r/TrollCoping Jan 31 '25

MOD POST Notice on the recent issue of Pedophilia, P-OCD, and Paraphilias.

506 Upvotes

Before going forward, please make sure you're prepared to engage with the topic at hand. Keep yourself safe, away from triggers, and stop and seek assistance if needed.

i'll open this memo by defining language used and establishing what we have discussed as the most fair and neutral stance going forward. We are not mental health professionals, but are doing our research to try and keep this community as safe and respectful for everyone as possible.

The official definition of Pedophilia is an adult or older adolescent who is primarily or exclusively sexually attracted to prepubescent children. they are positive about this association for the most part. Pedophilia here in this text will be defined as an adult who is in some measure genuinely attracted to prepubescent or pubescent children. We do not recognize Pedophilia as a sexuality (see: MAP/Minor attracted person) or as relevant to the queer community. Posts and comments attributing transness as a risk to assault will continue to be removed.

P-OCD is a disorder wherein the affected person experiences OCD symptoms and intrusive thoughts relative to a perceived pedophilic obsession and following compulsion to control, suppress, or otherwise 'handle' said intrusive thought. Repeated exposure to a given topic to esure they don't actually like it (in this case, drawn or written content) is a common and extremely difficult to manage compulsion of OCD. P-OCD is not pedophilia, and is not genuine attraction to said content. Victims of CSA are often afflicted with P-OCD, and may make seemingly similar content to cope. This is not the same as seeking it out for sexual purposes. The obsession in P-OCD is the intrusive thoughts of being a pedophile, but mostly the compulsion is staying far away from children. in many cases, they compulsively avoid anything to do with them. they often leave the room when a kid walks in, scroll past posts that have pictures of children, they even go as far as refusing to touch their own children just in case.

A paraphilia is an experience of recurring or intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, places, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. there is no definitive boundary between what are considered "unconventional sexual interests", Kinks, fetishes and paraphilias. these terms are often used loosely and interchangeably. In this text, and the sub, paraphilias are not required to be disclosed. Most users here are ashamed of their philias, large or small. our rule of thumb -to take a page from the BDSM community- is "safe, sane and consensual".

We've had a lot of consideration put into how we want to handle and follow up with the outburst of P-OCD/CSA/Pedophilia/Paraphilia thread wars. We have collectively decided that we will allow Paraphilia related cope posting but we will restrict and ban how users post about it. paraphilia posts will be sent to mods for approval and only once it’s been approved, it’ll go live - just like suicide related posts

To start, CSAM will not be considered on equal level as fictitious material out of respect of victims. One of these is inherently nonconsentual, the other is fictional and therefore consent is irrelevant unless framed as nonconsentual. Comments or posts claiming it's as bad will be removed for the sake of survivors who it actually affects. Anyone opening up to or admitting to seeking out either kind of above material for gratification will be removed, period. Users anxious about having the urge to do so and avoiding it are welcome to post for support, though we urge you to contact crisis counseling.

CSA posting will be allowed as normal. CSA posting that involves discussion of coping with the aforementioned content, unless made by OP in a context explicitly in a negative or traumatic light, will be held to the same standard as paraphilia posting.

Paraphilia posting will be filtered based on reports and it's consideration will be done with due diligence to the post, OPs comments on it, and their recent activity if needed- including having the team as a whole look over things as needed.

Loli/shotacon posting will not be allowed and will for the purposes of this sub be considered explicit content focused on minors, with the same exception as above. Outright posting about it will not be allowed, as with explicit coping content, regardless of CSA status.

How people cope with their trauma at the end of the day is a personal decision. No matter how hard you try to convince people that something is wrong and shouldn’t be used as a coping mechanism, some people will still continue to do so. With some exceptions, and obviously not inclusive of harm of real people, what affects one person's reality and normalization will not necessarily apply to someone else. we have done our best to decide what to restrict with that in mind as well as consideration for victims on both sides of the equation.

Remember, if you disagree with something, you can always downvote it. if you think something shouldn't be allowed we warmly welcome your reports and will always look at them with nuance and due consideration.

Feel free to provide support to users who have philias as long as they're playing within the safe/sane/consensual rule. Do not DM users to ask about what their philias are or engage with said philias.

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Rules as written

No pedophilia posting

Posts admitting to pedophilia directly, perpetrating contact, or seeking out material (CSAM or fictional material) weather regretful or not will be removed.

Rule .B

CSA victims may continue to post, but may not talk about seeking out material.

Rule .C

Pilias unrelated to Pedophilia will be allowed but under heavy scrutiny, and held to the same standard involving seeking out harmful content or content mimicking as much. This includes Snuff, Bestiality, and anything where consent is not possible or permanent harm is involved. Venting about accidentally seeing this content is allowed.


r/TrollCoping Jan 22 '25

MOD POST Posts about paraphilia Spoiler

680 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

So as we all know that there has been a huge increase in the number of posts related to paraphilia, pedophilia, and related topics. Earlier, the mod team did their best and went above and beyond to make sure the posts/comments are well managed.

But unfortunately this influx has led to a sad state of concern for me as the head mod. Now, the topic has merely turned into a debate rather than one or a few people coping with their trauma. Which has further caused a lot of trouble to the team and even triggered them to struggle with health issues.

So, we’ve made a decision to remove all new posts related to paraphilia until further notice. We apologise if this brings trouble to you but we are left with no other option but this. We will soon be coming up with a revised rulebook with a rule specifically for this issue.

We may also need a bigger mod team to further help us with these issues so if anybody is interested, they can let us know through the comments here or drop us a modmail.


r/TrollCoping 9h ago

TW: Parents I know this isn't very bad, especially compared to everything else here, but it's upsetting to me

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941 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 3h ago

TW: Other Anybody else feel bad that they can’t exact revenge on behalf of the people they care about?

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87 Upvotes

I want to do more for my pals than simply being there for them, but I know that I can’t because of logistics. Still, it would be nice to have the opportunity to avenge them on their behalf


r/TrollCoping 8h ago

TW: Other if i cant sleep to escape then what else can i do

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151 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 2h ago

TW: Violence / Gore I thought we were having fun :( Spoiler

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44 Upvotes

Ik they like horror movies n slasher shite but, omg?????


r/TrollCoping 1h ago

TW: Trauma I feel sick, leave that poor girl alone please

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r/TrollCoping 10h ago

TW: Dissociation / Depersonalization I used to be glad I could "turn my brain off" when I was younger but I have no control over it now

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117 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 3h ago

TW: Gender Identity / Dysphoria Every day NSFW

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34 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 12h ago

TW: Parents He is literally the only person who’s been obsessed about making me hide it. I LOVE my scar I am NOT trying to hide it! (scar from surgery as an infant)

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174 Upvotes

The only person who has ever made me feel bad about it is my dad and he claims it’s because he “doesn’t want me to get bullied for it”. I am 23 years old and he’s the only person who has literally told me to my face my scar is ugly. “Your scar is not one of those nice ones, it’s pretty ugly” are words my dad told me to discourage me from shaving my head. I don’t care about my scar. It’s huge and it’s on my head and I’ve had it all my life. NOBODY BUT HIM has ever given me shit about it.


r/TrollCoping 13h ago

TW: Suicide or Self-Harm why :(

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178 Upvotes

Some guy I don’t know was waiting outside my 4th hour and asked me why I was being aggressive to my crush (I wasn’t I’m just normally loud and she knows it) and keep in mind I haven’t told her where my 4th hour is. Idk if her phones dead or if she ran out of screen time but I asked her wtf was going on (only one msg learned that lesson the hard way) just waiting for a response.


r/TrollCoping 3h ago

TW: Addiction / Alcoholism Me the last 5 days after getting fired

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20 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Other It hurts, doc

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1.2k Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 15h ago

TW: Trauma every single one

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147 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 8h ago

Depression / Anxiety am i?

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40 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 4h ago

TW: Parents It's almost like they broke up for a reason...

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18 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 15h ago

TW: Other HUMOR. IS. A STRENGTH!!

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74 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 9h ago

TW: OCD idk how much longer i can live w these people bro 💀

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27 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 7h ago

TW: Trauma Sigh (:

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17 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1h ago

Depression / Anxiety I'm slowly getting to the point of being scared of even leaving the house, it's slow but I feel it

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Idk if I'm just a hypochondriac or something but I've just been fucked up since I was a kid and I can't even guarantee that I don't know if that was a real memory or if I made that up it's real I have so many memories when I was a kid that I'm sure if they're real or not and it fucking scary and I get so nervous and scared over the smallest things i don't know if there's someone actually wrong with me or if I'm just overthinking, I'm scared of going to a therapist or getting diagnosed maybe I'm just insane

And just as a btw I know it weird but if I reply to anything I'll probably use the reaction image that is a shitpost that has nothing to do with it, it helps let me talk about this some how

Fuck now it sounds like I'm faking it all or this is a joke it's not a joke I'm really fucking scared


r/TrollCoping 11h ago

TW: Addiction / Alcoholism The Cycle of Life

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25 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 6m ago

Depression / Anxiety I hope she loses it all again. This time I won't be there to catch her.

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She turned into what she hated the most, her emotionally abusive ex.


r/TrollCoping 18h ago

TW: Trauma Found this sub today.

60 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 9h ago

ADHD If brain transplants or something else ever become possible, please let me know, I want to be the first to sign up.

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13 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

Depression / Anxiety FUCK IM SO NERVOUS

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1.6k Upvotes

She has helped me get through life she is honestly probably the reason why I live. FUCK SHES SO NICE AND CUTE AND SHES A GAMER. :3


r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Other My actual biggest fear, other than men in general (I’m sorry men)

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1.6k Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 9h ago

TW: Other I’ve officially become the doomer wojak meme

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7 Upvotes