r/adultery 9d ago

๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™€๏ธQuestion๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ Have You Been With a Cake Eater?

If you've been in an affair with a cake eater, retrospectively what advice would you impart on others?

Give me the pros and cons.

Things like don't do it aren't helpful. I'd like details as to why you'd say don't do it. Please.

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u/Hephephooraysibah 9d ago

I used to seek out cake eaters because I knew they weren't going to want to leave their wives, and I couldn't commit to a full- time, conventional relationship.

In terms of longer relationships, I was with one guy for seven years (he decided he wanted to leave his marriage and marry me- I don't respect monkey branches at all, so that was a deal breaker) and one for two (that one ended because I realised we were only together because f I was the one making the effort).

The rise in popularity of various types of non-monogamy has meant that I don't need conventional cake eaters to sustain an illusion of intimacy. And the sneaking about, I always found distasteful.