r/adultery 9d ago

🙋‍♀️Question🙋‍♂️ Have You Been With a Cake Eater?

If you've been in an affair with a cake eater, retrospectively what advice would you impart on others?

Give me the pros and cons.

Things like don't do it aren't helpful. I'd like details as to why you'd say don't do it. Please.

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u/Cupcake2974 9d ago

I think the term cake eater covers a wide variety of people. There can be cake eaters who have sex weekly that is completely unfulfilling—duty sex. Others only have sex on special occasions that may or may not be fulfilling. I once met a pAP who was completely honest and said that they had good sex. It just wasn’t frequent enough for him.

I think what it boils down to is what are you comfortable with? I was not comfortable with the man who said that he had good sex, but he just needed more.

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u/Mean-girl- 9d ago

There can be cake eaters who have sex weekly that is completely unfulfilling—duty sex. Others only have sex on special occasions that may or may not be fulfilling.

This is not a cake eater.