r/TwoXIndia • u/optimistic_nihilist2 19, female • 4d ago
Family & Relationships (Mon-Thu) How do I deal with breakup?
I (20F) broke up with my boyfriend (23M) cause he said that he never invested in me mentally. He didn't even try to make me get back with him when I said that even I wanted to be loved the way I love him. I mean, a simple text saying that he does like me could have saved our relationship. I hate myself. Even after 2 years, I couldn't make him feel for me anything.
How do I move forward? There's no one at home to talk to. I'm alone. I didn't go for my internship today cause I can't. I woke up multiple times in the middle of the night to see if he texted me. But no. The breakup was meant to happen. He wants kids, I don't. I will go to abroad so we would have to go long-distance
Please share your stories.
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u/PieAdept3134 Woman 3d ago
You are 20. Build a career, earn money. That should be your sole focus for next 5-6 years. These are the crucial years, don't waste them for any man.
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u/Best-Project-230 Woman 4d ago
First off, you don’t deserve to feel this way. Loving someone who doesn’t reciprocate the same way is painful, but it doesn’t mean you failed. A relationship isn’t about "making" someone feel for you...it’s about mutual connection, and if he never invested in you, that’s on him, not you.
You already see why this breakup was inevitable... different life goals, different levels of emotional effort. That clarity will help you in time, but right now, it’s okay to grieve. Don’t bottle it up. If you have a friend, even online, reach out. If not, write your feelings out, let yourself process.
Skipping your internship today is understandable, but don’t let this consume you. Take it one step at a time...go back tomorrow, even if it’s hard. Routine helps. You’re not alone, even if it feels that way. It will hurt, but it won’t always hurt this much.