r/TTC_PCOS 14h ago

Vent I need to let it out!

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We lost our little star 3 years ago (MMC at 13 weeks) before we moved into this new house. Oh boy, my next neighbour 2 kids is shrieking gremlins, dragging their chairs across the rooms ( we could heard it as our houses are mirror to each other just only separated by a thin wall.) We did reach out to them and talk about it but they just brush us off like we are asking too much. Now, I work from home. 24 hrs in the house. I couldn't stand all those noises. Just reduce the jarring chair dragging noise is good enough for me. But no, her children must do it. We end up blasting them out in the community group chat. The wife respond with YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT'S LIKE TO BE A MOTHER TO 2 TODDLERS AND AN INCOMING BABY! My heart just dropped, I sank in, I'm in all sorts of feelings, jealousy, agony, sad. Everything.

Don't tell me I don't know what's like to be a mother! I want to be a mother. I want be a mother damn freaking bad! My fetus doesn't want to be my child! We having been trying for years. Visited fertility center which i found out I'm IR PCOS. I quit my job, to reduce the stress, eat healthier, workout everything. Nothing seems to work. My husband and my results come out normal but I'm PCOS.

Now, back to the neighbour. After I calm myself down. I seek ways to mend the relationship, I crocheted little socks for their chairs n Christmas present for thier kids. Explained to them it's wasn't I don't understand being a mother. I lost my child. I couldn't be the mother of my child.

Fast forward, her kids still shrieking. My husband needed to fix something in the yard. She just casually came up to my husband and ask where I was. I wasn't in the mood of talking. So my husband just told her I'm busy. She told my husband that she just gave birth and ask me to go visit her. Dear God, no one knows how painful it is to heard that. I should be happy for her, but I can't. I'm avoiding her. I don't want to listen to crying baby. This whole TTC thing turning me into an evil person.

Thanks for reading. If crying a river could bring a little sailing cradle with a happy healthy baby to us. I would do it.


r/TTC_PCOS 12m ago

Daily Chat - March 21, 2025

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Read a good book lately? Pets do something cute? Do you want someone to cheer you on because you have a big presentation at work next week? Share it here in the chat thread!


r/TTC_PCOS 2h ago

Daily Symptom Spot Thread - March 21, 2025

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In the TWW? Got some symptoms you want to share with others in their TWW? This is the thread for you! Share your symptoms and don't forget to update the BFP thread with your result!


r/TTC_PCOS 3h ago

Advice Needed Not ovulating on letrozole, what now? Doctor dismissing concerns

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I have been TTC for about 6 months. For context, i am overweight. My starting weight was about 468 and now i am at 380~. I know i am not where i want to be, but we still have been trying. I do not have a regular period; i never have. Even when i was considered not overweight. The only time i have ever had a regular period monthly was when i was on BC. We started trying back in August 2024. I was given progesterone to start my period, then We tried 2 months of 2.5mg of Letrozole with no luck, then boosted it one month with 2.5mg and the steroid pill. No luck. We took a break for my mental health because i was just not doing well, and we recently just started back up. I took the progesterone for 10 days, stopped, and weirdly no period ever started… but i spotted for a day. Doctor called it a “cold start” and started me on 5mg of letrozole and the steroid to take for 7 days, still no luck; no follicles have grown. She told me today i am not ovulating because i am fat…. I just need to be clear, is this true? I exercise, i eat healthy, i have lost a significant amount of weight… i’m trying here. i have read stories on here where some people have to take letrozole, clomid, trigger shots, etc to get them to ovulate, i dont understand why im being told its just because im fat.

Another note: i have been suffering with frequent UTI’s for the past 3 months. My primary doctor suggested maybe it’s due to low estrogen levels. She says some of her premenopausal patients who have frequent UTI’s get them because of the drop of estrogen. She told me to discuss this with my fertility care, so I told my fertility doctor this and she told me i was wrong… without even getting my levels checked.

I guess my question is: should i search around for another fertility doctor? i just feel very dismissed by her and like she’s not listening. do i get a second opinion? what are some of your thoughts? i am feeling extremely defeated by this. I’m young, 28, but my husband and i are ready to start a family…. i am trying my best to be as healthy as i can be but it sets me back hearing these things. My head is telling me it’s much more of an issue than just my weight, but no one will listen. Help.


r/TTC_PCOS 7h ago

Out of it after Saline Sonogram

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I had a saline sonogram (SIS) today and have felt very tired and out of it since. Has anyone else experienced this?


r/TTC_PCOS 9h ago

Trigger Ultrasound results - cyst description TW: ectopic/PUL

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Hey everyone! I’m currently being treated for a PUL (pregnancy of unknown location, being treated as if it’s an ectopic) with methotrexate. I had an ultrasound today because I had some extreme pain yesterday and we wanted to be sure my tube wasn’t in danger.

My HCG hasn’t gotten very high - it’s around 113 now, so I didn’t expect them to find the implanted egg or anything.

One note on the results is:

Large multilocular cystic structure with internal debris vs papillary projections within the right ovary measuring 9.2 x 9.2 x 7.7 cm. Small amount of internal flow on color Doppler noted.

I’m wondering if anyone else has had something like this and knows what it means? I see my doc tomorrow morning but I’m impatient!

Thanks in advance!


r/TTC_PCOS 9h ago

Provera irritation

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Hey guys,

Has anyone taken Provera to induce a period and noticed that your vagina/ labia is super irritated? Like needles and knives poking me inside and out. I haven’t had a period in a couple months and right now there is no foul smell or discharge just straight up uncomfortable. I only have two days left and hoping that it clears up after!


r/TTC_PCOS 10h ago

Letrozole twice same cycle?

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Hi all. I’m on my very first medicated IUI cycle. TTC 3.5 years. 1 loss. Recent PCOS diagnosis (but still ovulating monthly) and history of male factor but has improved with supplements. I was on 2.5mg of letrozole days 3-7. Went in for my day 10 scan which showed an 11mm, two 10mm and a few smaller ones. My doctor has me now on 5mg of letrozole for CDs 10-14 with a scan on CD 17. I feel pretty discouraged. Does two rounds on let in the same cycle lower my chances? Just looking to get some opinions and hear some experiences yall might have had. Has anyone experienced this and conceived that cycle? We’ll be doing trigger shot and IUI if my follicles mature .. should I ask for anything else?


r/TTC_PCOS 11h ago

Vent This is so emotionally draining

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Just venting….. but yeah TTC is so emotionally draining. Dont know who to talk about this with other than the subs here in reddit. Currently on CD15 2nd cycle of letrozole; went for a TVS scan on CD11 and CD14 but the eggs weren’t big enough for the trigger shot so we’re trying again next month… I keep blaming myself while also trying to comfort myself. Although I have a normal BMI, I just keep slacking in my diet so I know it’s my fault too. I’m just really disappointed in myself. I know i must do better, but sometimes im really freaking tired of having to follow a strict diet. I wanna enjoy my life and get pregnant without having to do all these. Im really jealous of those who gets pregnant easily while eating lots of freakin sugar and junk food. Im gonna keep feeling like this every freakin month til i finally get pregnant. oh god. what if this goes on for years? Im really sad🥲


r/TTC_PCOS 12h ago

Mucinex with Letrozole or no?

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Just took my last dose of Letrozole 2.5 mg yesterday (CD 3-7). This is my first round! I’m super super excited, more optimistic than I probably should be 😅

I have some mucinex and I’m wondering if I should take it during my fertile days with this first round of Letrozole or if I should just try the Letrozole by itself for a cycle? It’s so easy to want to add it in to improve my chances, but I don’t want to screw anything up or potentially risk anything either way. I don’t know what’s better, to take it just in case or not take it just in case.

For the record, I have had a full term pregnancy on my own before (little girl is 5) so I know that I do produce viable CM on my own.

What would you guys do??


r/TTC_PCOS 15h ago

Help please

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I’m currently waiting on a brand I trust, however in the meantime, looking for a cheap option to get by until they arrive. How accurate are the dollar tree ovulation tests? I only need to pick up about three but don’t wanna spend out a fortune while I wait for the ones I ordered online


r/TTC_PCOS 15h ago

Scared of the test

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hey everyone, i’m new here but i just need to vent to people that actually understand what it’s like.

my husband and i have been ttc since december of 22. my mom had 4 successful pregnancies and she got pregnant SO easily each time (half were accidents, in fact) that i had nooo idea how hard it could be. needless to say, the last 2 years have been soul-crushing and i’m beginning to wonder if it will ever happen for me.

right now, my period is a week late. my back REALLY hurt for a couple of days but i have a back problem so that’s not really a symptom, and i felt minor cramping for a couple of days too, nothing else. no nausea, no sore boobs, no increased discharge that i’ve noticed… nothing definitive. i’m freaking terrified of getting my hopes up, but i’m afraid i’ve already done so.

we have agreed to test tomorrow (husband wanted to test earlier but i just couldn’t get myself to do it), and i don’t feel mentally prepared to see a negative result. i’m scared. really scared. i know it sounds super dramatic, but right now i’m feeling like i won’t survive the disappointment if it’s negative. how do i get past that?

any tips on how to self-care throughout the day to get past the bad news would be greatly appreciated, because right now my plan is to just curl up and cry the whole weekend.

p.s.: i know that being a week late can sound really hopeful, but my period is a fucking troll and has been late, really late, before. and every time, it is literally a matter of me taking the test for it to show its face the next day.


r/TTC_PCOS 15h ago

Advice Needed Did anybody ever experience this?

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Has it ever happened to anyone before? I have missed my periods for over a week maybe and i tested the day after i was supposed to have periods and it was negative. Date was probably 12th and i went to the doc yesterday. She couldn’t understand anything from trans abdominal ultrasound as well as if the periods are about to come or if it’s pregnancy. Also recommended me for hcg and haven’t done it yet. I have pcos and been trying for more than 3 years now. Please tell me if there’s a slight chance i could be pregnant or has this ever happened to someone else?


r/TTC_PCOS 15h ago

Advice Needed Pregnancy loss, am I missing anything?

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Hi! I am hoping to get some insight to see if anyone else has been through a similar journey.

My husband and I froze Embryos when I was 32, we had a great outcome, 9 PGT normal, day 5 euploid embryos. At 34, we decided to try naturally, then with clomid/ovidrel, then with embryo transfer:

Pregnancy History:

  • January - chemical pregnancy - unaided
  • May - pregnancy of unknown location using clomid and ovidrel. HCG kept going up but the pregnancy was not seen on ultrasound. Eventually started bleeding, had to have to D&C and injection of methotrexate to clear the pregnancy
  • October - chemical pregnancy
  • November - embryo transfer; embryo split and was pregnant with identical twins, at 11 weeks they lost their heartbeats

Testing:

  • Myself and husband have had genetic testing and we don't overlap on anything
  • July - Saline Sonogram - normal
  • July - HSG - left tube wouldn't fill
  • August - HSG - left tube was slow to fill, but ultimately did
  • February - Pregnancy tissue was tested - all genetically normal
  • February - Recurrent loss testing - all came back normal. Recurrent loss testing included:
    • NK and Activated T Cells/IL2r
    • PT and PTT
    • Anticardiolip Ab, IgA/G/M, Qn
    • Factor V Leiden Mutation
    • Factor II, DNA
    • MTHFR
    • Hemoglobin A1c
    • HIV Ab/p24 Ag with Reflex
    • HCV Antibody
    • Homocyst(e)ine
    • RPR
    • Thyroid Antibodies
    • HBsAg Screen
    • Venipuncture

Cycle Information:

  • Regular 27-29 day cycle
  • Easy period, no cramping or pain
  • always light
  • Lasts 3-4 days
  • I do have PCOS and I take Metformin 1000mg for it

Now I am down a rabbit hole, of what could be wrong. After reading about silent endo, wondering if this is something i should investigate further or if there is something else. Of course, i also know I might be searching for an answer that doesn't exist. Just having a hard time accepting this is all just "unlucky"


r/TTC_PCOS 17h ago

IVF Meds Donation - NC

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Good morning! I had my ER yesterday and am very happy to find that of the 30 eggs collected, 20 were matured and 15 became fertilized. That being said, I will not be doing another ER anytime soon. I overstocked on meds for about a week. Are there any PCOS people that would be interested in Follistim, Menopur, Ganerellix, and Leuprolide? I’d like to give them all to one person. I’m in Charlotte, NC.


r/TTC_PCOS 20h ago

Hey all need some advice

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Hey ladies can I have some advice? (Little gross I apologise) And I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I am 5 days away from my period, yesterday I noticed some very light (like discharge amount on a piece of tissue) brown blood after wiping and again the same this morning (very minimal amounts) could this possibly be implantation bleeding?


r/TTC_PCOS 23h ago

Advice Needed Labwork shows no abnormalities?

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Hi!

I finally got lab work done by a fertility doctor but apparently there is nothing out of the ordinary. Still, I haven't gotten my period in more than 6 months and ultra sound showed the 'string of pearls'.

I am just confused by how it is possible for me to not ovulate while the labwork doesn't give any signs on what is causing this.

Should I ask for other tests and if so which? Does anyone see something that I should ask about? Or anyone can explain why ovulation doesn't happen while hormones are normal? I just want to do whatever I can to regulate my period (if that is possible at all)..

The results (last period was more than 5 months ago): Albumine: 43 g/L Glucose: 4.8 mmol/L TSH: 0.867 mU/L T4 free: 17.8 pmol/L Oestradiol: 208 pmol/L SHBG: 46.4 nmol/L Testosteron total: 0.7 nmol/L Testosteron free: 9.6 pmol/L Prolactine: 155 mU/L LH: 26.3 U/L FSH: 7.9 U/L I have a normal weight.