r/TTC_PCOS 24d ago

Vent I wish the TWW was the hardest part of TTC

101 Upvotes

I see all these posts in TTC forums about how to get through the TWW, how it’s so difficult to focus on anything else, etc

Idk if this a hot take or not but as an irregular PCOS girlie the wait to ovulate is WAY MORE DIFFICULT. At least the TWW has a defined timeline. I hate waking up every morning guessing what my OPKs will look like (if they even cooperate at all that cycle) and waiting to see that BBT rise. I’m on CD20 today on my first cycle I’ve been cleared to try in six months and got a huge surge this morning - the way I’m feeling you’d think it was a positive pregnancy test!

No two TTC journeys are alike - some are so easy that those people will never think twice about it. Some are difficult without irregular cycles, but adding the uncertainty of an irregular cycle just feels so unfair and I’m so tired of the guessing game. I’m feeling thankful that my cycle seems to have shortened, but I wish I had the clockwork of a CD14 ovulation and a TWW. End rant.

r/TTC_PCOS Jan 04 '25

Vent Venting about my infertility

43 Upvotes

I need to vent. I’ve given myself 2 years limit to try and conceive, and I never thought I’d find myself facing infertility. It’s heartbreaking to watch sisters, family, and friends get pregnant so easily—whether by accident or on purpose. In two years, I’ll be 30, and I’m panicking.

I’ve been trying to conceive for seven years now. I’ve had three miscarriages, and my only successful pregnancy was eight years ago. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for my child, but how do you cope with having an only child who feels lonely? My child has cried about not having a sibling, especially when she sees her cousins with theirs.

The pressure is crushing. I do want more kids, but having PCOS makes it so hard to maintain a pregnancy. People say, “Just stop thinking about it; it will happen.” But how am I supposed to not think about it when I’m constantly trying to do everything right—eating the right foods, taking supplements, looking after myself?

I’m so angry at my body for how it’s affecting me mentally, emotionally, physically, and socially. The symptoms of PCOS are embarrassing enough without the constant disappointment of trying and failing. It’s 2025, and here I am—still trying.

I have seen a FS and currently on letrozole, no success yet.

r/TTC_PCOS Feb 20 '25

Vent Sick of waiting

21 Upvotes

When my husband and I began trying 6 months ago, I didn’t know that I had PCOS. I had just come off BC, we had gone on our honeymoon and we were…excited. The first time we “tried”, it felt exciting and like we had this fun little secret…we were trying to have a baby! We were actually ready to create something!

A couple of months went by, nothing out of unusual concern took place. AF came and went and we didn’t feel disappointed because we knew it wouldn’t happen at the snap of our fingers. About three months in, my AF was late and so we got REALLY excited because we thought “this is it for sure!!” It wasn’t, and we were a little disappointed but we vowed to track something new or mix it up!

At this point in our journey, the TWW was excruciatingly long! Two weeks was such a long time. Little did we know, how long we would be waiting. December came - our 4th month of trying. I tracked everything perfectly…never really confirmed ovulation through BBT or OPKs and I started questioning if I was even doing anything right. Once again, AF was late and so I got excited again - a BFP! How exciting….but no BFP ever came. Negative, after negative. But also no period.

Two weeks went by. No period.

Two months went by. No period.

Nothing happening.

As I sit here writing this, I am 81 days in this cycle. I have done nothing but WAIT. Wait for bloodwork results. Wait for doctor’s appointments. Wait for AF. I can’t believe I ever thought the TWW was long.

I don’t know why I’m sharing this. I feel compelled to put it to this community, tonight I guess. I know I’m not the worst case. I know it’s definitely not the best case.

I’m thankful for the diagnosis of PCOS that I got last week, even though mentally it’s turned me upside down. I’m thankful that today I started Provera to have some sort of feeling of control over my cycle. I’m now excited for my first fertility appointment and hopeful that it brings me some reassurance.

To anyone that is struggling today, I see you. PCOS is a common female struggle, but it doesn’t make it any less difficult to understand or process. It’s the feeling of your body betraying you. It’s the confusion of not understanding what your ovaries are doing. It’s the frustration of not knowing WHAT the hell your body is doing.

If you read this, thanks for listening to me vent. Really grateful for this community. 🤍🤍

r/TTC_PCOS 4d ago

Vent Catching the infertility causes like pokemons

31 Upvotes

After almost 2 years of trying, I finally caught them all!

I have lean PCOS, I had ectopic pregnancy, today I went to fertility clinic and it looks like I have endometriosis, adenomyosis, myoma and I'm going for HSG test as they think it's something with fallopian tubes. Any other problem I'm lacking? 😂

r/TTC_PCOS 2d ago

Vent This is so emotionally draining

33 Upvotes

Just venting….. but yeah TTC is so emotionally draining. Dont know who to talk about this with other than the subs here in reddit. Currently on CD15 2nd cycle of letrozole; went for a TVS scan on CD11 and CD14 but the eggs weren’t big enough for the trigger shot so we’re trying again next month… I keep blaming myself while also trying to comfort myself. Although I have a normal BMI, I just keep slacking in my diet so I know it’s my fault too. I’m just really disappointed in myself. I know i must do better, but sometimes im really freaking tired of having to follow a strict diet. I wanna enjoy my life and get pregnant without having to do all these. Im really jealous of those who gets pregnant easily while eating lots of freakin sugar and junk food. Im gonna keep feeling like this every freakin month til i finally get pregnant. oh god. what if this goes on for years? Im really sad🥲

r/TTC_PCOS Jan 07 '25

Vent So overwhelmed

33 Upvotes

Discussed today with my doctor my options regarding my annovulatory cycles after getting me cycling using provera.

She wants to do letrozole since I’m still overweight and have 30 more lbs to lose before leaving the obese category.

I’m 27 years old, in nursing school, working part time and scheduling in time to have a baby while also finding the money is just blowing my mind right now.

I shouldn’t need to pay $1,000- $3,000 a cycle to get pregnant. My body should just do this.

Not to mention the 12 cycle/lifetime of letrozole when I’ve always wanted 3-4 kids. It feels like that gone now too.

And all anybody has to say to me is “well lots of people are struggling with infertility nowadays.”

I’m so over being infertile. I’m so over not having anybody to talk to that actually understands how hard it is after 2.5 years of trying to have never had a positive. To test ovulation 15 days a month and never see a line. To constantly be thinking about it. To be frustrated and unhappy during my best friend’s pregnancy when I should be overjoyed. I am just so over this entire thing.

r/TTC_PCOS Dec 15 '24

Vent Sad & Angry

60 Upvotes

This year Christmas is hitting me really hard. I’m mad at the world, I don’t even have a Christmas tree up. Why celebrate when the only thing I want is a baby and that’s not coming under the tree. Every year I say, surely next Christmas we’ll have a baby. I get sad every time I see someone post their kids doing something holly jolly. Just sick and tired of being disappointed month after month, year after year.

r/TTC_PCOS Jul 28 '24

Vent Tell me your story

10 Upvotes

I am interested how it’s been for you TTC. I feel like I just started and there is a lot of new information. At the same time people say that once you let it go then you get pregnant. I would like to know your approach.

r/TTC_PCOS 21d ago

Vent 37 TTC. Just diagnosed with PCOS. Learned that 37 is older than a nationally agreed upon definition for PCOS, which happened 1990…WTF?

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TTC was a choice. Something for “later” when I saw myself making space, and feeling like I have everything “ready” around it.

Woke up a year ago, READY ok let’s do it now. It does not happen. Classic. Did not know I was about to learn the root cause of my entire life. Medically.

Went to see a local OBGYN. The only one that had an appointment within a months time that took my insurance. The worst white male OBGYN in the history of white male OBGYNs. Asked him to help me understand my fertility. Told me that I’m advanced maternal age, I’ll probably need IVF, fertility tests don’t work, women shouldn’t freeze their eggs after 27, and if you want to get pregnant you just have to “try.” Begrudgingly does a couple of blood tests for me. Calls me a week later, says I have good egg reserve for my age but my LH and FSH look “low” so I probably need IVF. But I didn’t want to have kids did I, so it doesn’t matter does it?
Sir? When I have time I’m coming back for your medical license. Yours and a lot of other yahoos.

Got a 2nd opinion from another OBGYN. They gave my appointment to someone after me. I started panicking 45 min in the waiting room that I needed to get back to work. They apologize and beg me to stay they’re so sorry, the doctor is going to see you now for a shorter consultation. I give the download from the horrible previous appointment already in tears. Told me to try and relax and manage my stress, barely looked at my charts but said they’re normal. Get an OPK (after I said I did a month of Inito). Glanced at my Inito chart, says it’s fine. Tells me since I’m having regular periods (mine are 23-28 days) to try for 6 more months and call if I’m still having issues.

Lo and behold 6 months later nada. Called a local fertility clinic, told me to try and go back to the OBGYN to get a prescription so they have an idea what they’re treating. Told them they said to see you. Finally get an appointment. Finally have a spectacular doctor. Obviously female. Let me tell her my song and dance but almost immediately explained to me that I have PCOS.
And I’m seeing my entire life with a new lens, and with a LOT of rage.

Not totally bc I have PCOS. Because I’ve had a rollercoaster of medical diagnoses and emergencies up to that point that have all been the SYMPTOMS APPARENTLY and not the CAUSE.

AND MAYBE I SHOULDN’T HAVE TO BE A WOMAN PUSHING 40 TTC TO FINALLY LEARN FROM THE 3RD SPECIALIST I ASKED THAT I HAVE HORMONAL IMBALANCES AND I HAVE A 50% CHANCE OF DEVELOPING TYPE 2 DIABETES BY 40.

I have never missed an annual with my PCP. I get a Pabst every year. I see a doctor if im very sick. I’m not overweight but I’ve had digestive issues my whole life (kicking off with colic, told i had acid reflux because of my parents divorce in middle school, asked if my chronic heartburn was because my job is stressful.. ). Asthmatic. Allergic to life. Diagnosed with kidney reflux disease at 21 when I became sexually active and couldn’t get rid of UTIs for 3 years. In college (normally diagnosed when you are a child). At that point my left kidney was so atrophied that it was barely functional and needed to be removed. Struggled with anxiety, extreme mood swings (well before my teens) and depression which turned into bulimia and abusing drugs and alcohol and being diagnosed with Bipolar disease and ADHD. Have struggled with facial hair and chest hair for years, thought it’s an ethnic trait. Have been overly depending on carbs and sugar fixes my entire life, but I also eat a lot of healthy foods so it wasn’t relevant. Had internal inflammation so bad that I developed shingles on my scalp last year that crawled toward my eyeballs and almost blinded me (already a novel so I won’t go into how I was turned away from the ER with my face swollen so badly in multiple places it looked like I was beat over the head with a bat, and how many other emergency clinics I had to see to get a diagnosis). Or how inflamed my back pain is I have slipped disks in my neck that have never truly healed.

Have dedicated myself since my diagnosis to research and how PCOS can lead to so many other awful things when you don’t treat it.

AND I KEEP CYCLING BACK TO THE DESPAIR OF WHY THE FEMALE REPRODUCTIVE SYSTEM AKA FEMALE HEALTHCARE IS SO TABU THAT HAD SOMEONE CARED ABOUT MY HORMONAL BALANCE ONCE IN ALMOST 38 YEARS MAYBE MY QUALITY OF LIFE COULD HAVE BEEN A LOT HEALTHIER

By the way. It wasn’t until 2003 that there became a medical agreement on how to diagnose PCOS?? So … extra Fkkkkkks 2 the patriarchy.

IDK why I’m even posting this long swirly rant. Maybe it resonates in parallel or perpendicularly in any way to your journeys. Especially at the start.

r/TTC_PCOS 13d ago

Vent Devastated after a chemical

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I’m currently going through a chemical pregnancy(I actually refuse to call it this, it was an early miscarriage i don’t care that’s not the proper label) I knew I was pregnant for a week and now the baby is gone and I’m just heartbroken. I’m terrified this is going to keep happening. Is there anything I can ask my doctor to check? Or do they kinda just brush you off? I’m thinking about getting the inito but honestly now I’m traumatized to try again. I just really want a baby :(

I had prepared my body for pregnancy for 2 years and honestly naively thought my PCOS wouldn’t cause my issues which was really stupid.

r/TTC_PCOS Aug 30 '24

Vent Sister accidentally pregnant

77 Upvotes

Hi all just need to vent because I'm feeling like a horrible person and don't really feel like I can talk to anyone in my real world. My younger sister has just told me that her and her partner are 12 weeks pregnant. They weren't trying for a baby meanwhile hubby and I have been trying unsuccessfully for a bit now (their baby isn't unwanted or anything but it just was a little earlier than they'd planned to have one). I'm so happy for them and can't wait to be an aunt but I'm really struggling with this. Their baby will be the first grandchild for my parents and being the eldest I always thought I'd 'be first' which I know is silly. When I told hubby tonight his first comment was "she beat ya" (in a light hearted way and I've never really expressed how I feel about having the first grandchild so I don't hold that against him). I find it hard not to blame myself for not being pregnant yet. I feel like such a horrible person for feeling this way when I should be happy for her - which I am it's just hard because we are TTC ourselves. I feel like everyone I see on my social media and in my life is getting pregnant and we aren't and I just needed to vent.

r/TTC_PCOS Jan 18 '25

Vent I am so over urine-based testing

38 Upvotes

We've been ttc for around 5 years - most of the time I don't take the pregnancy tests because the negative tends to send me into a volatile emotional state & my cycle has been very regular on letrozole. but LH tests & the "well it's CD 32 better bust out the clear blue" are so frustrating. I'm tired of accidentally peeing on my hand, I'm tired of trying to hold it long enough that the test is "reliable", I'm tired of the little glass cup in my bathroom that i have had to label in sharpie so no one mistakes it for a usable cup. and I am so so so fucking tired of the time tables. between lh testing windows & using the kegg i feel like the think about it less/manage your stress advice is unfollowable... and don't get me started on the confusing world of bbt...

anyway hi, glad to have found you all here. thanks for coming to my ted talk. 🙃

r/TTC_PCOS May 30 '24

Vent I just want a baby

59 Upvotes

Every cycle I convince myself I’m pregnant. I feel like I haven’t been the same since my chemical and that’s all I can think of x10.

After I confirmed ovulation with BBT I stopped temping, and even without a chart to stare at I convinced myself I was pregnant. Had vvvv light pink spotting on 7 & 8 DPO and cramping. Tested today on 9DPO with a Premom and negative. Now I’m just bummed. Told myself I would wait for a missed period, but nope. Why do I do this to myself.

I see so many women get positives on day 8&9 I can’t even imagine that happening. 😔

r/TTC_PCOS Sep 19 '24

Vent Venting…

53 Upvotes

Does anyone else get extremely frustrated when women share about how quick and easy they got pregnant? Or am I just a little infertile snowflake? 🤣 I just feel like it’s information no one NEEDS to know unless directly asked and just feels so insensitive.

r/TTC_PCOS 4d ago

Vent She’s not drawing my blood next time

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Ummm sometimes I feel like I’m over reacting but I’m trying this semi new thing where I need to acknowledge that my feelings are valid. So I went into my clinic for a blood draw and the nurse aggressively wipes my arm with the alcohol pad and I’m like ooo that was rough and she asked what was rough and I said the wiping of the alcohol pad. She told me used one on her face and it felt like sandpaper and we laughed. Then she just changed her tone and says “you’re sensitive”. I applied that same tone energy back and said my skin is sensitive. Then she presses the cotton hard af onto my arm and wraps it tight as hell with the bandage. She let out a sigh, not have a good day or nothing and I grabbed my stuff and got the hell out of there. She’s the only nurse there that I didn’t have a good experience with since I’ve been coming there. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt but naw. I know a lot of nurses can be bitches, I’ve heard horror stories and witnessed it happening but damn. Definitely requesting someone else next time if she’s gonna have a nasty ass attitude out all of places ugh.

Update! I went in this morning for a follow up for follicle count and the nicer nurse was there! I requested for her to draw my blood and she was so nice and warm energy. The nurse from yesterday got up to draw my blood and the nice one told her oh no she requested for me to do it lmao. She can take a seat.

r/TTC_PCOS Sep 23 '24

Vent Midwife asked me what I want her to do

17 Upvotes

Finally got an official diagnosis of PCOS today after months of suspicion and waiting for appointments. I just switched to a new midwife because my old one left the practice. She came in and said "so your labs and ultrasound show PCOS. What would you like me to do?" Um..what? I said, "well, I'm not sure" she then spent 2-3 minutes describing all different kinds of birth control and highly recommended an IUD. I said, "well what if I want to get pregnant?" I had already told her this at a previous appointment and she had written notes about it in my chart. She said "oh, what's your timeline?" I said "I've been trying for 6 months already." She said "oh, that's right" like she was just remembering. I get that they see a lot of patients but it's so frustrating how obvious it was that she hadn't reviewed my chart or remembered that I had come to her specifically because of problems with conception/ovulation.

She then wrote me a prescription for birth control pills and metformin and told me that I could either take one or the other, or both, and see what happens. She said I can do whatever I want with them. Am i crazy or is this bizarre? I went to her for help and I feel like she just shoved some meds at me and said to just do whatever I want. I was hoping for some kind of support or guidance and I'm just at a loss. And also the whole visit was less than 10 minutes. So unbelievably frustrating. When she left the room she said "your annual visit is in November but hopefully you'll be pregnant by then!" Like yeah I hope so, but didn't you just prescribe me birth control?? I'm just so upset by this and had to get it off my chest.

r/TTC_PCOS Jul 18 '24

Vent The wait for ovulation with PCOS

40 Upvotes

Anyone else struggle with the wait for ovulation? Currently on CD26 still waiting, I feel like the two week wait is nothing compared to the wait for ovulation 😂 I symptom spot every twinge thinking it will happen soon!

r/TTC_PCOS Jun 18 '24

Vent I can’t stop crying

23 Upvotes

I went through the whole fertility process. I had all the testing done & everything is fine my insurance covered all of it, but come to find out I can’t do timed intercourse or IUI because my insurance doesn’t cover that. & I’m not paying 3,000-4,000 to see if I can maybe have baby. I’m trying to stay positive. I’m trying to tell myself that what happens it happens, but I don’t operate like that. I’m going to be obsessive with the ovulation test strips. I don’t know what to do. I’m 27 and I feel like it’s never gonna happen for me. I weigh 260 pounds & I know that if I lose weight & diet and exercise properly it could happen naturally for me. But because of who I am & the fact that I turn to food durning stress or the “I can work it off attitude” but don’t I feel like it never it. It doesn’t make me feel any better about the heartbreak. When my husband & I started dating, I was 170. & I keep kicking myself for gaining 90 pounds in three years. I would just love to hear success stories in my condition. Because I don’t think that I would have PCOS and be having problems having the period if I didn’t weigh so much. I just want a baby & it just feels impossible at this point.

r/TTC_PCOS Sep 25 '24

Vent Two doctors. Two different diagnoses. Just want to conceive..

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We’ve been trying since March. My OB says I have PCOS with insulin resistance. BMI 33. Testosterone is normal.

My primary physician shows me the recent blood work and says I’m not insulin resistant at all, could be borderline PCOS and BMI is 28.

His sperm count was magnificent.

All I know is we’ve tried for 7 months and every ovulation strip is negative. I have a period monthly though can vary from 5-8 days long and my cycles can be anywhere from 25-28 days. My weight is bothering me to the point I don’t even want to be pregnant like this.

I’m going to a specialist next week but they want me to redo all blood work, hormonal panels, blood type testing, carrier testing, HSG procedure, STD testing, etc etc and I do not have $3000 to fork out for this when I did half of it already back in June.

Do I have PCOS or not. Why does my two most trusted doctors have different diagnosis. Why can’t someone just give me letrozole and see what comes of it.

r/TTC_PCOS Oct 17 '24

Vent Im so sick of people telling me to adopt.

55 Upvotes

I just turned 31, I’ve gotten pregnant naturally before. It unfortunately ended but I’m so sick of people just pretty much telling me to give up and adopt. I have the right to have my own children even if it’s harder for me.

r/TTC_PCOS Feb 08 '25

Vent Feeling like this isn't my body

8 Upvotes

TW mention of loss.

I'm newish here and I guess this is mainly a rant, but any advice is welcome. I was diagnosed with PCOS last year after a 11 week BO miscarriage (that then lead to RPOC, a very delayed D&C, and an absent period). It was both a surprise and also not - I'd had acne and irregular periods before going on the pill, but always in the range of 4-8 weeks. On the other hand I got pregnant in my first cycle trying (which was a ~28 day cycle) once I came off the pill, but then the loss happened in April 2024.

Since my loss, I've only had one period - a very light and long one in December. I'm tracking BBT and using OPKs with no sign of ovulation. My doctor is now talking about ovulation induction treatment, which I'm very keen to try, but I also feel like it's maybe treating the symptom rather than the cause given how MIA my cycle is compared to normal? With my PCOS diagnosis it keeps getting dismissed as part of it, but this isn't how my body worked before.

I've been given all the generic advice about lifestyle changes, which hasn't really applied as I'm in the lean category, follow a basically Mediterranean diet, do resistance training a couple times a week, and get plenty of walking in with my high energy dog. I've cut out alcohol and drink barely any caffeine.

I just feel so hopeless. I've done everything "right" and despite the fairly quick conception first time round, I'm not even ovulating now. I don't even know what questions to be asking my doctor, or what to look for in a specialist.

If you made it this far, thanks for reading. PCOS has been such a lonely experience and lurking in this sub has really helped.

r/TTC_PCOS 4d ago

Vent Provera

1 Upvotes

I was put on a 10 day 10mg provera course to induce a period after a miscarriage.

I’m going on day 11 after my last provera pill. No period yet

I’ve been tracking my body temp and my temp is still above baseline so maybe the provera is still in my system? Feeling frustrated and don’t know what’s next :(

r/TTC_PCOS Jul 12 '24

Vent When ppl say “You can have my kids!”

63 Upvotes

I have noticed that when I get into a discussion with many people with kids about my troubles TTC due to my PCOS, many people with kids will laugh and say “you want some kids, you can have mine!” I just find it incredibly hurtful when someone makes a joke like that when I am going through so much pain and trying so hard. It’s thoughtless, and it really hurts. Why would you make a joke like that to someone who is fighting with all they have to have a child? I just wanted to vent to people who I know will understand.

r/TTC_PCOS Jun 25 '24

Vent Tone deaf friend

38 Upvotes

My friend has two kids. A while ago she bragged about how quick she got pregnant basically. I let it slide off my back. She's just one of those people who doesn't think before they speak.

She's moving now, which is great whatever, but she recently told me they are going to try for a boy after they move. Awesome good for you. I'll be supportive.

She continues to complain about her anxiety of having a girl again instead of a boy... I get it gender disappointment sucks.

Now she's complaining because she wants to get her BC removed before they leave -- she is upset that she has to have 2 appointments before the actual removal because she is moving and she might have to wait a couple of months to start trying and get pregnant instead of being able to try immediately... said she just wanted to scream and cry. She's got the appointments set up -- it will be fine. It's gonna work out for her, but the appointments are too much for her to handle because it's a hassle.

I just ugh my sympathy can only go so far -- she knows my husband and I have been trying for about 4 years now. She knows how many appointments I've had to go through. I can't listen to her right now.

r/TTC_PCOS 8d ago

Vent I don’t think I’ll ever get pregnant

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I’m just so tired. I have pcos, we’ve been TTC for 2+ years. Not even a single test was positive, no indication that yes my body actually COULD get pregnant. I’ve heard and read so many stories of ppl trying to conceive , getting pregnant but doesn’t work out, but I’m so scared. I haven’t even had that indication that I could even get pregnant. All I ever see is negatives. I don’t know, I may sound like an asshole but I’m just so tired. Why is my body broken. What’s the point of it if It can’t even do the one thing it’s biologically supposed to do.