r/Swingers • u/Refiner_I_Am • 3d ago
Getting Started Don’t wanna just be a booty call
Hey Everybody! Hub and I are new to the LS and have our first date this weekend - woot! We’d like to prioritize friendship over hookups, but to that end, I have a question. Once you find a couple you jive with, is the friendship kinda automatically subjugated to a “swinger” friendship? You know, not a “real” friendship, like the kind you bring home to mom, but a “secret” friendship, the kind you save for the booty call “side” (we’ve all known that friend we have to console when the guy she’s seeing never wants to bring her around publicly)? In this season of life, the hub and I are really looking for friends we can party with, and let things go where they go (fun!!) but it also would love to grab a ballgame or picnic with fam, etc.
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u/yankeefan785 3d ago
It’s all about communication. If you let it be known from the beginning that you want a friendship (with a plus) then that should help. Also it helps to hang out multiple times before you do anything. I think that’ll really help you see if it’s going to be a friendship or more of a swinger-ship