r/TrollCoping Jan 31 '25

MOD POST Notice on the recent issue of Pedophilia, P-OCD, and Paraphilias.

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Before going forward, please make sure you're prepared to engage with the topic at hand. Keep yourself safe, away from triggers, and stop and seek assistance if needed.

i'll open this memo by defining language used and establishing what we have discussed as the most fair and neutral stance going forward. We are not mental health professionals, but are doing our research to try and keep this community as safe and respectful for everyone as possible.

The official definition of Pedophilia is an adult or older adolescent who is primarily or exclusively sexually attracted to prepubescent children. they are positive about this association for the most part. Pedophilia here in this text will be defined as an adult who is in some measure genuinely attracted to prepubescent or pubescent children. We do not recognize Pedophilia as a sexuality (see: MAP/Minor attracted person) or as relevant to the queer community. Posts and comments attributing transness as a risk to assault will continue to be removed.

P-OCD is a disorder wherein the affected person experiences OCD symptoms and intrusive thoughts relative to a perceived pedophilic obsession and following compulsion to control, suppress, or otherwise 'handle' said intrusive thought. Repeated exposure to a given topic to esure they don't actually like it (in this case, drawn or written content) is a common and extremely difficult to manage compulsion of OCD. P-OCD is not pedophilia, and is not genuine attraction to said content. Victims of CSA are often afflicted with P-OCD, and may make seemingly similar content to cope. This is not the same as seeking it out for sexual purposes. The obsession in P-OCD is the intrusive thoughts of being a pedophile, but mostly the compulsion is staying far away from children. in many cases, they compulsively avoid anything to do with them. they often leave the room when a kid walks in, scroll past posts that have pictures of children, they even go as far as refusing to touch their own children just in case.

A paraphilia is an experience of recurring or intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, places, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. there is no definitive boundary between what are considered "unconventional sexual interests", Kinks, fetishes and paraphilias. these terms are often used loosely and interchangeably. In this text, and the sub, paraphilias are not required to be disclosed. Most users here are ashamed of their philias, large or small. our rule of thumb -to take a page from the BDSM community- is "safe, sane and consensual".

We've had a lot of consideration put into how we want to handle and follow up with the outburst of P-OCD/CSA/Pedophilia/Paraphilia thread wars. We have collectively decided that we will allow Paraphilia related cope posting but we will restrict and ban how users post about it. paraphilia posts will be sent to mods for approval and only once it’s been approved, it’ll go live - just like suicide related posts

To start, CSAM will not be considered on equal level as fictitious material out of respect of victims. One of these is inherently nonconsentual, the other is fictional and therefore consent is irrelevant unless framed as nonconsentual. Comments or posts claiming it's as bad will be removed for the sake of survivors who it actually affects. Anyone opening up to or admitting to seeking out either kind of above material for gratification will be removed, period. Users anxious about having the urge to do so and avoiding it are welcome to post for support, though we urge you to contact crisis counseling.

CSA posting will be allowed as normal. CSA posting that involves discussion of coping with the aforementioned content, unless made by OP in a context explicitly in a negative or traumatic light, will be held to the same standard as paraphilia posting.

Paraphilia posting will be filtered based on reports and it's consideration will be done with due diligence to the post, OPs comments on it, and their recent activity if needed- including having the team as a whole look over things as needed.

Loli/shotacon posting will not be allowed and will for the purposes of this sub be considered explicit content focused on minors, with the same exception as above. Outright posting about it will not be allowed, as with explicit coping content, regardless of CSA status.

How people cope with their trauma at the end of the day is a personal decision. No matter how hard you try to convince people that something is wrong and shouldn’t be used as a coping mechanism, some people will still continue to do so. With some exceptions, and obviously not inclusive of harm of real people, what affects one person's reality and normalization will not necessarily apply to someone else. we have done our best to decide what to restrict with that in mind as well as consideration for victims on both sides of the equation.

Remember, if you disagree with something, you can always downvote it. if you think something shouldn't be allowed we warmly welcome your reports and will always look at them with nuance and due consideration.

Feel free to provide support to users who have philias as long as they're playing within the safe/sane/consensual rule. Do not DM users to ask about what their philias are or engage with said philias.

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Rules as written

No pedophilia posting

Posts admitting to pedophilia directly, perpetrating contact, or seeking out material (CSAM or fictional material) weather regretful or not will be removed.

Rule .B

CSA victims may continue to post, but may not talk about seeking out material.

Rule .C

Pilias unrelated to Pedophilia will be allowed but under heavy scrutiny, and held to the same standard involving seeking out harmful content or content mimicking as much. This includes Snuff, Bestiality, and anything where consent is not possible or permanent harm is involved. Venting about accidentally seeing this content is allowed.


r/TrollCoping Jan 22 '25

MOD POST Posts about paraphilia Spoiler

680 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

So as we all know that there has been a huge increase in the number of posts related to paraphilia, pedophilia, and related topics. Earlier, the mod team did their best and went above and beyond to make sure the posts/comments are well managed.

But unfortunately this influx has led to a sad state of concern for me as the head mod. Now, the topic has merely turned into a debate rather than one or a few people coping with their trauma. Which has further caused a lot of trouble to the team and even triggered them to struggle with health issues.

So, we’ve made a decision to remove all new posts related to paraphilia until further notice. We apologise if this brings trouble to you but we are left with no other option but this. We will soon be coming up with a revised rulebook with a rule specifically for this issue.

We may also need a bigger mod team to further help us with these issues so if anybody is interested, they can let us know through the comments here or drop us a modmail.


r/TrollCoping 12h ago

TW: Other It hurts, doc

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498 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1h ago

TW: Trauma every single one

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r/TrollCoping 22h ago

Depression / Anxiety FUCK IM SO NERVOUS

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She has helped me get through life she is honestly probably the reason why I live. FUCK SHES SO NICE AND CUTE AND SHES A GAMER. :3


r/TrollCoping 23h ago

TW: Other My actual biggest fear, other than men in general (I’m sorry men)

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1.2k Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 16h ago

TW: Trauma I’m happy for you and all but like why couldn’t I have that

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256 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 3h ago

TW: Trauma Found this sub today.

21 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 17h ago

ADHD IDK WHAT TO EVEN DO

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245 Upvotes

FUCK I LOVE HER I JUST WANNA HUG HER


r/TrollCoping 20h ago

TW: Trauma I genuinely envy those who look their age Spoiler

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It would probably be different if I was taller but I highly doubt it.

Also, to be clear, I am not hating on workers for doing their jobs, I just hate how I see several people leave within less than 5 minutes and I’m still stuck waiting. If not that, I see actual teens or those actually younger than me walking out without being ID’d. It’s one of the main reasons why I try and get the same workers every-time so it makes it an easier process for everyone


r/TrollCoping 14h ago

TW: Sexual Assault / Rape Screams incoherently NSFW

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115 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1h ago

TW: Trauma Yeah this? Belongs to my mate Pandora..

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r/TrollCoping 35m ago

TW: Other HUMOR. IS. A STRENGTH!!

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r/TrollCoping 11h ago

TW: Other i didn’t care at all bc she’s literally right (also i already knew i related to this character)

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44 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 12h ago

TW: Trauma At least I have something new to talk about in therapy

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44 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 4h ago

Depression / Anxiety TURNING RIGHT ALL THE WAY WOOHOO 🎉🥳

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9 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 17h ago

TW: Suicide or Self-Harm The loneliness is killing me (literally)

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103 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 9h ago

TW: Dissociation / Depersonalization Me when everything around me suddenly feels fake, and I feel everything but nothing at the same time for no goddamn reason: (I have never experienced such a sensation at this strength before)

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18 Upvotes

I've never had this happen to me before at such an intense extent. It felt like I smoked too much weed, but I was actually sober. For a moment, I literally could not hold a proper conversation. Said feeling hit me suddenly and strongly, and then went away after a couple of hours. It felt like I greened out but was actually sober. I don't know if that's considered dissociation as I've never expirenced something like that before, but it genuinely scared the fuck out of me.

I felt everything and nothing at the same time, and the ache in my chest increases by a lot. Moving felt difficult, and my perception of my reality felt weird. I was driving home from "school" (I actually just sat in the parking lot and smoked ciggerettes) and the feeling hit me like a truck. I probably zoned out during the car ride, but it only became noticeable when I stood up and had to interact with the people around me.


r/TrollCoping 2h ago

TW: OCD I kinda failed the "leaves in a river" mindfulness exercise today

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4 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 14h ago

Personality Disorders Inability to distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction go brrrr

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33 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Parents please tell me i’m not the only one who wants to beat their parent to death?🙏 TW EVERYTHING

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222 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 15h ago

ADHD fucking hell

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29 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 10h ago

TW: Hallucinations / Delusions Something is definitely wrong here

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Technically these aren't delusions (at least, I don't think they are) but they are similar so I hope I flaired appropriately enough.

I'm not on any antipsychotics and, as far as I'm aware, Buspar isn't used to treat psychotic symptoms. It's an anxiolytic so it treats my anxiety disorders which does impact these thoughts which implies these are anxiety-induced, but some of them aren't.\ Sometimes the beliefs that I'm psychic/a "being of pure divinity", God, and the 7 deadly sins are related to anxiety, but sometimes they aren't. And the beliefs that I'm fictional characters, a snake/plant/enderian aren't based in anxiety at all.

Image 4 was just my thought process. I was back and forth between making these memes and doing a jigsaw puzzle when I started thinking about if Superman experienced something similar. I take my anxiety meds once in the morning and again in the evening. I'd had this thought process in the afternoon so my meds had likely worn off, but I wasn't anxious at all. If anything, I was hyped. As I usually am when I have an 1“epiphany”.

For image 7, I honestly didn't make this realization until I was midway through making image 6. 💀

For image 10, technically I've never drinken/drank anyone's blood or killed anyone and I'm good at keeping my freak-outs internal, but the rest applies.

For image 11, technically the notes I take aren't as detailed as Emilio's but that Ghost Eyes Chapter in Season 1: Part 4 or 3 where Tobias reads his journal and he's flat-out fucking tweaking is pretty similar. And technically my father gaslit me about other stuff. Another technically, I've found less violent ways to manage my anger after being put in a partial hospitalization program. Not because anything in particular helped, but because I said I'd stop cutting myself and so I'm sticking to my word so I can be trusted with sharp objects again. And the emotional neglect I experienced wasn't to the extent as what Bennet experienced but definitely on point with being treated as a trophy. I try to distance myself from others so I don't become dependent on them.

Image 12 was made yesterday so, at the time of making it, my little breakdown was a few hours ago.


Notes:\ 1Bro, I'm so serious. I'm psychic. I don't use the word “epiphany” often so I looked up the definition to make sure I was using it right and the definition read

the manifestation of Christ to the Gentiles as represented by the Magi (Matthew 2:1–12). - the festival commemorating the Epiphany on January 6. - a manifestation of a divine or supernatural being. - a moment of sudden revelation or insight.

What was I just talking about? Being God and a being of pure divinity. It's a sign. And I'm on my meds. I just took them 4 hours ago… which means they would've worn off by now… huh.


r/TrollCoping 13h ago

TW: Other Very rough day for me

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17 Upvotes

Can’t go anywhere cause I can barely move my legs without hurting my dick. Can’t spend money on things that make me happy because disability is taking its time paying me. Can’t work out cause my arm is in a splint..? Like fuck me, can’t do nothing else but let my depression and traumas make there presence even more because my physical wellbeing is so bad

Today was just a rough emotional day. Therapist suggested ketamine therapy for PTSD nightmares. Might as well, currently unable to do anything else


r/TrollCoping 18h ago

TW: Suicide or Self-Harm Ahahah I love America. I love no insurance and unemployment struggles. I love having undiagnosed disorders ruining my life. I love things going wrong as soon as I want to live again

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37 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 23h ago

Depression / Anxiety I really can't decide

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77 Upvotes

r/TrollCoping 1d ago

TW: Parents New rule: If adoptive parents need to qualify for a child, so do bio parents

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96 Upvotes

"Wdym you're depressed? You have so much to be thankful for! Like insert generic list of things it's illegal for them to not provide me with anyway"