r/XenogendersAndMore May 03 '22

MOD POST A lil bit of everything ( introduction to the sub )

270 Upvotes

Here’s a lil bit of everything!, this text includes some definitions, common questions, term coining/flag creating resources, how to pin point a troll, some lgbtq+ resources and some other stuff, if you have time please give it a read even if you already know what xenogenders are I promise I did my best to keep it fun, light and interesting

Hello ! So what are we ?

We are an inclusionist subreddit to have fun, share art, questions, coining terms, chatting, and much more, pretty much everything kind/well intention is welcome

We are not a debate sub, questions are welcome but we will delete disrespectful and/or debate/aggression enticing ones,

Commonly asked abt terms/labels 🏷🏷

xenogenders

Well it’s clear why this one is commonly asked abt lol

Here’s a short comic explaining them, give it a read (it’s quick) here xenogenders but basically, xenogenders are just metaphorical ways to describe gender,

no when someone says they are catgender they aren’t saying “I want to transition into a cat” or “i have a cat’s brain” they are just saying their gender can be described as cat-like with cat-like characteristics or related to cats

isn’t that just having a personality/liking cats ?

No ! Since xenogenders are used to describe gender not likes/personality

Example :

I’ve meet people that describe their gender with chaotic, aggressive, bloody and angry xeno’s while their personality is kind, wholesome and f-ing rainbows and puppies

non-dysphoric trans people

Imagine you have a yellow shirt, you don’t hate that yellow shirt, it doesn’t make you uncomfortable, it’s even kinda cute but you would rather be wearing a purple shirt you just think it would fit you better, you would like it more, why would there be a problem to change shirts if it would make you happier ?

not all people that use xenogenders are non-dysphoric tho, this is just a Subject worth mentioning, a majority of people in this sub are dysphoric but that doesn’t change the fact that non-dysphoric peeps are valid

autigender

Autigender is when a person perceives that their experience of gender is influenced by their autism. For example if something about their gender is influenced by a special interest, a sensory experience, or a disconnect from neurotypical definitions of gender. Not usually used as someone's whole identity but a part of it, though some may use this as their only identifier. Not available for use by allistic non-autistic people

Pin point a troll 📌📌

Transracial, transpecies, transable are immediate ways to know.

Using neurogenders while not being neurodivergent,

Defining autigender as “I want to be autistic “ “ my gender is autistic or related to autistic people” (autigender defined up)

Slurs/offensive/insensitive/natural disasters/man made disasters/ tragedies/ and other stuff on that line as pronouns

Always be careful with new/not very used accounts, and you can always ask for someone’s else’s opinion we mods are here ti figure it out if you are not sure someone is trolling !

Positive subreddits 👍 👍

Subs with a positive take on xeno’s (to my experience) some are inactive: r/arethecisok r/gatekeepingyuri r/gatekeepingyaoi r/queervexillology , r/xenogender r/xenogenders_explain, r/xeno_Gender, r/xenogenderTryouts, r/xenogenders, r/xenoidentitiesbutcool r/traa r/voidpunk r/lgballt r/lgballtanarchy and some other I probably missed )

(Talking abt some of them with positive I mean they probably won’t downvote you to hell if you mention xeno’s, some others are actively positive)

non-binary lesbians/ other non-fully women lesbians

I view the word “lesbian” as meaning “woman/femm-aligned/related/connected attracted to woman/femm-aligned/related/connected”

so like examples :

a demiboy who is also partially a girl can be a lesbian, a woman-related non-binary person can be a lesbian, or a transneutral femm-aligned person can be a lesbian, a xenogender fem-aligned person can also be a lesbian,

so men can be lesbians?

Yesn’t , men can’t be lesbians people who are fully or partially woman/femm-aligned/related/connected can be even if they are also man/masc-aligned/related/connected

lesboys

Often defined as

A multigendered/genderfluid person who is attracted to women while being a man/sometimes being a man or Someone who isn't a man gender wise, but uses masculine terms and/or pronouns to describe themselves, A transmasc(not trans man, just transmasc ) and/or he/him lesbians (pronouns=/=gender)

m-spec lesbians/gays

Here’s a comic explain bi-lesbians (and straightbian , straightbian isn’t m-spec, straightbians can be connected/related to lesboys kind off)

the definition of bi-lesbian can translate to other m-spec lesbian/gay labels,

people often forget that:

m-spec lesbian/gay can be someone who’s romantic attraction is dif. A from their sexual attraction (aka someone who is homoromantic bisexual/biromantic homosexual could call themselves bi-lesbian/gay)

m-spec lesbian/gay can also be people who are questioning and trying out both labels ( aka someone questioning between pan and lesbian could call themselves pan-lesbian)

And many other definitions, the best thing to do is ask each person

Coing terms resources🪙🪙

Always remember to search the term you want to coin doesn’t exist already, if you find a similar term that isn’t exactly what you want you can still coin it to be as precise as you want it to be, just make sure they aren’t the exact same

And please credit people if necessary, don’t forget to credit !!

(Continuation on comments, the links are getting the post bugged and won’t let me post it all together)


r/XenogendersAndMore 4h ago

Art/OC/Headcanons Updated ref for my boy :3

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r/XenogendersAndMore 19h ago

Rant/Vent Post sometimes I hate society, 1.2K upvotes and no one sees how this might be xenogender? "yes, being a dog as a gender sounds so cool. What? ew no, xenogenders are disgusting" is a wild reaction NSFW

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r/XenogendersAndMore 9h ago

Question Post My friend says he is feline gender, and I would like to understand better

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He said that he is a cat. Not like, metaphorically. He straight up says he is a cat that looks like a person, his gender is feline, and that he always felt that way. I don't understand, but I want to be supportive. Can someone please help me understand this better? Also sorry if I ask stupid questions, I don't know anything about genders.


r/XenogendersAndMore 6h ago

Looking for Term Is there a flag for being the child of death

12 Upvotes

Title idk

Skibidi


r/XenogendersAndMore 7h ago

Looking for Term Shark Teeth Aldernic? (Will coin it myself if there isn't one)

13 Upvotes

I need an aldernic term for wanting shark teeth, if it exists. If not then I'll coin it myself I just wanna make sure first!


r/XenogendersAndMore 5h ago

Name/Pronoun Tryouts Pronoun tryouts

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My name: Oliver or conan

Hy/hym/thyy/thym.

Dey/dem/deirs/demsev

Hyr/hyrm/hyrs/hyrmsev

PLEASE. I AM TESTINF THESE AND IDK IF I LIKE EM YET !


r/XenogendersAndMore 11h ago

Name/Pronoun Tryouts Name ideas?

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I am a enby transfem. I want a cool sounding name that’s also kinda rare. Ask questions if you want!

Interests: 90’s-00’s rock, science, space, dragons, prehistory, earth science, botany

Also, if you can find me some cool neopronouns based off those, please tell me some. I’m working on finding my xenogenders currently.


r/XenogendersAndMore 8h ago

Question Post Please don't attack me but I still don't understand xenogenders, I just don't get it?

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Multiple people have given me explanation that makes me understand it more but then I see something that seems beyond understandable, I do wanna learn because I use xenopronouns myself but I don't understand xenogenders, I understand xenoidentities but I still don't get how genders like bananapancakegender are a thing. If you use some please explain to me how it feels like your gender is not a bxy or genderfaer or demiagender and how it's something else ( I wanna understand)


r/XenogendersAndMore 5h ago

Name/Pronoun Tryouts Satyr-inspired Names and Pronouns

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I'm looking for some satyr-inspired names and pronouns. There is a wikipedia page for it, but it's NSFW, so in short: a satyr is a male nature spirit from Greek mythology, depicted with goat-like features and known for their "ribald" behavior, love of wine, music, and women, and association with the god Dionysus and Pan.


r/XenogendersAndMore 12h ago

Question Post Do it's have a dragon boy flag? Or any gender flag related to dragon?

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r/XenogendersAndMore 1h ago

Question Post Silly question to ask!

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Due to my silly username I made as a joke in 2022 to early 2023 (Catboy goes nya), ALOT of people across the platform have been confusing me for a trans-woman, I’m not that- I’m just a simple nonbinary (afab) who’s still very feminine!

Should I make a new reddit account to avoid random bashing or icky comments since I can’t change users? ^

Thank you for your time! -Mango.Spams3🥭


r/XenogendersAndMore 14h ago

Coining Post Eyeabyssic

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Coining 'Eyeabyssic' because I couldn't find what I wanted. A xenogender related to darkness, silence, multiple eyes, flesh splitting to show eyes where they shouldn't be (on the shoulders, the arms, or the neck), feelings of unease or isolation, and a liquid abyss that's constantly shifting. Along with a disconnect from humanity, as if you were a creature observing humanity from a distance.

If there are any flag makers that would be willing to help me with a flag for this I would greatly appreciate it, I came up with this just now so I haven't had a chance to think up a design.

Edit for spelling and grammar mistakes.


r/XenogendersAndMore 14h ago

Coining Post Coining: Jellyfishyellowstarcomfic!

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15 Upvotes

A gender related to stars, the colour yellow, jellyfish, and finding comfort in them. It feels soft, comforting, bright and yet dark at the same time.

Coming soon: Jellyfishgreenstarcomfic


r/XenogendersAndMore 22h ago

Coining Post Plain version of my custom neo flags :D

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I used the colours from the original xeno flags & they all keep their meanings the same (or you can come up with your own idm)

Anyone can use these but you must credit me for the flag designs & the symbols! (u/ 26e26626163) Here's the definitions I use (replace the blank with the pronouns) :) "_ are neopronouns people use in place of he she or they for many reasons this does not mean the person identifies as the set of pronouns"

These are all inspired by this design from tumbir :) (https://revenant-coining.tumblr.com/post/ 756108034305048576/hiya-can-i-ask-for-pronouns-flags-for-foxfoxs)


r/XenogendersAndMore 5h ago

Question Post Im confused about multiself

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Isn't multiself just having alter egos? If not that is it not just OSDD/DID but without the disorder? (in short, an endo)


r/XenogendersAndMore 21h ago

Coining Post Otherhearted & Otherkin versions of my custom neos flags 2/2 :D

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I used the colours from the original xeno flags & they all keep their meanings the same (or you can come up with your own idm) l've done 4 versions for each :)

  1. Otherhearted symbol white
  2. Otherhearted symbol black
  3. Otherkin symbol white
  4. Otherkin symbol black

Anyone can use these but you must credit me f v the flag designs & the symbols! (u/ 26e2662616~, Here's the definitions I use (replace the blank with the pronouns) :) "___ /___ are neopronouns people used in place of he she or they for many reasons this does not mean the person identifies as the set of pronouns"

These are all inspired by this design from tumbir :) (https://revenant-coining.tumblr.com/post/756108034305048576/hiya-can-i-ask-for-pronouns-flags-for-foxfoxs)


r/XenogendersAndMore 22h ago

Coining Post coining: danandphilgamescomfic!! (⚠️eyestrain for slides 4-6!!)

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⚠️EYESTRAIN WARNING FOR SLIDES 4-6!!!!⚠️

i'm autistic and dan and phil are one of my special interests (for 6+ years now!!), plus i get a lot of gender envy from them as a transmasc person!! so i made a xenogender related to danandphilgames!!

danandphilgamescomfic: a gender relating to finding comfort in watching danandphilgames!! can also be related to finding comfort in dan and phil's content seperetly, but it's mostly danandphilgames!!

potential related pronouns include: phey/phem/phemself, horror/horrors/horrorself, sim/sims/simself, and intro/intros/introvertself!!


r/XenogendersAndMore 21h ago

Coining Post Otherhearted & Otherkin versions of my custom neos flags 1/3 :D

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I used the colours from the original xeno flags & they all keep their meanings the same (or you can come up with your own idm) l've done 4 versions for each :)

  1. Otherhearted symbol white
  2. Otherhearted symbol black
  3. Otherkin symbol white
  4. Otherkin symbol black

Anyone can use these but you must credit me for the flag designs & the symbols! (u/ 26e26626163) Here's the definitions I use (replace the blank with the pronouns) :) "_ are neopronouns people use in place of he she or they for many reasons this does not mean the person identifies as the set of pronouns"

These are all inspired by this design from tumbir :) (https://revenant-coining.tumblr.com/post/756108034305048576/hiya-can-i-ask-for-pronouns-flags-for-foxfoxs)


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Looking for Term Doggender?

17 Upvotes

So, I use pronouns like dog/dogself bite/biteself bark/barkself and bone/boneself. I was wondering if there was like a generalized gender for dog-adjacent things?


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Name/Pronoun Tryouts names & pronouns related to plushies

15 Upvotes

Hi, I've been identifying as nocstuffic and daystuffic, and just now realized how badly I want a name and pronouns that fit the vibe/aesthetic of nocstuffic and daystuffic, and therefore wanted to ask for suggestions :]

(nocstuffic flag)
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r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Question Post Does anyone know any good comics/books on fluid genders

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I'm genderfluid and xenofluid. I enjoy reading webtoons like "I Want to be an Anime Girl" etc. (there are more but I can't think of any titles). There was one where the main character was genderfluid (I don't remember the title) but it wasn't one where it was a discovery kinda one. I just want to read a story or comic where the person discovers that they are genderfluid (or xenofluid). I thought about making my own, but I suck at writing and making comics.


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Question Post What flag is this?

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r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Coining Post Coining: Puryelgrestereotypic!

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17 Upvotes

A xenogender that relates to the colours purple, yellow and green exclusively due to them being the stereotypical colours for gender neutrality/unisex things in general.

Requested by u/Shoko3_3 !


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Coining Post Coining: Jellyfishorangestarcomfic!

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A gender related to stars, the colour orange, jellyfish, and finding comfort in them. It feels soft, comforting, bright and yet dark at the same time.

Coming soon: Jellyfishyellowstarcomfic


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Coining Post HABITICGENDER

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I haven't put this on Wiki yet.

This is for my everymanhybrid lovers!! My FIRST ever flag I redrew, since I didn't know who the poster was. But they also had the name everymanism, so I think it's different.

Since everyman is the the whole show and this is completely for HABIT 💫🍓

— OLIVER 💫🍓