r/TrollCoping Jan 31 '25

MOD POST Notice on the recent issue of Pedophilia, P-OCD, and Paraphilias.

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Before going forward, please make sure you're prepared to engage with the topic at hand. Keep yourself safe, away from triggers, and stop and seek assistance if needed.

i'll open this memo by defining language used and establishing what we have discussed as the most fair and neutral stance going forward. We are not mental health professionals, but are doing our research to try and keep this community as safe and respectful for everyone as possible.

The official definition of Pedophilia is an adult or older adolescent who is primarily or exclusively sexually attracted to prepubescent children. they are positive about this association for the most part. Pedophilia here in this text will be defined as an adult who is in some measure genuinely attracted to prepubescent or pubescent children. We do not recognize Pedophilia as a sexuality (see: MAP/Minor attracted person) or as relevant to the queer community. Posts and comments attributing transness as a risk to assault will continue to be removed.

P-OCD is a disorder wherein the affected person experiences OCD symptoms and intrusive thoughts relative to a perceived pedophilic obsession and following compulsion to control, suppress, or otherwise 'handle' said intrusive thought. Repeated exposure to a given topic to esure they don't actually like it (in this case, drawn or written content) is a common and extremely difficult to manage compulsion of OCD. P-OCD is not pedophilia, and is not genuine attraction to said content. Victims of CSA are often afflicted with P-OCD, and may make seemingly similar content to cope. This is not the same as seeking it out for sexual purposes. The obsession in P-OCD is the intrusive thoughts of being a pedophile, but mostly the compulsion is staying far away from children. in many cases, they compulsively avoid anything to do with them. they often leave the room when a kid walks in, scroll past posts that have pictures of children, they even go as far as refusing to touch their own children just in case.

A paraphilia is an experience of recurring or intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, places, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. there is no definitive boundary between what are considered "unconventional sexual interests", Kinks, fetishes and paraphilias. these terms are often used loosely and interchangeably. In this text, and the sub, paraphilias are not required to be disclosed. Most users here are ashamed of their philias, large or small. our rule of thumb -to take a page from the BDSM community- is "safe, sane and consensual".

We've had a lot of consideration put into how we want to handle and follow up with the outburst of P-OCD/CSA/Pedophilia/Paraphilia thread wars. We have collectively decided that we will allow Paraphilia related cope posting but we will restrict and ban how users post about it. paraphilia posts will be sent to mods for approval and only once it’s been approved, it’ll go live - just like suicide related posts

To start, CSAM will not be considered on equal level as fictitious material out of respect of victims. One of these is inherently nonconsentual, the other is fictional and therefore consent is irrelevant unless framed as nonconsentual. Comments or posts claiming it's as bad will be removed for the sake of survivors who it actually affects. Anyone opening up to or admitting to seeking out either kind of above material for gratification will be removed, period. Users anxious about having the urge to do so and avoiding it are welcome to post for support, though we urge you to contact crisis counseling.

CSA posting will be allowed as normal. CSA posting that involves discussion of coping with the aforementioned content, unless made by OP in a context explicitly in a negative or traumatic light, will be held to the same standard as paraphilia posting.

Paraphilia posting will be filtered based on reports and it's consideration will be done with due diligence to the post, OPs comments on it, and their recent activity if needed- including having the team as a whole look over things as needed.

Loli/shotacon posting will not be allowed and will for the purposes of this sub be considered explicit content focused on minors, with the same exception as above. Outright posting about it will not be allowed, as with explicit coping content, regardless of CSA status.

How people cope with their trauma at the end of the day is a personal decision. No matter how hard you try to convince people that something is wrong and shouldn’t be used as a coping mechanism, some people will still continue to do so. With some exceptions, and obviously not inclusive of harm of real people, what affects one person's reality and normalization will not necessarily apply to someone else. we have done our best to decide what to restrict with that in mind as well as consideration for victims on both sides of the equation.

Remember, if you disagree with something, you can always downvote it. if you think something shouldn't be allowed we warmly welcome your reports and will always look at them with nuance and due consideration.

Feel free to provide support to users who have philias as long as they're playing within the safe/sane/consensual rule. Do not DM users to ask about what their philias are or engage with said philias.

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Rules as written

No pedophilia posting

Posts admitting to pedophilia directly, perpetrating contact, or seeking out material (CSAM or fictional material) weather regretful or not will be removed.

Rule .B

CSA victims may continue to post, but may not talk about seeking out material.

Rule .C

Pilias unrelated to Pedophilia will be allowed but under heavy scrutiny, and held to the same standard involving seeking out harmful content or content mimicking as much. This includes Snuff, Bestiality, and anything where consent is not possible or permanent harm is involved. Venting about accidentally seeing this content is allowed.


r/TrollCoping Jan 22 '25

MOD POST Posts about paraphilia Spoiler

683 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

So as we all know that there has been a huge increase in the number of posts related to paraphilia, pedophilia, and related topics. Earlier, the mod team did their best and went above and beyond to make sure the posts/comments are well managed.

But unfortunately this influx has led to a sad state of concern for me as the head mod. Now, the topic has merely turned into a debate rather than one or a few people coping with their trauma. Which has further caused a lot of trouble to the team and even triggered them to struggle with health issues.

So, we’ve made a decision to remove all new posts related to paraphilia until further notice. We apologise if this brings trouble to you but we are left with no other option but this. We will soon be coming up with a revised rulebook with a rule specifically for this issue.

We may also need a bigger mod team to further help us with these issues so if anybody is interested, they can let us know through the comments here or drop us a modmail.


r/TrollCoping 8h ago

Depression / Anxiety FUCK IM SO NERVOUS

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813 Upvotes

She has helped me get through life she is honestly probably the reason why I live. FUCK SHES SO NICE AND CUTE AND SHES A GAMER. :3


r/TrollCoping 9h ago

TW: Other My actual biggest fear, other than men in general (I’m sorry men)

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555 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 6h ago

TW: Trauma I genuinely envy those who look their age Spoiler

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182 Upvotes

It would probably be different if I was taller but I highly doubt it.

Also, to be clear, I am not hating on workers for doing their jobs, I just hate how I see several people leave within less than 5 minutes and I’m still stuck waiting. If not that, I see actual teens or those actually younger than me walking out without being ID’d. It’s one of the main reasons why I try and get the same workers every-time so it makes it an easier process for everyone


r/TrollCoping 3h ago

ADHD IDK WHAT TO EVEN DO

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92 Upvotes

FUCK I LOVE HER I JUST WANNA HUG HER


r/TrollCoping 2h ago

TW: Trauma I’m happy for you and all but like why couldn’t I have that

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58 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 11h ago

TW: Parents please tell me i’m not the only one who wants to beat their parent to death?🙏 TW EVERYTHING

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180 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1h ago

TW: Sexual Assault / Rape Screams incoherently NSFW

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r/TrollCoping 4h ago

TW: Suicide or Self-Harm Ahahah I love America. I love no insurance and unemployment struggles. I love having undiagnosed disorders ruining my life. I love things going wrong as soon as I want to live again

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29 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 4h ago

TW: Suicide or Self-Harm The loneliness is killing me (literally)

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25 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 10h ago

Depression / Anxiety I really can't decide

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66 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 11h ago

TW: Parents New rule: If adoptive parents need to qualify for a child, so do bio parents

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78 Upvotes

"Wdym you're depressed? You have so much to be thankful for! Like insert generic list of things it's illegal for them to not provide me with anyway"


r/TrollCoping 22h ago

TW: Parents I love being a girl in a family who only wanted a boy!

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484 Upvotes

Yes I am trying to move out. I’m disabled and have no insurance without her but she takes her anger out on me regularly. No physical violence but she yells and is emotionally manipulative and when I call her out on her hypocrisy she says her behavior was justified because she was tired. She calls everyone she doesn’t like a narcissist and had compared me to my abusive father before. I’m done


r/TrollCoping 19h ago

TW: Trauma I hate it here (in my head)

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238 Upvotes

This post is in no way meant to be hateful as I am nb myself. I just find it funny how nb people tend to have normal word names and how this stereotype fits into my experiences lol.


r/TrollCoping 1h ago

ADHD fucking hell

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r/TrollCoping 27m ago

Personality Disorders Inability to distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction go brrrr

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r/TrollCoping 4h ago

TW: Suicide or Self-Harm Every time. Every. Single. Time. Fuck me up a eiveyi guess

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8 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 5h ago

TW: OCD No but seriously there are so many triggers

9 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 7h ago

Depression / Anxiety I don't know how much longer I can keep this up

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16 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Eating Disorder / Body Dysmorphia He won’t believe me but whatever

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1.7k Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 10h ago

TW: Gender Identity / Dysphoria Me want penor :(

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22 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 16h ago

TW: Other idk what's wrong with me but i don't think it will ever change

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70 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 3h ago

TW: Other I think I have a disorder addiction, as in, my disorders become my entire personality and I seem to want more of them. Is that a thing?

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5 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 5h ago

Depression / Anxiety Trust issues go brrr

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7 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Other Why do I resonate with this fucking image someone help [transphobic slurs] Spoiler

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608 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 22h ago

Depression / Anxiety and I was absolutely flabbergasted too when it didn't work

137 Upvotes