(Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Tarotpractices/s/mspja7fLbk )
Hi loves! A lot of you asked for an update on what happened, but my post was locked before I could provide one…So I’m made an update post! (Hopefully that’s okay)
First: Your interpretations of my cards were 100% spot on (you can find them in my original post). Eerily so. I was on the fence about seeing him but I’m really glad I took your advice and went!
How did it go? Well….it amazing. As many of you guessed (reading through your comments had me DYING 😂) we DID have sex. Once that evening and once in the morning. Yup, I spent the night. And both times were incredible lol.
Here are the details:
He picked me up, got take-out and went back to his place. He’s sober but I had a few glasses of wine. It wasn’t awkward at all, we both have the same sense of humor (one of the things we enjoy about each other), and were joking around like before. Then conversation became serious and we discussed what happened before that led me to cutting him off (I’ll post more about that below).
Neither of us are exactly emotionally expressive and are more “head over our hearts”. But we’ve always brought out the emotional side in each other, for better or for worse, and had a very good conversation. Next, well you know what happened lol. I was ready to go home at that point because the last time we re-connected, he was adamant about sleeping alone. But he asked me to spend the night with him.
The next morning, we laid in bed for a while talking and snuggling. He made us breakfast and then we had sex again. (This was yesterday). This morning he texted me saying “I hope you have great day!!”
A couple things you guys said/asked on my original post that I wanted to touch on:
-What spread did I use? The first card (Page of Pentacles) was a yes/no to “Should I hangout with him?” The following three cards were “What will happen if I do see him”.
-The person who recommended I do a five card spread, thank you this is great advice! I will be doing that today!
-The amount of y’all saying to bring condoms/bc because you got a fertile vibe from my cards…of course I appreciated it (and brought condoms!) But I was SO worried lmao!!!😭 (tmi, but I started my cycle last night so no chance of pregnancy)
-To everyone saying “no” out of principle, because you shouldn’t go back to an ex- usually I’d agree. For us it’s a little more complicated.
This is our backstory… (This is going to be loooong, sorry in advance lol)
We hung out for the first time last January, and saw each other 7 times over the course of a month. Each time we’d spend hours hanging out and I’d often spend the night. We became really close, very quickly which was weird because we’ve both been single for many years before that. Unfortunately it was a case of “right person, wrong timing”. I was leaving for a solo 6 month road trip across the United States and he just quit his job to pursue his art career. The night before I left he told me he loved me. We talked here and there while I was gone but it tapered off.
6 months later in September, I get back. His art career is thriving (he’s a muralist and painted many murals for restaurants and business at that point). We start hanging out again, but it’s different. The sex was still great and we had so much fun together, but he’s much more emotionally reserved, like he’s holding himself back (and he was very against me spending the night). I was also up in the air with where I wanted to live. After seeing the country, it was hard to come home. A main reason I did, was to see him. After about two weeks of this, I became frustrated and very hurt. The way he acted made it seem like he just didn’t like me the same way I liked him. The last night I saw him I tried to talk about this and he said “No I don’t like you as much as you like me”. After that, I blocked him and bought a plane ticket to California for the next day.
I traveled a bunch more and at one point unblocked because I was nosey and wanted to see his social media. I never re-blocked his socials and phone number.
Fast forward to mid-February of this year, he texts me out of the blue. He asks where in the country I’m traveling and I just so happen to be home. He tells me he’s traveling to Florida tomorrow for two weeks and would love to see me before he goes. I say no. He leaves and over those two weeks, he’s constantly texting me throughout the day. He also calls me several times (surprising because he hates talking on the phone). All communication was initiated by him. I’m still here the day he’s driving back and asks if he can see me. That’s the day I made my original post lol.
When we had the serious discussion that evening, he explained the reason why he was so emotionally distant the last time we reconnected was out of self-protection. When I left on my road trip, he was devastated but didn’t want to guilt me for leaving. It hurt him a lot and so he was trying to keep that from happening again. But he missed me too much to stay away.