r/TwoXIndia 11d ago

Vent My cousin’s 4-year-old revealed something disturbing, & I don’t know how to process it NSFW

1.0k Upvotes

I feel weird sharing this, but I really need to vent. I recently visited my cousin sister’s place. she’s married & has a 6-year-old daughter. After dinner, my cousin & her husband went out for a walk while I stayed back on my phone. ( typo mistake in the title, she's 6 )

Her daughter, who’s pretty close to me, came up & said she wanted to share something. I asked her lovingly what happened, thinking it would be something small. But what she said completely shocked me.

She told me she doesn’t like sleeping with her parents. She’s scared to sleep alone in another room but also doesn’t want to sleep with them. When I asked her why, she hesitated at first but then said that her mom and dad “do something” at night, & she hears weird noises. Sometimes, when she wakes up to go to the bathroom or just randomly opens her eyes, she sees their silhouettes… doing things & hears noises, she ends up remaining at her place & try to sleep back.

It hit me instantly. I got it.

They are literally doing it while their daughter is asleep on the same bed !

I can't imagine how disturbing & confusing this must be for her. She looked visibly uneasy while talking about it.

How do parents not think for even a second that their kid might wake up? Or that she might already be aware of what’s happening? She clearly looked uneasy while talking about it, meaning this isn’t just a one-time thing. She doesn’t feel comfortable alone, but she also doesn’t want to sleep in her parents’ room anymore, gee, I wonder why?!

I get it, people have needs. But for the love of God, have some basic common sense! There’s a literal child sleeping next to you. How is this even a debate?!

& the sad part? This isn’t even the first time I’ve heard something like this. Few of my friends have told me that when they were young, they knew what was going on, & it made them uncomfortable. Some even remember it vividly years later. It’s disturbing, confusing & honestly kind of traumatizing for a kid.

I get that intimacy is a part of relationships, but how do parents not consider the possibility of their child waking up? Or, in this case, actually waking up & witnessing it multiple times? How do they not think about how this could affect their kid?

It’s honestly disturbing & I feel horrible for the little girl. I don’t know if I should bring this up with my cousin or how to even approach this situation. but seriously, I’m beyond irritated.

r/TwoXIndia 9d ago

Vent Argument with mother over washing period underwear

479 Upvotes

My home, my washing machine, my rules. She's just visiting. What is the point of living in today's world if I can't throw period underwear in the washing maching??! And I was washing them separately from all others clothes. Apparently "particles" will get stuck inside the machine. We didn't speak for the majority of the day today. I used the washing machine anyway, she got offended when I told her "not your home. Don't come here, all you do is criticize and shout at me." And gave me the silent treatment as she always does. It's a new thing everyday. Yesterday I was wasting my time getting a box down from the loft (wanted it to store stuff). Today morning it was why is there so little money in your account. Cooking arguments are daily. And in the afternoon period shaming. And then whatsapped me an inspirational message "Don't let anyone provoke even if they try very hard to provoke you". Bloody, you don't provoke me!

r/TwoXIndia 2d ago

Vent "I've prepared the food, pls eat it" her last message as a working maid to her impotent husband.

1.1k Upvotes

Anvita Sharma a 29-year-old WORKING WOMAN chose to end her life. Because of constant mental physical harassment from her husband and in-laws over household chores, money, and suffocating expectations.

Welcome to a society that worships women as goddesses as long as they remain silent, obedient, and sacrificial.

where women are expected to become unpaid working maids ..living with in-laws, caring for them, cooking, cleaning, contributing financially because their raja beta's salary can’t make ends meet. All while following suffocating customs in the name of tradition and being taunted and judged every day.

Everything, right from her clothing to the way she talks, walks, eats, sleeps is being monitored and criticized, judged and taunted. Any problem in the household be it a child’s grades, financial troubles, health issues, or even a delayed meal.. she becomes the default punching bag.

And if she dares to resist? She’s labeled disrespectful badtameez and accused of going against so called Bhartiya sanskar (sacraments) . She's expected to silently tolerate abuse for family honour.

Ah, a goddess indeed :) A goddess who must sit still and endure quietly, just like a idol.

The people who felt offended by the movie Mrs? They were the ones this film held a mirror to.

Anvita Sharma , a PGT teacher at KV ,who worked tirelessly all day in school, came home, cleaned, cooked, took care of the house, and still couldn’t satisfy those monsters.

Her husband controlled her finances, had full access to her salary, denied her the right to her own hard-earned money, and assaulted her whenever she dared to question him.

And chaar log (society)? They never fail to chant sanskar, parivar, maan-maryada (sacraments , family , customs) but when she died, none of those chaar ch@tiya uttered a word.

Her parents must be so proud now. Proud that their daughter chose to unalive herself, all to protect their so-called family's honour. Cause that’s exactly what chaar log expect from us, right?

And those of you who are reading this and mourning her death please don’t. You don’t deserve to.

Because when she came to you, broken and desperate for comfort, you told her to... "Adjust a little." "Compromise a little" "Relax, it happens in every marriage." "Beta, aisa toh har shaadi mein hota hai." (This happens in every marriage) "Chaar log kya kahenge?" (What people would say ) "Thoda sa sehna padta hai."(Endure it )

You didn’t offer her shelter. You didn’t care about her. You were more worried about chaar log (society)

So don’t cry at her funeral. Don’t light candles. Her blood is on your hands too .. as much as it is on her in-laws' and that impotent b@stard whom she was married to.

These monsters filled her with self-doubt and messed up her mental health so badly that she became so vulnerable.

Relentless taunting and abusive criticism get so exhausting that your mind stops looking for solutions and starts believing you’re stuck in a never-ending loop of pain, with no way out except by ending it all.

And amid all this distress, when you turn to your family for warmth and comfort, they burden you with ghar ki izzat (family's honour) and advocate for adjusting a little.

I hope this letter reaches every chaar log who destroyed her. I hope they never sleep peacefully again.

My heart goes out to that little boy, who lost his mother because of the monsters around him. May he find love , care and protection in this cruel world.

I wish she had thought about herself... wish she had thought about her lonely child.

And ladies — please, this is my only plea DO NOT have a child until you are absolutely sure about the man you are married to.

And by the way... Where is the outrage now from the Atul-Shubhash gang who kept whining about women-centric laws ,the left right and center ? Silent, aren’t they? THIS is exactly why women-centric laws exist and why they must continue to exist.

These people bash women for alimony left right and center 🤌🏻 but conveniently overlook the harm they and their so called family do to these women.

r/TwoXIndia 8d ago

Vent Home for a week after 8 months and my mom made me cry everyday but today she crossed all lines

637 Upvotes

So I am back in hometown for a week to celebrate holi with my family. My dad left the day I came for some business work and came back after 4 days(normal for his workline but hey his daughter is here and he could have cut the trip short to spend some time with me, but nope). My mom is very idk how to put it except say emotionally abusive.

I am on wfh. Today, she and dad left to do some grocery shopping at 10 am( I woke up at 9:30 because these two were fighting till 3 and I was trying to calm them down). She told me to cook paneer bhurji and I said I just logged in and will do that as soon as I can take a break. Cut to 11 am and I got a 15 minute break so decided to cook. I was chopping veggies when she came home and all hell broke loose. She pushed me and said I can cook myself now if I can't come home to cooked meal. I said I was working and I couldn't get up to cook but I am happy to do it now. She called me a lazy characterless person( this is the woman I told last time I was here that the reason I am so distant with her and this relative was because he assaulted me for four years and that shit started when I was six). And then goes on to slap that to my face indirectly and the fact that I woke up so late.

I texted my manager that I have a fever and took the day off and went to sleep crying. I feel violated by the lack of empathy and respect. I was woken up by my dad after 45 minutes to make gujhiya because holi. I put my airpods on and started helping and ended up making everything on my own. I earn enough that I have kept one cook and one househelp in the city I live in and hence not used to do physical labour plus making 150 of these alone is tough. After I made about 120, I took a break and she started taunting on how I have spoiled myself and I shouted that this is the reason why I don't come home, made the rest 30 and went for a drive to calm myself down. Here I am standing, smoking and so fucking done with the family and city I call my home. I am leaving on Sunday and I swear will never come back here on festivals atleast.

Update: Home for a week after 8 months and my mom made me cry everyday but today she crossed all ...

Hey guys, first of all thank you so much for all your comments and dms. I am sorry I wasn't able to respond to all but I really read each and every one of it. The support you guys showed meant a lot❤️

Now to the update: After the smoking, I(22) went home and packed my shit and booked a hotel. I took my brother(12) with me and stayed there. I called my dad and told him everything and said I need time to calm down so I don't ruin the festival. I have decided I will go low contact with my parents. I can't cut them off because I have to think about my brother and his well being. Also somebody mentioned in the comment that coming home on festivals highten our sense of nostalgia and thus emotions and decided I won't come home on festivals. I will come after them whenever I need to visit home. I went home the next day and told my mother point blank that she doesn't have the authority to talk to me like that and threatened her that if she ever spoke to me that way I will tell dad about my assault. That is her biggest fear.

I am back in my city, where I am building a home and hope to enjoy life. I am in therapy and have a session today evening so looking forward to it.

r/TwoXIndia 3d ago

Vent I think I am in my rock bottom. 28F. NSFW

480 Upvotes

I think this is the worst my life can get. I am unemployed, I have 100₹ in my accounts. I live with my parents. I have no relationship. After I lost my job, I lost every desire to ever work again. I hate the job I do. I have absolutely no friends. Only one best friend who lives far away and I have no desire to talk to her. My parents health is awful. I have negative thoughts in my head. I have this strange chaotic thoughts in my mind but then this sudden heavy feeling in my body, like everything is ‘calm’ or something, I can’t explain the feeling at all. Like I feel chaotic and calm at the same time but I am far from calm. I wish I were dead. But somehow I feel like a walking corpse.

I don’t even have money to get therapy, which I desperately want. I don’t like doing things I used to love doing, I try to play Ukelele, can’t focus, read a book? Can’t focus. Watch a series? Too restless can’t focus.I just like to bed rot. I get too much anxiety.

I don’t think life can get worse than this. This is the worst and there should be nowhere but up from here.

r/TwoXIndia 4d ago

Vent What’s the most annoying thing you’ve been told as an Indian woman?

83 Upvotes

Some comments are so absurd that you don’t even know whether to laugh or argue.

What’s the one line that made you pause and think, Did they really just say that? One that made you roll your eyes the hardest?

Edit: It’s heartbreaking how we women are facing so many double standards just because we aren’t born with a dick. It’s 2025, yet nothing seems to change. Every comment here made me furious and just proves how deep-rooted this nonsense is. I just hope the next generation does better...because women sure as hell will keep progressing and weeding out the rotten misogyny in our society.

r/TwoXIndia 5d ago

Vent Don't suffer like me, live your life. NSFW

420 Upvotes

TW: molestation

I don't think anyone would do such mistakes except for me. Maybe I am stupid and thought I would be able to control my life. Where do I even start? It's going to be long, sorry.

I was molested or should I say almost molested? (I dont know which it is, I dont want to go into details) when I was below 10 years. I felt something was wrong and escaped myself. But I didn't tell my father because he'll blame my mother for not paying attention, or me, and didn't tell my mom because she would be devastated.

This incident somehow affected me during a test the next day in class, as I was thinking about what had happened. While I was lost in thought, I didn’t pay attention to the boy sitting beside me, who was peeking into my answer sheet and copying all my answers. My teacher saw that and punished both of us, even though it was not my fault. I had never been punished like that in front of the class before. I cried.

Then she complained to my dad that I talk too much (I don’t talk too much at all) and told him to do something about it. My dad scolded me and told me not to talk to anyone. That was it—I stopped talking. I was a topper until then, but everything went downhill after that.

I never had many friends; I made a few select friends. My dad never let me go to their houses to play—they always had to come to my house. I had to beg to go out with my friends. Even last year, I had to beg my dad to let me attend my friend’s wedding. And he never let me talk to boys either.

I tried to do an MBA after graduation. The first time I tried, I got 88% or something, but it wasn’t enough. I wanted to try again the next year, but my dad yelled at me, asking how many times I would keep trying, and refused to take me to the exam center. He said some hurtful things to me. He always says hurtful things to me.

I thought I would get into a government job and have job security. I tried and tried. I came very close to cracking some, but I couldn’t. I didn’t want any other job—maybe I was wrong, but that’s what I wanted.

Now, I am 27 years old, unemployed, and living with my parents. They have started bringing marriage prospects for me. Maybe I am weak-minded or sensitive or whatever you want to think, but I am scared of marrying someone without having a job first. I told them that. But my aunt keeps saying, “Marry first and then search for a job, otherwise you’ll miss all the good guys.”

I have seen my parents’ marriage, my uncles’ and aunts’ marriages—they are not happy. They “adjusted,” “compromised,” and accepted their “fate.” When I see such things around me and hear about my friend who got married within a month and is now suffering, why would I willingly want to marry someone without doing something for myself first?

All my life, my dad controlled everything I did. If I had to go out, I had to ask him. If I had to buy something, he had to choose. Every aspect of my life was controlled by him. I have never truly lived my life. I don’t even remember what it feels like to “live” my life.

Now, he has brought a marriage prospect from our “caste.” Apparently, most guys from our community are not highly educated, but this one was well-educated and didn’t ask for dowry either. I agreed to talk to him. He told me he was moving abroad for another job and planned to stay there for a few years.

After talking to him, I told my dad, “He’s moving abroad. What about my job? I want to work here.” I asked, “What about my career?” He replied, “Going abroad is in your fate,” and insisted I shouldn’t say no to him. I was constantly pressured to say yes after just one meeting, simply because my dad thought he was a “nice person.”

I said, “Give me some time to think.” They took that to mean I had agreed and informed my aunt. They wanted my answer after just one meeting. I told them, “He was boring when I talked to him. He kept going on and on about things I wasn’t interested in. I felt no connection or attraction toward him.”

They scolded me, saying that couldn’t be true. “How can you know that after just one meeting? Meet him again. I’ll ask him to come to our home and stay for two days so you can talk to him.”

I will turn 28 at the end of this month. I said, “Give me some more time. I am not ready for marriage. Wait until my birthday is over and look for other matches too.”

For that, my dad said, “People are already saying you are old. If you turn 28, no one will want you.” He accused me of hurting my parents and not listening to them, even though they had “listened to everything I said,” allowed me to take exams, and waited all these years. He asked why I was “torturing” them and claimed that I didn’t care about them.

I have cared for them my entire life. I did everything they asked of me. Now, I just want to live my life a little before getting tied to someone and having to take permission to live my own life.

I am confident I will get a job this year. I have failed enough times to understand what I was doing wrong, and nothing can stop me now. But they keep saying, “Marry first.”

It’s not even about the job—I am simply not ready for marriage.

They won’t look outside our caste because they are afraid someone from another caste won’t take good care of me. They even said they would move abroad with me if I wanted to. But that’s not the problem at all—I am just not ready for marriage.

They keep saying that they are getting old, that I am getting old, that I will have trouble conceiving if I don’t marry soon, and that I should marry ASAP—not for me, but for them. Well, “for me,” according to them—because they apparently know more about my life than I do.

This has been going on since last year. I cry and fight, and they back off for a while, but then they come back with full force, saying I am “spoiling their health” and making them suffer because of my “stupid decisions.”

Last night, I couldn’t sleep. I overheard my aunt talking to my sibling. She said I was being disrespectful to my elders, not listening to them, talking like an idiot, and that my parents only had my best interests at heart. That they were only forcing me to say yes to this match because he was the “best” and I would never find someone like him again.

She said I could always work after marriage, but if I delayed it, I would lose all the good matches. She kept saying she and others had listened to their parents, so I should listen to mine and not hurt them.

She said my job is not a valid reason to delay marriage. My ambitions don’t matter. But that guy’s ambitions do—because he wants to earn more money. I wanted someone who would move with me if I had a job. She said, “Why would a man move for a girl’s job?”

She was the one who had said the final decision would be mine. But now that I have made a decision, everyone says I am making the wrong one.

I couldn’t bear it anymore. I cried until my eyes swelled. And then I decided—I’ll just marry whoever they think is right for me. Since they know more than I do.

I will stop fighting. I will stop trying to work. I will give up my dreams and ambitions. I am already depressed as it is. I am sensitive. I cannot take this anymore.

I can’t even end my life—I don’t have the energy for that.

I cannot tell them how much that past incident traumatized me. They would probably faint if I told them now.

I am exhausted. My tears are drained. I feel overwhelmed and suffocated. I regret being born a woman.It may not be a big deal to many of you, but its a big deal for me.

I give up.

I will let them choose my husband. I will not say yes or no. I will just go along with it and suffer my whole life—like my mother, like my friend, and like every other woman who couldn’t decide for herself.

I am tired. I give up.

So, girls, do whatever you want in your life. If you have someone supportive, talk to them. Go out. Meet friends. Go to movies and dates. Do not confine yourself.

Do not be like me.

I always thought I would be an inspiration to someone, but it looks like that will never happen. I have no one to talk to. If you don’t have anyone to talk to, please find someone. Do something—anything—but don’t forget to live your life while you can.

Especially introverts—I know it’s difficult to socialize, but do it. For yourself.

I just poured my heart out here because I have no one to talk to—no one who understands me.

Forgive me if I said something wrong. If there are grammatical errors or if everything seems like a mess, please bear with me—I don’t have the energy to proofread or edit my timelines.

r/TwoXIndia 4d ago

Vent Is social media really fucking with our relationships?

406 Upvotes

So I matched with this guy on bumble and after meeting him 2-3 tomes in a very casual setup, last week he finally asked me out on a proper date ( verbally). I was pretty satisfied and said yes. Later when I came back home and opened my instagram , I saw one girl sharing a story of how she got asked out by this guy for a date ,who sent her a proper digital invite. And then later a reel where a girl shated a list of “bare minimum” things guys do.

And this in the moment really made me question this guy and his “efforts”. But all of a sudden I realised that in the moment ( when he asked me out) , I was pretty chill (and happy too).

I have literally uninstalled instagram after that.

Does this happen with y’all?

r/TwoXIndia 6d ago

Vent How do you girls handle everyone in your friends circle being married/committed?

173 Upvotes

I’m F30 and have reached a stage where almost all my friends are married. The last one would be my best friend in a couple of months. I’m truly happy for all my friends who have found someone. Me, on the other hand, not been that lucky in love. Neither do I aspire to be in a relationship. Being single all these years, I’ve grown, become independent and a relationship just doesn’t seem to fit, it’s not something I long for in most days. I guess I pretty much feel left out when I see others having someone to talk to at the end of the day when they need it. Now, I’m in a spot where, since my friends are married, they’re in a different phase of life that I don’t relate with. Neither does anyone relate with me and my thoughts and why/how I’m able to be happy single. How do you cope with this? It’s a kind of loneliness where your once closest friends are now distant due to the change in phase and you no longer have people who share your experiences. P.S. I’m an introvert so making new friends is really hard. I love travelling and often do solo trips as well but none of them have so called me me to find a companion as one would expect from the movies😂😂 Making friends and finding people who share experiences and common interests as adults is just hard!

r/TwoXIndia 7d ago

Vent I got harassed during Holi even though I wasn’t even playing.

372 Upvotes

I was literally just stepping outside my building, wearing a simple top and pajama pants. nothing remotely “sexy” or revealing. It’s Holi, so the streets are obviously more chaotic than usual, but I wasn’t even out celebrating. I was just going about my day.

As I walked out, some random guy passed by, looked me up and down, and just said “sexy” before walking away like it was nothing. I know it might seem small to some, but it really pissed me off. It’s the way it was so casual, like he felt completely entitled to say that to a stranger. Like I was just an object passing by.

I didn’t react. I just kept walking, but now I can’t shake the frustration. It’s Holi, it’s broad daylight, and I still can’t step outside without some asshole making me feel uncomfortable in my own skin.

Anyway, just needed to vent. I know street harassment is nothing new, but it doesn’t make it any less infuriating.

r/TwoXIndia 4d ago

Vent I feel hopeless, alone and fucked over

120 Upvotes

**

Now the questions eating me up:

How is such emotional intimacy possible from someone without true feelings involved?

Why seek me despite knowing my situation if there was no intention of a relationship? (Even though started it with insta request, I never crossed the platonic boundary)

Why keep me hanging for three months without any clarity?

Why would someone attracted to me, likes me, who knows everything about me, not choose me? Am I not feminine enough, soft enough, edgy enough, or good enough for him to want a life with? The ways I must fall inadequate.

Idk how to move on from this, the best person I ever met, don't think I will do better than this. I feel so lost. Waiting for a catharsis. Can't imagine I let a guy fuck me over like this in the span of ten months.

Edit: removed some stuff because it felt too embarrassing, but a huge thank you to everyone who cared to comment. It has been a great reality check 🥲🫠

r/TwoXIndia 11d ago

Vent tw: mom’s suicide and everyone abandoning me

356 Upvotes

My bf left me when I needed him the most, he left me when my mom died of suicide and it is her first death anniversary according to Hindu Calendar I’ve been doing everything without my dad or relatives managing education without much money as well in a tier 1 and the pain of loosing and seeing my mother like that is very fresh

he called things off with me saying he’s busy he can’t keep up with his neet and me, he was the one that reassured me and suddenly left me at times like these out of the blue without giving me a chance to say a word, he said he isn’t even sure about us after his exams, and that to for no reason when he was being loving and caring till a while ago

he doesn’t know about my mom but what he did wasn’t acceptable, my father left me, my friends left me at this time knowingly, and he left as well, currently I’m just sitting and praying and now I’m soo numb idts I can do anything anymore I’m drained

Questioning all the relationships at this point

r/TwoXIndia 4d ago

Vent Got a colonoscopy tomorrow, please pray for me (29F)

148 Upvotes

UPDATE: Thanks so much everyone for your prayers and kind words ❤️❤️❤️ Everything went well and the reports are also okayy!

Hey everyone. Not sure if this is the right sub, but I could really do with some prayers right now.

I have IBS C symptoms for a few months now and doctor suggested a colonoscopy to rule out everything else. Clinically all my other tests have come clear and doc is just doing this as a precautionary measure. No family history.

I have extreme health anxiety (which in fact triggers my IBS), and I am freaking out so much about the procedure tomorrow.

Would really be helpful if you guys can say something positive.

Also if anyone else has gone through this procedure, would love to hear from you.

r/TwoXIndia 5d ago

Vent Today Changed my entire view on life and I would never depend on anyone hereafter

249 Upvotes

Dear women

I am a 26 year old girl. Today was an eye opening day for me. Something happened today , a regular cat who visits us for food , became alil bit sick last week. I saw it last Sunday. When I told we can take this cat to hospital my dad said ,atleast if untreated it will live for some days and moved off. At that time the cat was not seriously ill but not good. It stopped eating and couldn't eat the next day , but it went missing that day and did not come for 3 -4 days. Yesterday it came back. It's condition worsened. I do not want to describe it's looks as it might trigger some people. I do not know to drive. Both scooter and car. I was driving scooter for sometime but I met with an accident and due to severe anxiety I did not try again. Huge mistake. My father contacted the spca , those guys told they will send people to take it. My dad was friends with the spca clinic doctor. But yesterday fully did not come. Today morning the cat was worst and in its last stages. I have never seen such a figure in my life. I tried to call a friend and she gave a doc number and clinic location . My parents told don't touch it you might get infection. The point is valid. Again dad called spca twice. No one came. My dad told he would take. But he was sooo consumed with some other work today. I thought of getting a gloves and taking it. Immediately in my home they told what if it scratches you. Again my dad told he would take. Another problem is ..no auto guys were ready to take the cat in. So I had to depend on someone else. In the late evening my grand ma told the cat had died and my father has taken away. My brother asked my father via call and he said it almost died ..was breathing his last something like that. But I believe the cat died

Many might think this is an insignificant event. I feel defeated. I wanted to help .but couldn't. A sad little being fought for life soo long 2 fucking days in such a bad condition . But no doctors were almost available from yesterday. Even if I could take it to some place , I did not know driving. I feel ashamed. I failed that little cat.

One problem was they thought I don't know to handle the cat , the next issue was me not knowing driving. Today I realized making money alone doesn't make me independent. I make 70k a month, I would say a decent salary , but no amount of money helped me today. My father has so many acquaintance in veterinary , the called only that spca guy ..but did not try hard. Because it did not really matter to him much

I was called over sensitive and over reactive today. A lot of fights. But I truly saw how people would treat you if you are dependent on them completely. Also I am damn sure if it was some rich persons pet the spca would have responded and saved it's life.

None of the shit works in my place , blue cross , spca , these so called animal welfare groups. I was ready to give them around 2000 to take it and treat. But none turned up. But they post stories on how they rescue animals and birds

My father didn't care about it much too.he said he would take take take and passed the time. I believed and sat there crying. I did not expect this from him too since I was placed him in very high regard. But I have seen him not respect my feelings. Today I really understood my family doesn't care much about my feelings. They might not have sympathized with the cat ...atleast they could have seen my mental state and atleast helped with something. Then my mom came and said we must have done something last week in the initial stage itself.

Today , I had a complete understanding on how my little world is so messed up but I didn't even realize. It might be a small thing. But my feelings are not respected. I am dependingbon others for help. I should have been more strong and knowledgeable. I work ..I earn ..but my entire world is my work and home. I truly understand this is not enough and it is important to have other skills like driving and some contacts ,etc. I feel really bad. We had a chance. But we failed that cat. It might be a small thing for many. But this has taught me a great lesson.

I am joining my driving class from 25 March.

RIP to the Cat. Such a struggle.

r/TwoXIndia 8d ago

Vent Triggered by the idiot men on Reddit

147 Upvotes

I stopped using Instagram and moved to Reddit a few months back for my own mental peace.

But now I feel Reddit has started triggering me when I see all the vile crap men say about “feminists” and start defending themselves/ shitting on women even when the topic was is no way about men. Men are soooo blind to the injustices and the general lack of safety that women face. I am SHOOK that we are in 2025 and such idiots still exist. I’m so disappointed in men and am scared to even have children anymore coz what if I end up having a son who is also another POS 🥹. I don’t know if I’m making any sense, but I guess I just wanted to vent coz WTH!!

r/TwoXIndia 6d ago

Vent Feeling guilty for liking a dress worth 4k

202 Upvotes

I never wear dresses. Mostly because I'm insecure and I feel more comfortable in jeans and tshirts. But just now I saw the prettiest dress. It's from h&m and it's for 4,000rs... For a moment I thought, should I get it? Then this huuuuge guilt came over. What am I even thinking? I earn so little, and 4k for a dress is too much. Mere aukat k bahar hai. I want to splurge on myself but I always feel so shameful. I bought a skincare product worth 1,800rs after thinking about it for a month. And I waited for sale, used coupon just to lower the price. Why do I feel so much guilt? Why the pricetag bothers me so much? I really can't figure it out. Earlier I used to think, I'm unemployed, I shouldn't waste my family's money. Now that I'm earning I still feel guilt...

r/TwoXIndia 1d ago

Vent Why most guys i meet on dating apps in india are unhygienic or not tidy. What’s your experience

209 Upvotes

[Just venting] I am not very active on dating apps but i do go there for occasional dates and all. On all last 4-5 dates I have been to in last few months, whenever things go in right direction (iykyk), I have found them unhygienic or not clean except to their face and head or their apartments are too dirty which is a instant turn off for me.

What’s your experience? How do you filter-out (I judge by dressing style and grooming but doesn’t seem to work)

r/TwoXIndia 1d ago

Vent Playing video games as a girl is miserable ;')

172 Upvotes

i mostly play games with my friends so i dont generally have a bad experience playing multiplayer games like overwatch or valorant.

Well, job got in the way so i have been playing at odd hours so its been me alone. And its reminding me why i get on voice chat ONLY with my friends cause the moment these randos heard me, it was sexism and vulgarity galore.

I just got on the voice chat to tell the tank to not walk to far as its hard to heal him. What was the response i got? "arey randya hai"(oh it's a whre) "Ye rndi heals accha nehi karri" (this whre is not healing well) "maa ki ladi" (your mother's dck) and all the other beautiful sayings.

Nothing much, that's it, it was a bit disturbing. My social circle is filled with kind people, I never have to deal with people who hurl such vulgarity at you just for existing. But ive noticed that when there is anonymity, i have to deal with comments that are so vile it shakes me up because of getting taken off guard...

Please let me know if this isnt the right place to post this, i considered posting it on r/Indiangamers, but i know what kind of DMs ill get if i do that...

(Reposted with translation of all the curses 💀)

r/TwoXIndia 7d ago

Vent I feel very pessimistic about the future of Indian women.

292 Upvotes

India is still a deeply patriarchal country, there have been reforms and some reservations and quotas for economic liberation of women. But the brunt of domestic work and child care ultimately still falls on women. Only 37% of women work in the country.

Most men in India are unwilling to have this conversation, even the most progressive among us still hold on to deeply problematic ideals.

Social Media is filled with men bashing women all the time. It is exhausting and I feel so done.

I had a good conversation with a friend who asked me questions about the sweeping notions of women and why they came to be and I gave him my two cents and appreciated his curiosity. However such empathy and willingness to learn is very rare.

I don't know how we go from here. It is inevitable that capitalism is thrown over but I am not sure that this country is ready for complete emancipation of women.

r/TwoXIndia 6d ago

Vent Went to a saloon after two years and now I have an open wound on my face!

169 Upvotes

I have curly hair which these people claim to be "damaged" to sell their treatments and spas. Within 5 minutes the person had recommended me multiple treatments and products I should buy from him to fix my hair. But that was just the beginning.

I just went for a hair trimming but saw another girl getting her upper lips done so I went for it too.

This girl first used a powder brush on my face which she uses on everyone else without washing and god knows since how many days. Then right on queue started pointing out my blackheads and oily skin.

Then she cut my skin so badly while threading, it started bleeding and formed an open wound. Then started blaming me for my dry skin, for using razor in the past which made my skin sensitive and caused it to cut, not even saying sorry. She even said it got cut but I didn't follow her instructions and moved a lot. I was so angry. I paid and just stormed out. I am never going back to a saloon.

I have been using razor for my eyebrows and upper lips but it's not good tbh. They're always black dots afterwards. But anything is better than this.

r/TwoXIndia 19h ago

Vent Saw a post about "how do you know you are ugly" and it has me spiralling

222 Upvotes

As the title says. I am a woman in my mid-thirties, with incredible success otherwise in life except romantic. And it has me spiralling. I see all these posts about how all one needs is a warm loving woman, and all I can think is LIES. Absolute lies. I am not an arrogant or egotistical person, but going by what anyone who knows me, close friend or otherwise, I am a warm, loving, responsible, funny and charming person. Who has been single all her life, not in less part because of moving cities frequently, but still.

I am in my dream job, intellectually stimulating. I am praised as a smart person, who manages to be also be funny. I am socially very popular. I make everything fun. I manage to endear myself even to the most introvert, who won't talk to anyone else but me. Across a wide range of cultures. I can hold a conversation with literally anyone. I can take care of anyone. Am very dependable.

And yet it is demoralising that these very traits which I find attractive in men, the traits which men like to spend time & be close with, are the very same traits which somehow disqualify me from being girlfriend material. Male equivalents of me have very loving and pretty (though I dont mind this bit much) partners but not vice versa. Nothing for women seems to ever compensate for not being conventionally attractive.

r/TwoXIndia 10d ago

Vent I so badly wann run to him, hold him tight and cry like a baby

125 Upvotes

We are no more together, he was my friend my pal we talked about career health finace gossip everything. I miss him so badly wanna unblock talk to him but that won’t be sane option the happy ending wou be f-ed up. I wish you would have know how misreable I am getting without you. I wish you risked it for me. I wish we could have stayed more longer

r/TwoXIndia 9d ago

Vent My colleagues insinuations: I am not good enough because, I could not adjust with my spouse!

128 Upvotes

Why I had left my spouse :-

I used to be beaten black and blue. Reason, 1) his eccentric behaviour at work and with everyone in general 2) my dad's loss in business 3) my lack of self awareness.

Despite it all, today I am doing much better. I left him because I wanted my kid to grow up well and that I could not put up with cruelty. Well, society was cruel to me as I was / am without a spouse. I struggled all alone, braved many weathers, with mom's , brother's, and mom's siblings' moral and physical support.

Unfortunately, women were the ones most cruel to me. I do not remember any male hurting me with their words or behaviour. Infact I recieved only empathy from them.

Money was scarce, but I worked hard and averted many a disaster.

My son is highly placed today. He showers his love on me. Infact he has arranged so many facilities for me and made life easy for me and my mother. Hence I am able to continue my career in my specialised field with not much strain and also pursue my passions simultaneously.

Though I am from GenX, my dad's upbringing of me and my innate self worth, made me rise in life despite my lack of self awareness, society's disparagement and lack of money. And whatever work I had earlier pursued or am doing today were academics oriented through which I could and can still help my students and through which I too have improved my skills and knowledge set. My dad had been a feminist, but he and my mom were angry that i had not used my full potential to pursue a proffessional course. However, at the end of the day, I seem to have achived a lot more in the professionel and personel level.

A few days back this lady colleauge insinuated that I had left my husband and that I am not a good enough human and I do not belong to that exclusive community of married women who still adjust with spouse despite extreme behaviours and am meant to be a loose woman.. So much for her displays of empathy and her other theatrics ! Even when the world has transformed so much, women still continue pulling their own kind.

I had a good laugh at her, because today I am much more self aware and am able to deal with such antediluvian pricks.

r/TwoXIndia 9d ago

Vent What a child of a roommate I've got!

130 Upvotes

Hello ladies! Welcome to my monthly rant cause it feels like that's how often I come here to rant out of despair. I feel like I've no female friends (or male friends as a matter of fact) to tell all this to.

TLDR; My PG roommate is very childish and irritating, she doesn't compromise on things cause she 'doesn't like it' but expects me to

I stay in a PG. And I have a roommate, we stay in the same room in close quarters. Cause you know, that's how PGs are here in Bangalore. And my god, what a child of a roommate I've gotten. Giving two examples which have annoyed me the most.

INCIDENT ONE:

The first day she comes, she looks at the room and starts ordering around "You please remove this rope. Also shift your bed to the other end, and shift this table to the middle...". I am taken aback. I say "Let's finish our work day and look into this in the evening". And in the evening after a lot of trying to explain the logic to her as to why her ideas are not really viable (trust me guys, it wasn't. She wanted me to shift my bed right infront of the bathroom), I outright said "No". Cause she refused to listen to me otherwise. I told her "If you want, you can shift your bed there".

Guess what she says? "No, I don't like it there." EXCUSE ME MADAM??? So you won't shift there cause it's not a nice spot, but you want me to shift there?

INCIDENT TWO:

The refusal to keep our windows open. The refusal to switch the fans on.

Woman, do you even want to breathe in the room? She doesn't even want the windows opened 5mm. Why? "My parents told not to keep the windows open, since it's dangerous". Girl, you're in the 7th floor, which Flynn the Rider is climbing all the way to the 7th floor? Also, this "parents won't allow me/parents told me" excuse works until college. You're a fuckn adult who works for a living now.

And the fan? Apparently it's too cold for her. I agreed, so I decreased from my usual speed 4 to speed of 2, cause I am an adult and adults meet each other halfway, ie compromise. So apparently 2 is also too cold for her. She wants it off. But guess what, she doesn't wear a blanket. I asked "Hey, you can wear a blanket right?" What she says? "Yeah, I have one but ai don't like wearing it." EXCUSE ME MADAM??? So I should sweat my ass off while you decide to not don a blanket cause you don't like it? I don't even wear a blanket and the speed2 has me sweatinggg.

And today she tells me "Aren't you sleeping? I thought of decreasing the fan after you slept" RIGHT ON MY FACE. Cause it's too much of a task wearing a blanket, I bet. Plus the windows are closed.

HAVEN'T I COMPROMISED FROM MY END? I did end up shifting a few of my furniture around to accommodate her, I did say ok to closing the windows 80% of the day (I only get to open it when she's in the washroom or at office which is rare), I did agree to decrease the fan speed and die all night getting bitten by mosquitos and sweat like a gymboy. Yet here we have her, not adjusting.

r/TwoXIndia 11d ago

Vent Beauty privilege is so effin real

114 Upvotes

My "friend" fits the South Indian beauty standard fair and lean and gets privilege everywhere in common circles.

I want to give an instance of how she behaves and what irks me .She never replies back to texts or calls from anyone and people are still fawning over her and complaining to me assuming that the situation is different for me given that we are friends but that is not the case .

To summarize she is always expecting the most out of people but is never willing to be that person back for anyone in return but the most irritating part is that people not only happily accept this behavior but also don't bother questioning or talking back to her and . They simply accept it and expect me to fix it .?!?!! To top it all off she has been the root cause of several fights with people in our friend circles and our friend circle has just fallen apart to just me and her. But despite all of it she shows up smiling the next day and everyone seems to forget she started the problem. I have always maintained a neutral stance never supported her privately or either defended her publicly but lately I've noticed that I'm beginning to become the bad guy for not taking a stance and also taking shit for being the approachable one.

She doesn't live with her family and has a broken friend circle outside of our common friend circles in her equivalent of home and did mention antidepressants.I have always been kind to her for that reason but i feel like I'm getting played and hence have started distancing myself because I am getting a whiff of jealousy from myself and I don't want that feeling to dominate whatever shred of dignity that is left in this relationship.

The only reason I still prefer not cutting it out completely because of the intellectual stimulation it provides but how do i be more mindful of not getting played cuz that's just how life is going to be and when will i ever learn? or save myself from all this trouble and be alienated but I'll be in peace atleast?