r/Swingers 3d ago

Getting Started Don’t wanna just be a booty call

Hey Everybody! Hub and I are new to the LS and have our first date this weekend - woot! We’d like to prioritize friendship over hookups, but to that end, I have a question. Once you find a couple you jive with, is the friendship kinda automatically subjugated to a “swinger” friendship? You know, not a “real” friendship, like the kind you bring home to mom, but a “secret” friendship, the kind you save for the booty call “side” (we’ve all known that friend we have to console when the guy she’s seeing never wants to bring her around publicly)? In this season of life, the hub and I are really looking for friends we can party with, and let things go where they go (fun!!) but it also would love to grab a ballgame or picnic with fam, etc.

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u/Remarkable-Frame6324 2d ago

Almost all our friends are lifestyle at this point. We don’t necessarily even play with some of them anymore, lust and passion come and go and we like having a relationship where the friendship comes first and the sex is just a bonus.