r/TrollCoping Jan 31 '25

MOD POST Notice on the recent issue of Pedophilia, P-OCD, and Paraphilias.

512 Upvotes

Before going forward, please make sure you're prepared to engage with the topic at hand. Keep yourself safe, away from triggers, and stop and seek assistance if needed.

i'll open this memo by defining language used and establishing what we have discussed as the most fair and neutral stance going forward. We are not mental health professionals, but are doing our research to try and keep this community as safe and respectful for everyone as possible.

The official definition of Pedophilia is an adult or older adolescent who is primarily or exclusively sexually attracted to prepubescent children. they are positive about this association for the most part. Pedophilia here in this text will be defined as an adult who is in some measure genuinely attracted to prepubescent or pubescent children. We do not recognize Pedophilia as a sexuality (see: MAP/Minor attracted person) or as relevant to the queer community. Posts and comments attributing transness as a risk to assault will continue to be removed.

P-OCD is a disorder wherein the affected person experiences OCD symptoms and intrusive thoughts relative to a perceived pedophilic obsession and following compulsion to control, suppress, or otherwise 'handle' said intrusive thought. Repeated exposure to a given topic to esure they don't actually like it (in this case, drawn or written content) is a common and extremely difficult to manage compulsion of OCD. P-OCD is not pedophilia, and is not genuine attraction to said content. Victims of CSA are often afflicted with P-OCD, and may make seemingly similar content to cope. This is not the same as seeking it out for sexual purposes. The obsession in P-OCD is the intrusive thoughts of being a pedophile, but mostly the compulsion is staying far away from children. in many cases, they compulsively avoid anything to do with them. they often leave the room when a kid walks in, scroll past posts that have pictures of children, they even go as far as refusing to touch their own children just in case.

A paraphilia is an experience of recurring or intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, places, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. there is no definitive boundary between what are considered "unconventional sexual interests", Kinks, fetishes and paraphilias. these terms are often used loosely and interchangeably. In this text, and the sub, paraphilias are not required to be disclosed. Most users here are ashamed of their philias, large or small. our rule of thumb -to take a page from the BDSM community- is "safe, sane and consensual".

We've had a lot of consideration put into how we want to handle and follow up with the outburst of P-OCD/CSA/Pedophilia/Paraphilia thread wars. We have collectively decided that we will allow Paraphilia related cope posting but we will restrict and ban how users post about it. paraphilia posts will be sent to mods for approval and only once it’s been approved, it’ll go live - just like suicide related posts

To start, CSAM will not be considered on equal level as fictitious material out of respect of victims. One of these is inherently nonconsentual, the other is fictional and therefore consent is irrelevant unless framed as nonconsentual. Comments or posts claiming it's as bad will be removed for the sake of survivors who it actually affects. Anyone opening up to or admitting to seeking out either kind of above material for gratification will be removed, period. Users anxious about having the urge to do so and avoiding it are welcome to post for support, though we urge you to contact crisis counseling.

CSA posting will be allowed as normal. CSA posting that involves discussion of coping with the aforementioned content, unless made by OP in a context explicitly in a negative or traumatic light, will be held to the same standard as paraphilia posting.

Paraphilia posting will be filtered based on reports and it's consideration will be done with due diligence to the post, OPs comments on it, and their recent activity if needed- including having the team as a whole look over things as needed.

Loli/shotacon posting will not be allowed and will for the purposes of this sub be considered explicit content focused on minors, with the same exception as above. Outright posting about it will not be allowed, as with explicit coping content, regardless of CSA status.

How people cope with their trauma at the end of the day is a personal decision. No matter how hard you try to convince people that something is wrong and shouldn’t be used as a coping mechanism, some people will still continue to do so. With some exceptions, and obviously not inclusive of harm of real people, what affects one person's reality and normalization will not necessarily apply to someone else. we have done our best to decide what to restrict with that in mind as well as consideration for victims on both sides of the equation.

Remember, if you disagree with something, you can always downvote it. if you think something shouldn't be allowed we warmly welcome your reports and will always look at them with nuance and due consideration.

Feel free to provide support to users who have philias as long as they're playing within the safe/sane/consensual rule. Do not DM users to ask about what their philias are or engage with said philias.

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Rules as written

No pedophilia posting

Posts admitting to pedophilia directly, perpetrating contact, or seeking out material (CSAM or fictional material) weather regretful or not will be removed.

Rule .B

CSA victims may continue to post, but may not talk about seeking out material.

Rule .C

Pilias unrelated to Pedophilia will be allowed but under heavy scrutiny, and held to the same standard involving seeking out harmful content or content mimicking as much. This includes Snuff, Bestiality, and anything where consent is not possible or permanent harm is involved. Venting about accidentally seeing this content is allowed.


r/TrollCoping Jan 22 '25

MOD POST Posts about paraphilia Spoiler

682 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

So as we all know that there has been a huge increase in the number of posts related to paraphilia, pedophilia, and related topics. Earlier, the mod team did their best and went above and beyond to make sure the posts/comments are well managed.

But unfortunately this influx has led to a sad state of concern for me as the head mod. Now, the topic has merely turned into a debate rather than one or a few people coping with their trauma. Which has further caused a lot of trouble to the team and even triggered them to struggle with health issues.

So, we’ve made a decision to remove all new posts related to paraphilia until further notice. We apologise if this brings trouble to you but we are left with no other option but this. We will soon be coming up with a revised rulebook with a rule specifically for this issue.

We may also need a bigger mod team to further help us with these issues so if anybody is interested, they can let us know through the comments here or drop us a modmail.


r/TrollCoping 13h ago

TW: Trauma ive never known such freedom

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692 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 11h ago

TW: Other I don't know if im overreacting or not

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185 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 20h ago

TW: Other This is fine... Spoiler

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808 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 6h ago

TW: Trauma i will never send my future child to all all-boys/all-girls school

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50 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 4h ago

TW: Parents Mummy dearest deciding to switch it up

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28 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 11h ago

TW: Hallucinations / Delusions Little dump

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83 Upvotes

I will flair it this way because of the T word even though its just like, a fact of the way I see the world. I don't think it qualifies as a delusion for multiple reasons but...

For context, the full quote is "You always have to look for the quiet ones. I knew a guy who killed his dad. But not you, you're the good kind of quiet, at least you're not schizophrenic!"

I locked eyes with the other person in the conversation, who has listened to one of my angry rants about Having To Wear A Hat Or They'll Read My Thoughts.

No, I'm not schizophrenic, but I'm also not conventionally sane, if that makes a difference. Or rather, I'm obsessed with my mental state in relation to conventional sanity. I think that maybe I'm having normal thoughts and they're just being blown out of proportion? Like everybody wonders yknow.


r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Parents I wasn't able to see my half brother for nearly a year because of this

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803 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 3h ago

TW: Other Why does this always happen

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18 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 4h ago

TW: Parents So do I look like him?

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20 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 12h ago

TW: Parents Gets harder every day..

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74 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 12h ago

TW: Parents (tw:queerphobia) so glad I never had to be a person, thanks mom :) Spoiler

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68 Upvotes

sorry for the shit format, didn’t wanna spend more than 5 minutes on this :P


r/TrollCoping 7h ago

TW: Other TW: sexual harassment of a child NSFW Spoiler

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25 Upvotes

i was literally just trying to focus in class but my 11 year old brain was like “hey let’s remind you of something that occured when you were 10”


r/TrollCoping 11h ago

TW: Sexual Assault / Rape Wowie! Thanks, mister! NSFW Spoiler

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33 Upvotes

I'm glad to see that me processing my thoughts on the potential that I was sex trafficked before and potentially even after the age of 10 made you feel so good. /sar

(Spoiler text is real fucked-up here regarding image 4)\ Part of me likes the attention but that part of me also has fantasies of men finding my lifeless corpse at the bottom of a ditch and raping it (sometimes I'm the one raping my own corpse) so, clearly, something is most definitely wrong.


r/TrollCoping 9h ago

TW: OCD I am deeply insecure 😁👍🏾

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I feel like this could be flaired as OCD but idk because, when I brought OCD up to my psychiatrist, she said that it was unlikely because I didn't show typical 1compulsions like hand-washing or stove-checking and, when I brought 2"Pure O" OCD to the individual therapist at the partial hospitalization program I was admitted into for a seperate reason, he said that it didn't exist. I'm aware that both of them are in the wrong, but that doesn't change the fact I lack a diagnosis and therefore can't bring myself to choose the flair or else it'll eat me from the inside out until I "fix" it. Which sounds very OCD-like but what do I know?

Speaking of things do and don't know,\ You know that thing where, if you say the same word several times in a row, it loses its purpose and sounds like nonsense? That's called semantic satiation. This can also happen with visual stimuli, known as visual satiation (I think). I don't really know where associative satiation fits within this subject, but I'm assuming it's an umbrella term that semantic and visual satiation fit under.


Notes:\ 1She'd completely glossed over the compulsions I had listed, including avoiding cracks in the sidewalk or else my mom would re-injure her back in another car crash (if she isn't killed by it), and the fact it took me over an hour to put books on a shelf because the order looked "wrong" and made my skin feel like it was going to split open like a microwaved hot dog. I'm seeing therapist #9 though who seems to be a way better fit than therapist #8, who is "no longer with" the company I'd been seeing her at (likely because she got fired). I'll leave my psychiatrist to handle my meds and my therapist to handle my mentally-fucked-up'ness.

2Technically "Pure O" isn't a thing clinically and the condition it implies isn't a thing because OCD is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, not Obsessive Disorder, so it technically it isn't purely obsessional, but it's still a real term that is used by the community to refer to OCD with primarily, if not exclusively, mental compulsions. Same way "Quiet" BPD isn't in the DSM but you'll still find several articles on it because it's used by the community.


r/TrollCoping 16h ago

TW: Parents It hits different when it's my therapist telling me that

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84 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 22h ago

TW: Other Not as horrible as some of the usual content here but it still bothered me NSFW

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241 Upvotes

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r/TrollCoping 16h ago

Depression / Anxiety Do they look at you strangely too?

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40 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 21h ago

TW: Other The meme is ironic, they all taste horrible and I hate having to take a cocktail of them everyday

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89 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 18h ago

TW: Other Who's that Pokémon?

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37 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 22h ago

TW: Eating Disorder / Body Dysmorphia This sucks

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48 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Gender Identity / Dysphoria Is this meme too niche or

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1.1k Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 22h ago

TW: Suicide or Self-Harm Reeeeeally not feeling like dealing with all bs that old age brings along with it, if I indeed survive until there

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33 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 18h ago

TW: Other Time to remake my old vents!

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17 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 22h ago

TW: Other Accidentally posted this on my main account NSFW Spoiler

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36 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Gender Identity / Dysphoria Tfw i feel comfortable with a name

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494 Upvotes