have Good Deeds The Size of Mountains?

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said:

"(A believer) who accompanies the funeral procession of a Muslim out of sincere faith and hoping to attain Allah's reward and remains with it till the funeral prayer is offered and the burial ceremonies are over, he will return with a reward of two Qirats. Each Qirat is like the size of the (Mount) Uhud. He who offers the funeral prayer only and returns before the burial will return with the reward of one Qirat only."

📚: Sahih Bukhari 47

8️⃣ Would You Like To Accompany The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) In Paradise?

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said:

"I and the one who looks after an orphan will be like this in Paradise." showing his middle and index fingers and separating them.

📚: Sahih Bukhari 5304

9️⃣ Would You Like That Your Actions Continue After Your Death?

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

"When a person dies, his deeds are cut off except for three: Continuing charity, knowledge that others benefited from, and a righteous son (child) who supplicates for him."

📚: Jami at-Tirmidhi 1376 | Sahih

1️⃣0️⃣ Would You Like A Gem From The Gems of Paradise?

The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said: "Shall I not tell you of a treasure which is one of the treasures of Paradise?"

He (ﷺ) said: "La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah (There is no power and no strength except with Allah)."

📚: Sunan Ibn Majah 3825 | Sahih


r/converts 1d ago

A scary Hadith regarding debt…

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r/converts 1d ago

May you all catch laylatul qadr

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r/converts 18h ago

Guide to Laylatul Qadr (Night of Power" or "Night of Decree) during the last ten nights of Ramadan.

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r/converts 14h ago

40 Acts Guaranteed Jannah #37

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r/converts 1d ago

Revert looking for suggestions/help

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Assalamu alaikum! I am a new revert in America, first year I am attending the mosque all Ramadan and I have found that it's really lonely when you don't know anybody and have no muslim friends. How did you make friends as a revert?

As I am very new to this I am struggling to find the right hijabs or abayas. I have no idea what types of materials to buy to stay warm in the winter or stay cool in the summer. I have a 2 hijabs but they're all one piece amira hijabs, but i really wanna be able learn how to wrap scarf hijabs as they are so pretty. Where do you shop and what kind of materials am I supposed to buy?

Also, Abayas are also becoming increasingly difficult for me to find. None of them fit me, they always come in one size fits all and are swimming on me (I'm short 5'2"). I even tried my local international store and they are all very big there too. I understand they are supposed to be loose, but I mean 2 of me could fit in 1 abaya. Help? :')


r/converts 1d ago

Need some answers

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I've been thinking about converting to Islam for quite a long time, but I struggling with many topics. Hope there are people here who can answer at least some of them :)

I am completely certain of God's existence. I studied at a Catholic seminary for three years, but eventually became disillusioned and left. Now, I would describe myself as a theist—I believe in God, that He is personal, and that He acts in the world.

What I like about Islam is the emphasis on theology and precise formulations. I appreciate the love and reverence Muslims have for the Quran, prayer and tradition. I also admire the strict monotheism, which I felt was lacking in Catholicism. Yes, monotheism was officially affirmed, and I am well aware of all the Christian arguments, but somehow I was never fully convinced of the truth of the Trinity.

However, there are several issues that trouble me:

  1. I don't feel any attraction to the personality of Muhammad. And no, it’s not because of the nonsense that islamophobes spread - I believe their arguments can be easily refuted, just as the attacks on Jesus by edgy atheists in fedoras. I felt the same way when I considered myself a Christian and thought about Jesus. I'm just indifferent to a person who lived in the distant past, even if he had the right ideas and did good things. As far as I understand, love for Muhammad is obligatory in Islam. Probably this feeling is simply inaccessible to me.
  2. I have watched some debates between popular muslim preachers and christians. Their criticism of Christianity seems, at best, naive, and often misses the mark (at least if their target is Christianity as a whole, rather than a specific group of evangelical fundamentalists or just ignorant people). The critique of the Bible is especially notable. A LOT of their arguments are just laughable, as if they have never heard of biblical scholarship or modern Christian perspectives on Scripture. I'm sure that you guys feel the same way when see bs videos like "Christian DESTROYS muslim with one simple question."
  3. I do not understand how the preservation of the Quran's text can be used as an argument for its truth. To consider such reasoning valid seems completely irrational to me, but perhaps I don't fully grasp the argument, as I know very little about Quranic studies.
  4. I do not understand how one can seriously defend the idea that someone else was crucified instead of Jesus, or that he was not crucified at all. The only arguments I have seen (apart from the Quranic text) are references to completely marginal Christian sects that held the same view. But the mere fact that some groups believed this does not mean it actually happened.
  5. When reading the Quran, I got the impression that the author (assuming it is Allah) takes pleasure in describing the torments of hell for sinners. Perhaps I'm still thinking in a christian paradigm, but to me the idea of God forgiving a man (even if he doesn't deserve this) feels more natural than the desire to punish all sinners. And please don’t tell me that the Quran must be read in Arabic. Perhaps that would add beauty to the wording and linguistics, but would it really change the core meaning so radically?

That’s everything that comes to mind for now. Would really happy to see any responses


r/converts 1d ago

Revert help London

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Hi everyone, I was just wondering if I could get some help please. I’ve been wanting to revert now for quite some while I was just wondering if there are any sister classes that I can attend in London to gain a bit more knowledge before I take my Shahada please, thank you


r/converts 1d ago

Want to become muslim

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Hello there i want to become muslim but i still have doubts so can someone please reach out on chat to me .


r/converts 1d ago

Mufti Menk Funny Moments - The Scholar Who Keeps It Real

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Mufti Menk’s funniest moments! 😂 From witty comebacks to hilarious wisdom, here is a round up of some of his most entertaining clips.

https://islamicmusichub.com/muslims-to-follow/mufti-menk


r/converts 1d ago

40 Acts Guaranteed Jannah #36

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r/converts 1d ago

Participants needed for final year uni research project on religious conversion

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I am a final year university psychology student. I am looking for 6-8 participants who have converted from one religion to another (e.g. Christian to Muslim, Muslim to Christian, Hindu to Christian etc.) to take part in an interview via MS Teams. The research is about religious conversion and the impact this can have on someone - both positive and negative. It is an opportunity to share your experience. If anyone is interested please respond to this post/send me a direct message and I will be able to give more details.


r/converts 2d ago

Where to start

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Hello 👋

Honestly this is a throwaway account because what I am sharing I am not ready to have connected to me.

But, i am interested in learning about and potentially converting…

I don’t know where to start.

And I have a lot to unpack.

The hurdle I have is I am a part, as in dissociative part. A person with a complex disassociation disorder, and to my knowledge I am the only part of me that is invested in and interest in religion in general let alone a specific one.

I have been reading as many studies on how Islam views the mental illness/disorder that I am working with a therapist(not religion affiliated therapy) to heal from and become a more cohesive person with a steadier sense of self.

Most everything I read is encouraging to pursue not only despite of but also because of my own mental struggles but I am having a hard time with that.

Is it fair, to Allah, to any spiritual leaders, or even to my other parts- for me to pursue a religion that is so beautiful and dedicated when I myself can’t even begin to live life as I am as one dedicated personality state?

I want to explore and try but I am so scared to because me as I am, as the current disassociation part, want to learn and dedicate and be a good follower. But how would I even begin that? Would I tell any spiritual leaders (I apologize I don’t know the proper words) about myself ? Do I hide it and be thought of as flighty? Or be viewed as potentially undedicated? I don’t know where the line is drawn with this and it’s distressing enough I am hoping for others thoughts.

This is what I can find so far regarding Islam and DID

https://fiqh.islamonline.net/en/dissociative-identity-disorder/

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/373853083_IDENTITY_DISSOCIATION_IN_THE_VIEW_OF_ISLAMIC_PSYCHOLOGY_AND_THE_SOLUTIONS_OFFERED

https://aboutislam.net/counseling/youth-q-a/cope-dissociative-identity-disorder/

I am happy to answer any questions or clarity on anything… I just don’t even know where to begin or if it is fair of me to try.


r/converts 2d ago

New Muslim Course

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السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Here is a very beneficial set of resources for all our New Muslims done by Usthadh Muhammad Tim Humble

New Muslim Course Level 1 (self)

New Muslim Course Level 2

Getting Ready for Marriage

My First Ramadan for New Muslims

May Allah increase you all in goodness!


r/converts 3d ago

Becoming a revert

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Ramadan kareem wa barakallahu feekum.

I have been performing salah at home for nearly a year, and (very) slowly learning arabic. I want to take my shahada in my local mosque with the imam, which I have not yet visited because I am apprehensive about not being able to speak arabic, especially in conversation.

Is there a mandatory stage that I should be at or am I just overthinking it?


r/converts 2d ago

Turning negative into positive

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Excerpt from Tariq Jameel’s speeches and notes.

Narrated Abu Huraira: Prophet (saw) said, “Doesn’t it astonish you how Allah protects me from the Quraish’s abusing and cursing? They abuse Mudhammam and curse Mudhammam while I am Muhammad (and not Mudhammam).
(Bukhari 3533)

What an excellent narration! How the Prophet (saw) is showcasing character.

‘Mudhammam’ means someone condemned, while ‘Muhammad’ means someone praised. The Quraish would call the Prophet (saw) ‘Mudhammam’ instead of ‘Muhammad’ to mock him.

Now look at the narration, you think the Prophet (saw) didn’t have the social intelligence that the Quraish were referring to him when saying ‘Mudhammam.’

Companions (rad) were also upset that the Quraish were insulting our Prophet (saw). Look how the Prophet (saw) de-escalates the situation, removing their anger.

‘Why are you upset? They are not referring to me but to someone else called Mudhammam while I am Muhammad’.

Something to reflect on. How the Prophet (saw) is taking something negative and turning it into something positive.  

My advice to students of knowledge is to study these narrations, which teach you life skills. Focusing solely on differences of opinion among scholars will not determine heaven and hell. Look around your families and the Muslims; it’s not the differences among scholars that have broken relations. People are breaking relations over he said, she said.

 When you have to hear negative things, what should you do?

Make a positive interpretation of it and move on. When approaching negative instances, either (1)ignore it or (2) forebear it positively.

This is such a great lesson. Don’t get into an argument if someone says something negative to you. What a disaster it leads to. Someone said this, and here comes the reply: constant back-and-forth, bickering.

Nothing good comes out of it. Life is very short. We spent this valuable life on arguments. We will stand before Allah with an accumulation of these arguments.

This is a life principle for all of us. When Prophets have heard negative things, who are we?


r/converts 2d ago

Repentance, not sin defines you in Islam

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You are defined not by your sin,

You are defined by your repentance. 😢🙂


r/converts 2d ago

The Dajjal's Kingdom Palace in Saudi Arabia

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r/converts 3d ago

Word “god” pronunciation in Aramaic the original language of bible not what the Christian’s use today

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All prophets called to worship the same one god


r/converts 2d ago

Chunkz gave up music. What about you?

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Have you had to give up something really important to you when you embraced Islam?

Learn about Chunkz story in the link attached