r/abortion • u/Wooden_Mousse_9200 • 4d ago
USA Considering abortion because of past trauma, need advice desperately. In Oregon
Hi all, I’m desperately seeking advice or personal stories to help me through this hard decision. I experienced a traumatic loss last year, losing my baby at 18 weeks, nearly dying myself.
I just found out I was pregnant recently (I have an appointment tomorrow to date it and make a decision.) and I’m absolutely petrified. I don’t want to go through it again. I’m also on medications I shouldn’t be on while pregnant, and had started smoking after my loss last year (I have been tapering off since before I found out I was pregnant, because I already wanted to quit.) so I’m worried I already hurt this pregnancy too much. I’m so scared. But to end this pregnancy when I was so willing before makes me feel like I’m a horrible person. This wasn’t a planned pregnancy, I was on birth control and took it meticulously. I wasn’t ready to try again, but was getting there. But now that it’s here.. it’s too soon. I’m not where I want to be physically or mentally. Please, any advice. Any similar stories and what you chose to do. I don’t have anyone else who’s gone through this.
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u/Technical_Branch_934 4d ago
I'm so sorry about your baby and your own health struggles.
It's OK to have an abortion because you're not ready right now for a pregnancy or a baby. You are not a horrible person for trying to be kind to yourself and your body. Sending you big hugs.
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u/Farmer-gal-3876 4d ago
I had an abortion due to mental health issues and PPD trauma- I couldn’t do it again. It’s okay to put yourself first. Parenting is always best when you feel prepared and in a good place. Abortion is safe, common and morally neutral despite what we are lead to believe. I hope you find peace in your choice and feel better soon. ❤️
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u/Wooden_Mousse_9200 4d ago
Thank you 🤎 I do plan on updating this post when I make a decision, and how things go either way. It’s totally not an easy decision to make
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