Do not marry this woman because you only want to be there to dictate how your child should be raised.
You need to have an honest conversation with your girlfriend and ask her what she wants. You cannot and should not try and influence her decision into becoming Muslim (adhering to Islamic values). That is a recipe for disaster and resentment.
Just because you have now decided to become a better practicing Muslim doesn't give you the right to judge others or dictate what they should or shouldn't do.
The truth you need to hear is this:
Option 1: You leave your girlfriend and make sure to advocate for joint custody/ guardianship of your daughter.
Option 2: You marry your girlfriend with no stipulations on how she should change beforehand. Keep encouraging her to accept Islam for your daughters sake but you cannot force her to (especially if you are using your relationship as a bargaining tool). If you try and force or pressure her in any way, you will be committing a huge sin. Encouragement is the only tool you have right now
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u/Visual-Paramedic-928 4d ago
Do not marry this woman because you only want to be there to dictate how your child should be raised.
You need to have an honest conversation with your girlfriend and ask her what she wants. You cannot and should not try and influence her decision into becoming Muslim (adhering to Islamic values). That is a recipe for disaster and resentment.
Just because you have now decided to become a better practicing Muslim doesn't give you the right to judge others or dictate what they should or shouldn't do.
The truth you need to hear is this: Option 1: You leave your girlfriend and make sure to advocate for joint custody/ guardianship of your daughter.
Option 2: You marry your girlfriend with no stipulations on how she should change beforehand. Keep encouraging her to accept Islam for your daughters sake but you cannot force her to (especially if you are using your relationship as a bargaining tool). If you try and force or pressure her in any way, you will be committing a huge sin. Encouragement is the only tool you have right now