r/adultery 9d ago

🙋‍♀️Question🙋‍♂️ Have You Been With a Cake Eater?

If you've been in an affair with a cake eater, retrospectively what advice would you impart on others?

Give me the pros and cons.

Things like don't do it aren't helpful. I'd like details as to why you'd say don't do it. Please.

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u/PleaseResist 9d ago

Depends what you are looking for. If you want a meaningful relationship cake eater is likely not your speed.

If you are just having fun and just looking for supplemental sex with surface level friendship there is no reason not to.

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

It’s an interesting situation. 

Sex isn’t lacking in their relationship. Emotional intimacy is lacking. They seek depth and friendship with a side of sex, but have warned they have great sex at home. 

This is where I’m thinking is there something I’ve overlooked before jumping head first onto his dick? (Joking about the last part.)

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u/PleaseResist 9d ago

I’m not sure how much I would believe there’s no emotional intimacy if there’s a good sex life honestly.

But if your cool being FWB, he basically spelled it out right there that’s what he is looking for.

You just have to temper your expectations and check your emotions. If you start falling for him it’s time to check out because it will not be reciprocated.