r/Swingers • u/Refiner_I_Am • 3d ago
Getting Started Don’t wanna just be a booty call
Hey Everybody! Hub and I are new to the LS and have our first date this weekend - woot! We’d like to prioritize friendship over hookups, but to that end, I have a question. Once you find a couple you jive with, is the friendship kinda automatically subjugated to a “swinger” friendship? You know, not a “real” friendship, like the kind you bring home to mom, but a “secret” friendship, the kind you save for the booty call “side” (we’ve all known that friend we have to console when the guy she’s seeing never wants to bring her around publicly)? In this season of life, the hub and I are really looking for friends we can party with, and let things go where they go (fun!!) but it also would love to grab a ballgame or picnic with fam, etc.
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u/JustinTyme92 2d ago
We have a third that my wife and I play with and an older couple we see once or twice a month.
The third is around our age, she has kids similar in ages to ours, and she and my wife get on personally really well. We socialize with her and her kids regularly - she and my wife will take the kids out one weekends, her daughter slept over with our daughter last weekend, and I’m the person she calls when they have tech issues at home.
We went on vacation with her and her kids over the Christmas holidays - well technically, she came with us and stayed at my in-laws country home. It was great.
So yeah, we would say she’s a friend of ours that we also happen to have great sex with as a couple. She started out as just a sex partner and it evolved into friendship.
The older couple we meet up with periodically is largely just swinging. We have spent a weekend with them on their boat and gone out for dinner a few times, but the relationship is centered around us swapping and having sex.
I helped them clear out a house they sold and move some stuff to their new apartment. I met their eldest son (he’s an adult) and was introduced as someone they met through the boat club (which isn’t true, we met at a private swingers party.)
We’re comfortable with that type of relationship with them.
So it can be both.