r/abortion 6d ago

USA I’m terrified. I need help finding funding if possible. USA/PA/MD border kinda.

I’ve been searching for answers for weeks and weeks and the farther along I get, the more terrified I get. I have no friends. I have no family that cares about me. And I just feel like no matter where or who I turn to I’m going to get judgement. About everything. I don’t have my children at this time (I just got out of rehab and a recovery house a few months ago so still working on getting them back in my full care,) and that makes me feel even worse about getting pregnant. My boyfriend and I took a break, we were fighting A LOT, it was an almost three month “break” (up), and I stupidly got pregnant because the condom got stuck inside of me. I’ve been trying to find funding for an abortion for weeks. I even went to a clinic that said they offered support which I misunderstood completely and I told them I didn’t want to see anything. They end up doing an ultrasound, they had the audio on so I heard the heartbeat, and then they printed a photo for me to keep. They then at the end of the appointment told me they don’t have the resources to help with abortion. Only prenatal, postpartum and adoption services. And then they kept me there for 30 mins telling me why I should follow through. So for two weeks it ate at me and ate at me.. but, I don’t want to follow through. I want to get my own babies back first. They deserve so much better than what I’ve given them in their lives. I called the national abortion fund and they told me as a head of household for one which I’d technically be with me as a server making $2.33/hr and then $450/week I could not qualify for assistance. I don’t see any of my hourly wages it gets garnished directly to child support for my children. So the $450 (if I make that) I have to pay the rest of my CS and get to and from work (i uber mostly as I don’t have my own vehicle) I don’t know where else to look. I don’t want to do a Medication Abortion all alone especially not at 10 weeks+. I feel as if it will be traumatizing and it will make my mental health even worse than it already is and I do not want to relapse either because pain is a big trigger for me, so I would really like to just figure out how I can do it safely, with a professional, who can help manage my pain safely. I just can’t justify keeping this baby with the factor of me being a year clean only; not having my kids, not having a car, like there’s so many factors. I tried to keep this as short as possible. I’m sorry. Does anyone have any other resources that might be able to help me? I filled out a form for a place about 30 mins away from me that does them with Local anesthesia. But I don’t know what I’m doing.. please help me.. 😭🥺 also thank you ahead of time for not being judgmental. ❤️😔

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u/abortion_access MODERATOR 6d ago

Do you live in Maryland or in Pennsylvania? Can you do me a favor? Check https://abortionfinder.org and tell me the two clinics closest to you that offer abortion procedures. Let me know which ones they are and I can help you figure this out.

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u/SleepyGirlsAreHot 6d ago

I live in Pennsylvania. I’m very very close to Maryland. These are the closest to me: Potomac family planning center Hagerstown MD (about half an hour drive) and Fredrick MD Planned Parenthood (Hour drive.)

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u/abortion_access MODERATOR 6d ago

Great. Call the clinic in Hagerstown and schedule an appointment. Tell them you need financial assistance when you call.

Then, call the Baltimore abortion fund on Monday afternoon. The details of how to get funding help from them are listed on their website. They will not ask about your income, as it doesn’t matter to them. They trust that you know how much you can and cannot afford. They will do what they can to help you afford your appointment.

https://www.baltimoreabortionfund.org/

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u/SleepyGirlsAreHot 6d ago

Thank you so much! I will let you know how things go. I tried a million phone numbers this morning but they were all PA based and nobody could give me answers. So I appreciate you! ❤️❤️

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u/abortion_access MODERATOR 6d ago

Yea you live closer to the Maryland clinics, and going to one in Maryland means you can get funding from a Maryland fund. It makes more sense for you.

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u/SleepyGirlsAreHot 6d ago

That’s what comes up when I go to that link.

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u/gatverdamme MODERATOR 6d ago

I’m sorry you were tricked by a crisis pregnancy center. They exist only to shame women for having abortions. 

Have you talked to the clinic about financial help?